Jay - posted on 09/03/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
I always wanted children close together and so does my husband.
But when my LO turned 3 months and DH started to talk about going again I didn't want to because I was still BF and felt like I never got a break.
Well now my LO is 6.5 months old and still breastfeeding. He wont take a bottle for anyone and just spits milk or formula out if we put it into his cup. So I am still having to be there all the time.
I was 21 having him and Pregnant since I turned 21. Since TTC him and having him I have been out maybe 4 times with my DH 3 of those times and once with my sister.
I just feel like I need a break! But my DH keeps mentioning how BIG the gap is getting between LO1 and LO2. I know he is mad to get trying again, but I don't want to regret anything! Got to go out with my DH for the first time since LO was born last week and it was such a good night. ruined by the fact that my mother rang to say LO wouldn't drink any of his Bmilk from bottle/cup/spoon.
It was just a birthday party we were at but it made me feel so good and it really made me feel connected to my DH again!
I just don't think he understands, Or am I being selfish? I mean, we had plans about having babies 1 year apart and I am flaking out!!
I just worry that it is really killing him and he is not showing me how much. But then today I was ready to cave, I made plans to get my MMR done on mon (because I didn't have it done before baby 1). And then he says for our anniversary we should go out, to the night club and have a proper night of it, That is in 3 weeks time.
Are we both sending mixed messages? But I think HE is completly ready... I am not sure about me... I don't want to regret not trying, and definately don't want to regret getting pregnant! !
PLEASE HELP, I am very confused and concerned about my relationship with my DH xxx