Do your infant twins share a room?

Celeste - posted on 01/17/2010

My twins are 9 months, they slept together for the first 5 months and slept great together. But my daughter is a light sleeper who sleeps longer, while my son is a heavy sleeper who wakes up early every morning. I also have an older daughter who is two. I decided a few months ago to try putting my younger daughter in the same room as her older sister and she's been sleeping really great since! My son still has the same sleeping patterns but with them in seperate rooms they don't wake eachother up.

SUE - posted on 01/17/2010

My twins were born in 1984 a boy and girl i had the same problem so i seperated them the boy richard went in with his two yr old brother and caroline had her own room.

Charlotte - posted on 01/17/2010

I have 9mth old twins and mine went through a similar stage so we put a portacot up in our room and they would take turns as to which one would sleep in their cot and then once they were both asleep we would move the one in the portacot back into the bed room. We had to do this for about 2mths but then they stopped and are back to going to sleep in the same room together at the same time.

Heather - posted on 01/17/2010

I had that same problem when my twins were tiny! My little girl use to scream all the time , my little boy slept no bother, I decided to seperate them into their own rooms when they were seven months. It was the best thing I ever did and they have had their own rooms ever since!

Karen - posted on 01/16/2010

I do still have the same problem ~ my boys are 27 months old. Unfortently, I don't have the space to seperate them. Yes they certianly feed off each other. BUT, feeding off each other was a good thing. One would cry while the other drifted off to sleep. This actually, went on for a few months. My problem is when do I say enough is enough. I hae to sit in the room until both boys are sleeping. They still wake up sometimes twice a night looking for a bottle????? My boys have been in reg. size single beds since 14 months.

Your twins are only 6 months...it does get better. Good Luck!

Kristina - posted on 01/15/2010

My identical girls share a room and a bed, they are 2. It seems that if they sleep alone the duration of their sleep is much shorter. If they are not completely tired they will play a bit before they fall asleep, but I dont have the issue of them getting out of bed or anything like that. I dont think I will split them up into separate beds unless they request it.

Christine - posted on 01/13/2010

My twins shared a room for about 9 months then I decided I was torturing myself. We had a guest room that was rarely used so we seperated them. It worked out much better since one fell asleep much easier than the other. We have a baby on the way though and I am trying to figure out what to do then. The twins will be three by that time.

Vicki - posted on 01/13/2010

My b/g twins share a room but different cribs, I put her to bed first cause she cries a bit, however I have put them down together and it seems she cries them both to sleep!!!

Tara - posted on 01/13/2010

My b/g twins are 20 mos. They sleep in the same room but not in the same bed. Jacob falls asleep really fast, but Rachael has a really hard time going to sleep. They will not go to sleep with out the other. Even if they are asleep if you put one in bed and not the other they wake up screaming for the other one. I found the best way to put them down for a nap is putting them both in bed at the 11:30 everyday, at first they would scream but now they talk to each other until the fall asleep. I am also starting this at night. It is a little harder but I am hoping that it will work. Jacob is use to hearing Rachael crying or babbling out bless his heart, she has always done it. I guess that is how he nows she is in the room.

Darlene - posted on 01/13/2010

My G/B twins actually slept in the same crib for the first few months, still sharing a room at 5 1/2 yrs old! Can seem to split them up!

Delicia - posted on 01/12/2010

my b/g twin are 11mo and the share a room with their own cribs, they slept in a pack n play together for the first couple months, they would cry if they couldn't see each other.

Kathy - posted on 01/12/2010

I had the same problem when mine were smaller (they are18months now). We separated them to their olders brothers' rooms. One is with each older brother and it works out well. I know not everybody has the room to do this or kids who don't want to. But my older boys love having a little boy with them. Before we moved them we would put to bed first the one that had the harder time falling asleep, then put the other down. It seems with twins the solutions always take a bit more work! :)

Jaime - posted on 01/08/2010

My girls are 4 and they share a room. They only shared a crib till 6 weeks b/c one twin would also cry and wake the other one up. They have this special bond that can never be broken.

Amlia - posted on 01/08/2010

i have twins g/b and they are 4 now and they share a room as as they did a crib and they sleep good

Bekkie - posted on 01/05/2010

Our b/g twins shared a room until a couple of months ago (they are 4.5 years old) and the girl (older by 2 minutes) asked to have her own room as her twin brother is a very early riser. She now has her own room but still frequently goes back to sleep in the bunk in her brothers room.....as they do miss each other, they are very close. I was unsure prior to her request how i was going to deal with the sleeping arrangements but it was definately easy seeing as they were obviously ready.....i am glad i didn't force the issue earlier though.

Carmen - posted on 01/04/2010

My girls have shared the crib since birth and I went through a period like you speak of and I put a bumper in the middle of the crib to keep them slightly apart and it works for a while until they're able to move around a lot. They're 14 months now and still sharing a pack'n play and their crib and it works out well most of the time. Sometimes its necessary to go in and kiss and re-put to bed the apparently less sleepy one. Mine sleep from 8pm to 8am most nights.

Rachael - posted on 01/04/2010

My boy girl twins shared the same room until they were 6yrs. My boy was usually awake alot earlier than the girl but it didnt seem to bother her, as for bed times, she would just drop off whilst he moaned and cried, it didnt seem to phase her. But then my two dont seem that close either....its a shame and im hoping they change as they get older :)

Michelle - posted on 01/03/2010

My twin boys slept in the same crib until they started moving around and rolling into each other. Then we put two cribs end to end. They are 6 now and have bunk beds, but want to share the same bed. They still come into my room sometime in the middle of the night and sleep on the floor next to my husband and me. They are normally wrapped around each other.

My brother also had twin boys, but his are fraternal where mine are identical. His twins could care less about each other so slept in separate cribs and unfortunately they didn't have any great techniques when one fussed and woke up the other. Eventually, they just got used to it and now will sleep thru the other's fussiness.

When my twins were babies they were usually up at the same time and had their BMs at the same time and did everything else at the same time.

All I can say is hopefully your twins get used to each other unless you have room to put them in separate rooms.

Alison - posted on 01/03/2010

My 3 yr old boy twins share a room and I plan that they will continue to share until they tell me they don't want to!

Justine - posted on 01/03/2010

My girls (2 years old) share a bedroom, and it works well an night time, they both go straigth down to sleep and when they wake in the morning they just chatter and play together - sometimes it's about 40 minutes before they start crying to get up! (in fact they recently started climbing into one another's cots to play in the morning!) - but for day time naps it's a different story, they wind each other up and chat and play and just don't get to sleep, so we have a travel cot made up in another room and seperate them for their daytime naps

Krissi - posted on 01/03/2010

I broke my foot a month after having my twins so they are still in the pack and play in my room because walking to and from was too difficult...but today actually we are going to try to get them in their crib. They are 3 1/2 months and will be in 1 crib for a bit and then 2 seperate cribs when they start to turn over. They are b/g twins so I think they will share for a while but then my older daughter will most likely have to share with her sister in a couple of years.

Jenna - posted on 01/03/2010

Our identical twin girls were born early at 32 wks so they've always been separated so we just continued that into their own rooms at our home, they seem to be fine together and fine apart. Good luck!

Diane - posted on 01/02/2010

My twins are 4 months old and sleep in the bed with us, it makes nursing a lot easier and we all get a lot more sleep. I imagine they'll continue to sleep with us until they stop nursing at night like my other 2 kids (around a year old) at that point they'll sleep in their own room and if they need to sleep in the same bed to feel comfortable and secure then they will. My twins don't usually wake up from the other one's crying.

June - posted on 01/02/2010

My b/g twins have always shared a room. They are seven now, and still do - We have bunk beds. I'm looking to separate them though when we move to a new home.

Yolanda - posted on 01/02/2010

my twins share a room and went into separate cribs at 10 weeks. They have always been able to ignore the other's cries unless they were ready to wake up anyways. I have 2 girls, so we anticipate keeping them together in the future, until they ask to be apart.

BJ - posted on 01/01/2010

Wasnt' much of a problem for me, my twins (boys) have slept together since they were too big to be in the same crib, then we got them their own cribs. But they have always managed to fall asleep at the same time. Now that they are 3, we have gotten them bunk beds and they fight about who will be the one sleeping on the bottom!!! I have to make a calendar and look at the calendar at nap time and at bedtime, but it works, no more fussing!!! Then it's prayer time and lights out, I don't walk away from the door until they stop talking and they go right on to sleep!!! YAY!!! But it really doesnt get any easier like people says it does with twins haha

Skye - posted on 01/01/2010

I have 1yr old b/g twins and they share a room with the end of their cots pushed together, we have nights where one will have a sooky night but the other will always go back to sleep. I think it only really becomes an issue if you take one twin out the second they make a noise as it gets them accustomed to sleeping in silence.

Ginger - posted on 12/31/2009

Unfortunately, we don't have room for them to be separated. As a matter of fact, both sets of our twins share a room. I've got bunk beds and two cribs in there. They don't keep each other up too much. They all sleep like rocks! LOL I guess you do what makes them happy or what you have to. Either way, they adjust :)

Cathy - posted on 12/31/2009

My two girls slept in the same room and often would crawl in with each other in the same bed! Now they have separate rooms (they are 15) but when we first gave them their own rooms, we would often get up in the morning and one or the other would have gone into her sister's room and they would cuddle up in the same bed together. Now they are fine in their own rooms and prefer the other "stay out!". haha It is a hard decision to make, my girls actually slept the best when they were infants in the same crib, grabbing each other's hands.Good luck on your decision.

Niomi - posted on 12/31/2009

I had the same problem going on with my boy/girl twins when they were tots too. We ended up putting them in separate beds when they were about 12 months old. The beds were together end to end. Not too long after that we had to move them to separate sides of the room because no one was settling. By the time they were 3, we had to put them in separate rooms and we have never had a problem since. I guess really it depends on the nature of the children involved and how dependant they are on each other. We have always striven to have two children who are loving towards each other but are also happy to be independent of each other because the course of their lives will require that - or so we felt anyway. Everyone does what ever is best at the time I guess.

Jessie - posted on 12/31/2009

My twin girls have shared a room always. Now they are 6 and have bunkbeds. they love it.

Danielle - posted on 12/31/2009

Leave it be. They have always been together, the other just needs to figure out how to tune the other out...Easier said....I know :)

Corina - posted on 12/30/2009

one other thing I realized last night- we have a routine that I sing Jesus loves You and thier grandpa's song at bedtime. Big difference in their settle down time if I don't do it and they hound me if I don't. 7 1/2 years of that so far....

Danielle - posted on 12/30/2009

my boys are 18 months old and share a room but not a crib. we have the same issue as you, one falls asleep pretty fast and the other has a really hard time. i have debated moving one out of the room but hesitate b/c i feel like they are used to seeing eachother in there. but i do think everyone will sleep better so i'm on the fence now too. good luck!

Lindsey - posted on 12/29/2009

I have 17-month old identical twin girls and they share the same room. I did finally seperate them and put them in seperate beds. I rearranged their room and moved their beds around so they weren't end to end anymore and they would not sleep. I finally had to put their beds back so they could touch when they were going to sleep. It took until they were about 13-months for me to seperate them.

Kelly - posted on 12/29/2009

I understand! My little man is easier at falling asleep than my daughter. We let him go to sleep first and then her. However, during naps I tend to put him in a pack-in-play in our room so that they get uninterrupted sleep during the day. She talks sometimes to him and he sometimes wines with her, but as time has gone on it seems to just work. It is there thing at night. They both fall asleep as we listen to them chatter. I say just go with what they do, and you will find that they lead themselves into their own routine.

Lana - posted on 12/29/2009

My twin boys have always shared a room and they are 2 years old now when it was bed time i would put them down together and they just seemed to adjust to eachothers noises.

Corina - posted on 12/29/2009

Don't ever let them get used to quiet! I had older kids who made sure that never happened. I have twin boys(now 7), and in the entire time they have only wanted to be separated in different rooms once. There was a challenge for a time to get them to sleep in their own beds. They are going to spend the rest of their life together and they will work things out between them in their own way. what looks like wwIII suddenly becomes "that's cool. Got to say how I feel- you listened-its done". You have plenty of gray hairs coming your way! But they do survive;) I think it is much harder on us, because it changes our lives, than it is them.

April - posted on 12/29/2009

My twins shared a room when they were infants. If I tried to seperate they would cry. My son crawled across dresser to get into crib with twin sister at 7 mos. They are still very close even though they go to seperate schools. He is above average and she has tons of medical problems. But they love each other.

Amy - posted on 12/28/2009

I have b/g twins who are 2 years old and if I try to seperate them have all sorts of problems, they are still in the same room to sleep but they have always seemed to sleep through the other one being unsettled. Are they in the same bed? If so it could just be a matter of seperating them that way.

Jade - posted on 12/28/2009

My twins actually sleep better being in the same crib together

Heather - posted on 12/28/2009

I had my b/g twins in the same room till they were 3. One use to be a sleeper and the other was a talker. After a while they didn't bother each other anymore. If they are having a problem you may want to think about seperating them. You can always try it and see how it goes. If everyone gets a better night sleep then that is the answer. Everyones kids are different so don't feel guilty about seperating them, if that is what they need/want then that is what you should do.

Lorrie - posted on 12/28/2009

Mine slept in the same bed until they were 4. It helped soothe them. They would calm each other down. They are 15 and still sleep together occasionally (boy/girl). They slept through the night at a much younger age than my other children. My problem was when I pulled one or the other baby out of the bed. They would scream for hours. They were only really content in the same bed.