Am I crazy?

Jessica - posted on 12/04/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Hi guys im 22yo and have 14mth old b/g twins. People keep telling me that i dont need to have any more kids coz i have one of each but id really like to experience pregnancy again as i had a rough one with my twins. But id really LOVE to have another set of B/g twins again. My friend had ID girls and she thinks im crazy for wanting another set!!! i just think it would be perfect to have 2 of each :)
Has anyone else had their twins as their first (or 2nd or 3rd lol) and wanting to have another set??
I think id do things so much better the second time round as i would know wat works and wat doesnt already! :)

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Robyn Oliver-Shapton - posted on 12/10/2010

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I now have 9 yr old twin girls and they were my second pregnancy, I had a 2 yr old son, who is now 11 when they were born. However, I did have another child but was really happy when it was not twins, I had another boy who is now 4. If you want another set of twins I would wait until your current twins are old enough to help out a lot! No one can make that decision but you and best of luck to you in whatever you choose. How does your partner feel about another set of twins? That is important to factor in as well.

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I too have b/g twins who will be 1 Dec 9th. I also get the same thing. They always say "well you have one of each you're all done." My mother is the most unsupportive person I have ever known. When I tell her I would like to have more she acts a though it is the most repulsive thing.
I can't wait to have more and be thrilled to have another set of twins or a single.

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Di - posted on 12/18/2010

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Hi I have 5 kids in total, when the youngest were born I had a 5 yr boy, 1 & 1/2 yr b/g twins and then identical girls. 5 kids 5yrs and under. With 4 under under two. They are now 20, 17 and 15. It is always messy, loud, and fun. We are so glad that our family is what it is. If you do this, know that you won't have much money, time or peace but if you can accept that you will have lots of love, laughter and fun. I have never thought that we made the wrong decision. I love having a big family. good luck

Monique - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have a 12 yr old and my twins are 10. I don't think you're crazy. Having multiple children whether they come in a set or singly is hard work but it's also rewarding. Some days I want to throw them out of a window or go running screaming down the street with my head on fire lol, but most days I'm really grateful to have such wonderful children. I would like to have more and whether I get another set of twins or not doesn't really matter but experience does make the 2nd, 3rd, and etc... go around a whole lot easier.

Julia - posted on 12/16/2010

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My first pregnancy was b/g twins. I then had two singleton birth and am currently pregnant with another one. I too would love to have another set of twins. I thought for a while this pregnancy might be twins, but ultrasound showed just one.
I've had people ask me what is wrong with me for having more children after I had my "prefect set of a boy and girl." I believe the Bible teaches that God is the One who opens and closes the womb. I know that is not believed much anymore.
Go ahead have more children!

Hayley - posted on 12/13/2010

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People say that to us DAILY!!! I don't think I could handle another set! Maybe once mine are in kindergarten, they just turned 18 mos and are busy busy! My grandma had 8 children, with 2 sets of twins! eek!

Christina - posted on 12/12/2010

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If i had a boy and a girl the 1st time around i think i would be done with having kiddos ... we tryed for a boy the 3 time around and turns out we're having twin girls .. my other two are girls also btw
Im happy with four. I believe this is all for me especially knowing my chances are higher now for multiples. But really the decision is all up to u and ur spouse if you can handle it then why not.

Dominique - posted on 12/12/2010

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Hi there no your not crazy. im 22 with 1year old twin girls. i live with my partner and his two kids from the first partner Girl 5 1/2 and boy 7 and he wants more kids. i wanted more but wasn't sure on his thoughts. i want b/g twins next.

Sandy - posted on 12/11/2010

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I have 14 yr old twin boys. They are my only kids. I did not want to have anymore kids. Its hard work but rewarding work. But, I would NOT want to do it again. God bless you if you do.

Hope - posted on 12/11/2010

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Hey, I think if you love children then i think you can have as many as you want. I am a mother of four. My twin boys were last. They are now 3 and I would not change anything for the world. I believe I was given these precious gifts for a reason. I hope and pray you get your other set so you can have the family you want.

Liz - posted on 12/11/2010

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I have 18 month old twins and I am 23 weeks along with a singleton. I don't think it's crazy to want to experience pregnancy again - that is definitely part of the reason why I wanted another. Another reason was I wanted to experience having a singleton - just to know what it is like to only have ONE infant at a time :P I don't think I would wish for a second set of twins, but if it had been in the cards we wouldn't have regretted it. I do think it won't be as bad the second time around - you'll have toddlers to deal with but like you said, you'll know what to do/waht to expect - not having so much "unknown"makes it less scary.

Tiffany - posted on 12/11/2010

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It really is much easier the second time round. I had my first set of twins at 21 and my 2nd set at 25. Now at 29 I am pregnant again but this time with just 1! That terrifies me! I'm not sure I'll know what to do with just one little baby. I've had people tell me the same thing. That I am crazy for wanting more. Truth is.....maybe I am but I absolutely LOVE being a mother! I LOVE my kids. There is nothing can make me smile and make my heart feel like it is actually growing the way all my boys can.
Dont listen to em. If you want more you should have more!

Jennifer - posted on 12/11/2010

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Not another set but I had another pregnancy and had a boy. Three was enough for me. You should consider the expense of twins, such as daycare, schooling, etc. before actively trying to have another but if that is what you want.....then I would think that is your decision. If you have the energy and financial resources , then nobody's opinion really matters

Emily - posted on 12/10/2010

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I had to do IVF a couple times before I conceived, and we finally got a set of boy/girl twins. I got the response that I didn't need more either, but I loved having babies so much I didn't want to be done in just one fell swoop! When we decided to try again, we were all (our parents, too) praying for twins again because our first set was so wonderful!
I got pregnant with one and was a little disappointed it wasn't twins, but then I lost the baby. I can't tell you how guilty I felt for not being thankful enough for that precious child!
I begged my husband to try one more time because I couldn't bear to lose my baby at the same time as all hope for a baby. We did one last attempt with the agreement that if it worked, it would be enough children to be done, and if it didn't, that was enough disappointment to stop.
I did get pregnant, we thought with one, and I was appropriately happy that time. Then we found it was twins again, and I can't tell you the joy we all had at that!
So I can tell you from experience: Yes, you are NOT crazy to want another set of twins. Yes, it is an awesome thing. Yes, it is MUCH easier the second time!
BUT don't get too hung up on it having to be boy/girl again. Or that you'll necessarily get the twins you're hoping for. Hope for what you want, but be thankful for whatever you're given.
To finish my story, our second set of twins were both boys. Not quite 2 years after their birth, we were completely shocked to conceive on our own. We were blessed to have a single boy. We were thankful it was a singleton that time, not because we don't enjoy twins, but because we couldn't fit 6 carseats in our car! :-) And yes, a singleton is WAY easier than twins -- but I wouldn't trade any of my experience for anything. All 5 of my children are truly awesome, wonderful blessings, and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.
(Even though we think we're done, I still think it would be fun to have another singleton OR another set of twins -- they're all so great!)

Kathryn - posted on 12/10/2010

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I don't think you're crazy at all... or else maybe I am just crazy too! I am 24YO and we got pregnant again (planned this one... twins were an oops!.lol) about a week after our B/G twins' 1st birthday and were told, based on lab results, that we were likely carrying another set. I was SO excited. When we went to the first ultrasound, expecting to see 2 babies, and only saw one, I was legitimately disappointed. Financially, it will be much easier having only one this time 'round, but I really would have loved another set. My husband was excited, but then admitted his relief of not having 4 under the age of 2 after we discovered this PG was a singlet. Anyhow... You'll end up with what you end up with I guess. And if it's another set, answer the same way I did when we thought it might be... People told us we were NUTS, so I would tell those people that we'd just put one back then. Obviously sarcasm there... But really, it's not like you can just put one back, so if it's another set, regardless of what anyone thinks, you'll do it and you'll find a way to do it well. You won't have a choice!

Kel-Cie - posted on 12/10/2010

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HI, I have B/B twins and who are 18m and im currently pregnant, I wanted this to be another twin pregnancy soooooo bad, but they are pretty sure its only one. Your not crazy lol.

Jenny - posted on 12/10/2010

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I had my twins last, I had 3 boys and wanted a girt and I got 2, I honestly thinik twins were easier after about the first 6 months, they keep each other occupied and dont always have to have my attention, if they had been my first I would have wanted another set. Other people dont know whats best for you only you do so if you want more kids then by all means have them, you will be the one up at night not them.

Anna-Marie - posted on 12/10/2010

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Hi there, I have a 4 year old and then 18month old twins. All 3 boys. I don't think ur mad at all but do plan wisley! If u do have twins again its hard running arould after the children youvr got whilst carrying twins, I had my son really ill whilst I. Was 5 month. Preg with twins and wasn't aloud in any scans etc I hated it, he also ad an op 5days after aving the twins which he ad 2 stay in for so purely bad timing really but if I ad knowen there was any chance of twind I would of waited till my eldest was 5!

Penny - posted on 12/10/2010

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I have 19 year old b/g twins. I did not want another set...and contemplated trying for a single...only for a short time. I just knew that WE were done with our family. It really is YOU and your SPOUSES decision and nobody elses' business. If you feel that you have the time, energy and $$ to have more...than got for it!

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I had PUPPPS too and it was a nightmare. Mine started at 22 weeks so you can imagine how severe it ended up getting.

JMO, but don't get your hopes set on having one things or another. You can have a perfectly healthy baby but feel disappointed because it's not twins. Don't do that to yourself psychologically.

Kelly - posted on 12/10/2010

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Jessica- I heard the same thing when my b/g twins were younger. People would say that since we had one of each our family was complete, but we knew that we wanted to have more children. We ended up having a singleton when the twins were 20 months old and twin boys when they were 3.5(5 kids in 3.5 years). I love having two sets of twins. The second set is easier to care for, but it is still alot of work. Only you and your husband can decide what is right for you.

Jodi Michael - posted on 12/10/2010

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I haven't read all 121 previous replies but here is my thought. I have boy girl twins. I was 36 when I had them and was thrilled that I could be done after two children--either gender combo with two and I was done :-) But my best gal pal had fraternal twin girls for her first pregnancy. She knew she also wanted more children no matter what. Since fraternal twins run in her family she was hoping for another set of twins the second time around. She was actually disapointed to see only one baby on the sonogram. But after carrying one baby and having him as an infant she was so glad to have just one baby the second time around (incidentally, a boy.) So after three kids they are done. My "advice" is to consider if twins run in your family, and what your main reasons for wanting more babies is--to have another pregnancy? You mentioned that but I'm assuming you are also aware that after the pregnancy there's a child to raise :-) That is silly that people are "deciding" for you that whether or not you need more kids because you have the boy/girl set. Are they telling you literally not to have more kids or are they just making the comment, "oh, so you're done!" They do that to me too. It's just something they say without really pushing an agenda, as far as I'm concerned. If people close to you are saying "you should be done, you have a boy and a girl," perhaps they see that you're pretty busy with twins and that at your young age you don't need to add to your mothering stress. Hard to say without knowing you!
Those are just my thoughts. Thanks for reading!

Lisa - posted on 12/10/2010

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I have a 20 yo and almost 18 yo....I have a set of twins that are 21 months and I would love to have another set but I got my tubes tied again. And this time the doc said she made sure there is no untying them..People think I was crazy to begin with since my kids were grown. But I wanted a baby cuz this was my second hubby and he had none.. People are always going to think we are crazy for wanting twins cuz the people that don't have them doesn't realize what a joy they are..

Maria - posted on 12/09/2010

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No one needs to decide how many kids you should have but you. You don't NEED to have any children but if you are a good mother and can take of more children and you have the love and support of a partner who also wants more children why shouldn't you.

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2010

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I have two sets of twins and I do not think it is crazy. My older ones were two when I found out I was pregnant again. My second pregnancy was as rough as the first but I don't regret the decision to get pregnant a second time. Four kids in diapers and the lack of sleep with toddlers underfoot was difficult but now they all four are the best of friends. Listen to your heart and don't let others try and tell you what you should think or feel.

Lynette - posted on 12/09/2010

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hi, i am a mother of 5, 3 singletons, and set of fraternal twins, and i had them all when i was young, 19 through to 26 and i say it is your decision and nobody elses but yours and your husband, i love the fact i have five, I say go for it, and i am now 42, and I am so excited, in 4 years they will all be 18,18,19,22,26, I am still young to be a grandparent, still young enough to travel around the world following them if they move. I say you do what is right for you. xo

NikaMomofTwins - posted on 12/07/2010

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I think i want more kids! I'd be happy if it were a singleton or twins, heck even triplets! I think having my twins first has made me a better parent so having just one would be to easy! I think people with just a singleton are crazy when they complain about being tired and getting no sleep! Try having twins and se how much sleep ya get! lol

Liz - posted on 12/07/2010

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I know exactly what you mean. I am 23 years old and I have a set of two and a half year old b/g twins and a five month old son. I wouldn't mind having another set of multiples next time around with my next and last pregnancy.



I got those comments all the time when the twins were younger, and still get them now even after my son was born.

Nete - posted on 12/06/2010

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U from Europe? I 2 grew up with 18 as the drinking age.. but realistically...if you could say beer ..you could have it .. tat scary :o)
I actually never had myself pegged 2 join the mom train ... but what a 180 and my bad for being so blind before... this IS the most amazing time of my life ...and my twins are in the T two's in progress and still,...I'm astonished ..just how I got so lucky :o)
listen 2 your heart ..it's your butt out of bed to feed them at 3 am anyway ha ha....
I think I would wait a little, as you wrote...ready for daycare ...the spell between abt. 20 mth. to being able to express themselves and their needs was a bit bumpy ... a lot of ..hold me, hold me, hold me.. at the same time.. desperately needing to grow extra arms and transform into an octopus, until they got the concept of taking turns and sharing ...

Jessica - posted on 12/06/2010

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lol i kinda feel like i have the going out phase behind me. here we can start going out and drinking at 18 so i did all that for 2 yrs then got over and it fell pregnant. my friend that tells me im crazy for wanting another set is exactly the same age as me lol i get ppl telling me all the time that i dont need to have any more!!! lol its like well thankyou for making that decision for me. :)

Nete - posted on 12/06/2010

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Yes!! you are mad :o) !!! Good 4 u... A twin pregnancy and 14 mht toddlers and you still want more ?..twins preferably?!! ... I tip my hat!! and say go 4 it when time is right, some woman are born to be great moms of many ...Who would ever tell a double mom of singletons B-G ... so your done?! My nurse at the hospital had 3 sets of twins! It happens ... maybe you friends think that because your 22 .. your going to want to hit the nightclubs etc. over being a mom and that the responsibility, also financially of many kids are a handful for a younger mom ... just guessing..
Here is the thing.. being older, having the hanging out part of my life behind me ..now being blessed with twins.. This IS the sprinkles on the top and the absolutely best part of life ... if I knew then, what I know now ... I would have had a ''soccer team'' at 22
it doesn't get any better than this! :o)

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Cheryl
I agree with you. I too believe it is only natural to want to have children. Sorry to say I most definately have to disagree with your husband. Best wishes to you and your family! : )

CHERYL - posted on 12/06/2010

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hi i think its a natural instinc to want more.my 2 re 17m a wish they were still small as its gone super fast.i always said tho its been quite hard twins again would be a blessing.but my hubby thinks i just feel like this as we went down the ivf/icsi route so i cannot naturaly have babies. good luck i wish u luck 1,2 or 3 all a blessing to me.

Jessica - posted on 12/05/2010

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i want to wait a few years so the twins will be in at least childcare. i didnt really have any complications with my first two it was just the PUPPPS rash i dont know if any of u have heard of it, its mostly just common for first pregnancies but only occurs in lik 1 in 200 but was very painful and awful so id be very very unlucky if i got that again. otherwise i went thru to 35 wks and rest of pregnancy was fine. id still be happy with a single baby anyway tho :)

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I would say be careful what you wish for. A second twin pregnancy isn't likely to be any easier than your first (which you said was rough); plus, you will be taking care of toddlers when pregnant which will make it even more difficult. Even if you had another set, their is only 33% chance that set would be boy-girl as well.

Samara - posted on 12/04/2010

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I have identical twin girls who are now 2 years old. They are the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me but i dont think i would want another set of twins as I would like to experience a singleton pregnancy and caring for a sole baby. If I was to have another set of twins I would feel very blessed but I would profer to have just one the next time around!!! There are heaps of fraternal twins in my family however so another set would not be that much of a suprise haha!!! Good luck I hope you get your wish :)

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I knew I wanted more kids when I found out both twins were girls (might've wanted more either way though... can't tell you that), but I knew I didn't want a third until the girls started school. MY plan was to have a 4.5-5 year age difference, but God had other plans and the girls are 6.25 years older than their brother.

Oh, I definitely did NOT want a second set of twins and it's a good thing I didn't get them since I completely became a single mom the day my son was born.

Heather - posted on 12/04/2010

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I have 4 kids total, but my twins were the last. If my twins were first I would probably have wanted more... but I dunno. I currently have 2 boys and 2 girls so I'm good.

I have a friend that has 8 kids, her 3rd pregnancy was twins then she went on to have 4 more. I have never met a happier woman or family.

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