Does any one have any pros or cons about seperating twins for Kindergarten.

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Holly - posted on 03/04/2009

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I am having this same issue. Mine are in kindergarten and separated now, but will probably be repeating kindergarten next since their birthdays were two days before the cutoff and they are the youngest in their class, thus less mature than the other kids. We are discussing putting them together next year and I'm wondering if that is a good idea too. They fight so much now and they aren't even in the same class. I can't imagine what it might be like if they are around each other all day at school and then have to be together at home too, but their father wants them together.

Pam - posted on 10/11/2011

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I have had mine both ways. In kindergarden I split them up to prevent the dominate one from taking over. It have the other some time to learn to communicate for himself and show his independence. The next year, though, they wanted to be placed together. After awhile it actually affected their behavior. They began to bicker more from being together all day long. This year, back apart and it has positively affected their grades and behavior pattern. I would highly recommend splitting them!

Wendy - posted on 03/04/2009

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I wanted to put my twin 3 yr old daughters in the same class, because they had never been apart before. The school told me it would be fine and when it came down to it, they only had room in separate classes. They started August of 2008. I think their individuality has really shown since then. It turned out to be a good idea.

User - posted on 03/04/2009

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Our identical twin daughters were in the same class for preschool.  On the advice of the preschool teacher, however, we separated the girls for kindergarten. The preschool teacher advised us that our girls were independent and self assured enough to handle being in different kindergarten classes. She was right .  The girls thrived, each developing friendships on her own.  They continued to do gymnastics and girl scouts together so they had "shared" friends also.



Our girls are 13 now and in eighth grade and were placed in the same class this year for the first time since preschool. It was quite an adjustment for us all.  As Mom, I had always thought that life would be easier if the girls were together; same homework, same projects, same field trips. As a previous Mom said, though, since they are together all day, when they get home they have nothing to talk about so they pick on each other and argue. The girls are very competitive and disagree about answers on their homework, how to do a project etc.  Everything is a battle between them. Because of scheduling at the school they have to stay together for math and English, but they have been placed in separate Social Studies and Science classes since the first of the year.



Eveyone has to make this decision individually.  I think it depends on if your twins are identical or fraternal, girls, boys or boy/girl and whether siblings are involved and what their ages are, too.  Also, remember that the decision that you make now could be different next year or even mid year as needed.

Cassandra - posted on 03/03/2009

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when my twin boy's started kindergarten they both were in different classes. they are now in grade 6. still in seperate classes it has been very good for both of them to become there own person, as well to develop there own group of friends. I would not have it any other way. it has been very good for my twins to become indivaual people...hope this helps Cassandra

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Innocentia - posted on 10/10/2011

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I never thought about things like that until now,and seeing all the post i think i will also separate my kids.we all want our kids to be individuals and reach their full potential,they are currently staying with a nanny when i'm at work.its so nice to have a group of woman to relate too:)

Laura - posted on 10/08/2011

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We started our (4 1/2 year old) boys in the same kindergarten (in August), we felt it would be better for them emotionally and also hoped that their strong relationship would be an advantage. And I think they are too young to separate. Unfortunately the teacher is unable to handle them together and we have relucatantly agreed to separate them. We have a week (holiday) to prepare them for it. They are very happy together and I am interested to see how much they protest at being separated. On the positive side they are bi-lingual (mother tongue is not the language in the kindergarten), they are very much sticking together and other children don't join in with their play because of the language.

User - posted on 10/04/2011

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My boy had more trouble than my girl. The school put them into different classrooms, but I requested that they should be put together now they are both happy and doing good in school.

Brenda - posted on 09/28/2011

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At our school they done allow twins to be in the same class. or any kids that are closely related (cousins). They said it helps them to be their own person being seperated. The twins that are in my daughters class do great seperate. and i have a friend who has twins and her boys do great in different classes too.

Annette - posted on 09/24/2011

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As you can see, those of us who have 'separated' our twins have had great experiences with it. I have as well. I want to show the 'other side' in my experience as well. I grew up in a VERY small town. There was only ever 1 class in our younger grades. I was best friends with a set of g/g twins. They had different personalities, different interests, different dreams of what they wanted to be when they grew up... Now, they are 40 years old and they live together, never found long-term boyfriends or husbands, neither went to college 'cuz they wanted completely different things and when it came to it they couldn't separate. This was something that scared me with my twins, so I am probably too far the other way! I try to remember they are not a 'set'. They don't have matching names at all (Kate and Erin). I rarely dress them alike. In preschool there was only 1 class so they were together, but we separated them in K last year (and again this year in 1st grade). They do very well with it. In fact, last year when I allowed all my children (they have an older brother) to choose 1 extracurricular activity, Erin chose ballet and Kate chose TaeKwonDo. They both play with each other when we practice those activities, but I think they enjoy 'my thing' which is different from 'her thing'.

So I think you need to do whats right for your twins... but I always err on the side of separating them.

Kristy - posted on 05/05/2009

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interesting posts, my twins start kindergarten this fall, and we have decided to keep them together for at least this first year in school. I agree they are different individuals and have unique interests of their own, and once they adjust to the social aspect of the school environment seperating them will be just fine. Great question, glad to see others are debating this same thing.

Devon - posted on 05/05/2009

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My twins are 6 yrs old and they are seperated in kindergarten and it is wonderfull. they are making there own friends and they focus alot better then they would if they were in the same classroom. i would highly suggest seperating them. it gives them a chance to make there own friends, and to be more of there own person. good luck and hope it works out:)

Brandy - posted on 05/04/2009

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My girls are in kindergarten now. At first I wanted my twin girls in the same class because it would be easier on me as far as field trips and such. Then I got to thinking and I wanted them to be their on person. They are together all the time except for class. They have their own friends and share some too. It helps them make their own decisions instead of waiting until the other chooses first. I think in the end it is the best to separate them now then later if you want that.

Andrea - posted on 05/01/2009

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Hi Mindy,

We put our girls in separate classes from from jk. They both love it (they're in Grade 4 now) and look forward to playing with each other after school. They have their own set of friends and it's nice that they're not being compared to each other by their teachers.

Ginny - posted on 05/01/2009

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I have twin boys that just turned 10 and an older son who will be 12 next week. For kindergarten, our school only had 1 all day class, so they had to stay together. It was awful!! They came home with basically the same stories to tell and would get mad at the other for telling. They also would rat out eachother if something happened in class. With 3 boys just under 2 years apart, there is a lot of sibling rivalry in my house. Once first grade came and they had their own class, with their own friends and their own stories to tell, it was heaven!!

Devon - posted on 04/30/2009

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i have 6 yr old twin daughters and i wanted them seperated in kindergarten which they are and they are doing great. i would say to defanitly do it. it will give them a chance to make there own friends and it will get them to be more of there own person. i want them seperated in school all the way up til they graduate high school. they need to find there own personality's. defanitly seperate them and they will be fine. good luck

Dannielle - posted on 04/28/2009

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My twins are identical boys and have been totally independent since they were babies. They are also very competitive. Everyone wanted to separate them but I refused to let it happen. If they had been dependent on each other I would have let them been separated, but since they had their own personalities, it made it easier for me. I was a single mom with the twins plus 2 older kids, and working full time. Now they are in grade 6 and I have been homeschooling all the kids and they are all doing really great.

Cyndi - posted on 04/28/2009

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it's funny to think of how much time and energy worrying about this dicision. My twins were together in 3 and 4 PK and seperated in K. The more "shy" twin really blossomed. Prior to K he would "allow" his brother to answer for him. They are in 1st grade now and this works for my family. When they get home, they have a great time telling each other about their day. They are on the same team, so homework is the same. That's makes it easier for you.

Amber - posted on 04/28/2009

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well when my twins started preschool i had them seperated. it worked out very well. my husband was against the idea but now see's that it was for the best. they have to become independent, and find there own. nothing bad for me on this one.

Stacey - posted on 04/27/2009

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My twin boys are in Kindergarten. We decided to keep them together. They both are doing great. They both are developing friendships with other children. I'm glad they have the same teacher that also has 17 yr old twins. I had heard from numerous people to keep them together it helps them academically. I'm very glad I did. There are 3 sets of twins in Kindergarten the rest have seperated them. That did not work they ended up putting them both back together.. I think u will know what is best for your kids. You could start them out together and see if it works vice versa.

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We separated the twins in preschool so they could be there own person. Everyone calls them the twins or the babies (they are 5) So they need time to learn to socialize and make friends themselves. It was very helpful but now that they have learned to interact with others it is ok to have them in the same class.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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well from my experience it is the best thing for them. They are two seperate people and need to be treated sepertate. I had to have my boys seperated because when they were in preschool together they would pick fights with each other or think one or the other was stealing "their" friends. They do well when they are in seperate classes. My boys are VERY competetive and it is best they are apart, at least for school.

Sheryl - posted on 04/25/2009

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Our fraternal boy twins, now almost 17, were separated for Kindergarten, but not after much deliberaition! They had been to 3 years of preschool before this and were always together. It was their PreK teacher that thought that it might work for them, since they were so independent of each other. (She said it was the first set of twins where if one was sick, the other one still came to school.) Our school was very helpful too, saying that we could try putting them in different classes, but if it didn't work, we could change them to the same class. It went well, and in talking to both teachers, it was fine. Of course, they knew a lot of the other kids, from PreK and preschool, so that helped. The first few days they would find each other at recess, check in with each other, and then go on their merry way. Every year thereafter, we checked with them as to whether they wanted to be together or separate, and they always choose apart. Now, in high school, they sometimes have classes together, and they are okay with it, but they think it is weird. I think the hardest part of them being apart was the first time one was invited to a birthday party, but the other wasn't. (most of the time they were both invited) It was a little tough, but they were okay with it knowing that it wasn't always going to be the same for both of them. To this day, sometimes they do things together and sometimes apart. I hope all goes well with whatever you decide to do!

Camisha - posted on 04/25/2009

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My boys were seperated all through preschool but would still find ways to get to each other. So they were in kindergarden and first grade together. They were seperated in the second grade. Now fourth graders. Even now you can see the seperation anxiety when they get home from school everyday. Since their seperation the work quality and cognitive skills have dropped dramatically. I am thinking of putting them back in the same class to see if that would help. We have had testing and tutoring, the school is doing so much to help. I hope you have better luck.

Cristine - posted on 04/24/2009

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My boy / girl twins are 6 and in the 1st grade and have been in the same class together every year. I really think it depends on the children. My husband and I keep an open conversation every year with each teacher and ask for their input on seperating them. My son and daughter like to be together, but don't really pay attention to the other at all during school. Every year we ask them if they would like to be together or apart, and talk with the school and make a descision based on all input. I guess in a way I'm kind of scared to seperate them. Their schools policy is if they are seperated, you can't put them back in the same class that year. Best of luck to you.

Rebecca - posted on 04/04/2009

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At first I thought keeping my twins in the same grade would be beneficial to them.  We belonged to a very small church school where there was only 1 kindergarten and then 1-2 were together, 3-4th grades were together 5th and 6th were together and by the time 8th grade was here they were in their own classroom.  I started them off in kindergarten where they functioned just fine and the next year in 1st grade one of the twins became the prominant one and would shelter the other one.  They tried placing them on opposite sides of the room but it still did not work.  Unfortunantely by the second grade I saw this to be a growing problem as the younger twin would now wait for her sister to bail her out.  We changed over to public school with separate classrooms and it has proven to be the right thing to do.  They have grown to be very independent from the other and have their own personalities and different friends.  Hope this helps you and your decision as it is not always black and white.

Roberta - posted on 04/04/2009

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I have noticed that keeping them together for a least the first 2 years is the best because school is hard enough for them to adjust too. But after that they need to more individuals so they can be put in different classes after the 2 or 3 year period. I have friends who said it was to traumatic for her kids and they cried when it was time for school. I kept my girls together for too long in school where my oldest twin was doing the work for your sister as well as her own.

Peggy - posted on 04/04/2009

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Hi Mindy,



 



This is a really great question, as you can tell from the discussion it has prompted. My situation is a little different in that my twins were placed with us as foster children at the age of two. They had been in four homes in four years; with ours being the fourth and final home. I had to weigh the fact that my little Bonnie and Clyde as a team, had brought daycare teachers to tears against the fact that they only constant in their life was that they were always there for each other. The school insisted that they be separated which I felt was the right decision for my twins. Going into the school year, I was fairly confident that I was going to be on a first name basis with the principal. Jacki and I are in fact, now on a first name basis. I thought my son, Jacob was going to be the behavior problem. He got the classroom with the strict teacher and no friends from daycare; he was all alone- And he has absolutely thrived. He has made friends and really, really come into his own without having his sister to be the brains of their operation. My darling daughter, has been suspended three times. I didn't even know kindergartners could get suspended! She has really struggled this year. So as we near the end of the school year, I know separating them was good for Jacob, I am not sure it was good for Jordan. I am going to keep them separated next year but I am working with the principal to hand pick my daughters teacher for next year and we will work with that teacher to develop some techniques for managing her behavior prior to going into the first grade. My opinion is- that you know your kids better than anyone and you should go with whatever your gut feeling is about what is best for your children.

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Hi mindy. I have twin girls who will be starting kindergarten next fall and I have been thiking about the seperation thing for a long time. My girls are stuck to each other like glue...they do not like to be apart at all! I tihnk it will be good thought beacuse then they will realize that they can have a life with out the other one for a while, and make new friends but still be best buds in the end! I know for mine it will be really hard and there will be a lot of tears but i don''t think it will take long for them to get over it. Actually I know it will probably be easier for one than the other because one is a little more independent than the other. I really wouldn't stress about it to much because one..it has to happen eventually and the sooner the better..and two it will be better for them in the long run. People always look at twins as one and this is their oppertunity to be looked at as one an not get mixed up with the other all the time. I think there are a lot more pros here than cons and it will all work ir's self out in the end. Just sit back and see how they react...if you stress over it they will. Just reasure them that they are in the same place just different rooms and they will see each other through-out the day..lunch..recess..on the bus before and after school Well i hope this helped a little bit and good luck...let me know how it turns out b/c im still a little worried myself! :O).

Erin - posted on 04/03/2009

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well it was a really hard decision for my husband and I to separate our twins in kindergarten. our twins are so close and they seem to switch roles, as far as who's more dominant, in different situations that they're in. In the end we decided to separate them and it was the best decision for our kids. They have both made friends but the teachers tell me when they see each other at recess they run to each other and give hugs, then continue playing with their friends. Now at home they are so happy to be together and talk about what each one has been doing that day. I think it's a good decision to separate them.

Diane - posted on 04/03/2009

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We sent our twins to kindergarten together and in 1st grade they were in seperate classrooms and have been ever since.  They are now in 6th grade, and they have the same friends.  I feel that by seperating them, thier classmates and teachers got to know them as individuals and not as the twins.    Hope this helps.

Hazel - posted on 04/03/2009

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Hi, My boy & girls twins went to the same kindy and were put into separate groups. I believe this is a good idea, they make there own friends and can come home to tell of their day with their teacher and their friends, which will be different to their twin. No arguements, other than who wants to tell you first. Great for their development. They were in different classes at school as well!

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My girls are 5 and in the same kindergarten class and do very well. I did not have them separated for Pre-K either. I thought they could be there for each other for support when they began Pre-K. Just having someone there you know, plus it would make things easier on me. My girls, though have always been dressed to coordinate,not match. They are easy to tell apart and are not really dependent on each other though. If I had seen a tendency for them to be dependent I would've separated them for kindergarten. They sit on opposite sides of the school room and do their own thing.  I recommend having them together only if they are independent. Had my girls looked exactly alike and weren't able to do anything on their own, I would've probably had them separated

Jodie - posted on 04/01/2009

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I have identical boy twins who are now 19 years old.  They both had the same kindergarten teacher, but one went in the morning and the other in the afternoon.  That seemed to work out well because it gave me more individual time with each of them.   They have a cousin who is 2 months younger then they are, that grew up in the same community.  When they were in grades 1-5 I made sure they all had different teachers.  In 6th grade I didn't push the issue and one of my boys and my nephew were put in the same class.  It worked out better than I thought it would. They all went to the same high school.  When they get to the high school it's almost impossible to make sure they're not in the same class.  They are now finishing up there freshmen year of college, and they're at different ends of the state.  I believe it has been more of an adjustment for me, them not being together anymore.  



You need to do what feels right to you.  Every kid is different.  Good Luck!!

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My twin girls are 10.  The went to seperate preschool.  So when they started school, I kept them in different classes.  I wanted them to have their own person. Plus, have their own friends.  I thinks its worked out great.  This year in 5th grade, we requested to put them together.  Just to see how it would work out.  The girls went their own seperate ways.  They did not feel one over shadowed the other or any pressure.  They have their own friends in class.   They are closer than any 2 sisters I know, nothing can break a twin bound.  Except the twins  Hope this helps Nancy

Jodie - posted on 04/01/2009

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I have identical boy twins who are now 19 years old.  They both had the same kindergarten teacher, but one went in the morning and the other in the afternoon.  That seemed to work out well because it gave me more individual time with each of them.   They have a cousin who is 2 months younger then they are, that grew up in the same community.  When they were in grades 1-5 I made sure they all had different teachers.  In 6th grade I didn't push the issue and one of my boys and my nephew were put in the same class.  It worked out better than I thought it would. They all went to the same high school.  When they get to the high school it's almost impossible to make sure they're not in the same class.  They are now finishing up there freshmen year of college, and they're at different ends of the state.  I believe it has been more of an adjustment for me, them not being together anymore.  



You need to do what feels right to you.  Every kid is different.  Good Luck!!

Amber - posted on 04/01/2009

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I'm going put my twins in separate classes. They are very dependent upon one another. One always answers for the other, or they hang on one another. I think it will be easier for the teacher if she/he doesn't have to deal with the complicated sibling relationship and the protective ownership they feel towards one another. I also think it will help them to make their own friends and teach them independence. I have sisters who are twins and they have had marriage problems because they are closer to their sister than their husbands.

Jodie - posted on 04/01/2009

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I have identical boy twins who are now 19 years old.  They both had the same kindergarten teacher, but one went in the morning and the other in the afternoon.  That seemed to work out well because it gave me more individual time with each of them.   They have a cousin who is 2 months younger then they are, that grew up in the same community.  When they were in grades 1-5 I made sure they all had different teachers.  In 6th grade I didn't push the issue and one of my boys and my nephew were put in the same class.  It worked out better than I thought it would. They all went to the same high school.  When they get to the high school it's almost impossible to make sure they're not in the same class.  They are now finishing up there freshmen year of college, and they're at different ends of the state.  I believe it has been more of an adjustment for me, them not being together anymore.  



You need to do what feels right to you.  Every kid is different.  Good Luck!!

Becky - posted on 04/01/2009

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Quoting Mindy:

Does any one have any pros or cons about seperating twins for Kindergarten.



Hi Mindy,                                                                                                                                                                   My twins are going to be 9 in July. I kept them together until this year 3rd grade. It was the best thing I could have done for them. The slept together for about 6 years. I didn't seperate them in school until they wanted me to. They were ready to be apart. My stronger twin is the one who wanted to be together. I have no regrets I would do it again if I had to. Our school gave us problems about keeping them together but we stood our ground, it helped that I had a friend that had quads and they were starting  school the same time so we stood together. If you feel they need to be together keep them together if you and they are ok with being seperated than do it. Thanks Becky

Renee - posted on 04/01/2009

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Quoting Mindy:

Does any one have any pros or cons about seperating twins for Kindergarten.




I seperated my twin boys for preschool, they are 3 and my one would come home and start hitting and biting his other twin. I called the school up and told them I needed them back together and they are fine now. The people I have talked to say they are too young, but you could try it and see if it works and than always put them back together. Best of luck...



 



 

Anna - posted on 03/31/2009

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My girls are 4th graders and have always gone to a small school where separating them was not an option. They are both very different girls, with separate interests that we have worked hard to foster. I think because we make that a priority no matter where they are, they have been able to stay together in the classroom and do very well. I've got one who is my artistic child, and the other is my athlete -- we find separate ways to address that as often as possible. It's do-able, depending on your kids and your situation.

Dawn - posted on 03/10/2009

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Quoting Mindy: I kept my twin boys in the same class for kindergarten because of i was afraid of separting them.  i have come to find out that i will split them up for next year and even they want to be separted. one seems to get into trouble more and i dont know if its because his brother is in there but i quess i will fing out next year. best of luck

Does any one have any pros or cons about seperating twins for Kindergarten.



 

Cynthia - posted on 03/10/2009

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I have identical 10 year old boy twins. I chose to keep them together in kindergarten through 3rd grade. They are both about the same academically and therefore the school agreed to place them together, it was their policy to seperate. They seemed to find comfort in knowing the other was in the room, especially in the younger years. We would also discuss with them individually if they wanted to be together, so it was a joint decision as they got older. Even thought they will fight at home, there has never been any fighting at school....wish I knew the secret for that! This year, 4th grade, they were ready to venture out on their own. It's been interesting to watch them grow and tackle the challenges of being seperated - invited to different birthday parties, one having lots of homework the other none, certain friends in certain classes. I also notice them growing more independent this year however they still have those moments when they are so into each other it's like no one else exists in their world. We will continue them seperated since it's working and they seem to enjoy it.



I think to seperate or not is a personal decision based on your own twins taking into account their emotional and learning needs as well as their relationship between each other.



Good luck!

Jamie - posted on 03/09/2009

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my twins are only 2 but i want them to stay together when they start school.



 

Denise - posted on 03/09/2009

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Our B/G twins were separated by the school district (policy). They have both done so well.They are heading to Jr high next Sept. I will say it made it much easier when they shared teachers therefore sharing homework assignments. It was not easy to keep up with 2 different teachers and different homework!

Kim - posted on 03/09/2009

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I sent my twins to kindegarten together just because it was their first year in school and they hadn't been apart before. Now in 1st grade the school actually seperated them and that seems to being going somewhat ok cause they have their own friends and don't have to depend on each other as much.

Beckie - posted on 03/09/2009

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I think it depends on your twins. My twins are 9 now and in 3rd grade. They still prefer to be together. So we keep them that way. I don't see them going separate ways anytime soon. They still dress alike too. Do what they are comfortable with.

Kelly - posted on 03/07/2009

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My g/g fraternal twins are very different, in fact, as we always say, they are sisters who were born on the same day, as opposed to identifying them as twins. They are in grade 2 and attend a small school. They are thriving, as individuals, in this situation, although I think that they would thrive if they were in separate classes. Every year my school asks me what I want, and we talk about it as a couple and make a decision, however, not everyone gets a choice and I would have to ask myself, is this worth fighting for? Probably not, as I said above, they would thrive in either situation. If, however, I believed that they would fail to thrive, in any situation, that's when the mother bear comes out ! :)

Shelly - posted on 03/07/2009

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My girls are identical twins who are now 15. We kept them together until 6th grade and we were always happy of that decision. They do have some classes together this year and they are enjoying it very much. They have always been close-never fight and even dance on their high school dance team together. The each have friends of their own and friends in common as well.

Mehernaz - posted on 03/07/2009

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My girls started nursery just a month back (they're two and a half) and initially were put in diff. sections. The younger one (and the more independant one) took to her new environment very well, whereas the olderone had a lot of trouble. She would cry from the moment I started dressing her up for nursery. So the teacher decided to put them together. That was great because Anousha (the older one) suddenly was so happy and cheerfull to go to school. The teacher is gonna let Anousha get used to the environment and then may think of the seperation once again...We're gonna play it by ear.. But for now I'm glad that both my girls so look forward to nursery.....although I do agree that they need to grow in thier own capacity, maybe we can cut Anousha some slack and do it gradually...:).

Pedtra - posted on 03/07/2009

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My twin boys are in separate kindergarten classes. Pros - they make their own friends, rely more on making their own decisions, minimizes the competition between the two. Con - Birthday parties of classmates, two different types of homework.

Angela - posted on 03/07/2009

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Mine are currently in kindergarten. We made the decision not to separate them. Mine are not highly dependent on each other so that helped make the decision. Starting "big boy school" was a big deal, both were a little frightened and having each other helped. Although both attended daycare/preschool, regular school is very different. Next year, we will separate them but I've been happy in my decision to keep them together.

Freya - posted on 03/07/2009

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Hi Mindy sorry i have just realised what u meant yeah i havn't really thought of that i did hear some schools prefer you to separe them (diff classes) at the start or prep but that could freak them out?? cause there so used to hanging togeather mmmm thats a hard one i think separting would promote there independence and yes they would hav to make friends etc.. but i guess they will feel strange at first a bit insecure even but it's normal part of growing up too and they would adapt.

Freya - posted on 03/07/2009

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Hi Mindy i have just gone through this delema with my twins who turned 4 in dec 08 kinder noticed my boy was not keeping up felt he wasn't ready but my girl seemed to be "borderline" like could stay. anyway they suggested taking them both out as if one is left behind it can damge their self esteem "pretty bad apparently" unless there was avery strong reason to separate them... could u try different kindergartens for them or put them in again togeather next year.  better to hold back at kinder than at school . :)

Toni-Lee - posted on 03/06/2009

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I have to say in reading a lot of the info about twins it seems that it for many it is a issue for the children to have there own identity. My twins didnt really have a choice at the school they went to, there was only one class per grade. I believe that in that I always encouraged them to have there own friends. They didnt go out as pairs to events they went out as individuals. It is healthy for all kids not to always be doing what there siblings are doing. It is also healthy to enjoy there siblings. The balance is really to treat them as indiviuals who enjoy there family however close they are in age. Enjoying there differences. You know there is nothing better than enjoying close family relationships. It helps them in the tough times that they are unconditional loved and are secure this is the greatest gift to your children. 

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