Day time naps are they over when my twins hit 2???

Suzanne - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have newly 2 year old twins, just turned 2 on the 13th of September. They are both girls and are identical.

My issue is they do not want to nap any time during the day anymore even though they rub their eyes, yawn and look tired. They start to get angry at each other, and bite and misbehave. That to me was a good sign that they are tired and need a nap.

I have not been able to do much lately as they have wanted my time and to play, read, cuddle or just have fun with them. This leaves no time for me, the house, my uni work and other things. I am not saying that I want them to sleep all day but a couple of hours for me to recharge and to do some things might be nice.

They have always been good sleepers and sleep about 12-14 hours a night. If they are ill or not feeling good due to a tooth they might get up for cuddles or painkillers. Same goes if they might have wet the bed or a nappy was too full. Once sorted they are generally good and go back to sleep.

So to exhaust them I generally try to go out but as this exhausts me, and no work gets done anyway. As it was colder today I did not go out. They seem to want to run around and to explore in the backyard, climb and just be annoying when I have lost my patience.
So any ideas on how to wear out my little girls so they take a nap or is just the stage now that they are in and don't need one. Any advice would be great.

Thanks Suzanne

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Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2010

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The key for me when my boys were at this point was to... (gasp)... SEPARATE them :) With no one to play with and nothing to do but lay in bed, they do eventually go to sleep. My boys are almost three, and they still take 2-3 hour naps every day. They also sleep about 11-12 hours at night. They still need rest during the day, so insisting on them staying in bed and going to sleep is a must, not only for their wellbeing, but also for your sanity :) Good luck!

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Bethany - posted on 10/08/2010

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Hi Suzanne,
I have twin girls that are 15months, and I also have a 4 year old daughter as well. I understand what you are saying, I am also completing my primary education degree online, and my twins are also not resting during the day :( and everything was going out of control! They are also great sleepers at night. But I now spend my day with the children….. after lunch we all rest on my bed and read a story, watch a movie and then once we have rested about 45min to 1 hour we are back playing.
When my children go to bed around 6 and 7pm at night, that’s when I start the house work and my study. I have stopped watching my late night tv shows, my most fav thing to zone out. However, I was getting frustrated and cranky at the kids because I felt behind in everything, and now I relax and play through the day, then my time at night to do everything else, I try to be in bed by 1-2am it depends if I have a lot of study to do…..
I understand completely how you are feeling, and it is a hard job being a mum and student, but it will be all worth it!
Keep smiling hug you children
Bethany :)

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from what i've ready is that children will start growing out of naps right around age 4... my twins have been on a schedule from the beginning and boy, you can tell when they are tired. they are still in cribs until nov... but they go up to their room and are unhappy, but then they fall off to sleep. my oldest boy who is almost 3 does not take naps from time to time and that's just the stage that he's at. give it time, they will give in..

Debbie - posted on 10/08/2010

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There are so many great responses here and I too have two identical girl 3 1/2 year olds. They were both out of naps before they were 2 and so was my 8 year old son so I guess it's just the way they were. I would rather have them sleep a full 12 hours at night rather than wake up early or go to bed late. We try to have some quiet time during the day but that doesn't always work, I do miss having some time to myself during the day but I have them in pre-school three mornings a week and so that gives me a couple of hours on these days. Plus I like to get up earlier and have between 30-60 mins to myself in the morning which allows me to face my 3 kids smiling when they wake up. Good luck

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Suzanne, I think the problem with with your girls may be they sleep too long during the night. My twin boys are 21 months old and they just gave up their morning nap! They sleep in the afternoon from 12 to 3. They go to bed at 8 p.m. and wake up between 6.30 and 8 (the one sleeps longer). So they have a lot of time to get tired until their nap. Today the one woke up at 9.20 in the morning and didn't want to nap until 2 p.m. Then he slept for 1 1/2 hours only (not 3 like usual). That's great for you that your girls sleep longer in the morning, but if that's why they don't want to nap, I would wake them up earlier, so you will have some break too.

Suzanne - posted on 10/01/2010

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Thanks Ladies. I had a great routine as I am well aware that routine especially for 2 kids is very important. I was just scared as I have never had kids before the twins is this normal and is it something that will last. This no nap thing is doing my head in.

Will try the quiet time and have done something similar to that but has not worked but will do it a bit differently and see what happens this time. My girls seem to go to bed at around 8ish and get up around 8.30am or 9am and sometimes 9.30am depends on how tired they are. However on the one day that they go to childcare for 6 hours they have lately not been sleeping but had a lay down with their quiet time and they have a nap when they come home as they are so tired. So they still need it and I know just by looking at them that they should have one, just as one other post mentioned they scream, yell, sing, cry, throw all the linen off the bed and more. I don't have another room to put them and they share a room so that is annoying as would like have liked to try the seperation idea.

Thanks everyone for giving me some ideas and I think I have tried most in my desperation but will power on. And it is good to know that they are still needing naps. Suzanne

Danielle - posted on 10/01/2010

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Mine were 2 in June, and they still have days when they get like that at nap time. If after 15-20 min they are still playing, I put one in another room. Separation works for me, doesn't seem to bother them and then they get their nap, because if they don't they are really crabby before it's bed time. We absolutely have to have our nap! Mine are in big boy beds now too, so maybe it helped they did not feel they were "stuck". If they sleep 30min or 2 hours they can get up when they want. The other day I went in to check on them and one of them was quiet as a mouse just playing with his trucks on the floor and let the other one sleep. They do still go to bed at 8pm and up at 6am, just like the older kids. GOOD LUCK!

Jessi - posted on 10/01/2010

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I think that every child is different and you need to determine what's best for your family. My b/g twins stopped taking naps at about 2 1/2 years old. I wanted them to continue taking naps, but it was a daily struggle to get them to unwind and sleep. They shared a room, so it was difficult to separate them for sleep time. Also, we found that when they napped during the day, they didn't want to sleep at night. I would rather have them sleep from 7:30ish at night until 7:30ish in the morning than have them take a nap during the day and not go to sleep until 10pm.
You could try starting a "quiet time" when they would normally take a nap. Have them play quietly with puzzles or read books.
Good luck!

Laura - posted on 10/01/2010

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at 2 it was taking me 2 hours to get my twins to take a daytime nap. It was frustration hell and taking too much time away from my older son so I gave up. I desparately needed that quiet time during the day. I was advised to put them in their room and make them stay there even if they didn't sleep. I've had times when that has also been a nightmare - they did nothing but fight or turned the room upside down day after day after day, but it has paid off, i have 3 little boys who love that hour playing together . Try putting them into bed with a few books. Bad times with my boys I would put one or both into our bed with some books.

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Good luck! Once my girls hit 2 I had to drive them to sleep or they wouldn't nap. I did this every day for 6 motnhs straight before I was over the waste of gas, but I was NOT ready to give up my brief bit of peace and quiet before that.

BJ - posted on 10/01/2010

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THEY MOST DEFINITELY NEED NAPS!! I have identical twin boys who are 4 and I still make them take naps. The trick is to get them into the habit of taking naps. Of course they will not want to, but I tell my boys, "the quicker you go to sleep, the faster you get outside to play with Daddy when he gets home". If they are in the habit, they will fight the nap for a few minutes, but eventually will drift off to sleep and believe me, you'll be happy they did! Then you will be able to get your housework done and most of all, HAVE A LITTLE 'YOU" TIME after a long day of taking care of TWINS!! They are in themselves a full-time job.!! HABIT IS THE KEY WITH KIDS AND ESPECIALLY TWO KIDS!!

Heather - posted on 10/01/2010

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It might just be a stage. My girls each went through phases of not napping. But they both generally still take naps and they will be 3 in December. But all kids are different. The only thing that might help them to take a nap is to just allow them to get bored. Instead of trying to wear them out, allow them to calm down. Plan a period of down time each day. Whether you watch a movie, read to them or just lay down and listen to music or something, tell them it's quiet time. They are not expected to fall asleep, but the opportunity is there if they are tired.

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