Christina - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )
Christina - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )
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Nancy - posted on 09/13/2012
I have never had a baby and I've married for a year now.
Nancy - posted on 09/13/2012
thanks a lot for ur advice, but the truth is I have natural love for twins and I'm ready for the chalanges that may comes forth.
Casey - posted on 01/22/2010
I have to agree with most of the women on this subject. Twins is hard work! In the early days I often wondered what life would be like with just the one baby (we already had a 2 yr old when our twins were born). Our relationship seriously suffered, tensions mounted in our house due to the lack of sleep and time to ourselves. Now that they are almost 2 'normality' is somewhat restored and my husband and I appreciate each other a whole lot more, but it was a hard road. I find it difficult getting out of the house with all 3 kids and can't even take them to the park on my own because they run in all different directions and it's impossible to keep them together. Shopping is a no-go zone and I can't take them swimming without an extra pair of hands (which isn't always easy to find!) We are blessed to have our beautiful healthy boys, we love them to bits, but I would definitely NOT do it again!!
Holly - posted on 01/21/2010
don't do it. especially if you want to retain your relationship. most men can't handle it and have meltdowns, so you end up with 3 babies...
Katie - posted on 01/06/2010
Oh this is disturbing. Seriously. Don't try for twins. There is a higher chance that they will end up with developmental delays, that you will have them pre-term (mine were 10 wks. early), that they will need to stay in the hospital long after you are released (mine were in the NICU for 8 1/2 weeks!)...there is TTTS which can cause one or both babies to have life-long health problems. :S Honestly, I love my twins, but come on. Ideally our bodies are made for one baby at a time. ONE. Every baby you add to that number increases your chances at a bad outcome, and it is far from rare that one twin is messed up in some way. I took Clomid because I was unable to concieve (and we had tried for 7 years before I took Clomid), and I see someone on here has reccommended it...I DO NOT. If you read the package insert, you'll see that Clomid babies are more likely to be born pre-term, more likely to die from that, and you are just as likley to have 3 or 4 babies as you are to have 2. Almost every responsible OB would insist that you "reduce" a pregnancy that results in more than 3 babies, so that the ones that are left might have a chance of survival. As I said, every baby that you add to the ONE your body was designed for, adds to the chances of a VERY bad outcome. As someone who spent 8 1/2 weeks visiting my children on I.V's and oxygen, and being fed from NG tubes, I beg you to have what you were MEANT to have, and not play God. Clomid only ups your chances at multiples to 10%, but that same 10% could land you in a situation that no one should be faced with.
If you insist on having two babies at once, do what Heather said, and adopt one when you're pregnant.
Heather - posted on 12/31/2009
Ours aren't technically twins (I always wanted twin girls), but some of the issues are the same, so that's why I'm on here. Our boys are 4 months apart....through Foster Care/adoption and biologically. We took in a newborn when I was 6 months pregnant. Other then that, if you want them both biologically, I'd say you'd have to be implanted (which is expensive and not always covered by insurance). Fostering and adopting is awesome, but good luck on your quest! :-)
Colette - posted on 08/26/2009
Mine were natural and quite a shock.
Yes be careful what you wish for I right now have three kids under 3.
Twins are great, fun I love them to death but a lot of hard work.
Alda - posted on 08/22/2009
Mine were natural (I was 37 when I got pregnant - no history of twins anywhere). But they were born at 28 weeks and we've been down the path of NEC, ileostomy, stoma, heart surgery etc etc. Not an easy road. I love my girls to bits and wouldn't change them for the world, but when people tell me they would love to have twins my answer would have to be - NO! Be very careful what you wish for. Apart from all the possible health problems etc, they're extremely hard work and you don't have a single second to spare for yourself (or your hubby for that matter).
Melissa - posted on 07/23/2009
Mine were natural and much loved but be careful what you wish for.
Jess - posted on 07/15/2009
I also fell pregnant with twins using clomid, but again i have twins on both sides of my family and on my husband side.
I actually think twins are easier then a single child, i also have a 4 year old, my twins are 13 mths now. But i have found it so much easier they entertain each other and they don't always want me me me as they are never alone because the other twin is always close by.
I found the pregnancy easier and the labour, i went natural labour with both pregs. Twin labour was only 5 hours from start to finish and my first was over 40 hours, i had no complications health wise with the twins as i did with the single.
It is different for everyone, but if i could do it again i would want twins again any day.
The twins are into everything but they are so much fun and they are pretty easy babies. I have had health issues with one of them as he has club feet (talipes) and also has had other probs but they are so healthy.
So christina if you want twins go for it speak to your doc or obs and ask them to help you otherwise i believe that twins is a gift from God and if it is meant to happen it will.
Kat - posted on 07/09/2009
lmao! to quote my husband "I love my kids but, I wouldn't wish twins on anyone." My boys are now 16 months old and it's now like having a constant sleep over party. They laugh and play games while going to bed, then wake up in the middle of the night (every 2 hours) to tell more. Not only that but, they keep thinking up more "fun things to do" - like climb on the counter and play with the dog bowl - they are an unstoppable force. At least I'm not constantly crying anymore because I have to neglect one... one did have (and still does have) some very minor health problems. My mom has to come over everyday still to help make sure they get one on one time. No matter what, I wish you luck!
User - posted on 06/28/2009
I completely agree with what Susan said. If you could actually choose to have twins I would never do it ONLY because they are a high risk pregnancy. I just watched my friend who is 27 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins go into early labor.
In saying that though if I got twins again I would be thrilled! Every set is different but ours have been easy text book babies. In a lot of ways I think twins would be easier than having 2 kids at different ages.
Nina - posted on 06/19/2009
i have to agree and disagree with everyone, my twins where natural and i am 25. i have twins on my mom's side and my dad's side and my boyfriend has twins on his dad's side. i have to say they where easy when i first came home and they are now 8 months old and in to everything!!!! i had some health issues when i was pregnant i had ITP which is low blood platelets ( which means my blood was not clotting) i still have to go and have my blood taken every few months because it can come back. i wish you luck
Susan - posted on 06/14/2009
Don't TRY for twins. There are so many extra health risks in having multiples (for Mom and the babies). I'm so grateful my twins are healthy now - but singletons have much less risk. Take what you are given and be very happy. All children are miracles.
Kelly - posted on 06/12/2009
I used Clomid (not specifically for the purpose of having twins, just to help me ovulate). It stimulates egg production, which therefore increases the chance of multiples. You can actually buy it online if your doctor won't prescribe it.
I also have to agree with the other moms who have said how much work twins are. I love my twins to death and wouldn't trade them for the world, but I would NEVER do this on purpose!!
Noel - posted on 05/25/2009
I've had two single births and now the twins.. yes they are a bit harder but I have to tell you I wouldn't change them for the world and if I had to choose to do it all over again I would defentally choose to have twins.
Liz - posted on 05/24/2009
Twins are hard work, but they are totally worth it. Personally I'm hoping for multiples again next time around.
Danielle - posted on 05/24/2009
I'm going to have to second what Amy said. Twins are really hard work. Plus it's harder to get babysitters, so you can count on even less evenings out.
Amy - posted on 05/24/2009
You know not what you ask. Twins are cute and fun, but they are a lot of hard work. There are times I wonder how nice it would be to be one of those moms with only one baby. How easy it would be to have kept breastfeeding!!! How much cheaper it would be!!! Plus you always wonder if you are giving them enough because there it 2 babies demanding your attention. I wouldn't trade my girls for anything, but I would ask to do it again either.
Noel - posted on 05/19/2009
Yea I'm 33 and the Doctor told me after 30 your chance increases for having twins.. Mine are defentally faternal twins. I was adopted so who knows if it runs in my family or not... it does now I guess.
Liz - posted on 05/06/2009
User - posted on 05/05/2009
Mine where natural but I hear if your over 35 you've got a great shot at fraternal twins as your body is pumping out more eggs at once. It worked for my sister she got frat boys when she was 37 I'm 23 with ID twins which were a total fluke. Theres no history of twins in our family...... go figure :)
Liz - posted on 04/24/2009
mine were natural too, but good luck
Noel - posted on 04/24/2009
yea if you are going for twins that's what I would've suggested too. IVF. mine were natural twins.. Good luck! :o)
Liz - posted on 04/23/2009
The only way I know for sure to have twins is getting invetro fertilization, and having them implant at least three eggs in you, just in case one doesn't make it.