dressing twins alike

Jill - posted on 07/28/2009 ( 134 moms have responded )

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I have a set of fratental g/g twins. I always dress them alike. Then the other day someone told me that is like they are the same person and they have no personalty. I was wanting to know who else does this.

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Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2009

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I have fraternal girl twins and I also dress them alike or in coordinating outfits almost all the time. Because my girls look so different I constantly have people asking me if they are both mine, which one is older(as in not being twins), or which one is the boy and which one is the girl. It drives me bonkers sometimes. They can both be wearing pink outfits with flowers all over them and then inevitably some idiot will ask if the one with less hair is a boy.... I know that there are many people out there who don't like twins being dressed alike, but as soon as my girls are old enough to pick out their own outfits then I will let them so they each have their own sense of identity. Until then....:)

Janine - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have boy/girl twins and when they were first born I occasionally dressed them alike. Whilst i think sometimes all twins fraternal or not look gorgeous dressed alike i also believe that they are different personalities. It is each to the individual (carer) but sooner or later the kids will start wanting to dress themselves and lets face it - they will want to express their own individuality through clothing etc... In truth, for now.... who is it hurting?? As long as they have love, what they wear doesnt mean a thing! Go for it!

Tasha - posted on 07/29/2009

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I have fraternal boys and when we are going to large public places, I dress them alike because it is easier to keep up with them. I've had to ask "Have you seen a little boy that looks like this?". Long Story involving a hidden back gate and a curious child

Heather - posted on 07/29/2009

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I have boy/girl twins, I use to dress them in matching outfits when we had someplace special to go, like a party or gathering, I thought it was cute. Now that I have 3 I dress them the same/matching when I take them to the park, it helps me find them and other people know they are mine since they all match, so if they see one doing something wrong or they look like they are going to get hurt they tell me.

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Krista - posted on 07/10/2010

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My girls are fraternal twins, but they look alike. A lot of people could not tell them apart. Initially, I liked to dress them alike, but used different colors. I didn't do this every day, but anytime we went out I did. First of all, I didn't understand why people would look at them and say "Are they twins?" They looked just alike!! So dressing sortof alike took care of that, most of the time. Having different colors at least gave them their own personality, their own thing, and I could say "Ashley is in the pink (or whatever) and Allison is in yellow". That way I didn't have to point at them. They got enough of that from others. When they are old enough to choose for themselves, I would just ask them what color they would like to wear today. If you let them completely choose their outfit, you might be embarrassed to take them out! lol And you can't say 'choose your outfilt' to turn around and say 'that doesn't match'. That may hurt their little self-esteems, you know. There will always be a "someone" that is going to give you advice you didn't ask for in regards to raising your children whether they are twins or not. I just always said something like, "I'll have to take that into consideration. Thank you." Then go about your business, you know? Ultimately, they are your babies and you dress them however you want to. : ) My girls are now 19. They sometimes like to still dress alike, but use different colors. And even though they both have curly hair, one will typically leave hers curly and the other will straighten hers. When they change it up, it really confuses people! I guess that is the fun part about being a twin! Good luck.

Vicky - posted on 07/10/2010

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I hated it when a lady said this to me! My reply was 'they maybe dressed the same doesnt mean their personalities have to be the same.' Because you dress them the same their the same person? absolutely ridiculous my girls are completely different and no matchin outfits are gonna change their growing personalities. My daughter are ALWAYS dressed the same and I love it! x

Renee - posted on 07/10/2010

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Clothes does not makith the man!!! I decided that while I could dress them the same and have no arguments and I was boss then thats how they dressed, and now they are older and can say "no mum", well we have big discussions about clothes to wear and what they like and dont like,and funnily enough, they end up in the same clothes because the other one is wearing it!!! lol...believe me these 2 have very different personilities...

Heather - posted on 07/09/2010

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I dress my identical twins alike all the time. If they just want to wear different clothes then I let them. They have their own color code. One loves pink and the other loves purple, so I buy accordingly. As far as the no personality for them, well that depends on how you treat them. If you let them be individuals and not group them then I see no problem. They each want and need different things, this is how to give them their own personality not the clothes they wear.

Jenny - posted on 07/09/2010

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I do it sometimes, but its not a rule in my house. My twins are 4 and if one wants to wear something different i kinda let it be their choice. When they get older they will decide what they like, but even when my twins dress alike the still act very different and definatly have their own personalities. Also since I have had twins many people feel the need to tell me how and what to do with them, you have to decide that these are your children and you will decide whats best for them. Also there is a set of twins that go to my sons high school and they choose to still dress exactly alike.

Angie - posted on 07/09/2010

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i have b/g twins and i do everything i can to dress them alike there twins there special enjoy it but people still say o are thay twins lol no man i just drag around some one elses kid for the fun of it lol

Sarah - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have 6 yr old g/g twins. When they were babies I dressed them alike almost everyday - even PJs.. As they got a little older around3, I stopped dressing them exactly the same. I would change colors or whatever... Then 1 day I said that same thing to myself about how they are like the same person. I decided to find out what they like and go by that.. My daughter told me the other day that she HATES dressing like her sister and she dont like pink. She is my tomboy... Sorry for .............

Brita - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have fraternal b/b twins(I don't even think most people can tell that they are even related!), but we dress them alike. We usually dress one of them in blue and the other one in green. I think what they wear has nothing to do with their personality. Our boys act NOTHING alike!

Crystal - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have identical twin girls. While i was pregnant, I swore that i would never dress them alike because at that moment i thought it was stupid to have double the clothes. Well i still got double of everything. Once they were born, everything changed, I always dress them the same. Everytime my husband bathes them, if he doesnt have the same clothes then i will change them. They always dress alike. I figure that they will only dress alike while they are small. Once they get older and bigger they will indeed have their own personality in which you can no longer dress them the same. They will like different things. SO, I say forget what anyone else says. Those are YOUR children and if that is what makes you happy as a mother than dont change a thing. Another reason I like to dress them the same is because they can never say that I dress one better than the other. ( I know they are too small to even understand) But i like to make sure that i am fair at all times with everything. Hope this helps.

Deidre - posted on 07/08/2010

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my twins are b/b and fraternal for the most part i dress them the same or i'll dress them in the same outfit but make them different color i just think its so cute but i always tell my self that they are 2 different people and when they do begin to show their own styles they can choose whatever they want to wear.

Jamie - posted on 07/06/2010

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I have identical boys and I very rarely dress them alike. Although I think it is cute when they are it is just more practical to by matching clothing that can be alternated (same shirt different colors) If we have matching outfits its because family has bought them and they love to see them dressed alike! I like them to be different because they are already soooo very different!

Amanda - posted on 06/27/2010

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When my girls were little I did dress them alike and as they got older I might got the same outfits but in different colors.. They are now 3 and I buy them the same clothes or at least simular clothes but I don't dress them alike when we go out I let them decide what they want to wear.. Even though they are twins they each have their own personality and unique qualities and I want them to know that they are two different people and just because they are twin sisters they don't have to have and do everything the same.

Mindy - posted on 06/26/2010

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i dressed my twins similar but not alike when they were born. I might have them on the same outfit but different colors & sometimes different patterns.

Betty - posted on 06/26/2010

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I have id g 18 mos and i dress them alike and simerlar they always have on matching outfits but i have to be careful what i get because my tomboy refuses to wear pink, dress, or skirts sometimes she will argue with me when i put it on her and if i decide im puting it on her anyway with in 10 min she takes it off and puts it in the hamper

Ashley - posted on 06/24/2010

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I have fraternal b/b twins and they have opposite personalities, I dress sometimes identical, if the outfit is just the cutest. But for the most part I dress them in the same outfit but different colours.

Flick - posted on 06/24/2010

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My boys are 8 months and 9 out of 10 times I will dress them alike. I personally think that it's up to the mum and I have lots of friends with single babies who say "oh it's sad" etc but as far as I'm concered they're just jealous!! I carried two for nine months, I deal with having two newborns it's damn cute to dress them alike and it's my reward!! Lol. I'll probably stop when they get old enough to choose what they wear but that's their choice, but until they can make it, they're matching!! Hehe xx

Sarah - posted on 06/24/2010

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I dress my identical twin girls the same everyday! Every once in awhile ill put on in purple one in pink but its the same outfit just different colors. When theyre older if they dont want to match I wont make them but as of now they do! And you dress your child no matter what so its not detemining there personality when there babies!!! You dont know what there going to want to wear! I see both sides though but I def put mine in matchin clothes!!!

Monica - posted on 06/24/2010

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I say until they are old enough to give you their opinion of what they want to wear, do what you want. My daughters were 4 when they announced they wanted their own clothes, so enjoy the option while you can :-)

Celeste - posted on 06/24/2010

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Hey Jill! (Celeste from AMOM!)

I have fraternal twin boys. I dress them alike, just because it's cute. I don't always dress them alike.

My cousin also has twin girls and her response is "When you buy their clothes, then you can make that decision" LOL

Victoria - posted on 06/24/2010

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I have B/G twins that are now 19 months old and I can honestly say i have only ever dressed them similarly once an that was by accident, personally i think you cant get any more different than B/G so why try to make them the same?? i also would have though surely dressing identicals different;ly would help tell them apart when they are little?? ( for othere people i mean.. not mum and dad )

Ann - posted on 08/10/2009

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What ever! It is cute while they are little. I don't see a problem with it while they are little. I dressed my twins alike until they were four. I stoped because they had requested to wear different clothing. Your twins will let you know when they had enough. Every child has a different personality and they are all different no matter how much they look alike.

Michele - posted on 08/10/2009

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Ugh! That person was a twit Jill! I've got fraternal twin girls as well and I always dress them in either identical or complimenting outfits and I plan to do it for as long as I can get away with it. I have yet to understand why people think they are entitled to an opinion on raising twins when they have never had them.

Dayna - posted on 08/09/2009

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My boys are fraternal and I've dressed them alike, in matching clothes, and not. Do as you want, it doesn't really matter. You know your girls are separate people and have different personalities and so do they. That is all that matters. Some people will always have an opinion about someone else's business, don't let it get to you. You're not doing anything wrong; as you've read A LOT of moms of twins dress their kids alike.

Rena - posted on 08/09/2009

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I think it is perfectly fine to dress them alike! I am expecting fraternal b/b twins in 6 weeks and I will dress them alike most of the time. I have a 5 yr old boy and a 3 year old boy who I often dress alike when we go places! It's easier to keep track of them and I don't force it on them, it is their choice to do this! No matter what you do, they WILL be individuals. The way they are dressed has no bearing on that!

Maria - posted on 08/09/2009

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My twin boys are 26 months old and we still dress them alike, they are fraternal and totally different so they are very much their own person, they just are lucky enough to have a twin. When they get old enough to dress themselves they can dress alike or not.

Heather - posted on 08/08/2009

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I have 20 month old fraternal g/g twins. I coordinate their dressing. Such as same outfit in 2 different colors or two outfits from the same "collection". Now that they are a bit older, I take turns letting them choose from the two outfits that I have picked out. I think it's cute and I can get away with it for now :)

Andrea - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hello Jill, for mainly safety reasons I always try to dress my identical 9 yr olds differently. Imagine when your out walking and both girls run off, but one is going to run into the road that split second is vital to shout the correct name, also it is good for them to know they are different. What I hate is when Mia & Cara are called the twins! I would never call a single child the singleton. have fun they grow too quickly

Crystal - posted on 08/07/2009

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HI My girls are 10 months old (identical). I tend to dress them in matching or same outfits purely for my practical benefit - if its too hot or cold, I change both. I don't have a big budget so if they need something I get the cheapest or stuff on special so its usually the same because of that. I also get clothes 2nd hand for them so that stuff is different, but I don't want 1 bub to get cold & 1 to get too hot so its similar clothing anyway. When they can tell me what they want to wear I have no problem dressing them in anything they like - they can tell me if they need to change clothes then too. I cop alot of critism from my mum in particular saying they are individuals - well duh! I treat them as individuals- they have different personalities. The colours they are dressed in has no bearing on their individualism, & up til this point they aren't even aware of the clothes I'm dressing them in unless they are uncomfortable. And for the record mum dressed us (older 3 girls 20 months apart) in exactly the same things. Its only because they are twins that people have any problem with it.

Chawnda - posted on 08/06/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

I have fraternal girl twins and I also dress them alike or in coordinating outfits almost all the time. Because my girls look so different I constantly have people asking me if they are both mine, which one is older(as in not being twins), or which one is the boy and which one is the girl. It drives me bonkers sometimes. They can both be wearing pink outfits with flowers all over them and then inevitably some idiot will ask if the one with less hair is a boy.... I know that there are many people out there who don't like twins being dressed alike, but as soon as my girls are old enough to pick out their own outfits then I will let them so they each have their own sense of identity. Until then....:)


I totally agree with you! I have encountered the same idiotic comments. People always comment on how cute my girl and my boy are when they are both dresses alike in pink from head to toe! People are stupid. LOL!

Chawnda - posted on 08/06/2009

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I have g/g twins that do not look anything alike. I dress them alike most of the time. sometimes i get the same dress but in two different colors. I dont think their clothes has anything to do with their individuality. They have two totally different personalities and look nothing alike so why not dress them alike. They are adorable. When they get older they can make their own decisions on what to wear.

Krissie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have twin girls and i dress them alike but in different colours.....but when they get older they can pick what they want to wear they are just over a year old right now and there are fetrnal twins.....I hope this helps some what

Alison - posted on 08/04/2009

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Here is the answer you never heard. I also have fraternal g/g twins. I always like one outfit more than the other, so how would I choose which twins gets the "better outfit"? Of course I dress them the same! There is no other choice. They know they are different people.

Candy - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have b/b twins..They look just alike but they weren't able to tell us if they were fraternal or identical. Can explain that later. My boys are 18 now. When they were younger, I dressed them in like outfits, but different colors. I did that until they voiced their own opinion! When they were in the first grade, one of them told me he didn't want to have the same clothes as his brother, because people would think they were twins!! ha From birth my boys have had totally different personalities and once they were old enough to verbalize their thoughts on being a twin, I tried to honor their wishes. But while they were little, I enjoyed dressing them alike because I WAS PROUD OF BEING A MOM OF TWINS AND WANTED EVERYONE TO KNOW IT!

Samantha - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have identical twin girls, I very rarely dress them alike. When I do it's usually in different colors and it's when they are getting their pictures taken. I have a set of faternal twin nepews and their parents always dressed them alike, now they are 4 and they do not want to dress the same.

Wendy - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have never dressed my fraternal twin boys alike. I got many outfits when they were born and had to tell family members never to buy the same outfit for the boys. I have no problem dressing them in similar clothes like the same style t-shirt but different color.

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I generally am not crazy about dressing my fraternal twins boys in identical outfits, but I so dress them in very complemenary outfits (e.g., one in a romper with blue stripes and the other in a romper with yellow stripes). Frankly, it's easier for me to pick them out of a crowd when they are dressed in very similar outfits. I don't think dressing your kids in the same outfits is going to scar them for life -- clothes don't determine a person's personaility. Plus, they will let you know when they no longer enjoy it. In the meantime, do what makes you happy.

Tasha - posted on 08/04/2009

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i have fraternal twins who are boys and they will be four in october, when they were babies i used to always dress them alike, although they are a little older now i still have all the same outfits for both but i dont always dress them the same but maybe 3 or 4 days out of the week. its easier when getting them dressed

Gail - posted on 08/04/2009

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You know, I figure babies and toddlers don't choose what they wear anyway so really don't care if they are dressed alike. I had 3 daughters (singletons) before my twin girls and often dressed them alike as well so I really don't think it's a big deal. Plus, twins are so much work you have to have some fun with them too! It is way easier to dress them alike too, when you go shopping you just pick up 2 of the same outfit (or I like to do same outfit in different colors). Also, I like my twins to at least be equal even if they aren't dressed the same. Like I'm not going to dress one in long sleeves and the other in short sleeves. I am sure once they are old enough to dress themselves they will choose to dress differently sometimes and the same sometimes and that will be just fine too.

Eva - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have identical twin girls. I have always dressed them differently. Mostly because their clothes were given to me from a few friends who had girls before me or from going to rummage sales and clothing them that way. I had little desire to dress them alike in order to show the world they are twins. They are 13 now and are their own person with their own taste. They have been so used to not dressing alike that when I ask them, they look at me like I'm crazy. I think the idea of dressing twins alike are more of the parents desire to show to the world that "I have twins". I never felt like bragging. It has nothing to do with the children. I have always treated the girls as separate siblings as if they were born with a great time span between them (it was really only 2 minutes). I have 4 children total and they are in the middle, but the younger twin insist on taking her third place out of the four based on birth timing. They enjoy sharing a birthday. They enjoy being together all the time and sleeping in the same bed..so they are close. Being identical and dressing differently and having different hairstyles, people ask "Are they twins?" when I say they are both 13. Jealousy from other girls has made my girls wish they were not twins at times. They know that it is special, yet they get persecuted as being "one person with same likes and dislikes" all the time...they love dressing differently.

Laura - posted on 08/03/2009

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my identical twin girls r 3 months old and mostly dressed the same but there r times they r the same sets but one has pants and top and one has the overalls and there r times when one will have a change of clothes and then they r different...what annoys me the most is when i go out and they r dressed identical in pink clothing and i get asked if i have one boy and one girl... or if they r twins...like duh



i will mostly dress them the same unless they tell me different as they grow up but once they start school they will have to be the same anyway as they will have school uniforms to wear...but if they still want different then i may put one in the dress and one in the shorts and tshirt

Tanya - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hi! I have twins that are now 10, identical. We had 2 babyshowers and most of the clothes they rec'd were identical sets. It was cute, but I had already made up my mind that I wasn't dressing them alike. My grandmother thought it was cute so we would occasionally dress them identically. I say if you're wanting to dress them the same, then go for it. Their own individual personalities will eventually surface and they can make up their own minds. After all, they'll only stay lil for so long. My twins are completely different, BTW. They dress completely different, have different personalities and each share some friends and have their own.

Megan - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have a set of Fraternal B/B twins. I have never dressed them alike. They are two different people and should be treated as such. They are 7 now and they pick their own clothes out. And they have very different taste.

Rhonda - posted on 08/03/2009

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My twins are five and they mostly want to dress alike. When I buy a different outfit then there's a debate on "I want to wear it this time" or "I don't like that, I want to wear what my sister has on". So sometimes I will buy the same outfit but a different color.

Jenn - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have faternal g/g twins and will NEVER be dressing them alike, they are their own person, they are night and day. IMO - i don't know how people can dress there twins alike - they're not the same person - but thats just my opinion =)

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I have boy twins, that look nothing alike. When they were smaller, I did dress them alike. Now that they are older, they dress how they want. As babies they wont think they dont have their own identities if you do dress them alike. Parents who dont have twins dont understand that it is cute lol. They are your kids... dress them how you want to. Now that mine are older (12 yrs) they are completely opposites and I love that they developed their own fashion!

Niamh - posted on 08/03/2009

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i have b/b twins who are nearly four. they pick out their own clothes and know who ows what. they generally wear the same clothes but different colours. one has blues, yellows and the other has browns and oranges and reds. i dress them in particular colours so people know thats blue oh yeah thats ..... and also for grandparents to know whos who. i think that thye should be dressed differently as they are two people and not one also they shouldnt be reffered to as "the twins". they have names use them, you wouldnt call your firstborn "the firstborn" you use their name.

Sam - posted on 08/03/2009

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I dressed my twins exactly the same till they decided they wanted to wear different clothes, they are 16 years old now and they have and always had their own personality how can clothes determine there personality, they will grow and produce there personalities whatever they wear, its in their genes and i don't mean pants haha

Katrina - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hi Jill, I have fraternal twin girls who are almost 6 and don’t looks anything alike. I have always dressed them alike because it is sooooo cute, and if I didn't no one would even be able to tell they are twins. Now that they are getting older I let them take turns choosing what they will wear each day. For now they are fine with it and if they want to wear something different I let them. They have very different personalities and we have always had them in separate classes so they could develop individually but when they are together, they are twins. That’s their birth order, it’s not their identity.

Heather - posted on 08/03/2009

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I honestly don't think it is that big of a deal. My identical boys are almost 7. I started dressing them coordinated, but different colors so family and friends could tell them apart. One was always in something blue and the other was usually in something green or red. Family really likes to buy matching and for family pics we do the matching. When I take them shpping now, they get to pick and they still like to get something that is similar, but different colors. You know they're twins, I don't see anything wrong with having a little fun with it, they are special and unique. We acknowledge that being a twin is special, but we always focus on what make them special as a person. We have never called them the twins, they are Tait and Teag. I wasn't even a twin and my mom dressed us alike/different colors!! I don't think the clothes will scar them for life, just make sure they are treated individually.

Angela - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have identical girls they are 8 now. When they were little I dressed them the same or same outfit different colors (pink/purple) mostly. When they got to the age were they wanted to dress themselves I let them choose their clothes. They still like to dress alike sometimes but even tho they are identical they have there own personalities one is totally prissy and the other is a tomboy. Now the only time that I make them dress alike is when we are going somewhere where I do not want to be stopped all of the time "are they twins" if they are dressed the same I only get that 25% of the time not 75% of the time. Just makes it easier I found.

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