Does one of your twins whine all the time?

Megan - posted on 07/02/2010

I have 9 yr old g/g twins. And the one whines constantly! I am their step-mom. She has been a whiner for a long time. We have been trying since age 5 to break her of the whining. But since it works at her mom's house, she still does it. It is getting a tiny bit better but not much.

I know that is not encouraging, but hopefully you can nip it in the bud before it gets really bad. Good Luck!

Khadijah - posted on 06/13/2010

I have 16 month old g/g twins and the younger (but bigger twin) is the whiner. Most times she'll whine just to be whining!! LOL I'll look at her and say "Sweetie, why are you whining?" and she'll give me this blank stare as to say "You know Mommy...I have no idea." LOL It can really drive me up the wall sometimes but I deal with it. I will usually try to distract her by playing with her or singing a silly song or something and she'll began to laugh instead of whine.



My other girl is VERY independent. She doesn't like me to hold her hand when we are out walking. She got angry with my husband when he was pushing the grocery cart with her in it!!! LOL She's my little explorer. I simple adore their different personalites!! Praying my younger twin grows out of the whining stag but until then I'd better get my vocal cords warmed up because I'll be doing a LOT of singing!! haha!

Ashley - posted on 06/11/2010

I have 15 month twin boys and one rarely ever whines and the other one is a professional.

Katelyn - posted on 06/04/2010

i have 1year old boy/girl twins and my girl whines about everything....if her brother bumps into her while they are playing she whines, if wants to play with her she whines if im cuddling him and not her she whines, if you cuddle her to much she wines, and right now she is whining because she is drinking her milk and her brother is playing behind her and bumping in to her .....it drives me nuts!!

Paula - posted on 05/28/2010

Sorry to hear about the whining ( i know it sucks and will drive you to the edge) ,I am so glad to hear that my kids are not the only ones..In my case it is the little girl..

Amber - posted on 05/23/2010

YES! I actually have 3 kids~ I don't really think it matters...twins or not, but it's funny to see the different personalities! My twin daughter is more the quiet one....my twin son is the one who wines a lot! He's very sensitive...but he's also my snuggler! :) LOVE HIM!

Andrea - posted on 05/22/2010

my twin girls are 21 months old and both whine!!! lol... it all depends on whos getting picked on or if they want me at the same time. It also doesnt help when my older daughter sometimes does something to bother or upset them. One does like to be closer to me but they both ask for me often. Thats the hardest part for me. i can only do one baby at a time and one ends up always having to wait. that usually frustrates who ever is waiting for me to pick them up or get them something hey are asking for. i am hoping this goes away once they can better communicate (fingers crossed). i figure once their talking more they can tell me what it is they actually need.

Laura - posted on 05/21/2010

I so have one that winges all the time!! My little girl is a right winger and has been since birth, but my little boy is as good as gold. Sometime it does swap though. They are only 9 months old I am hoping that when they get a bit older they will keep each other company and she stops winging!! Sorry no advice. I have been told to ignore her, but she just works her self into a tissy and I cant do it as I hate it!! x Good luck I hope someone helps!!

Diana - posted on 05/13/2010

OMG!! this is the same thing that is happening to me... in this case both are girls... and the one who whines throws a fit too and even bite her sister... I don't know how to teach her not to do it... time out, hit her on the mouth (of course not that hard) really don't know what to do.. sometimes when she bites her sister then her sister is afraid of her... Callie (the one who whines) I think she's kind of jealous , i'm trying to be closer to Callie but she doesn't let me... but if she sees Brooke coming to me and playing, kissing me etc then she would come to me and want to play with me, but then she doesn't behave to good.... really don't know what to do...

Ciera - posted on 05/13/2010

YES! My 15 month old b/g are total opposites. My girl is carefree and as independent as she can be at that age. My boy just lays around and whines and even throws fits at EVERYTHING. He does not like it when she gets her food first or when she has a toy he wants (even if he didnt want it before) and if he is playing with something and she comes even remotely close to him, he will throw his hands up as if to push her away and say "NO!". He will whine and complain anytime she does anything with me, if she comes and sits in my lap, he will fall on the floor and start whining and crying. My husband had started doing things like taking her pacifier out of her mouth and giving it to him bc he knew she didnt care and it would quiet him but I had to tell him not to do things like that bc we are not going to inconvenience HER to accomodate HIM. I don't want that to set a precedent and affect their relationship as they grow older and I know eventually it will. It is hard when one baby is so accomodating and the other gets so jealous and whiny anytime he doesn't get his way. It would be so easy to just let her be and take special notice of him but she enjoys her mommy time too so I don't want her to think that we love him more so I have to make sure that we don't do the "easy" thing even though it is so hard to let him cry and throw fits by himself in the corner while I play with her.

Diana - posted on 05/11/2010

In my case.. the one who doesn't talk too much is the one who whines, she wants me to do everything when she wants. It's driving me crazy.. hope this phase passes...
thanks for your reply

Connie - posted on 05/10/2010

I'm struggling with this too. The odd thing is that she knows more words and has formed some sentences so I know she could express herself pretty well if she tried. The other twin enables it too...when I'm not around she'll take a toy from the first then run, if I'm around and her sister whines after the toy is stolen she'll give it back to shut her up which isn't a good dynamic either.