3 year old twins fussing

Ashley - posted on 11/06/2009

i have 2 yr b/b twins ans they do they same thing

Deborah - posted on 11/06/2009

To be perfectly honest i think this happens a lot....I laughed so hard when i read your post. Sorry , it hit a funny spot in me on my twin boys which are 21 now. We have said for years that these 2 boys will fight over the air they breath.......They don't do it now...But i know exactly how you feel. It all does workout in the end. I think it is some kind of sibling thing learning about each other. And we also tried everything we could do and say and nothing worked back when the were young. We tried the time out, we tried the talking to them, we tried the separating them .....As long as they didn't physically harm each other we were to the point of letting them work it out. And you know what they did. I remember one time when they were about 4-6 i went and bought those blow up boxing gloves and put masking tape on the floor in a square, then when they would start arguing or fighting....I would put them in it, and say ok boys you want to fight go at it , i'm not going to stop you...........They looked at me like i was crazy and their arguing and or fighting stopped immediately to the point they were laughing so hard they couldn't even remember what the were arguing about anymore. It turned into play pushing for 5 mins. They have out grown this ....But in jr high and high school if one other person said some thing or did something to the other, both boys were on that person...So the morale of the story is...They can and will pick on each other , but NO ONE else better pick on one of them... They love each other :)

Cecilia - posted on 11/05/2009

I HAVE 3Y/0 TWINS ALSO a B&G they always I mean always fuss and fight I have decided that is what is normal for kids. they still love each other play good sometimes and take up for each other and are concerned if the other is hurt. but i think fighting is how they bond and show effection. They may even get tired of being together all the time. but i wouldn't stress about it and i dont really think they care about how they are making the other fell as long as they are getting entertainment out of the situation.

Tiffany - posted on 11/05/2009

I have the same issue a lot of times with my girls. They are also three, plus I have a two year old, and sometimes all three of them are carrying on at once! lol. I don't really have a lot of suggestions, because I am trying to figure out the same thing! I do what you do, separating them, take the toy away....usually that works for a while, until they find something else to fight over!

Kimberly - posted on 11/05/2009

Perhaps try encouraging them to play along side the other and not together. I really didn't have this as an issue because mine were boy/girl and always did play next to the other and didn't play with the other until they went to preschool at 3. I'm sure if they're 3 going on 30, they are both Little Miss Independent. This is tough for you.