Triplet stroller & rude questions

Cindy - posted on 05/21/2012

Hi Danyella,
I am presently 4 months pregnant with triplets. We went through IVF, and feel really blessed that we became pregnant. I already get those comments and I completely agree with you. I believe it is intrusive, and people do not really think about the comments they make. What difference does it make? I have not found a way to deal with that just yet. I think it is pretty special to have triplets and maybe it is just focusing on that. Congratulations on your triplets!
Cindy

Heather - posted on 04/09/2010

i got my stroller from walmart.com web item only.. for the people that want to stop and ask questions i ignore most of the time..

Danyella - posted on 04/07/2010

Wow Brenda!! Congrats on getting your girl, plus two bonus boys!!

Krystin--so the combo of cruise to Mexico, Clomid, & Paxil was a lethal combo! lol Yes, eventually, I will have to lookf for a triplet stroller. Maybe the older model Peg Peregos will be better than the model I tested out in the store.Not sure if it'll fit in the bigger vehicle we plan to get! Oh boy! lol

Krystin - posted on 04/03/2010

Triple stroller is the was to go. You can look for a mother of multipul group new you to see if they have a yard sale to save money. Mine is on this sight but this one is newer http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h... . I love it and you can put two seats in it or three and it goes from birth to 4 years. I try to just tell people "God must really love me!" or "God was just being funny" and leave it at that. When they dont take that I tell them it just happen and then they dont ask and truly they dont NEED to know. My husband had to take paxil (and yes that helps for this too :)) and I did one round of clomid 25mg. Oh yeah and a cruise to Mexico and we will NEVER do that again!

Brenda - posted on 03/16/2010

wow! sorry coming to this late, I'm sure by now, you purchased your stroller. I had the Peg Perrego, triplet stroller, Lived by it, LOVED it! Saved my life, we used to fro church every week, everywhere I went, took out the seats, the base fit perfectly in the back of our Grand Caravan, (we tried about every suv). We even went to Las Vegas (we r in FL) for vacation. It was a matter of safety, all together, &n convenience. I was out by myself alot & so, it was safe, & easy to keep an eye on them & have them together. everyone still talks about it, but it does not bother me, we are special & in a group of chosen blessed people. As far as the questions, I answered, normal, I already had 3 boys, we tried 1 more time for the girl, & got a WHAMY. B,B,G!!! & she was the baby. So, with 6 kids, people were like, what? my thing, they are mine, we pay our bills, & everything else, it's no ones elses business. I am proud of our large family, regardless that it was a surprise, they are healthy, & ALL my kids are a blessing. Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 03/13/2010

I have 2yr old triplets~ 2 boys and a girl and i def used a triplets stroller when i went out. I really hated it cuz it weighed about 75lbs without the babies in it and i lived on the 2nd floor of our building so getting outside was a mission itself. I always needed and still to this day need help going outside with them. It just dont get easier cuz a person got o so many arms especially when they catch a tantrum or wanna run in opposite directions. As of rude questions~ that will always come. they always ask were they natural, how do u do it, how u pushed all them out? like really thats none of their buisness but i guess curiosity doesnt really know rudeness

Danyella - posted on 03/11/2010

I tested out a Peg Perego double stroller that is made the same as the triplet stroller. Let me tell you, I am turned off by the Peg Perego double. I am so glad I didn't invest in the triple stroller for over $1000! We purchased a double that you can turn the seats. We hope we'll get a single stroller at the baby shower, along with a baby pouch carrier thing.

I am getting used to the intrusive questions. People often ask if they're IVF, which they're not. I just tell them we have multiples in our families, which is true, and we got a "bonus" baby. That usually cracks people up and takes the conversation in a different direction. Thank goodness.

As for the babes, they're doing great. Just went to the doctor and 2 weigh 1 lb 2 oz, and the other weighs 1lb 1oz!! We're almost at 6 months! Yeah!

Cris - posted on 03/09/2010

I usually say, as seriously as I possibly can, "Oh, gosh, we're still waiting to find out," when people ask me if my triplets are natural. They usually look at me like I have lobsters crawling out of my ears and assume, I guess, that I'm really very stupid! Then when they are gone I laugh hysterically and tell the babies they are most difinately the most natural things in the world!

Deb - posted on 03/07/2010

I used a double and a Baby Bjorn. I was usually able to shop without too many people stopping me..and we had a single too for when my hubby or Mom went out with me... A triple strollerattracts a lot more attention and they are hard to maneuver through non-automatic dooors. Never had a problem in the drs offices when they were babies with this system since the dr usually just laid them all side by side and checked them out. Then I just rotated who was in the stroller/ infant carrier depending on who was having shots since you are holding one anyway for the shots, the other 2 are secure.

When my kids turned 1 we got a Choo Choo Wagon which we all LOVED! And we were using it up until they were almost 3. That did attract attention obviously but by then I wasn't worried about a bunch of people spreading germs to my kids like I was when they were tiny babies.

I never minded telling people that we used IVF to have our trio because you never know if they are asking because they too are having fertility problems and may have legitimate questions that I could help them with.... We have since gone on to have another baby on our own w/o help so a lot of people ask us about IVF and if we actually tried again after our triplets! LOL.
Enjoy your babies- they're such miracles!!!!
-Deb

Lisa - posted on 03/07/2010

hi ihave 2yr old triplet girls, non identical, i had a triple stroller but it was difficult getting out and about so opted for a twin and single but means you cant venture out on your own, my girls now walk all over which is easier but a pain, i been out today and still had stares and people asking ohh are they triplets. its a pain when you just want to go out and spend time with your kids, i have an older daughter who is 5 and sometimes feels like she is pushed aside when we out and about. i have had people say " thats what i call hell" why would people say this they are my children and i love them to bits yes its hard but you get on with it and who are they to question this . bless you and your family xx

Carol - posted on 03/06/2010

Goodmorning ladies:
I just love all of your stories. I'm not a parent to multiples. I'm actually an identical twin. I'm now in my 40's and my twin sister and I still get ask questions when we are out together. It is a life time of questions based on curiosty. My guess is that most people are just so curious and and interested. My twin and I still have alot of fun with it. We are best friends. I still remeber the twin stroller that my mother carried us in. It was designed to go side by side. I think back about that and I have to laugh. You couldn't even get the stroller thru the doors at the grocery store. At least they have corrected that problem. I still remember thinking, even as a toddler, why would someone designed a stroller that you can't even take into the store. It's pretty useless...As a twin. I would like to offer you mom's of multiples some wisdom. as your babies get older, people when tend to want to compare them, especially if they are identical. For some reason when people here the word identical, they think clone, and that is furthest from the truth. Other then the same DNA, your babies are very unique individuals and what one is gifted in will be the others weakness. Encourage them to share their strengths with their siblings and visa versa, and for the public, such as teachers, gently remind them that even thought they are twins or triplets they are very different and will have different gifts and personalities to please encourage them individually and try not to compare them to each other, especially infront of them. Just some food for thought, based on personal experience.
God has given you all the most precious gifts...Cherish and celebrate each of them...

Abundantly blessings to all of you..

Carol

Sherry - posted on 03/03/2010

I got a double and a single stroller bc I figured I would never go out anywhere alone with the triplets and I did not like being an "attraction" for people in the streets. but now that they are older ( almost 2) I wish I had a triplet stroller just bc at times I do feel like going for a walk on my own with the babies with no help. I have looked into strollers and the best in my opinion is the Valco stroller with the seat addition and you can use it till they are like 4 or something! A bit pricey but I think it is worth it!
Also, in regards to people asking, I hated it and it is still going on even though it was natural for us! I just alwys say "my husband got what it takes" or someother comments and move away. Unfortunjately, there will always be people that can't resist not to mind their own business!

Joni - posted on 02/27/2010

Congrats on your babies!!! They are so much fun/work/fun/work!! I have GGB tirps that are 5 1/2. We used a stroller that was from BabiesRUS and could only be purchased online. I am not sure of the brand but it was around $250. It was a lifesaver for sure!! There was a little space underneath that fit our diaper bag. It was a little hard getting it into the back of the van but no matter what you get your going to be loaded down. I took them a lot of places by myself since they were just tiny squirts. You will find ways to get them around and to do things by yourself. We did have family around but I always thought about it like an adventure. I just alway knew I could go back home if I needed to. My stepson played baseball at the time and one year I was preg., the next we had the stroller, the next we had a wagon, and the next they were walking!!

As far as carseats, we got ours at BabiesRUS too. You get a discount there if you buy two or more of the same thing. Like one of the other ladies mentioned, we had a sports car too and my husband had to go car shopping while I was on bedrest. It was hard to drive in with a mustang and come out with a minivan!! It was great/easy getting carseat in and out of without having to lift them. I don't have any suggestions about what carseats you should buy b/c the ones we had wouldn't fit in any other cars.

People still ask me questions and some of them I tell it just happened naturally b/c I don't want to get into a conversation with them but others I tell that I was on Clomid. We did see a specialist to see what our other options would be if Clomid didn't work the 2nd time around. YIKES!! We just prayed Clomid would work b/c of the cost of the "other options". Well, not too long after we found out I was pregnant, thought I was having a mc, and found out at 5 wks I was having triplets. I little more than what we bargained for but those were the cutest little white blobs I have ever seen. 2 wks later we saw the cutest blobs with heartbeats!! So with all that so people I go into it with and others I don't - just depends on my mood!!

Good luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/27/2010

There is no good way to get 3 babies around unfortunately. I had different strollers depending on what I was doing. When they were babies I had the triple decker and loved it. It was light, car seats snapped in and it folder. I used for everything unless I had another person go with me, then I used a single and a double. It drew less attention. Which meant less questions.

As for people asking... if I don't know them and don't care to talk to them, I lie. I just say they were natural and keep walking. If I think it is someone who may be having trouble and really has some questions then I tell them. Do feel like you have to explain anything to anyone. Now that my triplets are older we don't use strollers much because they are a pain. We have the runabout for walks in the neighborhood and a triple side by side for outings like the zoo. The runabout does not fold up and the side by side does not fit through doors. I use wrist straps and tell them if they are not helpful we will have to go home. They love to go places so they are usually pretty good.

Joy - posted on 02/25/2010

Hi, I fully understand where your coming from. I have naturally conceived triplets who are now 11 years old. I found that people just assummed that I had received IVF and I just use to put them right saying no it was natural. I use to joke and say it was a tesco special buy two get one free! I found this often stopped any further questions. Later people stopped asking as I have six children now in total.
I was fortuanate enough to locate a triple pram made by "streng" unfortuately at the time I located the last one as the company had gone bankrupt. It was not a stroller it was a proper pram which later changed to a push chair. It had two forward facing and one facing the other way although you could vary how they went together. I found the triple invaluable but am not sure how well a stroller type would push along as mine had very large wheels.
The down side on a triple is everyone stops you saying oh are they triplets and then poking their noses in the pram, little old ladies touching your precious babies. Every one asking you the same stupid questions taking up the two hours free time you have worked really hard to get in between feeds and changing nappies. I guess I maybe have been over protective as they were ten weeks premature. I use to feel quite annoyed sometimes and would walk around trying not to make eye contact with passersby. Looking back now I must admitt maybe my feelings were a little out of proportion as I think I did suffer from post natal depression but still the stress of intrusive people made me very anxious.

Looking back now I think I would of replied to people asking about IVF would be something along the lines of "that is very personal! " and then not expand on it I think the person would have to be very rude to push it further.

Ashley - posted on 02/18/2010

As far as the stroller is conserned I would go with a triplet stroller...it makes life to much easier because u never have enough arms but this does help out. People asked me and still ask me if we used IVF to have our boys and I tell them NO it was natural by the grace of God... just know that people are gonna ask u things like that all the time...my boys are almost two and I still get asked those questions...my favorite one though is "Are those triplets??" seriously I want to laugh everytime I get asked that.

Jeanne - posted on 02/16/2010

My triplets are 9 yrs. old now, but when they were little I used the Runabout triplet stroller. It looked like a jogging stroller. It was pretty easy to maneuver around, but when you have multiples, alas, nothing will EVER be easy! As for questions from curious onlookers, I almost always inquired back why they wanted to know. You'd be surprised how many people had a family member or friend that was currently experiencing infertility. Remember, that when you are in public, you are a spectacle, no ecscaping that! But remember how special you and your babies are and that not many people are as blessed as your family! I rarely ever had negative comments. If people got too personal, simply draw the line. Like I said, most people asked because they wanted answers for someone they knew going through infertility.
As for my story, my triplets came with the help of Repronex injectables and AI on the first try. We were truly surprised when we learned we were having triplets. It's been a great ride so far! I wouldn't change a thing. How blessed we all are for our little miracles!
Jeanne

Kerry - posted on 02/15/2010

I have 9 children, 3 biological and 6 adopted! Two of my adopted children are twins, but I also have another adopted daughter who is born the same day as the twins, only two hours apart! Two are african american (twins) one white, it is hilarious when people say how old are you and the three of them say 9 and they say we are sisters, AND we are only two hours apart, people's faces are really funny. Then they say are they all yours and I say yes. Then they say (four of my adopted six are african american and two adopted are white) they are brother and sisters and I say yes. I smile and then say, I have been very busy!!!! LOL. My bio children are grown up 30, 27 and 24, but when we all go out no one knows what to say, because they do not know who belongs to who, LOL. When the stares come I say, yes they are ALL mine and leave them to make whatever they want of that. LOL.

Angela - posted on 02/15/2010

I don't remember going out much the first 6 months but after that I never went out with them without my husband. We would carry them in their carriers, but I would recommend a triplet stroller that holds the carriers. Maybe we would have gone out more....Now that they are almost 3, I just bought a double umbrella stroller and have the other one "help" me push.

I hated the rude questions, comments, and touches regarding my boys. My husband would be just as rude and/or we would answer humorously...ask me a dumb question I'm giving you a dumb answer! I still remember when they were in their carriers walking through stores with 2 carts and we would hear "awww twins...oh my God there's 3"! Hilarious!

Anyways, my boys were spontaneous and identical but everyone assumes I had fertility help. Which only bothers me when they look at my tired, frustrated self with that "well, you asked/paid for it", then I just maintain, restrain, and talk to my boys about ignorant people. Ha!

Toni - posted on 02/15/2010

I have a double and a single and a pouch-- I am very independant and just knew I would not be home alone and be stuck --- the reality -there are very few times I have gone out alone. We both do the doctor appointment and on shot day try and find a third person to come with. As for the questions I very proudly tell them that our babies are IVF and that it took us seven years to get them and that there could have been 4 and we are very blessed! But I am not at all shy andI know some folks who have had IVF and have told no one! Good luck and before you buy a triple stroller make sure it will fit in your car and that you can lift it!

Jennifer - posted on 02/13/2010

When I had my triplets, I became a stroller "junkie" - had 3 umbrella single's, 1 double & a nicer single, 1 double umbrella, had the connectors to hook 1 single umbrella's together, had a triple jogger & a front to back triplet stroller as well as a Radio Flyer Discovery Wagon for once they got 3 & over. Each stroller had a purpose & I purchased most of them used which saved a ton of money. I was not one to stay home with them when they were little so we did a lot of the Baby Trend front to back. It is not the most easy to maneuver, but it was perfect for the dr. visits by myself or the Target or Walmart visits, etc. The triple jogger was awesome, but not practical for many stores - perfect for walks around town, the zoo, outside places, parks, etc. The kids could still ride in it & it was still easy to handle when they were 4. Good luck, I am sure you will come up with a solution that is best for you & your trio.

As for the questions, yes, I got them all the time & when you have a triple stroller, you get them even more often. I didn't mind answering questions though. Still, to this day, I am fine when people ask me about the drugs or treatment or dr., etc. My hubby & I did do IVF after 5 years of trying with & without other drugs. I like to think my story gives others hope that they could be as lucky some day & may provide some direction. I guess it is all in the attitude of why or how to share your experience.

Penny - posted on 02/13/2010

I had a triplet stroller but, now that they are almost 4 I make them hold hands when we go somewhere. My girls two of them have brown hair and one is blond and every where we go people say are they twins, when all three of them are the same size just because one has different hair color does not mean she is not one of the triplets.

Jill - posted on 02/12/2010

hi my triplets are 2 today i we bought a triple buggy it was a complete waste of money, the girls were hard fit o have plenty space when tied in buggy, i now always use the double buggy that i had for my other two older grls and i use a single one as well when the girls got bigger i found that i could not push the triplebuggy it was too heavy

Courtney - posted on 02/09/2010

I would get a triplet stroller if I were you. The one thing I hated was to not be able to go anywhere by myself, and with the triplet stroller, even if I didn't use it that much, it was helpful to know I could go, if I wanted to. Just for the sake of sanity saving freedom, get a triplet stroller, you're going to hate it if you have to wait for someone to go with you all the time. And I never had anybody to go with me for things. Be careful of the type you get, too. I had a Roundabout triplet stroller, I think that was the name since I bought it used, the back seat came off and the handle bars slid down. It barely fit in the back of the van. My friend had a fold up triplet stroller. I would rather have had one like hers, it looked roomer, (mine was limited on leg space since the seats were molded plastic type) and hers folded up real nice! Definately get a good second hand double stroller and a cheapie umbrella stroller for when your husband's with you, that investment will be worth it. My triplets just turned 4, they're average sized kids and we can still use the double stroller on occasion and most definately will use it again. Plus, it's handy to throw all the coats and bags into it and makes a great time out seat! We don't use the triplet stroller anymore, I doubt they could fit in it anymore. Get a back pack for the diaper bag, that was so much easier than carrying around a bag. I did use a messenger style bag, too, but that was mainly because it had a transformer symbol on it and I'm just a big old nerd. It was hard to stay on my shoulder, but it looked awesome!!! The backpack was so much better.

I did use Clomid on 2 rounds and the obgyn was shocked to see triplets and even found them very late! So when people off the street ask me about fertility drugs, I just lie because it's none of their business and frankly makes me angry. If someone with a genuine personal interest in the matter asks me, I will tell them the truth. One thing that's crazy, I missed the attention when I didn't get it, and didn't like it when I did. But it sure was nice when I would have a rotten day and feel stressed and someone would come up to me and say I was such a supermom and how blessed I was. It helped remember that I am blessed!!!
Congrats on your triplets!!!!!!!! Enjoy them! The time goes FAST!!!!!!!!

Cynthia - posted on 02/08/2010

I used a triplet stroller so I can go out by myself. The problem with this is they don't it long. I had a seat behind seat which was great however they lack storage for diaper bag(many don't have baskets under) and when the kids got big enough to "lean" if they all leaned to the same side the stroller tended to tip. They only used it for 2 years. Then we went to a double stroller and a single. If I was by myself I would have 2 ride and one walk with a "harness" on and attached to stroller. I rotated who walked as they got tired walking. This eliminated boredom of riding and gave them exercise. My triplets were infertility so when people asked me if I used "hormones" I just said God blessed me with triplets since he knew I could handle them. If they said "Oh God bless you" I said "he sure did"!! You can come up with witty comments to shut people up :) Mostly people are just curious and asked questions like were they on the same schedule, do they get along etc. Take one day at a time! Our triplets are 13 now and we have enjoyed every minute! Don't listen to the horror stories, yes it's busy and tiring but rewarding!!

Bonnie - posted on 02/05/2010

I had a triple stroller, but my preference was to con someone (anyone) into going with me so I could take a double and a single. That way it looked like I had twins and she had a single--fewer questions!

As for the rude questions: I say it runs in the family--my cousin and I both have triplets, it's nobody else's business that we both did IVF!

As for stupid questions? I consistently got asked, "Are those three twins?" Uh, yeah....

Starla - posted on 02/05/2010

Hi~ Yes you get lots of questions when people find out you are pregnant with triplets!!! lol
We have a triple umbrella stroller... we love it! As for us, we did an IUI and got pregnant on the first try. I had 4 eggs and 3 fertilized! Thankfully my right tube was blocked b/c I had more eggs on my right ovarie. I could have been the next octo mom scary!!!! haha Good luck!
Take it easy and take bed rest seriously!!! I had my triplets at 30 wks 2 days.

Sherri - posted on 02/03/2010

Hi Danyella...

I have 2 1/2 yr. old BBB triplets. We did have treatments and help. Now I am pregnant, which was a very natural surprise. I find people have been intrusive about the triplets, but more now with another on the way. Things like "don't you know how that happens?" and "don't you think you have enough kids?". As for the little guys, we have a triple wagon, which has replaced our double and single stroller. The little guys can each have their own car and be strapped in. There is also a cup holder. We rarely use the strollers. We carry a backpack full of their stuff. We've used this at the mall, in the grocery and many other places. It's called the choo choo wagon by Step2. It is currently discontinued. Maybe you could find one on ebay. It's a shame. Anyway, we love this far more than a stroller.

Take care, Sherri

Laura - posted on 02/02/2010

I had both a triplet stroller (donated to me) and a double+sigle stroller when mine were babies. Both were useful for different reasons. If I was alone, the triplet stroller was great, but its an attention getter. So if my hubby was w/ me we'd take the double and single with us.
As far as rude/intrusive questions, mine are 5 y/o and I still get them. One fellow mom of multiples put it best when she said that it doesn't matter if you used fertility or just got the suprise of your life, they're all natural. I've heard some moms who used fertility say that theirs were natural but they did use fertility. That puts people in their place w/o having to be rude. I always hate the comment "Glad its you and not me." I'd always say "Me too!" back to them! Anyway, my triplets were a suprise, I didn't use any fertility.

Gina - posted on 01/31/2010

I had the inglesina triple stroller and the Peg Perego...as well as a triple JOG. I also had a quad stroller, because I babysit for my nephew who is only 6 months younger then my triplets...The quad was a little heavy and not so comfortable for the kids when they were too small....sleeping ...or too big. Pretty much just good for getting from point A ro point B....Sounds like that is all you will be doing...but when you have places to go and people to see...and these 3 babies are tired and cannot get comfortable.you will wish they were able to sleep. The jog stroller is ONLY for a place with a wide space. (I happen to live across from the park so I did get use out of it) it will NOT fit in any doorway. I likes the inglesina the best. It was the smallest of the 3...a bit heavy but i was able to get it in and out of the car(i have a honda odyssey). for me independence is EVERYTHING!!!....you had to remove at least one seat from the stroller to pack in the car...but it was only a matter of pulling a lever and pulling the seat up. I usually removed all 3 because it was just faster and easier then manuvering it into the trunk space. with all 3 seats out it folded pretty flat and only took like 10 seconds more. All 3 babies slept well in it and seemed very comfortable. at first when i saw it, i thought that they were going to outgrow it very quickly, but they did not. They were so used to it, that even know they had less space then the average DOUBLE stroller ...they did not know any better, so it was enough space for them. We used the stroller until they were about 3. and then i started putting all 3 in a double stroller to get from Point a to point B...not as many naps were required at this point...just safety needed in malls and streets etc. They all played in the stroller together and enjoyed the time together. my triplets are 4 now and they STILL all fit in a double stroller...sometimes..gets us to school faster..in and out of the store faster...etc.

Gina - posted on 01/31/2010

You DEFINATELY need a triple stroller. You can also havd a double and a single (or 2 double for extra atorage) IF and WHEN you have help. Try to get one from ebay or a triplets website like MOST (mother of super twins) ..because they are EXPENSIVE.. good luck.

Elyse - posted on 01/30/2010

As cute as the triple peg perego is, unless you only plan to take neighborhood strolls, DON'T DO IT! That is all I used mine for. :) Besides, a double and a single do better for less comments. Much easier to set up/take down too. Don't worry too much about the comments...people can't help being clueless. My trips are now 10 and I haven't got a question in years! Enjoy the crazy ride!

Tasha - posted on 01/30/2010

Hi i got a triplet stroller it seems to be easier for me cause i do have to go to the docs and things alone my husband works.. And as far as the rude question i get it all the time and it does offend me its usually how much did invetro cost u and i just tell them the truth i was told by 4 docs i could not get prego and ya look what happend we stoped trying and did nothing and suprise u have triplets...

Kris - posted on 01/30/2010

Well what works best for me and my family is a double and a single stroller. But that doesnt always work for everyone. But this is what works best for our family. If you can find a really good double stroller then I would go that route. For when you got out alone to the dr's or what not, use the double and a sling. Search for the perfect sling for you. Shop around online for the one that will work best for you. The double stroller that we bought it so awsome. Its a contour. It comes with one bar that is for any infent carseat and then you can order another bar from the company for around $35. Then the actually seats are convertable. You can have them both face you, face away from you, face to face, back to back and so on. Its a great stroller I think to have. They also sell them as singles. We got ours from babies r us. Ours is red, but they might sell them in diffrent colors and the stroller was $219 but if you get the 15% off coupon you can save some money on it.
As for people asking if you used fertility drugs that is a very personal question and I sometimes choice not to anwser people. Most of the time you can deptermine if the person asking is judging you or not. Be perpaired for rude comments either way wheather you choice to tell or not. We get them sometimes. But you kinda have to quickly get tough skin and let it roll off your shoulders. I hope this has helped you some.

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2010

My first stroller was the Triple Decker www.doubledeckerstroller.com we had the one that held the Evenflo carseats (we bought it 2nd hand from another triplet family), but there is another model that holds Graco carseats.
I had also purchased a used Peg Prego for when the girlies grew out of their infant seats. I HATED this one. In order to fit in the car (a Toyota Hylander) you had to completely dissasemble it, the individual seats fold flat & then so does the carriage, but IMO it took far to long to get together & apart to bother with. It did drive fairly well but wasn't worth the hassle. I sold it after about 6mo of non-use.
My 3rd stroller was the Baby Trend triple. This one was simple to get set up & down going into & out of the car. However it was a monster to steer, even with my tiny 10-15lb 9mo's it was lots of work. I could no longer easily push the stroller while pulling my shopping cart. I had to push the stroller with both hands around corners at the store & then go back for the cart. I couldn't imagine the work involved pushing around 20lb kiddos. A friend of mine had the same & when her kids hit about 25lbs the bars holding the wheels on started to bow!
My solution to the stroller headaches was a simple double side by side umbrella stroller, a single umbrella stroller & stroller connectors http://www.princelionheart.com/site/t_st... For trips to the store or Dr I would wear 1 or 2 babies using various baby carries (if you're considering carriers skip the Maxi Mom- you can find something way more comfortable going for wraps, slings, Mai Tai's etc). I used mostly a custom made Mai Tai & a rigid backpack carrier, I was able to wear 2 babies when I wanted until they were about 18mo with these before I switched to only wearing 1 at a time.
On thing to consider when looking at the various side by side options- strollers that are 3 wide will not fit through a single door. Strollers that are 2 wide will fit through *most* exterior doors but not many interior doors. We had problems with exterior single doors at the grocery store because of the metal plates they attach to the bottoms of the doors. also, the exam rooms at the Dr's office were too narrow to fit the double stroller through properly.
We switched to the Step2 Choo Choo Wagon around 2yrs old & used it for about 1.5yrs. It was great for days at the zoo, walking around the neighborhood etc, but I never used it for store/Dr trips. My girls are pretty independent & have been walking along with me, taking turns sitting in the shopping cart at the store, since around 20mo.
As for carseats- we used the Evenflo Discovery infant seat, the Cosco Scenera convertable seat & the Safety 1st Go Hybrid booster seat. All 3 are 17in wide or less & fit 3 across in my Toyota Hylander, the Evenflo were never tested out in DH's car but the other 2 fit great in his Nissan Pathfinder also.

Rachel - posted on 01/26/2010

We used the Foundations brand. I think you can buy it at target.com, but we bough ours at www.justmultiples.com. It doesn't hold the infant carriers, but we didn't really travel to a store until they were about 2 1/2-3 months old so they were okay in it!

Danyella - posted on 01/25/2010

Ok, everyone is giving great advice. However, can you please provide the brand of strollers you purchased? Especially the triplet strollers. I have looked online and have only really found maybe three. The Peg Perego was one I was strongly considering, but if it won't fit in the car & I can't use the carrier of my choice, I guess this one's off the list.

Please help! I'll be on bed rest soon & need to keep looking around for strollers and carriers! Thanks mommies!

Rachel - posted on 01/25/2010

We had a triplet stroller and then when they were a little bigger I bought a double and single umbrella stroller. I had someone come with me to the doctor's office until they were almost 2. It really does help to have that extra set of hands (at least it did for me). I wish I had a triplet stroller that held the infant carriers, that would have been very helpful, but we didn't have that much money.



The questions unfortunately for me never seeem to stop. For some reason people have no courtesy and think it is okay to ask you those questions. I read in another discussion board someone say we shouldn't be ashamed of fertility, but I don't think that is what offends me. It is just personal...it opens up way too many other questions and why does it matter anyway? I just don't think my kids should have to listen to people ask about how they were conceived.

Leslie - posted on 01/22/2010

I suggest a triplet stroller if you are alone. It takes a bit of time to load them all in but once done you can get around. People stopped us all the time and asked rude questions. What was funny was how ignorant they were- like "are they natural?" or "how old is each one?" Now my girls are 8 (fraternal) and no one even believes they are triplets as they have different hair color, eye color, height and build! Go figure!

Jessica - posted on 01/22/2010

As for carseats- I've been told Babies R U will let you check the fit of carseats in your vehicle before you buy, maybe call & talk to a manager about that? For us we had the triple decker & the carseats for it before we bought the vehicle (we both had sports cars & Dh had to go shop for a new car while I was on bedrest). DH went car shopping with my MIL & the 3 carseats. They would not test drive a car until they check to make sure the seats fit. When we moved to the next level of seats I always shopped only for seats that were 17in or slimmer. I drive a Toyota Hylander & fit all 3 infant, convertable & high back boosters in 1 row. DH now drives a Nissan Pathfinder & the carseats fit even better in his vehicle, which is actually a few inches narrower than mine (due to his backseat being a flat bench & mine has a slightly raised middle seat).

Jessica - posted on 01/22/2010

I went for the triple decker when my girlies were tiny & I LOVED that stroller! I tried a few other triple strollers after that (the Prego & the Baby Trend) & I HATED them! I ended up going with a twin side by side umbrella with a single umbrella that I could attach with stroller connectors for outtings like the park/zoo. When I used the twin umbrella for stores/Dr's appts ect I would wear one baby in one of the many carriers I had. Occasionally, especially when they were smaller, I would wear 2 & use the single umbrella stroller. This kept the random stranger comments & questions down because people didn't tend to see all 3 &/or they would assume since I didn't have a triple stroller that they were twins + singleton. Around 18mo we got a Choo Choo Wagon which was great for outtings but too much of a pain for me to bother using for the store. Our wagon didn't have any seatbelts but the girls learned quickly that the wagon doesn't move unless everyone's sitting. We used that until about 3 when they prefered to walk with me & the wagon was just something I was dragging around empty. Step 2 goes in & out of production on this though. right now it's out of production & people all over take advantage of that but from when my girls were 6mo to 3 it went into & out of production twice. They keep a great resale value though!

As for the questions/comments. Well it doesn't matter how you conceived, you'll get tons of these questions. I've found most people don't even believe it's possible to have higher order multiples without some type of medical help. My girls are spontaneous (I have the whole "natural" thing, all babies are natural! Well, except the ones I buy for my kids in the toy aisle ;) ) & I've had people tell me that I couldn't have gotten pregnant with 3 on my own, in that case I let them know that actually I had my husband's help too. Depending on my mood I've been anywhere from nice to rude right back when it comes to the questions. Mostly I've learned that not making eye contact & keeping myself busy taking & tending to my kids keep a lot of the potential quizzers at bay. Some people ask because they or someone they know is going through difficulties getting pregnant but most (in my experience anyway) are just curious.

Danita - posted on 01/22/2010

Oh and I did forget to mention that once my guys turned a year old, we started using the Step 2 wagon with the extra trailer so no more triple stroller! The Step 2 wagon has 2 seat belts and the little "trailer hitch" is good for the baby that won't try to get out (doesn't have a seat belt)

Sandy - posted on 01/21/2010

When my triplets were infants I had a twin side by side stroller with no space between and they all three could fit. Then when they were about 9 months old I got the triplet stroller. It makes it much easier to be able to get around by yourself. It will also bring a lot of attention but it comes with the fact that it is unusual. People always asked me if I took fertility drugs and I just answered. I never felt it was intrusive. They are just curious because it is rare. I did not take anything to get pregnant. I was on birth control pills and I had a bladder infection and the Dr. put me on antibiotics and bingo, it counteracted the pill and I got triplets. I had a problem trying to go out with them and get anything done because so many people stopped me but you become the center of attention. God bless you as you go through all this.

Jennifer - posted on 01/21/2010

I had a triple stroller until my girls where 21/2 then got a double sit and stand because someone always wants to walk now. The sit and stand also has much much more leg room. I got a Joovy Big Caboose Stand-On Tandem Triple Stroller. Love it. Love it. However it is not much smaller than my triple Baby Trend stroller but it is less bulky. I also bought a double lightweight Jeep stroller and a single lightweight Jeep stroller for when my husband or other family is helping me. They are sturdy but very lightweight like an umbrella stroller.

Now for the second topic. I swear! I have been asked every intrusive question there is about my girls. They don't look like trips but are the same size. I even had one crazy woman ask if they all had the same father. Explain that! I don,t have a problem telling someone who is asking because they are having issues as well. I think that infertility was a very hard road and I want to encourage anyone on it. However, Nosey Nancy that spends fifteen minutes grilling me about my kid's conception- I kindly tell her that is personal, but thank you for your interest in my sex life. That usually shuts them up!
I thought about getting a tshirt printed once with the top 5 questions and answers on it just to save time. Like it isn't hard enough to get out without everyone stopping you.
I hope that helps.

Danita - posted on 01/21/2010

Hi... I have 17mo old boy trips and I would say definitely go with the triple stroller. Unfortunately, Peg Perego is the only company that makes a triple stroller that all the car seats can snap on but it was a lifesaver for us!!! It's expensive (close to $1000) and doesn't include car seats but trust me - there's NOTHING better than snapping on a car seat and going!

As for the "stupid" questions, we can't put a filter on people's mouths. My response used to be "God is paying me back for always asking for a baby." My family doesn't think anything is wrong with it but I think the fertility questions are extremely rude if they don't know you.

My monsters are a result of IVF... 1st try with 3 implanted and I guess they all decided to stay :-)

Jeni - posted on 01/21/2010

Going in backward order of your note. lol How I wound up with triplets is a complicated question to answer as I really don't know. Months before I got pregnant, I had to take a very low dose Chlomid and then progesterone to make a cycle because mine had quit totally for some odd reason. I have Factor V Leiden and am not supposed to take birth control for fear of clots. This wasn't working so I told the doc to just give me the birth control. Got a cycle then found out I was pregnant. So, as you can see, I have no clue if they were just hanging around or not. haha Doc said that it was too low a dose to be able to get pregnant with one, let alone 3. He also said that it was because of my age and how many times I had been pregnant before. (1 birth, 2 m/c) So, now we just say that we got the girl we were hoping for plus the 2 we lost, back. As far as random people asking me how, I usually either don't answer or say that I'm not sure. It really isn't there business anyway.

As far as strollers, we've gone through them all. We started out with a quad stroller that someone had given us. There was no way to go through doorways with that so doctor appointments were a mess. So, we got a single and a double which is nice when you have someone to go with you or single for when one baby has an appointment. Finally, a year ago, we got a triplet stroller which is wonderful!! We got a Runabout which we ordered online. It has leg room and is built more like a bike. Love it!

Amanda - posted on 01/21/2010

With our finances we could not afford the high dollar car seats. We got lucky and had 3 car seats donated to us. They were Safety First car seats. They worked great. Ya you can to go for the big heavy high dollar ones but the safety first car seats worked just as well and were not a heavy to lug around. When ur baby get to be 10, 15 lbs a 10 lb car seat gets heavy fast. SO Good luck finding the right infant carrier. We used the money to put towards diapers. Oh when they come along I Highly suggest going to Sam's club to buy diapers by bulk. It will save you money. We do what we can to save.... Oh Congratulations on having 2 girls and 1 boy. That is what I had. Toby, Sara, and Tessa.

Angie - posted on 01/20/2010

I have BGG 6 month old triplets. We used Clomid. I struggled trying to decide what stroller to buy but I am happy with our choice. I too have the triple decker and love it. The seats are in-line so you can fit through doors easily. It also fits in the trunk of my car since it folds in half plus I can use Graco car seats. I have a friend that has the peg perego and it is nice too but you have to buy their car seats and she can't fit it in her vehicle so they have a rack on the back to put it on.
I don't mind the questions because I figure I went through a lot to get them so I don't mind talking about them and my struggle to have them. Especially if it helps someone else that is going through something similar and I am pretty sure that everyone out there knows someone who has had trouble conceiving. My friend that I mentioned above does not like the questions. We get the "Boy you have your hands full" or "Better you than me" comments A LOT!! And she always responds "I would rather have my hands full than empty or yes it is better me than you". I don't think people really mean any harm by it but I think it takes a special person to raise multiples and so it probably is better me than you. I wouldn't trade them for anything. Good luck with your babies and if you have any questions or tips, I would love to talk.

Jodie - posted on 01/19/2010

I bought a triplet pram which has two seats on the bottom and one on the top. Fits through all normal doorways etc. Very easy to manage. Adventure Buggy from new Zealand. Costly but worth it.

My triplets were not natural. I had hormonal drug therapy (clomid) because I didn't ovulate.

Jodie

DENISE - posted on 01/18/2010

My triplets are now 15, when they were babies, I did use a triplet stroller, it was just easier and people always stopped to ask questions. I kind of just accepted the fact that if I went anywhere it would take twice as long because of all the people asking questions. I have a friend that also has triplets and she hung a sign on the side of her stroller saying "Yes they are triplets, two girls and one boy, when they were born they weighed (you fill in) and thank you for letting us continue shopping".
As for the rude questions, I have a great response. If someone asks if you used fertility drugs or some other rude questions, just say "why on Earth would that matter to you" or "Why would you ask such a private question, we just met". Some people honestly don't realize how offensive those questions are and sometimes they just need a reality check.
Some day believe it or not you will look back at all those "questions" and laugh, because you just can't believe people would ask them.

Hope this helps, enjoy your babies!!!!!!! They grow so quickly.