are your twins sleeping together or separately?

Maricel - posted on 03/22/2010 ( 43 moms have responded )

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my 3 year-old twins sleep together in one queen mattress that's on the floor...i noticed even though they fight about toys etc. they get along well unlike other twin moms i talked to and their twins are sleeping in different cribs or beds...they are more like rivals, fight more...i think it is important for them to stay together just like they were in the belly...they will have to be independent from each other when they start going to school...this was my own obeservation so...what do you think????

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Teresa - posted on 03/23/2010

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My twins are 10 years old and they still sleep together. Yeah they fight and argue over things but when it time to go to bed they won't go til the they both are ready to go to bed, I don't know if that is a good thing or bad. But they are close.

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2011

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our twin girls had their own cribs , they shared a room til about 16 months ( now they are 22 months) then we moved into a bigger house , they now have their own rooms , and they love having their own space , and sleep alot better. I understand that twins should share a room but i think that my girls are happy having their own rooms , sure they are twins but they are totally different girls , Also i found that my girls are even more closer now that they dont share rooms cause when they wake up they are so happy to see eachother .

Shannon - posted on 03/28/2010

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My twins are going to be 6, they have bunk beds and still sleep in the same bed, we had them in the same crib, then toddler beds next to eachother, although we always provided their own beds they chose to be together. They will be in 1st grade come Sept. and have no problem functioning on their own at school, they work independently and have different friends. They are very close and although we have the occassional fight over toys etc. they don't really compete with eachother, they are good at different things.

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Heather - posted on 03/31/2011

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My twins have been in separate cribs since about 3 months because Emma would always move around and kick Henry. They are almost 18 months old now and I think they act like most siblings/kids their age. I certainly don't think they act like rivals, but they have very unique personalities and that shines through in different ways throughout the day.

Heather - posted on 03/31/2011

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My twins have been in separate cribs since about 3 months because Emma would always move around and kick Henry. They are almost 18 months old now and I think they act like most siblings/kids their age. I certainly don't think they act like rivals, but they have very unique personalities and that shines through in different ways throughout the day.

Kylie - posted on 03/31/2011

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i really think that you should have them in seperate beds. my girls have been in seperate cots / beds since they were 2mths old. my girls also fight over toys even when they both have the same thing. it is true even though you may have twins they do have their own individual personalities (mine do) because when i comes to starting school that is when i want them inseperate classes that way they get their own friends and they develop academically better as well. hope this helps. kylie

Heather - posted on 08/07/2010

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Our girls have a cot each but sometimes they share a cot it just depends on their mood

Amber - posted on 08/07/2010

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I separated my twin girls at 7 weeks when they moved from our room to their room. I separated them because they would always get out of their swaddle and hit the other in the face. One moved around a lot at a very young age and I felt more comfortable having them in different cribs. I shared a bed with my older sister until Jr. High, so it doesn't seem weird to me for them to share and once they are out of the cribs (they are 13 months) they may choose to sleep together and that would be fine with me.

Nicole (Nikki) - posted on 08/07/2010

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my 10 month old g/g twins sleep together, if I try to separate them they scream until they are together. They love to cuddle with each other.

Amber - posted on 08/06/2010

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My twins are 5 and have separate beds, but I will still walk into their room on occasion and find them in the same bed. Some bonds can't be broken.

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Our three year old twin girls still sleep together. They did have two seperate toddler beds, but insisted on sleeping in one of them together. Even though lack of space caused fighting at bedtime. So we gave in and got them a full sized bed that they share, and they are quite comfortable and happy with that. We plan to get them bunk beds when they are older and see if they choose to sleep seperate, but I imagine they will always be in the same room together.

Crystal - posted on 03/28/2010

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My lil ones slept together until they were about 4mths...Now at 11mths (almost a year on the 7th) they have their own cribs. One is much bigger than the other and was afraid that she would smother the smaller one.

Renee - posted on 03/27/2010

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My twins are now 8, but for the first several months before moving alot they shared a crib. They laid side by side but not end to end - I laid them the short way in the crib.

I moved them into seperaterooms at 2.

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My twins slept together until about 3-4 months then they just seemed to want to sleep seperate and spread out. IN the beginning they didn't sleep well seperated so we put them together. Now they are 14 months old and share a room but have their own cribs. When we were transitioning them from being held to just going down wiht a bottle or sippy cup we put them in seperate rooms, it still didn't seem to bother them too much, after they got used to the transition we put them back together and they still sleep fine.

Personally I think they should have their own space. As twins - (idenitcle at that) they have to share so much and often I feel lose thier individual identities with people always saying "here come the twins" it think it important that they get their time seperate. They are two people and should be treated that way - as individuals. I think the question you need to ask yourself is "would i let siblings share a bed or a room" whatever your answer to that is then it shouldn't matter if they are twins, bothers or sisters or a combo.

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2010

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my 10 year old twins still sleep together, we bought them bunk beds but they always sleep together, very sweet

Cilla - posted on 03/26/2010

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My twin girls now 2 years and 2 month were sleeping in same grip until 6month old, then there werer two grips. But when there were about 1.5year they refused to sleep at night in the grip (the nap was ok) so we were having first a twincouch to sleep and now they have a extra large twinbed, where a mom or dad can sleep with them (without hurting the bag)..

Sharon - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think that we as moms of twins think that they belong together. They are seprate people and do have diffrent personalities. My twins only napped together. Slept in seperate beds and talked to eachother. There is a comfort of independence for them as well as you. I think with all moms it is whatever makes you comfortable. My twins have diffrent friends and are socially adept. I contribute that to not relying so much on the fact that they are twins but that they are two little people.

Waleska - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have 3 year old twins. They are always together and get along great. It is very hard to separate them because they do everything together. They do sleep together and I feel the same, I love to see them taking care of one another and having that special connection.

Corie - posted on 03/25/2010

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My twins slept in different bed and rooms... and yes they fight but not like normal kids do they get mad at each other and then they make up real quick.... they have a bond that will not be broke no matter how you put it...

Mandy - posted on 03/25/2010

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my twins are almost four months old and hve been sleeping together i did alittle study with them the one night i didnt have them in the same crib they kept waking up and stirring but when they sleep together they sleep 8-10 hours a night. ive also laid them at different ends of the crib and they find their way back to each other its so funny

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2010

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My twins boys shared a crib until they were about 7 months old. They didn't like being separated the first few nights, but they had started kicking each other so much I had to do it. They are almost 3 now and they each sleep in their own toddler bed. Some nights they say they want to sleep together, but within 30 minutes of going to bed they say they want to sleep in their own beds. They are still very close. I am friends with other moms of twins that couldn't afford to have 2 cribs so their twins have always slept in the same bed. Their kids love it and they wouldn't do it any other way. I say whatever works for you and the kids. At some point they will want their own beds and probably their own rooms.

Hope - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have 2 year old twins and my twins also sleep on the floor on a gueen matress...they fight with each other over toys sometimes but for the most part they are very close twins...they always ask where the other one is if they can not see the other one at the time. They also stick up for the other one if another child trys to start something with them. I find them holding hands a lot when they are in the van or walking outside. I think that you are correct about keeping them close when they are little and letting them make up their own minds when they get older.

Theresa - posted on 03/25/2010

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My twins were together as infants in the same crib but as they grew bigger, and because they kinda move around a lot, I thought they would be more comfortable in seperate cribs. They are 22 months old now and soon we'll be moving into toddler beds and when it is bed time, they tend to lay on their backs and "talk" to each other - laughing and giggling for what seems like all night! Then when they wake up in the morning they look over to see if the other is there and they start talking and playing right away. I think they like to have a little of their own space, but they can't wait for me to get them out of their cribs so they can play and fight as usual! LOL

Stephanie - posted on 03/25/2010

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mine slept in the same bed till they could roll over so they couldn't suffocate each other as babies. now they are 2 and have their own toddler beds and they love it! they are just like normal boys who fight over toys but they play together all the time and love each other.

Jana - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think twins need some seperation for good mental health. It is thier only seperated time. I think it helps to develop some independence and charecter. My girls (3) are in the same room but seprerate beds. Started that after the crib. They did have seperate cribs after about 10 weeks. Hard to get them into bed routine but totally worth it.

Melissa - posted on 03/25/2010

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We moved our twins into separate rooms at the age of 4 1/2 yrs old. That was also the time they started to run into our room in the middle of the night because of nightmares. They are now 5 1/2 and for the past couple of months I've had them sleeping together so I can get a good nights sleep. Do what you feel is right for your family and then make changes as needed. :)

Wendy - posted on 03/24/2010

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Our g/b twins slept together until they no longer fit together in the crib. Now at 12 mos. they each have their own bed but are in the same room along with their 2 yr. old brother. They all love being together but they roll and flop so much that it would always wake up the other.
Most kids seem to be comfortable with what you seem comfortable with. If it works for you--- go for it! (less bedding to buy!)

Brittany - posted on 03/24/2010

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mine sleep in the same crib!!! if they dont they seem to get up earlier and stay up longer..

Natalie - posted on 03/24/2010

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my twins (b/g) shared a cot when they were newborns but at a few months i put them in seperate cots as one was waking they other but they shared a room until last year when they were 4 now they have seperate rooms,their choice,they have never wanted to sleep together but are very close and dont like being apart during the day,though they do argue!

April - posted on 03/24/2010

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my 12 month old twins sleep in different cribs in the same room they did not like being in the same crib the cried the whole time the were together so I put them in there own cribs and they slept better

Kelly - posted on 03/24/2010

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My twins are 8 yrs old (boys) and have always sleep together. I tried to put them in separate rooms but they always went to each others room at bed time so I put them back in the same room. I even bought bunk beds for their room both they both still sleep in the bottom bunk together.

Katherine - posted on 03/23/2010

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My b/g twins have been in seperate beds/cots from 10days old. I got told off by my sister in-law (she has twins also) so i tried sleeping them in the same bed/cot and they just cried and cried until i seperated them.

Christie - posted on 03/23/2010

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my 4 y/o twins are sleeping together. We've tried separating them, but they have a hard time at night without each other.

Jessi - posted on 03/23/2010

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My 2 1/2 year old b/g twins have always slept separately. They were 10 weeks premature, so were in separate incubators right away, so we just kept with that when we brought them home. But, they share a room for now and probably will until they get to be school age.

Angel - posted on 03/23/2010

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My 7 yr old twins still sleep together. When they were about 2, they each had a toddler bed. Every night they'd go down in their separate beds, and every morning, they'd both be together in 1 of the toddler beds. They'd wake up in the middle of the night and snuggle in with the other one. They never made any noise, it wasn't as if they were scared, they always just found their way to the other twin. Even now, when asked if they'd like their own bed or room, they still say they want to be with each other. :)

Rebecca - posted on 03/23/2010

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my twins are 15 months and they sleep in seperate cribs because when i had them together they didnt sleep well... I would love to have them sleep together but i think they are to young and its better for our living situation because we live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 3 kids so the girls cribs are in my room with me and my son has his own room...I have heard that when they r out of their cribs that they will start sleeping together again..

Noelle - posted on 03/23/2010

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Our 7mo twins sleep in seperate cribs. They both slept better (and so did I!) when they went to seperate beds.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

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We have them in seperate cribs. They are 10 months old and have been sleeping seperately for 4 months now. We seperated them when they started moving alot. They would start out on seperate sides of the bed and during the night, like magnets, end up head to foot/head to foot.. It was very cute, but they would start to get restless in their sleep and then end up kicking each other in the face waking themselves up. We have them in seperate cribs next to each other on the same wall. They seem to like it.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

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My twins slept in the same crib and then we seperated them into toddler beds... However we had to put the head of their beds together so they could be close to each other. We tried on seperate sides of the room but they would cry all night.. I don't have much of a problem with them fighting anymore like I used to. I think they are just about out of that.

Heather - posted on 03/22/2010

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My babies shared a bed until they were 6 months old and then we separated them. Actually my daughter loved it! She instantly was more comfortable and relaxed when sleeping, but my son had to do some adjusting. He is more lovey dovey than she is, and he really thrives on the cuddling and affection, so the first few nights were rough for him. He kept waking up wanting mommy to hold him. Now is has gotten used to it though, and he loves stretching out or rolling around in a crib that is all his! I love seeing their lil smiles when they wake up after a good nights rest!! They had been rolling and moving so much that they disturbed each other during the night. I think it;'s different with all twins though.

Kate - posted on 03/22/2010

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For now our 7 month old twin boys sleep in separate cribs. The one moves around so much at night l was afraid he would lay on his brother and suffocate him. When they are old enough for regular beds, l wouldn't care if they choose to sleep together. How ever they (and the whole family) gets a good nights sleep is fine with us. My two year old and one of the twins get along well. Maybe they will the ones to share a room in the future.

Mallorie - posted on 03/22/2010

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my twins have sleep in seperate rooms now since they were about four i would guess. My son Kemaal loves his on bed and space, Kenice she still sneak into me and my husbands bed around 2-3 A.M. They are seven now...i guess it is okay as long as they are okay with it. Like you said they will be seperated when they go to school.

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My girls are 19 months old and they share a bed. We have a similar thing; it's a crib mattress on the floor but surrounded by a baby corral thing or they would play all day and night and not sleep. I think they need to sleep together because my girls are good friends, they really only fight occasionally when it's bedtime or mealtime and they're cranky and moody. Sometimes it gets cold in our place at night and I'll look in on the girls and they'll be snuggled up together, so I'm worried that if we separated them they would get too cold.

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