Any single Mother's of twins out there???

Nazia - posted on 05/14/2013

Omg!! This is exactly what im going through. Im 7 weeks pregnant with twins and I am going to start uni in september. I already have a 7yr old from a previous marriage. My current bf says to have an abortion and if i dont, he will fight for full custody of the twins. I've wanted to go to uni for the last 7 years and something always came up. I am determined to do it now! I dont have any support network as im an unmarried mother and my culture doesnt allow this. But who cares my kids are the most important thing in the world!

NIECEY - posted on 05/04/2013

I'm having a hard way to go as well. I'm a single mother of 1 year old twin boys and its been like that since I can remember having them. Their father and his family does little to support the baby's. I just turned 21 and I feel like I'm losing my mind I love my kids but sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy. Money is tight also and I'm trying to get back into school.

Kgomotso - posted on 04/26/2013

wow... just reading through some of what you'all have written here --- makes me feel normal again for the first time in the longest of times.
my boys r beautiful. perfect even [mommy momments!!! mommy pride!!]
am ust struggling with the protracted, mostly acrimonious break-up i am experiencing with thier father. its been ungly. its been sad.
in betweenthere is a whole lot of confusion. one time he is HERE, the next he is marrying someone else and hating me.

throughout it all, he wants to fight me for custody. seems all so unbelievable to me. i really did not see this coming.

having said al the above, my boys have been my very salvation. in their presence, i forget all DRAMA & hurt. wish i got just get above it all.

its my first experience as a mommy. something i waiting long to do. something i am extremely proud to be. just wish it was not tainted by this betrayal & hurt from their father.

Veronica - posted on 04/09/2013

If you didn't know, I am happy to share that the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club (NOMOTC) has a Single Parent of Multiples FB page and I invite you to join us @ http://www.facebook.com/groups/404179346... or you can email at SingleParents@nomotc.org
I am the Single Parent Coordinator for NOMOTC. More importantly I have been a single mother of fraternal twin boys for the past 17 years. I am happy to share any knowledge, insight or advice as well as to just listen. I believe in paying it forward and if I can offer any support as a result of the ‘trials and tribulations’ I went thought then it will all have been worth it. To make another single parents life with twins easier would be a great satisfaction for me!!
I became single through divorce when my sons were 4 and have survived cancer, worked full time, gotten a Bachelor’s degree, had financial ups and downs as well as dealt with numerous issues from chronic illness with one of my sons, wants v needs, sports, dating, drug use (yes – even the good kids try it) and a recent DUI (twins are now 21).
Life is crazy busy and above all else I think it’s important to take time for yourself and have outside interests. Allowing for personal time gives your children interaction with others (grandparents, siblings, trusted caregivers) which makes everyone happy and healthy.

Chris - posted on 03/25/2013

Nikki - I'm not a young one either, 43 when my boys were born. We do what we have to. I have a great community around me. When my dad passed away suddenly and I had to fly back east, it took less than 12 hours to arrange for people to care for my boys for the week (and it was the first time I was away from them too). Family is great, but the family you create from your community can be just as good.

Tammie - I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. If things are rough, babies can make it tougher and twins that much more so. I suggest talking to a councilor (just you if he wont go). It might turn around and get better, but if it doesn't you need to know your options. Make sure you have a strong support network of friends in place. If you don't have one, get one. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids. My parents split when I was 3. It was the best and only decision at the time my mom could have made. I don't hate my dad and we developed our own relationship as time went on.

Tammie - posted on 03/22/2013

I'm still in my marriage of 5 years, together 12. We have 11 moment old identical girls. I think we are done though, or how do I know. I can't think straight. What's my bottom line anymore? I feel like I'm holding on for the girls but I know that won't work! I feel so broken! He's a binge Drinker, gambler and has some serious abuse issues of his own to deals with. I thought we could get by. Or he would grow up. I'm such a fool! I never want my girls to feel any hurt and I'm so worried about with fulltime with or without him! What to do?

Nikki - posted on 03/19/2013

Thank god! I don't know any other living person with twins let alone single mums with twins.. I feel really old compared to you all lol I'm 39 40 just before the twins in may, I find it sooo very hard as I don't have the doting grandparents father or anything to fall back on just little ol me... I have a brilliant 15 he old he's a big help and he offers which is nice as I don't feel that I pinch his time sometime I do lol :o) I'm very proud of what I have accomplished in the last year on my own with my b/g twinnies, twice as much stress and worry but twice as many loving cuddles and unconditional kisses.... Well done to all single twin mums xx

Chris - posted on 02/25/2013

Sounds like there are lots of us out there!

The most common question I get is 'how do you do it'. My answer is I just do.

And at it's base, that is what it's all about, doing whatever is necessary. That will look different to every one in each situation. Some have parents or other family who can help, some have an ex contributing (even something small) and some are totally on our own. We do what we can when we can, but as long as we do our best, our kids will benefit.

My apartment is often messy (although never dirty). I share a one-bedroom space with a pair of 3 year olds (plan to move within the next 2 years). We make do with what we have and prioritize our desires after meeting our needs. My kids are awesome and I wouldn't want it any other way.

Alex - posted on 02/24/2013

Hi there! I am a single mom of beautiful 10 month old fraternal twin boys. I am 29 (30 next month) and I had made sure that everything was in place before trying to conceive. Had a good education, happy marriage, a very good career and it took us 25 months and a cyscle of clomid to get pregnant. I got very ill with toxemia and had to go on maternity leave early. The same time this happened, my husband lost his job, so we had no income for 2 months (1 month before and 1 month after the boys arrived), then my husband left when the boys were 5 months old and I had been supporting him all along. This are hard sometimes, but definitely worth it and I wouldn't trade it for the world! I have a blog about being a single mom with twins. Feel free to check it out and follow it! http://twinsandthesinglemom.wordpress.co...

Maitreya - posted on 01/15/2013

Hey I'm 17 and a mother of two beautiful fraternal twin girls who are almost 14 months old. I've been a single mother from day dot, no support really, financially is hard so I have no choice but to put my girls into daycare and start working but I love being a mother, and think I'm pregnant again...there's a chance, could use someone to talk to haha. I've raised my daughters from day dot myself and it hasn't been easy, but so worth it,

Miyako - posted on 12/28/2012

I needed to hear your story. Thanks so much for posting

Krissy - posted on 12/26/2012

There is a support site for parents of multiples called deliveredtogether.com they have forums just for single moms.

Hajra - posted on 12/25/2012

I m not single mom but my husband had to leave me and our daughter for us. We are in very bad condition since i m pregnant. We use to live with my husband parents with no support ( emotional or financial). So my husband use to work and study at same time. Thanks GOD that he completed his studies in febuary and after that he's on mission to find a good job to give me and our daughter a good life. Mine was a c-section and my stitches also get worse after 12 days due to this my doctor again stitch me as i was bleeding badly. I was alone to take care of my daughter as my husband work 14 hrs a day. And my parents lives in other city:( when our daughter was 19 days old my husband got chance to visit dubai so that he can find good job. I love him soo much and he also loves me. But due to our financial problem he was away. Now our daughter turn 2 months old on 24 of this month. It was really difficult to raise twins. HATS OFF TO ALL OF YOU SINGLES MOMS out there GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

Alisa - posted on 12/17/2012

Im a single mom of 4 1/2 year old son and 7 month old triplets father left week ago but im still working part time without the grace of God and my mother I couldnt be doing what im doing pray have faith it will get better

Grace E - posted on 12/04/2012

I am so happy to find this website! I already feel much better knowing that I am not alone in this. I have 6 yr.old twin boys and a 10yr. old girl (she's from my ex-husband). I am in the process of kicking out the twins dad, we have been on and off since I was pregnant. I should have been done with the relationship from the get go, but I was too scared to raise three kids on my own. I am now going back to school and working and I want to better myself. I am tired of making concessions and excuses for his alcholic behaviors!!

All of you are very brave!! Twins are no joke, they are extremely challenging!!

God bless single moms!!

Diana - posted on 11/25/2012

I am 52 and a single mother of 7yr old twin boys. I have been doing it all on my own since they were 5 months old. When the twins were 18 months old I found out I had breast cancer and just didn't know how I was going to manage. I am very idependant and find it hard to ask for help, but found quickly that I had a support system of friends that were there for me. I NEVER imagined I would be raising these babies by myself. I had been in a long term relationship (9 yrs) and even helped him raise his teenage boys. I carry a lot of anger because he is such a "good" father to his grown children and does absolutly zero for the twins. If I had a dollar for everytime I was asked how do you do it? YOU JUST DO IT because you are all these sweet babies have and thank god for us! It's tough and it doesn't get eaiser your challenges just change. I do the best I can and give the most love possible and pray everyday God will continue to walk with me! Be strong I believe God saved the twins for special mommies!

Lonemamax2 - posted on 11/23/2012

Im a single mother of twins as well. Dont feel alone. I also live with my momz and all around taking care of twins that are abt to be 9mon old and dealing with your folks without a place of your own is extremely stressful. Day by day I hope for the miracle of life to send me millions of dollars a nanny and a house servant, lol. How's going back to school for you?

Kathy - posted on 11/16/2012

I have been feeling the same way. I have been single since finding out I was 8weeks pregnant with my twins. No Family support and my Daughters Father has only met the girls twice and our Daughters are 6 months old (though I was with him for 2years). I am 22 and have tried to join a twins group though changed my mind as I feel like the women were judging me as they are all older and married. It's not fair that people see single mothers of a singleton but when your a single mother of twin babies I feel like people can be really rude and the one comment I get from soo many people is 'Oh god you poor thing..twins! how do you do it' I feel like just walking away sometimes it leaves me spechless !

Jill - posted on 11/12/2012

I am a single mother of Twin girls...been single since they were 15th months old. I am 37 now and my girls are 3. I would love to help you through this tough time as I find it a blessing in disquse for me. I work a full-time job now as of Aug and was not working for 1 1/2. I was attacked by the girls father 2x during the girls first year. I decided to take all my negativity and turn it into a positive and live every moment for my kids. By no means am I a selfish person so this makes me happy. feel free to contact me on here or email me.

jill

REBECCA - posted on 10/30/2012

A similar situation happened with me. I was with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and then i found out i was pregnant. he asked me to abort them and even tried to bribe me saying that if i did, he would take me on a trip to Mexico!!!! what a loser! anyways, i found out it was twins and was so scared. i didn't even have a place to live and just finished college and was on to university. i decided i didn't need him and was NOT willing to get rid of them, especially just because HE wanted me too. i didn't expect any kind of support from him and he hasn't disappointed...i do it on my own without him and thats his loss. i stepped up because my babies need ONE good parent and deserved the best chance at life and i was determined to do the right thing for once. so i had them, they are now 2 and the LOVES of my life! i can't even comprehend them not being here now. definitely a good choice i made ...my boys for their father. i am still in university and its so hard some times and i feel like giving up but i know i cant.



so ditch your loser boyfriend and concerntrate on your babies. they are whats important now.

Carla - posted on 10/22/2012

what city do you live in? I am in southern california and I am married but separated by choice and basically raising them alone since birth. I have twin girls, 14 months now...

Hang in there, there is no way to getting around the responsibility, work, lack of time for you, etc.

At the end of the day, it's going to be worth it. Just imagine... at some point, instead of you being a constant playmate to your kid, they will play together as you are able to do other stuff.

I am in this whole thing and it's hard not being able to go get my hair done, nails, or shopping the way I used to. I know it sounds bad but I lived a life where it was all about me until God gave me these 2 angels, and now it's them, no doubt! I have been learning about giving myself wholly, and unconditionally for something greater than me, my daughters....

Good luck!

Ebonee - posted on 10/20/2012

yes i am a single parent to my twin daughters they are a year old, im 22 . i went through my pregnancy alone pretty much. i started school when my girls were 2 months and now im just shy of two months from finishing. i just started working also so school work two little ones its hard. i do live with my mother until i save up and get my own place. One thing don't pile so much on your plate , take one thing at a time. its been a challenge but all i can say from what i've gone through just breathe and if you can never forget to take care of you because at times you will feel overwhelmed but just know its all worth it at the end.

Kendra - posted on 10/13/2012

Its gets better I've been a single parent of my twins since 4 months of conception with no help or support. I had to figure it out day after day. All I can say to every parent of multiple or not singles, just keep praying and God will take care of the rest.

Samara - posted on 10/10/2012

well your not im a single mom of infant twins i have been for 8 weeks into my pregnancy mine are now 6 months old i live in a little appartment and im trying to go back to school im 24 and my parents dont want to have anything to do with them

Barbara - posted on 10/02/2012

Yes, Am a mother of seven, one set of twins 3 years old now. I have been single since their birth when their Dad left.

I have started a project to help single mums in my town where I was born.

Keep in touch. Would real love to connect with you too.

Twins' - posted on 09/17/2012

Keep your babies and trust in God. He will see you through.

Twins' - posted on 09/17/2012

Hello Alyse,

I have no intention of trying to push my religion off on anyone, but becoming a single mother has led me to seek God like never before. I must say that He is my saving grace. I remember when my two were infants and they would get irritable at the same time. Sometimes, I would lay them down in their cribs and just go into the closet and cry like I was their age. I was scared, hurting and alone. That combination of emotions is so hard (as I'm sure you already know.) When they were about four months old (after their dad pulled out knives on me and threatened my life) I was in the closet and I began to pray. At first, I was asking God "why?" then I moved on in my prayer to pleading with Him for mercy. After my pity party, I turned my TV to one of the Christian stations and Dr. Creflo Dollar was on. He was talking about mind renewal. For whatever reason every word he spoke seemed to fit how I felt inside so I continued to listen. Long story short, I began seeking God and reading the word diligently and it has made a huge difference in how I see myself, my situation and my future. I was so bitter at the start and now all of that is gone.

I shared this with you because I know what you're going through and I have tapped into a solution that really eases; and after three years, has destroyed the pain that hit me harder than I could have ever imagined.

I know its hard to find time for yourself while they're babies, but love on them, feed them good and sing them and/or rock them to sleep so that you can have time to tap into your inner peace. Sometimes, it just takes reading an inspirational book or listening to some mellow music and other times you might want to just sit in silence. Whatever you have to do to get at least thirty minutes of time to yourself- do it. It will help the interaction with your wonderful babies to be healthier because they really do feed off of your emotions and are very sensitive to how you feel. I have noticed that whenever I am stressed, my boys are irritable and moody and will not listen, but when I am calm and centered, they are still boys, but their not so sporadic and wild. I hope this message is encouragement for you to know that you are not alone and you were chosen to guide the lives of your precious little ones. That choice was purposed and is a part of your purpose and you are equipped to fulfill it. May God bless you, Addika and Cade. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Sincerely,

Catrina

Alyse - posted on 09/16/2012

I'm also a 23 y/o single mother of boy/girl twins. I have been alone from the beginning of the pregnancy since we were considering abortion...I changed my mind and found out I was having twins about the same time. The father, who has 2 other kids by 2 other women, freaked and I haven't spoken to him since the end of my second trimester. The twins are now two months old and were born premature at 35 weeks and 3 days by C section since my daughter's growth wasn't doing well. My mom has temporarily stepped in because Addika, my daughter, has had to see quite a few specialsts since she only has 1 working kidney which has a partial blockage and will have to have open heart surgery at 4 months of age to close up a VSD. My son, Cade, has no health problems and is a ball of energy. It's been a very rough road, my mom's marriage has suffered since she hasn't been back home in months and financially it's been a struggle. The state I live in will be going after the father for child support, but I know it won't even come close to half of what I spend...and according to one of the mothers he doesn't help out either her or the other mom and the fact that he has a job is rare. There are little moments that brighten the day, smiles, when they achieve another milestone...and even a day where somehow things went completely smooth and you were even able to fit in a shower, give a feeling of accomplishment. But there are a lot of tough days where Addika won't take her bottles, Cade is up most of the night and I don't get any sleep, babies are fussy all day and I am unable to eat anything. But as frustrating as it can be(and trust me...it CAN be)...sometimes to the point where you wonder if you are actually capable of doing it...when you look down and see them smiling at you and kicking there little legs, you realize all the struggle is worth it. I do hope things get better and I will be able to go solo...it would be easier if I didn't have a sick baby, but I'm hoping after her surgery that maybe things will calm down and I can handle everything fully on my own. I think the hardest part is trying to find time for yourself to regain some of the sanity back and to get quality time in with both twins. My daughter has to gain weight for the surgery so she is on this extra calorie formula added to breastmilk, while my son is breastfed along with bottled breastmilk(he bites so I have to give a bottle first lol), so it's been hard to give quality time to both of them sometimes. Hopefully once they can be entertained I can get better quality time in with each of them. Good luck to all of you ladies, everything you have done this far has been an accomplishment worth giving yourself a hug for. Because it's not easy. And Fuck the guy who decided to bail on their half of the responsibility in the two beautiful things he helped create. In my case anyway, the twins are better off not having his influence!

Elay - posted on 09/15/2012

I only recently became a single parent to 5 kids one of whom is my 12 year old stepson. The others are aged 8,7 and twins (boy&girl) nearly 2 years old. I work when there at school too, What helped me a lot was sticking all my kids into a routine (except the oldest) when the twins were born we still do this routine to this day it does wonders. Also the father/ family have them the odd weekday and some weekends!

Twins' - posted on 09/14/2012

Hello Summer. You are not alone. I am a single mother of twin boys who just turned three in July. It's tough, but it's also rewarding. My sons' sperm donor and I were together for ten years. I got pregnant and he got lost. He always promises that he will step up, but I am getting to a place where internally, I know it's just me and them and it will probably be that way unless I can find it in my heart to trust again. I have always been very independent and since childcare is way more than I could afford, I had to quit my job, go on welfare and move in with my mom ( who I have not lived with since I was thirteen.) I keep telling myself it will get better and in my heart I know that it has to. Like everything else in life, it is a process.

I had red flags concerning my sons' sperm donor throughout the ten years that we were together, but I chose to ignore them cause I figured the devil you know is better than the one you don't. That was the worst mistake (along with not going to college) that I've ever made. Now I have to find a way to swim everyday cause my children are counting on me. Everyday my sons do things that make the struggle worth it like for instance, today one of my sons made up a song that just says "mama ma momma mama ma momma" So cute! Moments like that remind me that there is a silver lining and it won't always be a struggle. Plus I am in school full time and looking forward to graduating in the Spring. Keep your head up and remember that our children are blessings from God; not sons of their sperm donors. Peace and Blessings!

Sami - posted on 08/23/2012

Hi ive just found out that im pregnant with twins. i am so scared and unsure what to do.

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years but he does not want to have children and has told me very clearly throughout our relationship. he also has said that he will leave me if i continue with the pregnancy (i know - asshole!!!)

i only found out today that it was twins, im 7 weeks gone. i was considering having an abortion before i found this out.

im 23 still a student, with a year to go, live with parents (back and forth between my mom and dad) and ive been thinking of how hard it would be for me to try and support a child on my own with no father involved.

now the news comes that its twins and this seems like a gift to me. no history of twins in my family or in his. but then it will be twice as hard for me.

i was just hoping to maybe get some advice from anyone who has been in the same position as me? im so confused and i just do not know what im supposed to do or how i would be able to cope if i keep them or if i chose not to.

:(

any help any one could give would be brilliant thankyou xxxx

Inga - posted on 08/23/2012

Hi I also thought I was the only one raising twins:). I think it´s rather unusual to be single with twins (since most of them arive to this world with the help of fertilation tecniques and are therefore planned pregnancies). For Mine are almost 9 months now and I share your experience, that is, no one understands how much and hard work this is (Im from Europe so please excuse my spelling). My twins are my first babies.

Since your babies are 8 months now you must feel like you´ve gone a long road since they were born, at least that´s my experiene. So much learning by trial and error. And it has becomes more easy I think, but ofcourse new challanges every step of the way.

I´ve been alone with my boys since they were four weeks old and what a trip:). I wished I had someone to share the workload with since there is too little time and energy just to enjoy. It´s hard to enjoy "something" to the fullest when you lack sleep and energy. Everyone says,"sleep when they sleep" but Im a grown-up and unfortunatly I can´t program myself to sleep like an infant. But I try...

Sometimes my aunt takes one of my boys to give them separate qvality time and I must state; it´s SO EASY to have one baby, it´s nothing compaired to coordinating two infants and dividing your attention all the time. But ofcourse it´s doubble fun also.

I agree it´s nr.1 to have a very tight scedule; coordinate their sleep, eatingtime exc.

Just the aspect of putting two infants to sleep is an ART, vooo how hard it is sometimes...

Im happy to see that there are other single twin moms out there.

Im feeling a litlle bit (no much) retarted when since I haven´t had grown up talk for so long. But I quess Im not alone with that feeling :). I hope so much that this is an encouraging forum where we can give each other advices and the feeling of not being alone.

I almost feel guilty talking about challanges...quess that´s somekind of mom-syndrom :)

Erin - posted on 08/19/2012

Yes. I am a single mom of Identical twin boys who will be turning a year in eleven days. (August 30th).... They were 3 months premature ( 18 weeks). Everyone has told me they are very good babies. They are for the most part. It is rough sometimes. Especially when you cant get any help. I also live with my parents and they both work two jobs.

Jennifer - posted on 08/18/2012

Hi I am not ``single`` but my husband works 28 days on and 12 off....I find it soooo hard...my twins are 6 months chronological and 4 months corrected...I had a tubal before my twin pregnancy so you can imagine my suprise... `I`m not rich and money can be tight but its one thing i dn`t have to do myself unlike some of you single mothers! I find it extremely difficult with the babes getting up in the middle of the night...I can`t nap I have a pre-schooler as well and she needs my attention also...I put them all in daycare so i could get a bit of rest and have supper ready for my teenager and preschooler when they get home and keep some order in the house, however my daycare is having a hard time handling the twins because they can be fussy and gassy.....Its not an easy road but i`m sure when they are just a bit older its going to be amazing...I just take it one day or one second at a time....and I`m open to suggestions if anyone has any!

Shunta - posted on 08/16/2012

Hello I'm a single mom of 4yr old twin girls and although their dad is in the home....!?!...I still feel like a single mom. We have 4 children together and I know exactly how you feel. I do have help with the older kids though. I have went back to school and been back in school since the girls have been 2 and it has been a challenge, but with my strong faith in GOD I don't know where I would have been. Stay strong for your children because they are the most important one in this big picture...although you still need to make time for yourself or you will lose yourself...I known...I have been there. Stay strong and I will pray for you.

Kath - posted on 05/19/2012

https://www.facebook.com/groups/245921015472649/

Hi,
we have a small closed group on facebook if you want to join. it's called "single mums of twins or more".

thanks
Kath

Kath - posted on 05/19/2012

https://www.facebook.com/groups/245921015472649/

Hi,
we have a small closed group on facebook if you want to join. it's called "single mums of twins or more".

thanks
Kath

Talaya - posted on 05/16/2012

I hear you sister!!! I am also a single mother of twins. I have done alone since the beginning. Im also in the military. My ex-husband didn't assist at all. I also attended school to complete my master's online, work and getting about 6hrs of sleep a week. I also had a surgery during this process. I relocated w/ the military and my mom offered to help out for a bit. God Bless her. It's great that you have your parents. It is hard work. My twins just turned 3 last week. Im super tired from no breaks and a deployment to Afghanistan but when I see how much their faces light up when they see me, it's all worth it!! Just remind yourself that they need someone to depend on and that is you! God will make a way. He chose you just like he chose me. It doesn't always feel like it when you have so much on your plate but when you see those babies, you know it's all for them.

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2012

Lol. NO you arent the only one. :) I am glad you posted because I too am a 26 year old single mom. I already have a six year old daughter and a 1 year old daughter who are my world. I had finally got a degree and a great job and opps just found out last week I am pregnant again and twins this time. Its a scary thought but I am gonna have these babies I am only 6 weeks pregnant and think I love them already :) but i am getting my tubes tied after this. four kids is my limit lol.

Ashley - posted on 05/04/2012

I'm in that same boat!! My son is 2 & my twin girls are 9 months old. I've been single since i was 3 months pregnant. My son's dad turned crazy too when I was 2 months pregnant. I also live with my mother & sister. My sister has a 3 month old. My mom works 2 jobs. I can't work OR go to school because I have no one to keep my little ones. It's so unbelievably hard. The girls dad is supposed to pay child support but doesn't. So I do all the domestic stuff around the house (laundry, cleaning, yard work, etc.) and my mother buys them what they may need. When they get in school I plan to work as much as possible so we can get out on our own. Props to ALL single mothers. It's the hardest job I can imagine.

Robyn - posted on 05/01/2012

I left my children's father when my twin daughters were 4 weeks old and my oldest daughter was 1 1/2. They're now 6 and almost 5 and as hard and as long as the road has been with the help of my family and friends i've been able to survive it. It took me a while but we got use to everyday routine! Hope them babies are doing great :)

Sarah - posted on 04/28/2012

You are not alone! I am also a single mother of now 3yr old twins and a 9 yr old daughter. I have been a single mother since I became pregnant with my oldest daughter. I have no support from their fathers and they haven't been a part of their lives and though it's been the hardest most stressful thing I have ever done I would rather do it alone then have to deal with the issues of having those deadbeats around at all. My parents help out as much as they can but it's still very lonely and challenging at times.When I came home from the hospital I was on my own and had a very rough c-section. I didn't sleep for the first 5days expect 10 mins in between feedings.lol....I remember crying in the bathroom begging God to let me sleep! That night was the first night I think I got maybe 3hrs straight. Just what I need to go on:)Some people say it gets easier but I am not some people.lol Some things get easier just in time for new challenges to arrive but you just have to take a deep breath and remember that your kids are depending on you and you'll get through it. Maybe not in one piece, but you will get through:)

Ronelle - posted on 04/21/2012

marsha if i did it alone you can as well its hard as hell but the little lives inside of you will truly appriecate everything you are doing and it will pay off in the end. i am still doing it all along my twin girls are 20 months, and all i have is them and all they have is me, my children are keeping me going with out them i dont even think i would have made it. so tell yourself that you are going to me it. what are you having if you know by now, i have tones of baby girl items all in excellent condition that i will mail to you if you were having twin girls i have no problem in giving you these clothes to help you i also have boy clothes that are all new if you were having a boy girl twin that i would also send for you just let me know and i will mail everything for you to help you out i have enough clothes that will carry you for the 1st year,

if you are having twin girls you will never have to by clothes for them i will mail all of there items to you just so you know that someone else who has been in your same shoe and still going through it will reach out to help you so you would feel loved and apprieate an know that others care for you just let me know i am here for you Ronelle

Mindy - posted on 04/21/2012

Marsha...it is tough..not gonna lie..but you can do it. Its exhausting but just take one day at a time. Do you have family or friends near by?

Marsha - posted on 04/21/2012

sorry to hear your story, i am now pregnant with twins, four months along. i dont really know if i can do it by myself

Mindy - posted on 04/07/2012

Thank you Rebecca- its comforting just to know there are others out there that are going through similar situations. I am just trying to stay busy to keep my mind off missing my hubby so much. Thank you for your words of encouragement....its been a tough week with the sudden reality that its just me 24/7. Hoping to get into a routine soon too....just joined the gym (got 9 months before hubbys home to get my pre-baby body back) so that will help get me outta the house.

Ronelle - posted on 04/06/2012

i am a single mom with twin girls who are 19 months, i also live with my parents and yes its hard like hell, i lost my child support in december of last year, the fathers of the twins tells me how much he hates me and how much i took every thing form him, its like someone missing with your mind but i still push everyday for my girls i feel less of a women, and dont know what it is to feel whole but i tell myself that one day it will change and thats what i hold onto hang in there if i can so can you. i do this all alone, not family of friend support, no income, nothing but me and my dauthers just hang in there

REBECCA - posted on 04/06/2012

PS

i know how you feel about asking for or accepting help. i was the same way but, trust me, you will get over it haha. you will realize people are there to help you because they love you and they probably have had kids and understand your situation. take any help you can get gratefully!



when people offer their help and you accept it, you are giving them that joy/pleasure/gift of helping someone. . it makes them feel good knowing they are helping someone who needs it and denying or not accepting their help is only depriving them of that great feeling....and depriving you of a break you probably need/deserve!

REBECCA - posted on 04/06/2012

MINDY- i am also a single mother of identical twin boys. they will be 2 on june 1 and have done raised them solo since the day they were born. I receive no support (emotional or financial). i was scared at first but you can do it. you WILL adjust...and thats the hardest part. just remember its ok if they cry. if you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or frustrated, lay them down for 10 minutes and go take sometime by yourself. I would put my boys in their cribs and go sit outside with a cup of coffee for 10 minutes to compose myself. it really helped. I'm not going to lie to you, it IS a lot of work but definitely well worth it!!! I am also in university trying to raise them and it can definitely be overwhelming sometimes but remember...."this too shall pass"! just hold on!!



Good luck and if you ever need to talk or vent or cry, come on here and leave a post! Even tho you may not know any of us on this site personally, we are here to support and encourage each other!

Mindy - posted on 04/04/2012

I am not single but my husband just deployed. We have 3 month old b/ g twins and I'm not sure if I can handle doing it on my own. I do have some family near by but have a hard time asking for help. I guess I feel I should be able to do it on my own buts its a lot harder than I thought it would be.