Best reply to "double trouble"

Laurianne - posted on 02/06/2009 ( 56 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have ten month old boy/girl twins and I am so sick of the way the phrase "double trouble" just rolls off the tongues of complete strangers! Does anyone have any advice on what is best to say in this situation without losing your temper?

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Lindsay - posted on 12/12/2009

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I think double trouble is one of those things people say when they see someone with 2 kids whether or not they are twins. People will say the weirdest things when they see your unique family. You may get sick of it, but just smile and tell them you have double everything. When people say "God bless you" I always resond with he blessed me twice!! People are just curious and don't understand what it is like having multiples. Just like being asked are they twins, identical or fraternal, boys or girls and all the other crazy questions. I have had 4 friends this year loss their twins (some IVF and some natural) that I don't sweat the little things. I will always stop (even if I'm in a hurry) and answer questions that people have about twins because there are some people (not saying you or anyone else here) out there who can be rude about things. An informed person won't ask those "stupid" or "ignorant" questions again. I once saw a mother wearing a shirt that said "Hands off my twins, B!tch. Way to show off your class mom! Also, people with a singleton gets asked questions too, especially when they are infants. Just remember that you experienced something unique that lot of people don't understand and are curious about. Respond with a smile!

Stephanie - posted on 02/10/2009

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Now that my kids are six and out of the diapers and the potty training. I just have to worry about the meltdowns when they are hungry or when they don't want to stop having a good time. It's the people that have one child coming up to me saying how hard they have because there child isn't listening or is a handful. all you do is laugh it off and say have another one the same age!!

Leah - posted on 02/10/2009

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I just smile and nod. I actually try not to make eye contact with people as that way i have less of a chance of being stopped and asked the stupid questions.



Last time i checked my children are not a freak show and i am not selling tickets to gawke at them and waste my time with stupid and often offensive questions.

Candy - posted on 02/09/2009

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Although my favorite comeback for the double trouble remark was always that they were just too cute to be one baby.

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Theresa - posted on 03/16/2013

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I'm loving these comments! As a mum to 5 week old twin girls with a nearly 5 year old girl and nearly 3 year old girl, I was very scared and nervous about having twins. I also believe we are only given what we can handle but I am still wondering who it is that thinks I can handle all these girls lol. Some of these statements are great and I will be stealing them and using them when I have to : ) We were hoping for a boy (after 2 girls) to complete our family but I guess we were meant to have all girls. I tell everyone that I blame hubby for the girls and I take the blame for the twin thing because there are twins and triplets in my family everywhere lol. So far though having the twins is alot more exhausting obviously but overall it's been better than I thought it would be. I'm looking forward to them sleeping through the night though. That's the worst part I think. But I love all my girls so it's DEFINATELY worth it ♥

Kim - posted on 02/10/2013

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just say " no, actually, it's double the love" & watch their faces kind of twist in embarassment!

Justine - posted on 03/03/2012

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I just say - yes and TWICE the fun! No point letting these things bug you - people just stop because your babies are too cute to pass by - you just have to learn to take it with a smile ... and as a mother of now four year old twins I have to confess that I even find myself drawn towards those double buggies when I see mums of new twins out in the street!!!! (something I would never have done pre-babies!!!)

Terri - posted on 01/07/2010

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I hear that alot (I have six month old twin boys) and I just nicely say that they have been the best babies I've ever been around. Then I let them know that it was harder to raise my eight year old boy than it has been with the twins. But I do get tired of hearing that because they really are very good babies! I just think that is people's first response when they are glad it isn't them with twins. But I always tell people that God don't give people more than they can handle!

Ashley - posted on 01/06/2010

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im a young mom...21... and when i found out i was having twins a not of people (even friends) would say "oh my god what are you going to do?" and i would say.."same thing i was planning on doing with one... but now ive gotta do it twice!!"

and when i told my cousin i was having twins he laughed at me!! a lot of people ASSUME is so hard and its such a big deal. i think thats why Twin Moms share such a special bond!

Michele - posted on 01/06/2010

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Quoting Destiny:

yes my twins are also 10 months and if i hear another person say that to me...well, i think i just might show them double trouble! when people say that to me, i tell them, no not at all. they are both amazing babies and DOUBLE BLESSING! if it's someone with nothing but negative things to say then i just tell them I guess God decided to bless me double since some people cant handle it. I've only said that twice, once to a family member who quite annoys me with her negativity and once to a complete stranger at target.



Destiny..can I "steal" that comment please?? LOL I love it! I hope I remember to say it the next time some stranger wants to follow me around Target spouting their negative nonsense.

Vicki - posted on 01/05/2010

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i also hate that people also belive you have two oppersits too theey always ask whos the quiet one and wos the naughty one i always reply they are both good and bad like all other children i hate that if i'm out and one of my boys is having a moan he is automaticly a bad twin and his brother is an angel although they both have different presonalitys i would never refer to one as the quiet one they are both noisy .

Debbie - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Tracy:



I'm so sick of "are they TWIIINS?" all i want is somone to come up to me and ask that isnt old so i can say No, actually my husband had an affair and we figured it was just best to raise him too, easier on the boys ya know! C'mon serisously! Oh well! And the whole double the trouble and you have your hands full i usually just say yeah, its good though. Get a few weirdos with questions and ooogly eyes like oh my gosh, twins havn't been around for that long have they? Seeming their are two other sets in my small town that were born months apart!! haha~(1 B/G, 1 G/G & 1 B/B!)






lmao, that's a great response, I hope you get the chance to use it!



 



 



I'll usually go with 'Actually its closer to one and a half babies.' My husband told someone we were just so together that raising one baby would have been too easy. Regarding 'were they natural?' I told one person 'Yep, I like to do everything efficiently.' (I have b/g twins) But I'm also a little socially inept, so I have no problem just staring down the offender and walking away. lol

Carolyn - posted on 12/15/2009

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Now you have touched on another subject because my set of twins makes me have 4 girls, so after the whole twin conversation I get "SO YOU JUST CAN'T MAKE ANY BOYS" . Now I think that's the dumbest statement ever because I don't choose the sex of my babies, GOD gives me what HE wants me to have.

Ciera - posted on 12/14/2009

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yes my twins are also 10 months and if i hear another person say that to me...well, i think i just might show them double trouble! when people say that to me, i tell them, no not at all. they are both amazing babies and DOUBLE BLESSING! if it's someone with nothing but negative things to say then i just tell them I guess God decided to bless me double since some people cant handle it. I've only said that twice, once to a family member who quite annoys me with her negativity and once to a complete stranger at target.

Michele - posted on 12/14/2009

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My husband just smiles and says "Double Blessing". I just scowl at the comment. LOL It really bugs me that people assume my girls are trouble because they are twins. I recently needed help with my girls due to some health issues and I got so many compliments that my girls are such well behaved babies. So there!! hahahaha

April - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Danielle:

in have B/B twins at nearly 15 months old, and i cant even walk to the shop without people stopping me and askin, are they twins, durr there dressed the same, the same size, dont be stupid!!! some people still aski if they are boys or girls??!!! err... there dressed in blue! when people say double trouble to me, i ignore them ha! otherwise i get mad lol .


I love it!!!! My husband and I took the boys to BWW (Buffalo Wild Wings) when they were around 13 months and they were wearing shirts that said Twins Rule.  I put them in those just to show my husband what i go through when I have them by myself.  My husband could not believe the things we heard!  Are they twins?  Did you plan on having twins, ok how can you plan on having twins?  I bet you have your hands full.  I always say never a dull moment at our house.  Oh and has anyone else noticed that YOUR twins are better behaved that other people's only child at a restaurant?  Who has their hands full now!?!?!?  lol   

April - posted on 12/12/2009

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My favorite is Oh I know how you feel I had a 18month old when I had my other one. No you don't know! 1. you have one kid walking 2. if you are still breastfeeding that one thats your own thing and 3. you didn't carry them both at the same time!

Joady - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Anthea:

Hi all. Mine arn't born yet but I am already getting the double trouble, hands full? questions. The one I hate the most is were they planned ( I have 3 others ). This pregnancy was very much planned and wanted and after suffering a miscarriage last year, when we found out we were pregnant again and with twins ( conceived naturally ), we were over the moon. Obviously we were mean't to have 5 kids cause I wouldn't have had another one if my other pregnancy had gone to term. I tell people that yes the twins were planned. Its amazing how many people believe that you can plan natural twins. LOL


Oh Anthea I hear you!  I suffered 3 miscarriages between my oldest girl (6) and my identical twin girls (just turned 1) so I sometimes get really offended by the whole assumption that having twins is somehow a bad thing!!!  I love that they are special and I think the same as you I obviously was meant to have 3 (we would have stoped at 2!)



I know people mean well but there can be underlying issues and feelings that they dont know about!



I am a bit of a smart arse too and much to my husbands horror have been known to answer "Are they twins?" with "No actually they are triplets but I leave the ugly one at home!!!"  Or even "no I just had one but saw this one in the hospital that looked similar so took her home too!



Twins rock!!!!

Carolyn - posted on 12/11/2009

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OK I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME!!! are they twins?, 2 girls?, now mind you they're dressed alike head to toe in pink everything. Oh don't let me have to go in a store, you would think we were famous, stopping us sharing stories of i went to school with a set of twins...... oh the joy now a 10min run takes 30min. But I do enjoy running into other parents of twins or twins themselves they give the best qiuck advise. and sometimes you do run into people that say " your double blessed, two bundles of joy, or precious angels" now those comments are priceless................

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2009

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i have 9 month old girl twins and im a real smart ass so i hope they will be too but here are a few of my favorite responses to double trouble 1. "you see two? o man better get your eyes checked.", " they're not mine i just found them.", " one is mine but i found the other in the parking lot is it yours?" or "nope they are clones we have more at home just like them". peoples reactions to these are funny.

Susan - posted on 12/09/2009

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I always respond..Twice as nice, however i get the question followed by oh but he is so much smaller...there is about a head size difference between my boys.

Chelle - posted on 12/09/2009

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Double the delight is what i always responded with but as the got older i tended to agree lol they did become double trouble hehe

Jade - posted on 09/28/2009

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not had my twins yet but someone asked if i had planned to have twins i just said yes when i found out there was only 1 i asked them put another in there lol the other thing that really annoys me is when people ask if you had help i just say its not really any of your buisiness but no i concieved them naturally and what difference would it make if i had had fertility treatment theres still 2

Summer - posted on 09/26/2009

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Cheryl, I can not believe your radiographer actually apologized. That is appauling. And it is so funny that the "Are they twins" question irritates you too. And Laurianne I definately think the 'oh really and how old are your twins" comment is the best. It does get better as they get older though. When they were younger it seemed like everyone wanted to stop us and ask all the same questions, and I kind of had to get in the habbit of making my replies as short as possible and always acting like I was in a rush so people would maybe see that I was too busy to answer their million questions.

Anthea - posted on 09/24/2009

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How about when people ask if I planned twins! I always reply, yes, I "planned" to release 2 eggs at once!

Toni - posted on 09/24/2009

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I got that all the time too when my fraternal boys were little. I'd look at the person with a smile and say, "No, it's double my blessing", which is so very true. God gave me two healthy baby boys, whom are 15 yrs old now. It's frustrating and iritating, I know, but it's something we, as twin parents, have to deal with with the rest of our lives. Be patient. It gets better as they get older.

Amy - posted on 09/24/2009

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My B/G twins are now 14 months, everytime we go out people always make stupid comments like "double trouble", "got your hands full". Comments like that I can deal with but the worst question of all would be if they were natural? Regardless if they were conceived naturally or not, it's really none of their business to ask such personal question, especially from a stranger! Once there was a lady that asked me "are they biological?" You think?!?! I can't believe the kind of questions that gets thrown at me =p

Sylvia - posted on 02/16/2009

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Mine are 7 now and don't look like twins at all. I remember getting that comment when they were little. I ususally said twice the fun. The comment that really hit me hardest was when someone said 'better you than me'!!!! Can you believe it?? I told them they were right....it was better that it was me!

Tracy - posted on 02/15/2009

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I'm so sick of "are they TWIIINS?" all i want is somone to come up to me and ask that isnt old so i can say No, actually my husband had an affair and we figured it was just best to raise him too, easier on the boys ya know! C'mon serisously! Oh well! And the whole double the trouble and you have your hands full i usually just say yeah, its good though. Get a few weirdos with questions and ooogly eyes like oh my gosh, twins havn't been around for that long have they? Seeming their are two other sets in my small town that were born months apart!! haha~(1 B/G, 1 G/G & 1 B/B!)

Danielle - posted on 02/15/2009

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in have B/B twins at nearly 15 months old, and i cant even walk to the shop without people stopping me and askin, are they twins, durr there dressed the same, the same size, dont be stupid!!! some people still aski if they are boys or girls??!!! err... there dressed in blue! when people say double trouble to me, i ignore them ha! otherwise i get mad lol .

Krista - posted on 02/15/2009

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I have boy/girl twins that are alomst 6 years old. Reading all these responses brings back a lot of memories. I don't think there have been very many times that I have been in public with my twins that I haven't heard some sort of comment or been asked some stupid question. The worst for me has always been "Are they identical?" Duh...boy girl is what I want to say but I usually reply with a "no". But now that I read all these responses, I am totally offended by all the other mean comments people have made to me the last 6 years. I have heard all the comments in the previous posts, and now that I really think about it, they are all rude. I always respond with "Double the fun & love" Hang in there all you moms with infant twins. It does get better and is so much fun. The fun never stops in our house!

User - posted on 02/15/2009

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I usually just ignore anything that strangers say. I am not exactly a fan of small talk and found it's not possible to avoid it when you are out in public and have twins. I know people look a lot, but I don't go out of my way to entertain any questions or comments. It may be rude, but I'd rather just spend the time with my family and not waste time talking to complete strangers. (My husband is a lot more social then I am...and polite, so if he's with me, he usually deals with all that. We balance each other out that way. ;))

Jessamy - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

Now that my kids are six and out of the diapers and the potty training. I just have to worry about the meltdowns when they are hungry or when they don't want to stop having a good time. It's the people that have one child coming up to me saying how hard they have because there child isn't listening or is a handful. all you do is laugh it off and say have another one the same age!!



Thats so funny Stephanie, my mum had her twins first and then a singleton 9 years later, and she says she was totally flaberghasted by how difficult it was cos he wanted her all the time hahaha, she says the ones that have a really rough time and no attention are the ladies with a baby abd a young toddler, i just think we live with what we get, and would we ever change it??? i doubt it very much.

Julie - posted on 02/10/2009

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I have found it gets better as they get older. The only time I get really obnoxious comments now it when I'm out with another set of twins. Then we get the are they quads, are they going to get married (my good friend had B/B twins that are 6 weeks older than my girls), I even had one weirdo ask if they were triplets. Um, no there are four babies here, not three. I think I've just learned to rub it off now that they are older. It used to really annoy me when they were younger, I couldn't go anywhere without being stopped. The only one that I reply to now is the, were they natural question. I think that is a very insensitive question to ask someone. I tell them of course they are natural, aren't all babies and I walk away. I think overall people are just curious and don't know any better.

Laura - posted on 02/10/2009

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I always reply to people with "Twice as Nice" & this seems to go down well....

Katherine - posted on 02/09/2009

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"Double Trouble" only bothers me when it's someone who doesn't know or deal with my kids.  I get "are they twins?" constantly.  It kinda bugged me when they were itty bitty, but I have to admit there was a big size difference between them, so it was an honest question.  Now that they're 2 years old, the same size, and very much identical, it really gets on my nerves.  I remember storing up a come-back to "do twins run in your family?" until they did actually learn to run.  I still don't understand why it makes any kind of difference if one conceives twins naturally or with IVF- you've still got two regardless. 



The nuttiest part of it is now that my youngest son is getting older, he's almost the same size as his brothers, and some people assume I have triplets!

Amy - posted on 02/09/2009

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yes I would reply back you mean "double the joy" it shut people up in a very polite way! good luck

Jessamy - posted on 02/09/2009

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lol Candy i like that one! i dont get too hung up about what ppl say, most of the time. I am pregnant with my twins and EVERYONE has an opinion, and want to know if they are identical or not. if we have twins in the family, what are their sexs, and oh im glad its not me (to that last i say, "me too") the only one that really gets to me is that EVERYONE including my MIL and my husbands best friend say oh they will probably end up in intensive care. Its like thank you can i enjoy my pregnancy now?

Nancy - posted on 02/09/2009

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Hi! I would say just take it with humor. People try to be nice and they are curious but obviously dont know what to say. They think it is clever to say that. Now I just agree and say: Yep. They seem happy and I am happy too. hihi

Candy - posted on 02/09/2009

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I've always said that I got two for the price of one. My girls are 16 now, and I've heard them all I think..lol. Although for my girls the one that they really hate is "Which one are you?"

Carol - posted on 02/09/2009

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Not double trouble but twice the fun!!! It's amazing how many people stop and ask me if my boys are identical, one has red hair the other brown, they don't look alike at all. I've been asked if they were IVF babies too. No one would ask a mother of one these questions.



 I've learnt just to ignore it and only stop and talk to the nice ones!!!

Laurianne - posted on 02/09/2009

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Kirsty, I must admit that once a woman said to me "it must be awful having twins because when one cries the other cries too." I replied with "oh really, and how old are your twins?" of course she didn't have twins, but funny how people think they know it all when they have no idea!!!

Kristy - posted on 02/09/2009

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Anthea, you don't want to know what I tell people who immediately tell you "OH! I've always wanted twins, any tips on how to conceive them?" Mine were naturally conceived, but the people who want a detailed family history, all the birth details, comment on your family size (I have four kids with the oldest being 5 1/2) and then give you advice because their cousin's neighbours uncles friend had a pet monkey whose trainer lived in Russia whose best friend had a set of twins and therefore the person talking to you is an expert... Usually I just smile, nod politely and keep walking. And thats at just 2 months old - imagine what I'll be like in 10 years lol

Anthea - posted on 02/08/2009

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I even told one stupid woman that was really bugging me that you time the conception right and thats how you got twins. Hahaha

Anthea - posted on 02/08/2009

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Hi all. Mine arn't born yet but I am already getting the double trouble, hands full? questions. The one I hate the most is were they planned ( I have 3 others ). This pregnancy was very much planned and wanted and after suffering a miscarriage last year, when we found out we were pregnant again and with twins ( conceived naturally ), we were over the moon. Obviously we were mean't to have 5 kids cause I wouldn't have had another one if my other pregnancy had gone to term. I tell people that yes the twins were planned. Its amazing how many people believe that you can plan natural twins. LOL

Pam - posted on 02/08/2009

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Kristy,i think you are sooooo right they dont deserve an answer,unless they are gunna say something that makes sense,well i do the same i ignore the ignorant...they eventually go away,my twins will be 8 in march and i still get the stupidest comments all the time, i have now learned to just keep walking as though people of that ignorance dont exsist in my space..

Kristy - posted on 02/08/2009

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My Girl/Boy twins are only 2 months old and I'm already sick of that statement, along with several others - the best one would be 'are they identical?' though. They look completely different (my daughter has heaps of hair and my son is almost bald for a start) and are always dressed in boy and girl colours with boy and girl coloured blankets etc, so I pretty much just ignore people now, or say 'yes' and keep walking. Just accept that some people are stupid! Comments like 'Double Trouble' 'wow, I bet you have your hands full' and 'were they planned' really don't derserve an answer anyway in my book.

Liz - posted on 02/07/2009

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Another one I heard was " why did you want to go and do that?"   Although I am a first time mom going from no kids to my wonderful boy/ girl twins was hard to get used to at first I wouldn't trade it for anything.   I just smile and say " No double the fun and twice the love"   One of the things that really gets to me too is  when people ask if my children are boys or girls when clearly my son is in a blue carseat and my daughter is in a pink car seat with respective blue and pink blankets.

Cheryl - posted on 02/07/2009

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My girls are now 3yrs & I always get "you have your hand full"...yes full of joy & I wouldn't change a minute...well maybe a bit more help. When I went for my 1st scan the radiographer said "I'm really sorry but you are carrying 2"...she also said sorry again as we left....good job it was a joy to find out & I just thought of her as a stupid, inconsiderate old c**.



I still also get are they twins.....ummm yes their identical & are dressed the same...so why ask such a stupid question....I now just smile ...yes they are....



I think it will still carry on for years to come as people are so fascinated & unless you have twins or more yourself, just don't get it....

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