Anyone have their twin toddlers share a room in "big" beds?

April - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 62 moms have responded )

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My boys are 14months old and they share a room till we buy a bigger house. They are still in cribs right now, but I was going to put them in toddler beds this summer till all my girlfriends suggested that we should put them in a trundle bed. I think it is a great idea, one they would have more room in their room to play, and two, I would only have to buy one "big" bed when we move. I was wanting to know if anyone could give me any tips on how to get them to stay in their beds and not getting up and playing with each other. It would be different if they were in their own rooms. PLEASE HELP!!!

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Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2010

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my boy are 3 and have always slept in the same bed and room. I did not want to buy cribs when they were babies, so they slept in a twin bassinet and at about 10 months I moved them to a full sized bed, mattress only on the floor. I never had any problems with them rolling off the mattress. They are still on the full sz mattress but it's getting cramped for them. I will be moving them to medium height loft beds still in the same room, that way they still have floor space to play. I don't think I will separate them till they ask for their own rooms

Deborah - posted on 01/17/2010

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My girls have shared a room form day one. They shared a pack n play bassinet for the first three weeks in our room and then went into their own cribs in their room. They went into toddler beds at 15 months and into regular twin beds at two and half. They occassionally get up and play but for the most part they stay in their beds. I have one, Angelina, who goes to sleep at the drop of a dime at night. Its almost like someone flips a switch and shes done. My other one, Elena, is a completely different story. She gets up a few times before finally going to sleep and then wakes up at least once at some point in the night freaking out. She has always been like that but thankfully she doesnt wake up her sister too often.



We had their room gated for the longest time so if they got up they couldnt leave their room. we took it down since when they learned how to climb over it. Now if either one gets out of bed, we just take them back in their room, put them back to bed and dont say anything. There is a nightlight in there so theres just enough light for them to see without crashing into a wall or dresser. Eventually they just learn to stay in bed. Good luck!

Brooke - posted on 12/15/2009

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My boys are 21/2 and have been in toddler beds since 13months, I actually have to sit on the floor on their room until they go to sleep, the second I leave the room when they are still awake it turns into a wrestling match. If I have their TV off and nightlight out they usually go to sleep right away and then once they are asleep i turn their nightlight back on and put the gate on their door so if they wake up they cant wander about the house. I was actually after christmas change them over into big boys beds, they will be sharing a room for awhile, until at least we buy a bigger house

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Chaya - posted on 07/18/2012

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Bribery, that is, find their currency. I let my daughter have a toy with her if that's what worked, it usually did, if she stayed up later with her playing, she slept later in the morning, no way to loose there

Chaya - posted on 07/12/2012

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Most twins and tirplets I know don't want to have separate rooms until they are school aged. Just thougtht I should mention that.
Keeping kids in bed: Bribery often works, I don't necessarily punish for doing the wrong thing, but I will reward her for doing the right thing. It depends on the offense or proactivity. If you stay in bed all night except restroom breaks, I'll take you to the park, or spend the day playing with you, or let you have ice cream after dinner, whatever works. The other thing I'd do is to let them stay up until they want to go to bed. I've done both, depending on what is going on the next day.

Christiana - posted on 01/31/2010

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My boys have been in separate beds since 6 months old. But always in the same room close to one another. When they got old enough to climb out of their cribs we put them in toddler beds but still couldn't keep them in their beds. But with their light off in their room it didn't take long for them to wear theirselves out and fall asleep somewhere. Many times I was putting them in their beds becasue they fell asleep on the floor.

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2010

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I feel that the boys playing together is inevitable!!! lol My twin boys were in one crib and then my husband and my friend made one big bed (approx. a queen) with a rail that went around the outside to avoid anyone falling out of bed. Once they began to understand how to get out of bed, we removed the rail and my friend made some thick foam mats to go around the outside of the bed so that if anyone were to fall out of bed...they don't even wake up...usually! lol We have cute little chairs they sit in for their bed time bubbas and once they are asleep, which is usually by the time that bottle is gone, we move them into their room and pray that they sleep through the night! lol

Amanda - posted on 01/22/2010

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I would leave them in cribs at this age. Why put yourself through all the struggles of keeping them in bed and stressing over what they are getting into. I understand how exciting it is to think about putting them in "big beds" I put my twins in toddler beds before they were 2 and I regret doing it now. I would have saved myself so much hassle if i would have waited and honestly they don't care what size bed they have as long as they are clean, warm and have a loving family. Good luck :)

Susan - posted on 01/22/2010

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My girls have shared a room since the 1st day they came home and now they are 8. We put them in big girl beds a couple months before they turned 3 and to be honest they were really good about it. They were pretty close to being potty trained so before my husband and I would go to bed we would get them up to go potty and they would go right back to sleep. I think it has made them great sleepers, they can sleep through anything, especially one anothers snoring. To this day they still get one another up in the middle of the night for a potty partner. So silly but true!

Becky - posted on 01/21/2010

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So, we're talking about adding an addition to our home soon since twins really weren't in the plans when we originally built - but no doubt a blessing! We've considered adding another master-suite style room (bedroom, walk-in closet, bathroom) and keeping the girls together. How do older (teenage) twin girls tolerate sleeping together? ...or should we just plan 2 separate rooms? Just wondering! Thanks!

Sonia - posted on 01/17/2010

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My twins are now 12 and still share a room. I have never had a problem with them getting up and playing more getting out of bed and coming into me. They have been in single beds each and in bunks.

Kelly - posted on 01/16/2010

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My girl/boy twins share a room also until we can buy a bigger house. They are still in their cribs they will be 3 in april. We are planning on putting them into twin beds before then. They do not sleep without the other one being in the room. They worry about them. They talk to each other and play in their crib but they sleep until the morning.

Tammy - posted on 01/16/2010

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We moved our twins into toddler beds when they were about 14 months old. They are still in one room. My daughter has a princess bed with a canopy and my son has a race car shaped bed. The beds don't take up that much room really. My son's bed is on one side of the room and my daughter has the other side of the room. I guess it doens't bother me if they get up in the middle of the night. My daughter never really gets up to play if she does wake up in the middle of the night she just cries for me to rock her back to sleep. But many many mornings I get up and find Kayden in Kayla's bed with her. I guess he gets lonely and gets out of bed and goes to sleep in her bed with her. They are only two and I dont' think that is that big of a problem.

Ethel - posted on 01/16/2010

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We moved the girls to two crib mattresses on the floor, child-proofed thoroughly, and let them play in the dark (with a dim nightlight and soft toys only) as long as they kept the volume down, when they turned 18 months. It took a few months before they really started staying up to play, but we found that they compensated with a longer nap and sleeping in later. It's worked really well, and we still do this at nearly 4 years old - same crib mattresses and everything. If money matters, this is the cheapest solution I've heard.

If they are too loud, we give one warning and then we start removing toys. All the toys are gone within three trips. We've only had to do this a couple of times.

The crib mattresses work great, since they can push them together to be one big bed, or move them apart to have their "own" beds. They often share blankets at night. I think the trundle bed idea is fine - there's nothing wrong with kids sharing a bed at this age, and since they are the same gender, this solution will work for many years.

You can get twins to share a bed and mostly stay in, but I think most parents will find that isn't a battle worth fighting. If your temperament just doesn't feel comfy with them playing, or if their temperament or the room situation makes it dangerous, it can be done - just expect to use a lot of energy being consistent about asking them to return to bed over and over again. You might do something like allow them 5 soft toys each, and remove one (let them pick which one) every time you find them out of the bed - but I doubt this will work well much before 2 or 2.5 years. Before that, you'll just have to be consistent about carrying them to the bed.

Mandy - posted on 01/15/2010

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at age 3 it took 3 months of just sticking it out before they got the idea. Many nights when i went in to check on them they were sound asleep on the floor. i would pick them up and put them back into there own beds. Now my twins are almost 5 now, and moved into bunkbeds.

Emma - posted on 01/15/2010

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it is a novelty at first when you put them into big beds! my girls were 18months and for the first 2 weeks played instead of sleeping! but i shut the door and left them in there (as long as no one was crying) and eventually they fell asleep on there own! i get up to my girls now (nearly 3) and they will alternate whos bed they sleep on together, its so cute! got to love the twin bond!

Kelly - posted on 01/15/2010

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MY Twin girls are going to be 3 in April and share a room. They have since birth. they do ol, but are still in cribs. I think once they are out....we might have a problem. LOL. One is a bit crazy. I guess we will see. BUT until then, they are in cribs as long as possible! =)

Kathy - posted on 01/14/2010

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My twin boys went into twin beds at about 2 years of age. They stayed in their beds with no problems--or they slept together if they wanted. They rarely slept in the smae bed as they were too tired to put up with the crowding. Once they had their baths and their stories, they usually went right down. They shared a room until they were in fifth grade as we had older children.

Bernie - posted on 01/14/2010

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my twins share a room they are 5 they are in single beds and they love being in the same room

Kisha - posted on 01/14/2010

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Nap time please my boys don't sleep day or night and its killing me. I still have to give them a bottle at night and hold them until they fall asleep for three hours untl they get back up. I stopped giving them a when they turned one in the middle of the night but they still get up I haven't sleep all night for 15 months 18 days.

Liz - posted on 01/13/2010

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my twin boys have been i the same bed ever since the day they were born the were so small they stated off in an incubator n it went from there n they have such a bond they will not settle at sperate places xxxlet ur kids decide is the easiest way

Renea - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hi there,

my 2yr old b/g twins have been in big beds since they were 12mths old. They have safety guards on the beds but are able to climb in and out when they wish. This has worked magically as when they wake up in the morning they play together in their room with their toys, which allows me to have an extra 20minutes of lying in bed listening to their giggles!!! When they had their cots they would cry as soon as they woke for me to go in a get them out. I totally agree with your girlfriend that that is a fabulous idea of the trundle and hopefully you will be as lucky as me and your babies won't play until the morning :) good luck with everything

Letitia - posted on 01/13/2010

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My boys will be four in April and they share a room. They are in seperate beds and they stay in their beds until I come in to get them whether it's morning or after nap. I really do not know why they stay in their bed but I'm not complaining. My oldest was the same way and was probably 4 1/2 - 5 before he would get up without any direction. They did try getting up one time, well, one did. and I popped him, not hard and with his clothes on, on his leg and that did it. Now I just say "No talking, no singing, no getting out of bed or what will happen?" they both answer Mommy will pop us. You'd think I beat them but that one time was all it took. I just state what I expect before I leave the room.

Debbie - posted on 01/13/2010

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Mine shared a room until they were 7 years old. We used one room for them to sleep, and the other room as a play room. We used a gate to keep them from roaming the house when they were toddlers in the wee hours of the morning. We never had luck keeping in their beds.

Nicole - posted on 01/13/2010

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My twins (boy/ girl) shared a room from birth until about 4 years old. They were hesitant about "moving out" but now at 10 years old, would not have it any other way. They are still very close and go into each others rooms quite often.

Claudia - posted on 01/13/2010

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We have the same problem. We put them in Toddler beds when they were 2 1/2. They always give us a fight to go to bed, unless they are so tired. We are now going to seperate them into 2 rooms, they are 3 1/2. I dont have an answer either. I wish I knew. Hopefully the seperation will work out better!

Nicole - posted on 01/12/2010

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i have 7year old twin girls as babies i had them sharing a cot till they was about 9 months old but then they started fighting so then i had to seperate them, they have to share a room still as i only live in a 2 bedroom house, when they was about 18 months old i had them put into there toddler bed, and they stayed in there own beds,, and at 4years old they decided to share a bed again but that only lasted 6 months before they started fighting again and they was back in there own beds soon enough, they still talk loads as soon as they go to bed, as there is nothing i can do about that i tell them as long as you stay in bed and keep the noise down so it doesnt disturb there baby brother then they can have up to an hour of talk time depending on how they behave during the day, they think its great but what i havent told them is im putting them to bed earlier than normal, lol,

Michelle - posted on 01/12/2010

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My twins are 3 years old and they share a room. They have been in toddler beds since last summer. It's very hard to get them to go to sleep. They talk and play instead of sleeping. Sometimes it takes up to an hour for them to fall asleep for them time we put them in bed. I wish I knew how to get them to stay in there bed too!

Karen - posted on 01/12/2010

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i have 3 year old twins boy girl and they still share a room i have to sit in the room with them until they go to sleep which usuallt doesnt take to long otherwise there is no way that they would go to sleep. i dont mind this as it is our quiet time together

Ruth - posted on 01/11/2010

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my twins were 20mths when they graduated into big beds. We put a baby gate at their door to encourage them to stay in of a night time and the dog out. They still share a room as sometimes they like to share a bed together and in the morning they keep each other company till the whole house is up. It does backfire sometimes when one is not fully ready for bed but overall we have found them sharing a room to be the best thing. They will continue to share until they want their own space.

Celia - posted on 01/11/2010

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my two boys went in to beds at about 15 months as they kept climbing out of the cots and even when we took the sides down they would climb over the sides !! they love there beds and very often sleep together which as long as they are asleep i dont mind as for playing they do tend to play for about half n hour before they go to sleep which is fine with me and even better they play in the mornings so i get a bit loger in bed before they want to get up we also have a latch on the door that we close when they first go to bed and when we go up we take it off as if we didnt there woukld be toys down the stairs lol and they just shout get up when theyve had enough in the mornings im sure that your two will be fine go for it !!!

Diane - posted on 01/08/2010

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I hve 3 1/2 yr old identical girls... They were always climbing into each others cribs or taking a nose dive to the floor so when someone offered me twin toddler beds I jumped at it. Both girls thought it was wonderful. They chose which bed they wanted and have stuck with the same bed all along. I don't have any trouble with them getting out of bed to play... mine get up to get in bed with me. I just quietly take them back and put them in their own and they seem to do fine. But if I tried to seperate them and put them in their own room that would never work . They cry when seperated. As far as school you shouldn't let them be seperated just because everyone thinks they should "develop" their own personalities. all it will do is cause one to just wither on the vine.

Stephanie - posted on 01/07/2010

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My twin boys are going on 15 now & have thier own rooms, but when they were little guys they loved sharing a room. I didn't put them into separate rooms until they were 10. It worked out good for us. Twins are different then singletons... they are comforted being close to each other. I really is a special bond :o)
Hope this helped!

Cori-Ann - posted on 01/07/2010

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my older boys are 16 now and they only got seperate rooms when they were about 12 or 13. basically when their voices started changing. figured by now they would like and appreciate some alone time. they never gave me too much trouble about it. girls must be fussier. my second set of twins are just one so we will see.

Bronwyn - posted on 01/07/2010

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i had to take my twin boys out of the crib at about 14moths as they took to climbing out to get to the other.i started them in a nornaml single bed, with one at each end., Ihad a trundel which i used to pull out so if the fell out of bed [and thats was often] it was a soft landing. they are 5 and 1/2 now and i would not consider seperating them asif one is not there the other one frets terribly and vice versa. they now have seperate beds buy more often than not they climb in together and go to sleep. i find letting them do this gets them of to sleep easer and yes teydo still sometimes get up and play or talk but they do it quietly. they are also in the same class at school

Marti - posted on 01/07/2010

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If you can wait....wait! My twins are 2 1/2 and still in cribs. They have yet to attempt to crawl out. I will not put them in toddler beds until they ask. I did the same with my daughter (now 8) and it worked perfect! She got so used to not being able to get out of the crib that when we put her in toddler bed she never got out. Good (or bad) habits form quickly. Another trick I use is that their bedroom is so dark (nap or night) that they can't see each other to play with each other. I have done this since they were born so they don't know any difference. My personal opinion...just thought I would share. Good luck! Now on to finding some posts about how in the world to potty train 2 1/2 year old twin boys!

Carrie - posted on 01/06/2010

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My 5 kids (under 8) often all sleep in the girls queen size bed! With 5 kids, someone is always going to be sharing, there are not many 7 bedroom houses around! They like to bunk in together, and have often looked after each other in the night, if someone is sick or wets the bed, I don't know til morning!

Gayle - posted on 01/05/2010

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my twin boys are 5 now and share the same room. They do play, but I just try to put them to bed a little earlier, so they're not exhausted in the morning. It works very well, most nights.

Angela - posted on 01/05/2010

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It is rare for twins to have separate rooms at a young age my girls are 7 and still sleep in the same bed half the time they have their own beds but find it difficult to fall asleep without each other. Good luck.

Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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My twins slept together in one crib until they were 1, then we moved one to a playpen. At the time we didn't have a spare room. They got use to sleeping apart. From there they went straight to big boy and girl beds. We have had no problems. They occasionally get up but I just stay quiet and put them back to bed and without a word leave. It makes more sence to go ahead and buy big beds. We did and saved on the cost of toddler beds. Ehh who needs em.

Vicki - posted on 01/04/2010

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i'm afrfaid that will be almost impossable to stop them getting up to play with one and other as they are each others companion and i would be suprised if they dont get up and go into onand others room when sperated but i will say the positive side is they will have each other and will probably settle into big beds quiet confidently as my two did.
my boys have always had a rutine bed time and once they started to try and climb out of the cots we found it was time to put them in to beds as to avoid acidents and they did get up and play but they also climbed back into their bed once they were tired and went to sleep so i wouldn't worry to much.

Michelle - posted on 01/03/2010

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When my twins were two I needed at least one of the cribs for the my next child. I didn't have any toddler beds and didn't want to buy them. So I got two twin mattress (cheap ones, they were the previous yrs model and were good) and put them next to each other on the floor. So they slept on the floor for awhile. The only issues we had in the beginning besides jumping on the mattresses was getting up right after putting them to bed. What worked for us was locking the door and before we went to bed we would unlock the door for them. We eventually got bunk beds and put them side by side and got new mattresses after they were potty trained for awhile.

They actually sleep in the same bed along with their younger brother. Not because they have to but because they all looove sleeping together. They are now asking when their other baby brother can sleep in the same room with them.

Amy - posted on 01/03/2010

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Quoting Jenny:

I have 5 yr old b/g twins, and right now we live in a very small apartment. Them and their older sisters have to share a room. The older girls share the top bunk and the twins share the bottom bunk. I have tried to get them to sleep in separate beds, but they are just not ready to. I'm hoping that when we move into our much bigger house next month, they will not have a problem separating. I'm still not sure if it's ok to have b/g twins in the same room after a certain age.


Jenny, I am in Australia and have boy/girl twins and I looked in to ages where sharing is no longer appropriate and although nothing is set in stone it is recommended that sharing of a room stop between the ages of 8- 10 years. Hope this helps.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/02/2010

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My twins share a room with their 2 older brothers. We have 2 sets of bunkbeds in their room. I found that it was easier to just buy big beds than worry about toddler beds. They don't sleep in them for very long before you have to buy a bigger bed anyway. We found low bunk beds. They are only 5 feet off the floor. The top bunk has a railing all the way around so no one can fall out. However my twins slept in the same bed until just recently. They are 4.

Tracey - posted on 12/30/2009

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I have b/g twins of 7 and they r still in the same room. If i put them in toddler beds when they were little they used to get out and go and get into the other ones bed. Now they sleep in bunk beds and neither will go on a sleep over cos they will not be with their twin.

Christine - posted on 12/19/2009

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My twin girls have always shared a room. We just bought a new house and now have the room for them to have their own rooms but they demanded that they still share a room. They are not identical but you can't separate them, they are lost without each other. I still remember when they were just a year old and in cribs, they would some how during the night wiggle there cribs together so they were touching and holding hands through the rails it was so cute. So maybe in time when there older they wont want to be together, but as for now they remain together.

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My twins (2 1/2 years old) share a bedroom with my almost 5 year old for about a year now. Christiaan (boy with Down sindrome) is still sleeping in a cot, and Elana is sleeping in a "big bed" since last year. Some nights Elana and Martin will get out of bed and play for a while in the dark and then they will get into bed again and sleep.

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My boys started crib-hopping and would sleep in the same crib so we converted their cribs to "daybeds." They still didn't stay and continued crib hopping so we got 2 twin beds and still they slept together so we put a queen bed in their room. They slept on that for a while then would only sleep on the rocker/gliders and wouldn't touch their beds so we got a a bunk bed with the twin on top/full on bottom. They are now 3 1/2 and still sleep together. We lock up the toys at night and if they keep goofing off we threaten to seperate them and that straightens them up.....for now.

Julie - posted on 12/18/2009

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My twins boys are 11 now, they shared a room until age 9, and then would sneak into each other's rooms at night and sleep together. We had a terrible time with separate beds in the toddler years, and also moved them out of cribs for being climbers. They did not sleep through the night, would wander into our room in the middle of the night, we put them back without talking, but they continued back and forth, and it was exhausting. At their 2nd birthday, we needed a new mattress, and decided to go to a king size bed. We told them if they wanted to sleep in our bed, they could have it! They never got out of bed again, and slept perfectly together in the queen size bed in their room!

Jenny - posted on 12/17/2009

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I have 5 yr old b/g twins, and right now we live in a very small apartment. Them and their older sisters have to share a room. The older girls share the top bunk and the twins share the bottom bunk. I have tried to get them to sleep in separate beds, but they are just not ready to. I'm hoping that when we move into our much bigger house next month, they will not have a problem separating. I'm still not sure if it's ok to have b/g twins in the same room after a certain age.

Chris - posted on 12/17/2009

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They will play with each other in that bed! No doubt about it. My boys are 5 now, share a room in single beds. Your best bet is ROUTINE. I do dinner, play while I clean up or take baths (depending on the night), jammies, brush teeth and two books read in bed. One for each boy. We take turns on whose bed I sit on to read the books. One hug and kiss and I'm outta there. When they were a little younger, I would just consistently redirect back to bed with VERY FEW WORDS. This training worked well and soon they had this routine down, about a week or two, I would say. Good luck with those cutie pa-tooties! Chris - proud mom of twin boys age 5, 17 year old daughter and 18 year old son

Kylee - posted on 12/16/2009

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My twin boys just turned 3 in Nov. and currently share a room. When they were about 15 months they wouldnt stay in their cribs at all and kept climbing out of them and sometimes falling. So we decided to get them beds. I thought it was a waste of money to buy them toddler beds so we ended up getting them their own twin beds that can eventually be turned into bunk beds. They both had side railings for a little while but werent really needed. Last month we put them into bunk beds to make their room bigger and it has worked out very well. They stay in bed and we have not had any accidents.

When they were younger and just got their beds, they sometimes get up and walk out of their room and then we would just put them back in. Sometimes on a bad day I would just sit in their for a bit until they fell asleep.

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