School: Split or keep together?

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 73 moms have responded )

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Hi, new to the site!
I have 6 years old triplets, 2 girls and 1 boy, and they started kindergarten this year. Yes we waited until they turned 6 before they started. They were July babies and have no regrets about waiting a year. They were not mature enough at 5 for the pressures of school. They did attend a preschool two years before kindergarten and were together in the same class.
My question is about everyone's experience about whether to split them up or keep them in the same class together. I researched it on the internet but I wanted to hear some actual experiences. We were fortunate enough to have a school (in the system my husband teaches in) that allowed us to make that decision ourselves- which was to keep them together. The school system I work for would not have given us that option. So far it has been a good year with a great teacher. The kids love school and have enjoyed learning.

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Connie - posted on 02/28/2009

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I have triplet girls that just turned 18 years and are seniors in high school. I always kept my girls together. Most of the time there were only two class rooms of each grade and I wouldn't let the school split them 2 in one class and 1 in the other. I had to do some arguing with the principal to make this happen, but he had never dealt with triplets before, only twins. Also, when it came time for class trips, parties, etc. it was much easier on me to help out with these class events with them all in the same class. My girls are still very close but still have there own interests. I feel it was the right decision to keep them together and so do they.

Carmen - posted on 02/20/2009

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I am an older triplet and a mom. I can tell you growing up we were not allowed to be in the same classroom. It was the right choice. We were forced to socialize outside ourselves. We became individuals in our class. It was the beginning of our separate lives. We learned to think beyond ourselves and have healthy relationships with others. Good luck.

Merril - posted on 10/10/2012

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We have triplets too, also two girls and. boy. They all started out with the special needs class but my din was borderline in qualifying, but the teacher included him for the Special Needs Preschool anyway. He has since not only caught up but excelled. He is a Senior in high school and taking AP classes as well as being Dual Enrolled at GA Tech's Distance Calculus. The girls are Juniors at the same school. The girls have some if the same classes together. We try to encourage them to be study partners, which falls on deaf ears. Any suggestions?

Abby - posted on 01/17/2010

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I have triplet boys who started middle school this year. We have a fairly large public school system w/ several elementary, middle and high schools. Luckily for us our school had 4 classrooms per grade level. They started out together in Kindergarten and 1st grade. It was in 1st grade that we noticed the level of competition among the boys increased. It was convenient to have them in the same classroom because we as parents could see how each was learning. They did the same thing so we could sort of compare their progress. However, the constant 'togetherness' was too much for them. Together at school all day, then at home, etc. was just a burden on them.

We switched each to their own classroom for 2nd grade and stayed with that mode because of the positive results. Each boy seemed to blossom. Each became more independent and self assured. Each made new friends. They weren't compared in the classroom as much as before (by teachers and students). The best part was that the teachers occasionally met to ensure that they were all teaching the same thing at generally the same time. This was really helpful with spelling words and site words.

If you can, request a teacher that complements each child's personality. You don't have to personally know each teacher .... just describe your individual child's needs and let the principal/teachers decide whom would be best served by which teacher.

Remember...all the singles out there have to do it on their own and adapt to every day situations. Allow your children that same chance. You will be so glad you did. Good luck!

Candy - posted on 02/07/2009

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I am not a mom of triplet but rather a triplet myself. I have to say my mom split us up when we started school and looking back it was stressful at first but in the end it was the best thing for us we became more independent and made our own friends.

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Jody - posted on 06/19/2013

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Okay, it's me again. We do encourage our boys to be independent and even though they may have some similar interests, they are not identical in any sense of the word. There is definitely competition among them, and they are together on a daily basis however,each has their own room at home, decorated in their own style. One of the three is going to need some extra help in reading next year, and while I know they will blossom once they're on their own, I just can't seem to make this decision very easily. If they were kept together for 1st, I believe we'd separate them for 2nd. There are 3 sections of each grade level in our school, and middle school doesn't begin until 6th grade....Any thoughts? please feel free to share. thank you. :)

Jody - posted on 06/19/2013

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WOW! I am new here and overwhelmed, to say the least. We have bbb triplets, age 6 1/2 and they are just finishing up their Kindergarten year. This year went quite well, I suppose, all things considered. The year began with their class piloting a new program (which we were not really informed about),then in January, my husband and I separated and are currently going through a very difficult time. Following that, their teacher left 6 weeks earlier than we expected (in March), and they had several substitute teachers in the meantime. Since April, they've had one consistent teacher, but I still have my concerns. All 3 were in preschool together for 2 years (same class, but always in separate groups), they can (and do) function independently while in the same class, but their original teacher, their principal, and another teacher of theirs suggested separating them for next year. I am nervous about doing so because one of the 1st grade teachers has just gone out on maternity leave and will not be back until January. Therefore, two boys will have a steady teacher and one will not, which concerns me. Also, there have been way too many transitions for one year, in my opinion, and I'm not sure if this is the best time or the worst time to split them up. Did I mention that I am looking to return to teaching in September (because I have to) and since I've been home with them for the last 6 1/2 years, this will be another transition. I feel there are pros and cons to both sides here, but I would love to hear from anyone who has been through this...I can't hold off on this decision much longer and it's tearing me apart. Thank you so much.

Gayle - posted on 10/10/2012

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Tammy - posted on 09/07/2011

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Just became a member, so, I too am new. My triplets, ggb, went to kindergarten at the tender age of 5 and they are July babies. I had the option to keep them together or split them up. I made the decision to place them all in separate rooms. It was tougher on me than it was them. There is no way you can be three different places at once, so I ended up running my legs off. They were ready and they just began first grade. Again, they are in separate rooms and they just think it is normal every day business. This is only the second week for them, but all seems well. They have been in preschool since age two for socialization skills and could say the alphabet before kindergarten. Reagan was reading at 5 and is very independant. The only thing now is that my husband and I have split and are divorcing and I worry about how that is going to affect them. I check with teachers regularly and get great reports. I wish everyone much luck. It is definately not an easy decision.

Sara - posted on 07/01/2011

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We split my twins up. Best. Decision. Ever. They are so completely different and their levels in class are so different I think putting them in the same class would have been a HUGE mistake. This way they can develop at their own pace without being compared to their sibling (either by other students, themselves, or a teacher). They have friends together and separate. I just think it was a great decision and will be continuing to keep them separate.

Alina - posted on 07/01/2011

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Hello! I have just turned 6 year triplets, BBB. 2 identicals and a franternal. Last year they were in public school and started out together. The teachers moved them around and two were together and one alone. They struggled all year with the curriculum. I would have waited till 6, if I had known.

I have since decided to move them to a smaller private school that does not have the same pressures. Because the school is small, I have no choice, but to keep them together. Thoughts? Will they be ok?

Alina - posted on 07/01/2011

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Hello! I have just turned 6 year triplets, BBB. 2 identicals and a franternal. Last year they were in public school and started out together. The teachers moved them around and two were together and one alone. They struggled all year with the curriculum. I would have waited till 6, if I had known.

I have since decided to move them to a smaller private school that does not have the same pressures. Because the school is small, I have no choice, but to keep them together. Thoughts? Will they be ok?

Sheila - posted on 01/23/2010

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Hello
I have identical boy twins and they have always been in the same class. The school that We go to also lets me deceide. Each year I give them the choice- they are 9 now and in third grade. I think they enjoy knowing someone in their class- that's why they stick together. I do think its great that you can choose. I always have asked the teaher each year about how they are doing together and if they see any need to split.
We have just been talking about this recently about next year. Right now they want to be split and that is fine with me. I think it would be good for them. They both make friends and would know someone in their class. THE GREAT thing is that if something doesnt' work out- they can always be together the next year.

Kathleen - posted on 01/21/2010

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i also have 6 yr boy triplets. we have decided to keep them together til they r old enough to decide for themselves. our school system is great about it. they were also born in july.

Flower - posted on 01/20/2010

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Hi Michelle
Just your last words can help you to take decision ,you said that they love school and have enjoyed learning .To be together in same class encourage them day after day and give them joy of participating learning many things ,activities,trips ,having same friends et en plus they are triplets dont separate them please ,they are good as they are so dont worry and lets them living every second of their life together ....hope i give help...

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2010

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Hi, so this is my first response on this site but I kinda feel strong about this one. I am a twin and growing up I was the outgoing one and she was pretty dependant on me for everything. She didn't make her own friends, and if we weren't seperated in school I wouldn't have made my own either. I always felt like I had to share everything, our room, our birthdays, (by the way, buying the same gift just in different colors is not fun if you're a twin-or triplet!:), and I had to share my friends because she went everywhere with me! So, basically school was my sanctuary. The place I could be my own person, not "one of the twins"! We were complete opposite when it came to school work, interests and talents, so keeping them apart they will more likely find what they are individually good at! Boasting their self esteem in the process!

Hope that helps, and best of luck to you!

Tanya - posted on 01/19/2010

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I have twin boys who are 3.5 yrs old. I have found it very interesting reading everyone's comments because I really don't know what I will do with my boys when it comes time for them to start school. They are fraternal twins but no-one can seem to tell them apart and they are both very timid and shy. They are quite alike and certainly do depend on each other. I think splitting them up would be good for them but somehow I think that if I do it in kindergarten, they will not be ready for it. They are both quite bright little boys and they will be 5.5 yrs old when they start school but I am not sure they will have the confidence and maturity to handle being separated. Mmmmmm, what to do??!!!

Anna - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hi New to the site, I also had 2 girls and a boy unfortunatley we lost one of our girls .To answer your question we did not wait they started at 5 but we kept them together for kindergarten. My Daughter did great but I noticed my son depending on her a little too much so in 1st grade we decided to split them.At first it was a little shaky they were not used to being away from each other but now they are in 2nd grade and it was their choice to be seperated.They love being together at home but it has allowed them to develop their own per sonality. They don't have to take care of each other all the time and they also are developing at their own pace and nomatter what a teacher or parent with multiples says you always notice when one is not picking up something as quickly as the others. sometimes we forget they are three different people that were born at the same time.My kids will be 8 in April and are doing great both in different ways, my dayghter is more mature but has a little difficulty with reading and my son is the complete opposite he can read at a 5th grade level and that was hard for my daughter until we seperated them know she doesn't compare her self as much and is learning at her own pace and is doing great.

Beth - posted on 01/16/2010

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Hello -
I am the mom of soon to be 9 year old twins - a boy and a girl. While they each have their own identity and personalities, I choose to keep them together. I must admit this was, at first, for me and my sanity. However, i have asked their input the last 2 years and they want to stay together. They each have thier own sets of friends and really do not compete - so it works for us - for now. You have to do what is best for you and your kiddos! Goold luck and enjoy!

Jennifer - posted on 01/14/2010

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Hi!
We have 4 1/2 year old triplets, 2 girls and a boy, for pre-k, we wanted them together, or our son with one specific sister, and the other girl, very independent, by herself, but based on the screenings, and the fact that for 40 kids, they had 3 sets of multiples, they put the girls together and the boy seperate. Its been great!! I think about seperating them for kindergarten.

Andra - posted on 01/14/2010

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I kept mine apart until 4th grade. My daughter was soooo mothery and liked to be in control that she would have taken over my son's work - and he was passive enough to let her. I wanted them to learn how to stand on their own two feet and be responsible for themselves. By the time they were in 4th grade, they had developed enough maturity to be back together, and it went very well. I now homeschool, and am thankful for the experience that keeping them apart for a few years offered.
That being said, each set of multiples are different and have different needs. If you do separate them, you might make an agreement with the teachers to have them visit with each other occassionally through-out the day so they will not feel so alone without each other.

Beverly - posted on 01/13/2010

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My triplets are now 13yrs old. I chose to seperate them so they would become independent. They were always so dependent on each other that I knew they would never grow into their own persons until they were allowed to find themselves. It has been great. They all excell and have their own friends, yet it is like one big circle because they all do things together still also. I have no regrets for our decision.

Kandy - posted on 01/12/2010

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This is such a touchy subject and each set of multiples are different. For me, as a mother of twins who were triplets, I worried about the school situation. However, we decided to keep them together for a few reasons. One: They were pretty independant and it gave them an instant friend to be close too when they needed reassurance. Second, we tried the split in 1st grade and it was such a headache for my husband and I. Two teachers with two diffrent teaching styles and two sets of different homework. That became a fight early on in our house. He had homework and she didn't. But lastly, we asked them and they wanted to stay together. Now that they are almost 17 (in April) and still have some of the same classes in high school, they have an instant study partner and can laugh about some of the things they experience in class together.

Tania - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am also a mother of triplets just like u 2 girls 1 boy who also started kindergarten @ 6 because they were born in November unfortunately we did not have the resources to put them in pre-school (it would have been great) LOL, our school also left the decision up to us, after days & wks of thinking we decided to put them in seperate classes granted the classes were right next to each other but never the

least they were seperated and I must say it was great for them, it allowed each child to be their own person.



My kids are now 14 and through middle school they have had to have some classes and it's been nice. Even thought they were split up for classes since kindergarten they still tend to have all the same friends and go every where together.



I just want you to enjoy every minute, I know it seems so difficutl right now but beleive me right now you are everything to them & there is no better feeling than that in the world, I don't whant to scare u but it only gets harder and harder, they start of having a mind of their own and u don't know anything, let me make my self clear I have great great kids good students very family oriented wish now days is olot to say, I thank God every day for giving me such good kids.

Kelly - posted on 01/09/2010

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I have 3 year old BBB. They are in preschool right now. I know it seems really early, but this has been a great decision for us! They were really behind developmentally prior to preschool, but are now getting closer to where they need to be. We were allowed to choose & I discussed this issue in length with the teachers and others who were involved in all their testing. We decided to try separating them first and if they didn't adjust, we would put them all in one class. They have done fantastic! They all learn at different levels, so they were split according to that. The teachers are fabulous! They really help the boys with the concept that they are different people, but they are unique b/c they are triplets and to be proud of that. If we are still stationed here next school year, the boys will be in the same classes with the same teachers. I know though that when we move back to our home state, the decision will not be left up to me and they will be separated. So, I feel as if this time will help them adjust easier when it is time.
I do think that this decision is a personal one and support anyone's decision whether it is to keep them together or separate them. If there is someone who is trying to make a decision, one thing that was told to me and I found it to be true: when you have multiples, they tend to have their own language. In separating them, it helps them to really learn to talk to others. This was true for us b/c only one of ours was really talking. Once they hit preschool and were separated, the other two have really started communicating with us better.

User - posted on 11/16/2009

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Hiya, I have triplet girls aged 10. My girls are split up into two classes. The one who is on her own, and she has been for most of her school life is doing much better at school than the two who are together in class. There weren't enough classes to enable for them all to be put into separate classes, but I wish there had been. I think the two that are together rely on each other too much.

Leigh - posted on 10/01/2009

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I am not sure what you decided since school has started but I thought I would offer my point of view. I am a school teacher and there seem to be many twins in the district. My opinion would be to seperate the kids if possible. It give them a chance to be themself and not a multiple. I would love to split my kids when they go to school in 4 but the districts around are not large enough and we would end up with 2 of the 3 together so I am probably gonna end up leaving them in the same class. Also I am glad to hear that you waited til they were 6 to send them. That was a smart decision. My husband and I made that same decision when I found out that I was having 3 boys.

Shannon - posted on 09/07/2009

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I have not read through all of your replies, but what I have done is this.



My g/g/g are in the 5th grade. They have been together since pre-school. I have one that is a bit more delayed than the others and really needs the comfort of the other 2 so I require them to all be together. They have done fine all together. My 2 identicals have the desire to be together more than the fraternal one does. Next year they will be in middle school and they will change classes every hour so it will not be available to keep them together then.

Susan - posted on 09/03/2009

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I wanted to keep my triplets together also, but realized that they wouldn't gravitate to other children if they were together. They were very dependent on each other's company. Separating them was the wise decision for us. They developed their own friendships and did flourish socially. And they didn't "tattle" on each other so much either.

Stacie - posted on 09/02/2009

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We knew our girls in Kindergarten were ready to be seperated. My dh and I sat them down and talked to them and they even wanted it to be apart. We are now in 3rd grade and still seperated in daily class rooms but they may have other classes like PE or recess together. This has worked for us but I can not say that it is for everyone all kids are different. The issues we were having that showed they needed to be seperated were all three wanting to talk at the same time to the teacher, acting out to get the teachers attention, fighting among each other when at home and at school. It was pretty clear about the transition for us and it has really worked in many ways.

Concha - posted on 08/27/2009

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Hello,
I am also new to this site. I to have a set of triplets now age 11 and just started the 6th grade. My babies never went to preschool/pre-k. It was important that one of us always be with them at all times so my husband worked nights and I worked days. When it came to kindergarten the principle brought me and my husband to discuss the classroom situation. I requested that the children be placed in the same class since they had never been around other kids and they were used to it. She preferred that they were placed in different class rooms because they needed to develop their different personalities and needed to on their own and make their own friends, otherwise they would continue to depend on each other for everything. After crying for 15 minutes I decided to go along with her recommendation but reserved the right to come to the school and check on them at any time and at my convienance and was granted. For the first month I did pop in at different times unexpectedly to check on them and they seem to do fine. I am glad I went with that decision they all have their own friends do not totally depend on each other but are always there for each other. I to have two girls and 1 boy but they are faternal. I hope this helps.

Stephanie - posted on 08/23/2009

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Quoting Katina:



I am facing this situation in the fall (Sept) with my BBG triplets so I was interested to hear what other moms of BBG triplets had to say, since the dynamic is so different with mixed-sex triplets (I have friends with all girls or all boys, and we see some differences btwn my set and their sets).  Right now, because the boys are in a special Pre-K program for language & developmental delays, they are together, and my little girl goes to a seperate preschool program across town.  This is wreaking havoc on trying to be there for each of the kids' classes and keeping up with the kids' class projects/homework assignments.  In our state, the statutes says we can keep higher-order multiples together in the same class unless they are not on the same education level. Since the boys will mainstream into regular Kindergarten in the Fall, I am thinking of putting all three kids together in the same class.  So this question and the answers everyone has been providing are very good for me, to help with my decision.  Thank you to everyone who has responded. I'll have to check back and let you all know what I end up deciding! :)






I have BBG triplets they are going on 9 in the 3rd grade october babies,well the schools suggested that of course they be seperated so I did for pre-k then kindergarden and it was so hard for me to be there for social activities and other things,then in first grade my one son who has always struggled and been a little behind got the worst teacher !! im not kidding so then we had him taken out of that class and put in with his sister the rest of the year his brother was right beside him so he was like i want to be in there to!! so then second grade we put all together,it was great same homework only one class so just the one teacher to be involved with of course she recommended the boys at least be split up, in 3rd grade they are totally different and plenty independent so we asked them this year what do you guys want to do the one who struggles wanted to be by himself and the other two are together so just the two teachers make it better and they are happy cause it's what they chose so we did split them up and had them together and this is what made them happy this year but every year is a challenge so who knows for next year!!!

Sherry - posted on 08/02/2009

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I'm also new to this site. Sounds like you have been give lots of good advice. My triplets are now 13. Two boys and one girl. We also have July birthday and started school when we were 5. Big mistake for us. All three of my childern have struggled thru the years. However this last year, 7th grade, things have finally turned around for all three. Grades have improved and attitudes are much more positive.

In our school distric, there were three kindergarden classes so i decided to split them up. I wanted each child to be there own person and not depend on each other. This worked out really well for us until 3rd grade. As much as the teachers tried to keep their classes running at the same speed, the home work was differnt for each child every night. It got to be to much homework for us to handle. In third grade, we put them in the same class and things ran much smother for us. The kids could do their homework togeather. Parent teacher confernces went much smoother as we only had to meet with one teacher rather than three. I'm glad I seperated them im the begining. Wouldn't change it, however I wish I would have waited until they were six to start school. Good luck!

Manda - posted on 07/21/2009

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I have triplet boys who are going on 15 years old...I found it easier to slit them up..Because when they were in preschool they was all together and they were just know as the triplets and they started to lose who the are...And believe me...they are all totally diffrent from one another...So, when they started kindergarten I asked the school to split them up...It was the best thing I ever did for them because they are known by their name and not just the triplets...Now, 2 of the3 live with their real dad..because they wanted something new...The one is still living with me had real hard time at first when they moved out...because he has never been without them...Now he is like it is going to be great because it will be just me at school...I hope it helped you...Have fun now with them because when they are teens they are like mom do you have to go with us...and they don't like rules...LOL

Merril - posted on 07/13/2009

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What I did with this was something in school, like cupcakes and juice, the last day of school, since their birthday was during the summer. The real birthday party was in the summer, and a lot of times it was just family or neighborhood kids, since families travel and it was hard arranging a party the week before school starts. Here school starts in August.

Merril - posted on 07/13/2009

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Hi!
We have 2 girls and a boy also, They are thirteen now.My kids were in Babies Can't Wait and then transitioned into the public school special needs pre-school. They were all in the same class in pre-school,. My son even at that age was a little ahead of the girls, but the teacher let him in. He caught up and in Pre K he did not qualify for the program anymore. He went to regular Pre K and the girls stayed in the Special Needs Pre K. In the Special Needs Kindergarten, the girls were in separate classes and my son was in a regular Kindergarten. It was good to split them up, because they were doing the same homework, but were getting to make their own friends and be apart for some part of the day. Now, due to the split in Pre-K my son is not only a grade ahead of the girls, but he is actually miles ahead of the girls and is in all advanced classes. My kids have an August birthdays, August 3rd. In a way, our girls repeated Kindergarten, because they did both the Special Needs Kindergarten and regular Kindergarten and in the same year my son went from Kindergarten to the first grade and never did the Special Needs Kindergarten.

Samantha - posted on 07/13/2009

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New to site. Have twin boys going in to 1st grade this Sept. I was lucky enough to have a pre-school that had 2 pre-k classes and I decided to separate the boys at that time. One boy very outgoing and the other very shy. So, outgoing boy had no problem at all and shy son had some problems. But within a month was quite comfortable. In kindergarten they were split up and neither had any issues. They adjusted immediately and enjoyed their independence. They are identical, so were always referred to as "the twins or the boys" like they a collective. But, as I said they are very different. They have both grown immensely and love hearing the conversations at night when they are sharing the days events. They have some mutual friends, but since they have different personalities they gravitate towards different kids. I don't regret it at all that I separated them. They do go to camp together in the same group, though. That is their time together.

Deb - posted on 07/12/2009

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Hello, I am new to the site and wanted to share my experience with my twins. My twin boys are now 18 yrs old but I also had to make the decision when they started school. My boys are totally different from looks to personality which helped me make the decision to put them in different classes. In 2nd grade I had them in the same class to see how they would do together and quickly identified that they were so concerned about what the other one was doing, that I had them split after the first month. The main piece of advise I can provide is to lead them in the direction where they can be an individual and not a multiple. This will help them as they grown into adults.

Gayle - posted on 07/01/2009

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You should take the needs of your children into account when making the decision. If you split them up before they are ready, it could be really detremental to them. In other cases, it wouldn't matter. My children will be starting Kindergarten this fall. It doesn't matter to them if they are together or separate, however their preschool teacher told me that it would help the boys if they were split up since one son is constantly in the shadow of his brother and the teacher believes that Ben will not become his own person unless he is separated. If your school district tells you you have to do it one way or the other, than do a search on the internet, there are a lot of LAWS that support your decision as a parent as to how you want your children handled in school.

Susan - posted on 06/20/2009

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hi there. i have gbg triplets with very different personalities. i chose to split them up for kindergarten and it worked well. my son is not as social as his sisters but he did well. they see each other everyday for lunch. i liked the idea of them having their own teachers, friends, and mom time when i came to visit. you will find that every parent is different about spliting or grouping together. no matter what you choose, you will learn as you go as to what might be best. good luck.

Tanz - posted on 06/14/2009

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Hi Michelle .. i 2 am new 2 this site, though it's an awesome site .. i have triplet boys who will B starting prep next year wen they turn 5 .. wen my boys wer 3 months, the oldest triplet got sick wit meningitis & we nearly lost him, but thank God we didn't .. well i had 2 admit the other 2 boys also & they put them in seperate beds .. well, they screamed for the whole 4 hours that the nurses kept them apart & in the end they put the boys bak in the same cots again, & straight away they we'r quiet .. they we'r already stressed wit one of them being in ICU, so parting them wasn't the smartest thing 2 do .. anyways, i'm glad that the school that my boys will B attending next year understand that the boys cant B apart .. they tried doing that wen they we'r in childcare, but they always cried 4 one another & they always managed 2 find the other one's .. so i say gud on u 4 keeping them 2getha .. wen my boys R in seperate rooms they go lukin 4 each other & i think 2B safe & 2 no wea they R at all times, they must B kept 2getha .. they we'r in the womb for 7 months of their lives, they slept 2getha in the same cot till they we'r 18 months & then i got them single beds, but i wud always go in2 their rooms at night 2 check on them & they wud all B cuddled up 2getha on 1 bed .. so i say keeping them 2getha wud B better 4 them, any day.

Ann - posted on 05/20/2009

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I am a kindergarten teacher and a mother of seven year old triplets (2 boys and a princess). I say split them up. They need their own identity and time to themselves. My kiddos went to pre-k and because they were always together they were named the triplets. Half the time they had the boys confused. It is not fair to the kiddos or the teacher. Plus each one of them is different and unique and they deserve the chance to shine and when you have them together they are not an individual. Plus my daughter is very motherly and tends to "take care of" or do for the boys. Being boys they compete. So putting them together would have only hurt them. They are together all the time putting them in the same class would have meant that they could possibly spend 24/7 with each other and that is never fun. They get on each others nerves. They need a break from each other and school seems to be the perfect place to get it. Each one of my kiddos are in first grade and excelling well at different times, different levels, different things, different areas. If you put them in the same class you only set them up to compete. It may not be your intent but it happens. Let's face it, we all want our children to be the best in their class but what happens if your children are in the same class and only one of them is the best. Then you are setting them up to fail against their own sibling. Give them a child to succeed and shine brighter on their own.

Katina - posted on 05/18/2009

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I wanted to follow-up that after talking with the principal and guidance counselor at the school, I have decided to keep my three together for Kindergarten in the Fall. I'll have to let you all know how things turn out after school starts (and hopefully others will come back and post updates on what happened with their kids & Kindergarten! *smiles*).

Evelyn - posted on 05/18/2009

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I have 8 year old triplets - entering third grade in the fall. I have kept them together since kindergarten, and would not have it any other way. They learn from each other, help each other, even give me a heads up when someone is getting into mischief in class.

Jenifer - posted on 05/18/2009

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I have 7 year olds that are in 1st grade. I kept them together for 1st grade because the cafeteria can be a little scary the first few months. Big, loud and lots of older kids.... I'm going to try and keep them together for 2nd also. Not sure about 3rd grade yet. Good luck.

Corné - posted on 04/29/2009

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Hi All,

I'm brand new here as well, but wish I had all of this years before!

My girls are turning 11 in October. We live in the country in South Africa and they are in school that only has 2 classes for most of the grades. They started pre-school in two classes, leaving one of them on her own, which was heaven to her! In grade 1, there was 3 different classes, so they each had their own teacher and a great start - as an individual - to school. Since second grade we take turns to give each one a chance to be on her own for that year and so far it turned out wonderful.

Richele - posted on 04/14/2009

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Hi Michelle, My triplets will turn ten this July and I also waited till they turn six before starting them in kindergarten.  We also had full decission making on weather or not to put the children in the same class or split them up.  We decided to keep them together that first year.  Although the kids did fine in school my daughter spent more time playing the mommy to her brothers and making sure that they were doing the task assigned by the teacher while the boys were more interested in what the other was doing.  Long story short they would have been better off split up and we have since then done so.  I am glad to report that they are all now much more attentive in class and learning very well,



Richele Schultz

Elyse - posted on 04/08/2009

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Depends on your kids. We were not given a choice in our school system. It is wonderful that you can choose! I would have preferred to keep them together in kindergarten because we had just moved, but they wouldn't allow it. It has actually worked out well for them to be split up. They are all very individual - two boys and a girl - with different interests and friends. They are now in 3rd grade.  At this age, they are extremely competitive...prepare for this with triplets. It is so important to try to give individual time to each one, even at this age. (which helps with the competition a little) Also good to give them individual playdates if possible. (keep two at grandmas) Just be prepared for 3 teacher conferences and 3 class birthdays, and three sets of homework. It's do-able, if your husband gets involved. Best wishes to you!

Laurie - posted on 04/07/2009

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i have 18 year old triplet boys. i also started them in school at 6. it was the best decision i made. they are graduating high school this june and are all off the college. i kept them together in kindergarten, then i separated them from then on. it was hard at first, but they all made different friends and became more of their own person early on.

Alyssa - posted on 03/17/2009

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The first few yrs I kept my twins together, when it came to grade 1 we seperated them.  We felt that they needed their own individuality.  At some point they also decide for themselves.  Kids are pretty smart even though they are "kids".  Often teachers expect them to be the same, even though they are not.  Do not forget, teachers are only human.

Rebekah - posted on 03/16/2009

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my triplets are in kindergarten as well, we kept them together this year for homework purposes. i thought it would be easier on all of us. i am planning to keep them together as long as they do not care and the teachers do not see a problem. they are pretty independent of each other and have different friends

Katina - posted on 03/11/2009

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I am facing this situation in the fall (Sept) with my BBG triplets so I was interested to hear what other moms of BBG triplets had to say, since the dynamic is so different with mixed-sex triplets (I have friends with all girls or all boys, and we see some differences btwn my set and their sets).  Right now, because the boys are in a special Pre-K program for language & developmental delays, they are together, and my little girl goes to a seperate preschool program across town.  This is wreaking havoc on trying to be there for each of the kids' classes and keeping up with the kids' class projects/homework assignments.  In our state, the statutes says we can keep higher-order multiples together in the same class unless they are not on the same education level. Since the boys will mainstream into regular Kindergarten in the Fall, I am thinking of putting all three kids together in the same class.  So this question and the answers everyone has been providing are very good for me, to help with my decision.  Thank you to everyone who has responded. I'll have to check back and let you all know what I end up deciding! :)

Lori - posted on 02/26/2009

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I really wanted to keep my triplets together but the school encouraged me to put them in a class by themselves luckly there were three classes in each grade.  After one year of separation I agreed that it was good for them to be on their own, since they spent every other waking moment together like any siblings.  It really allowed for them to become individuals and it elimited the telling on each other.  

Sharilyn - posted on 02/24/2009

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I have 5 year old triplet girls and we have kept them in the same class for pre-school and plan on keeping them in the same classes. The do tend to do some things together but not everything. They are discovering they have different likes and different abilities too. My one daughter told me she likes knowing her sisters are with her if she gets scared or sad.

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