At what age did your twins begin fighting?

Ashley - posted on 05/17/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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For those of you that have older twins, or even somebody with twins the same age as mine (8 months)...at what age did you notice fighting between your twins. Sometimes when my twins are playing on the floor, one twin will get on top of the other twin, thus beginning a baby wrestling match. Is this normal, and what can I do to discourage the behavior???

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Jackie - posted on 05/17/2011

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My twins are the best of friends...and the worst of enemies. They started in the womb and have made it to 15 (this past Sat) and are still at it. But heaven help the person who picks on either one of them, the other will be right there to defend his brother. The fights have never been serious or bad, sibling stuff. I have corrected and tried to stop it since they were little. A few months ago my son told me they were twins, they will fight, get over it.... teens, UGH!!! Best advise make sure they are not aggressive, teach them to respect each other and others, and remind them that although they argue or fight they have a special bond that goes deeper than any sibling or friendship.... And invest in a lot of asprin

Megan - posted on 05/17/2011

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i have two sets, four and two. and what has really helped (not completely solved, though) the issue is to have them spend time away from each other and alone time with you. for example, while one goes to swim classes with nana, then the other goes with me to the store or we paint our fingernails. it can be a bit more work but it is totally worth it. for twins it is so important for them to spend time apart or you could run into issues when its time for school.

Ceinwen - posted on 05/23/2011

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Forget it siblings fight and twins are evenly matched mine start fighting over toys at a couple of weeks they would both grab the same toy then roll away from each other. They are 6 and spend lots of time playing nicely then other time it's world war three- they keep this behavior between themselves or with their oldr brothers who they tend to gang up on which I actively stop. They fit confident children who use a good range of strategies to solve problems outside of home.

Kelly - posted on 05/20/2011

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I would say that both of my sets started fighting before they were one. Lots of biting and hair pulling. My b/g are now almost 6 and really do not fight much any more, but my 2 year old boys do fight alot. I have no idea what it would be like with girls though. I would think most of their fighting would start in Jr high!!!

Chantel - posted on 05/20/2011

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Twins start fighting as soon as they could crawl and it has never stopped

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Gina - posted on 10/11/2013

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My twin girls are 14 months old and the other one is jealous of the other one and she always hits her and bites her its terrible and shes the bottlefed one and younger. Her older twin catherine is more friendly and nice to her she evens understands better shes the breastfed one. But i would say they are funny to watch.

Stephanie - posted on 06/17/2011

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I have twin boys and they started really fighting at age 3. They wrestle, hit each other, scratch, pull hair..you name it. One of them are always in time out.

Nicole - posted on 06/16/2011

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i do not discourage it they are having fun and socializing with each other as long as they dont get hurt i am ok with it.

Nicole - posted on 06/16/2011

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my twins have been doing this since about 6 months, they r now 14 months and still playing this way, they think it great and they even chase each other around the living room, giggling in delight.

Nicole - posted on 06/16/2011

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my twins have been doing this since about 6 months, they r now 14 months and still playing this way, they think it great and they even chase each other around the living room, giggling in delight.

Melissa - posted on 06/14/2011

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My 2 year old twins are boys, and they had started fighting since they were three months. It's terrible, especially when you see blood when they hit each other. Most of the time they are fighting over toys.

Ashley - posted on 05/31/2011

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Thanks everybody for sharing your stories. It makes me feel better to know that this behavior is 'normal' for twins and now I have some tips on how to deal with it. :D

Rebecca - posted on 05/28/2011

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At eight months, I don't think there is much you can do to discourage the behavior except for move them further apart. My boys seem to fight ALL THE TIME at 18 months and this has been going on basically since they were walking. As soon as they are old enough to grasp the concepts of sharing and following directions I think that the fighting will stop. We just try to "referee" so that no one gets hurt. And the adorable moments where they are hugging and sitting together make up for it.

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Chantel - posted on 05/24/2011

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Oh I forgot to mention, around age five they were fighting over me on the bed and one kicked a tooth right out of the other. Scary!

Shandrell - posted on 05/23/2011

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My sons are now 2 years old but the fight started when they were about 6 months old. Once they started crawling they started fighting.

Clare Denise - posted on 05/22/2011

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Wow I must say ..we never watched our boys fight but one crawled faster and got going and they other one was frustrated he couldnt follow..and when he did his brother was already at a toy and finished with it..and onto the next..which we saw frustrated our slower twin all the time so we also invested time each into the boys separtly and encourage our fast twin to slow down and our slow twin to let go of frustrations...and we have talks at nite to our daily moments that help unwind those misbeleifs they may have about each other....That has help ed lots..........But they arent too bad on the fighting side.....

Kassidy - posted on 05/21/2011

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my boys fight all the time most is just playing but when they have spent too many days with each other it gets bad my twins are boys soo i just let them fight as long as its nothing to bad just let them go at it cant be to harmful they just kids and learning

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when they both started walking...13-14 months they are now 20months 1 week n its not gettin any betta

Chairettie - posted on 05/19/2011

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Around 6 months they were taking toys from each other and rolling around on each other... they are 10 months and now it is just as much play as annoying one another LOL I tell them no and move them apart when one is making the other cry or yell but other than that I am not sure what else to do.

Sade - posted on 05/19/2011

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My b/g twins started the war in the womb! My son had the bruises to prove it. They are 5 yo now and fighting at this very moment! It can be quite annoying! But don't let anyone mess with the other! Now there is a true brawl against the 3rd party! As others said.. they are the best of friends and the worst of enemies!

Leanne - posted on 05/18/2011

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They were fighting before they were born! No, I'm not kidding. They got along when they were getting into trouble up to age 6ish, but in high school they really started cooperating. He was always worried about what everyone else thought while she didn't care what anyone else thought. B/G twins. Wrestling is to be expected and normal - all mine still do it and my oldest are 21. It's how they connect on a physical and mental level - competitive. Let them go if there's no physical damage - they will figure it out on their own. Nothing to worry about unless someone is being mean, then interrupt.

Kim - posted on 05/18/2011

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My boys are 17 months today, they actually rough house with each other a lot. For the most part they think it's hilarious. Just yesterday the bigger one was hitting the other one in the face with a toy, and the one getting hit was laughing! I did take the toy away but it was still amazing how everything is so funny to them..lol

Heather - posted on 05/17/2011

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My twins started fighting in the womb! Really, we got to see it on the ultrasound and it never stopped. They would do the baby wrestling as soon as they were mobile enough. The one that learned to move first totally picked on the other one.

Ciera - posted on 05/17/2011

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Oh yes. Mine did that all the time. They are 2 now and don't really fight as much as I thought they would have but they do fight at least once a day. My daughter has always been really tiny and my boy really big but she used to pick on him and aggravate him all the time by rolling on him and taking his passy and all kinds of stuff. At that age, I am not really sure at that age what to do. I used to just say "no" and undo whatever it was (roll her off of him, give him back his passy, etc) GL and hope everything goes good for u!

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