feeling depressed i want these twins out now

Tina - posted on 09/13/2012

i also went into preterm labour at 33 weeks. i went to a routine ultrasound and was complaining about not feeling well, the dr. checked me and i was 80% effaced and 1cm dialted. i live a few hours away from the hospital, so i have been here since. i am now 36 weeks pregnant and i also have had the steriods for the babies lungs. now its a waiting game. tomorrow i get my cervix sweeped, hoping that will start my labour and if not monday i will get induced if all is favorable, if not i am having a c section, i have just had enough, i am tired, incredibly uncomfortable and i miss my family like crazy. i have been contracting for the last 3 weeks as well, but i think its mainly due to a cranky uterus cause nothing is changing my cervix either. so i can relate to what you are experiencing and all i can say is hang in there, the end is in sight for the both of us. take care.

PsycheSeas - posted on 08/14/2012

Hello Samantha Whitcombe, its nice to meet you. You should not feel this way. Listen to me it is only 2-3 weeks and please believe in God. Premature babies are at risk for jaundice, autism, ADHD, infant asthma and more. You are a really brave woman because you have already made upto 33 weeks, why not wait for 2-3 weeks more. Google "twins pictures" and feel good about this gift of God.

There are people who want twins so badly that they go through IVF. Thank God for the twins. For depression and anxiety listen to some music. Music helps us to feel better especially music backed up by scientific research. Here is a link
http://sounddepressiontreatment.com/

Aniqah - posted on 11/14/2010

Hi
I had my babies at 29 weeks. Let me tell u f i had the option i would have gone a bit longer. It’s so much worse having ur babies born but then they’re stuck in ICU. My twins were born but still away from me in ICU for 7 weeks. They’ve been home 3 weeks now and only now even though they’re already 2 months old, am i feeling like a mother.

All the best to u.

Nete - posted on 11/13/2010

Hey I was just reading Jenny's post about the postpartum depression.... you know I think its pretty normal to reach a point where your so sleep deprived exhausted, on top of your hormones tripping of the rector scale.... for the first while ...that if you find yourself sitting on the floor sobbing over a missing sock ... it just comes with the territory ..don't be to hard on yourself, it will pass!! ....and hey for those of you on long term bed rest in the hospital GOD Bless you deserve a medal!!! Just love it when I hear woman talk about the 'special'' time of pregnancy... it was special...alright!!! geee... lol

Nete - posted on 11/13/2010

I went through the same at week 30...out right terrible! They had me on an hourly monitoring machine after I got home, I would fake it and lie about the contractions, just to avoid being put back in the hospital and ordeal of them pulling me out of labor, with all drugs know to man....my water broke at 33 1/2 week and they finally allowed me to have my babies... being it was close to the 34 week somewhat safe point ... you already 35 weeks ..chances is you had them by now.(14 days later)..if not hang in there every 10 minutes count... be prepared for NICU ....looks like most of us have been there... 10 days for us, congrats and best of luck! the first 2 years are the toughest ...yeiiii:o)... remember every stage goes fast! enjoy you bundles of joy...before you know it they will be running in two different directions at once lol..... I go to bed every night whopped and wiped out... but so so so..marveled about just how I got to be, so lucky and blessed with my twin miracles.... its fantastic!!!

Jenny - posted on 11/08/2010

I had my twins at 38 weeks, I had went into preterm labor at 29 week and was on bedrest until I was 36 weeks and then they wouldnt come for anything lol. they wound up being 8 lbs, and 7.9lbs It was very hard for me to lay in the bed and not do anything but when they got here I had plenty to do, but i did have postpartum depression so if you still feel blue after the babies are here let your dr know, they can help with that.

Kuceli - posted on 11/07/2010

Hi Samantha, You are not alone in this. I had twins and they are 20months old now. I was on bed rest for 1 month in the hospital, trying to keep them in. I gave birth to them at 33 weeks! One of them was 1lbs and 9 oz, but the other one was 4 lbs and 3 oz. I hated the hospital, hated a lot of people because i thought i was forced to stay in other to keep them in the womb for them to mature the more. Just like you said, I wanted them out but at the same time, i wanted them to be as mature as possible. Good luck raising them cos I tell you, they are handfull!

Alice - posted on 11/06/2010

Just hang in there!
I went into preterm labor when I was at 20 weeks and remained on bedrest through 36 weeks. Believe me, you want to keep the babies in there as long as you can. Even when then were born at 36 weeks, they both had to be taken to the NICU and remained there for 3 weeks. That means straight from the C-section into the NICU and unable to hold them for the first week because they had breathing tubes in place. Bedrest is no fun. I had no warning. I actually went to see the obstetrician during my lunchtime from work, but he admitted me to the hospital right away, so I couldn't even go back to work before being put out on bedrest for 4 months. You are at 35 weeks and almost there! It will be worth it!

Penelope - posted on 11/06/2010

My pregnancy was not as complicated as yours but I distinctly remember being bored and uncomfortable and VERY ready over the last 8 weeks or so. Mine were induced at 37 weeks. I know it seems interminable and that you're physically run down but it is SO worth it the longer they are in. Every day makes a huge difference in their development. Intellectually I am sure you know this to be true, but emotionally it does little to ease the impatience. There isn't much I can offer to make you feel better, except the reassurance that the longer they stay in, the better off they'll be. Hang in there, mama! You're doing a good thing for those babies!

Vickie - posted on 11/06/2010

I went into preterm labor as well and was stopped twice! We were still a month early when my water broke. But they were healty 6.8 & 7.5 and a month early. Thank God I would've never made it another month!! But it was hard and stressful knowing that you should hang on a little longer!!

Katie - posted on 11/05/2010

I went into pre term labor with my twins at 30 weeks was put in the hosptial on strict bed rest for 4 weeks...the docs wanted me to go until 36 weeks but the boys had other plans I had them at 34 weeks and they were very healthy weighing in at 4lbs 12oz each. They did have to be in the NICU for 18 days but that was due to their eating and sucking issues. I know it may seem like forever now but once they are here it wont seem as bad. they are better off in the womb as long as they can! Keeping you and your children in my thoughts! Good luck when they arrive!

Lisa - posted on 11/05/2010

hi.... thinking of you as the last few weeks go by. even if they feel like an eternity. My twins (2nd pregnancy) was ok untill at 27 weeks i ended up in hospital till they were born at 36 weeks... which is amazing cause i had an irritable uterus.... i was going in to labour some weeks and i was even rushed to the emergency labour ward one evening to have a ceasour (which i didnt end up having), cause there heart rate kept dropping out and for somereason they couldnt find them very well... but that worked out and we hung on for 6 more weeks in hospital... Is there a sitting down hobby you can do, books to read, DVD's, you can watch... and so forth... Once these darlings are born it is crazy and sleep, well we would like it to happen more, but its tricky.... also try and get a net work of friends and family or the community support agencey's to help you or be on stand by so that when it gets hard, you will have help with the babies, or so that you can get some rest or time out..... maybe you have a net work of friends/family to help but dont hesitate to use them, even if they don't get what having 2 babies at once really means... and the extra work it may envolve.... its pretty cool having to babies at once but busy too... so take care and rest and hope your labour eventually goes well.... look after you... as your the mum and you are important.... :-)

Deana - posted on 11/05/2010

I'm sure all of us mothers of multiples can relate to what your going through. I wish I had this kind of support system when I delivered my twin girls at 32 weeks, that was 6 years ago. I started leaking fluid at 26 and a half weeks and remained in the HOSPITAL on bed rest for 6 long weeks. I remember how depressing that was. I also had a 2 year old son at home to spend all day thinking about all the things he was doing that I was missing. Looking back, I'm glad I was able to stay focused and think about those little babies I was growing, Everyday had a goal...just make it to the next and the next. My girls remained in the NICU for 5 and 6 weeks before they were healthy enough to come home. They are healthy energetic 6 year olds now. My advice would be to make a journal of every thing that happens everyday and make the best of every moment that they are still inside growing because they won't be forever and the next few years will fly by. Just think...this is the closest you will ever be to them again! Hang in there, they will be sooo worth it!

Liesha - posted on 11/05/2010

I felt the same way at 32 weeks. I had a horrible pregnancy and at 32 weeks I had a meltdown and cried and said I couldn't go on. Surprisingly, I delivered my babies the next day, due to preeclampsia. Because my pregnancy was very stressful, they told me to try not to worry about the size and condition of the babies, because often the babies will grow quicker in reponse to the stress. They were both born over 4 lbs and after 3 weeks in the NICU, they were home! Hang in there! It's hard to believe, but soon this will all be over and you will be loving your beautiful boys!

Karen - posted on 11/05/2010

i feel for you..i remember wishing my girls would come out and i didnt care how and i went to 38 weeks in the end,make the most of the peace and rest while you can.When i was pregnant people used to say to me i was lucky but as i looked like the back end of a double decker bus i couldnt see what they meant and the first couple of years are hard but i am so lucky i had them and i can see this now good luck

Heather - posted on 11/05/2010

I understand how uncomfortable t is! I felt miserable my whole pregnancy with twins and the last few months is the worst! I struggled with being depressed to. This may not be very helpful, but if I could go back to those last few weeks I would have let myself be more ok with resting. Once those babies come there is no rest, not even at 20 months old! I know, it's hard to relax, try a heat pad, spa music, candles, or peppermint oil/lotion. Hang in there!

Tristin - posted on 11/05/2010

Oh boy do I know how you feel!!!! I carried my twins to 38 weeks! I was on bedrest my 1st & 3rd trimester and had a kidney infection for the last month... painful! My little girl was on my bladder! I was beyond beyond beyond misrable! I thought that the docs were gonna induce me at 35 weeks and was prepared until they said no you're doing fine. I was so so depressed. I cried alot. I couldn't get comfortable at all.... And the pain with the kidney was really bad. The cherry on top was that I was suppose to get induced and the night before at 11:30 PM the hosspital called to say that they were booked and couldn't take me until the following day or the that weekend (it was Memorial Weekend). I was PIS*ED & CRIED..... But, then I realized... the following day was May 23rd! It was my (late) father's birthday... and it all went away... it was meant to be! All the misery you are in... is for those precious little babies! You hate it now, but you won't regret a thing when you deliver!!! By the way.... I ended up going C after 14 hours of labor.. I couldn't dialate beyond a 3. And contrations were on top of each other...!!! My twin bascially was the same way with her births!!!! Hang in there!!!! You'll be happy that you did!!!!! HUGS! & Congratulations!!!!!!

Julie - posted on 11/05/2010

Yeah towards the end it just got frustrating. I spent months on "couch arrest" and trips to L&D and "finally" got to 36 weeks and thought "okay, we've been trying to keep them in for four months, can they please come out now!?!?" It's not fun at all but yup, the more time they have, the better chance they can go home with you.

Samantha - posted on 11/05/2010

Hey... hope things are getting better, all I can say is I've been there :oi I went through the same thing with my boys except they had to deliver at 32 weeks. Bed rest was one of the hardest expereinces I've ever gone through; however if the babies don't have to stay in the NICU you'll be SO happier. We had to stay for 4 weeks and it was tough. So it's kind of a trade off, one way or another they're going to have to mature and grow. My "babies" are turning 11 in Feb., and it all seems like a strange dream now... but I do remember it being really hard. Try and "relax"... sure huh? I remember so many people told me it was going to get easier when the boys got older.... frankly they were full of it, enjoy the time when they sleep and don't run around crazy, the older they get the louder it gets :0) Wouldn't trade a moment of any of it and someday you'll be sitting in my shoes...... Good luck!

Samantha R.

Polly - posted on 11/05/2010

Dearest Samantha,
My twins are just about 21 years old. My mom gave me the best advice back in the day "You leave the hospital with a prize." (nurses humor) And she is right. Also it is easier to take care of the twins inside you than when they come out. lol. This will not last much longer hang in there. Polly

Mary - posted on 11/05/2010

I understand how you feel, but in the Big Picture, a few more weeks inside will be more beneficial to your babies. Rest while you can now because you will be a busy mom as soon as you have those two darling infants at home! Read good books, keep your feet up, drink lots of water, and take it easy!

My twins were born via c-section almost at their due date and were robust, healthy babies (8 lb 10 oz and 9 lb. 13 oz). I am grateful they were healthy and I think that bedrest had a huge role in helping them grow so well!

Madeline - posted on 11/05/2010

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I went into pre-term labor at 31 weeks. Went into the hospital and was put on a Mag-Sulfate drip for three or four days. Thought my eyes were going to burn out of my head. I was miserable...I went home and was on complete bed rest for the remainder of my preganacy. I was taking pills to stop the labor but was getting contractions all the time. I felt nausous and cranky and tired. I ended up having them at 35 5 days. I gave birth to two beautiful 6.5 lb healthy babys (boy and girl). I'm they didn't even need to go to the NICU. Looking back I remember being so miserable. But hang in there, the longer they are inside the better. But AS SOON AS you feel something different than what you are feeling now GO TO THE HOSPITAL!!! If your babies get in any type of distress GET THEM OUT IMMEDIATELY!!!! SCREAM FOR C-SECTION!!!! The faster those babie's come out the better!!!!

Good Luck!!!!!

Let me now what happens!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 11/04/2010

I would just keep reminding yourself that you are almost done and every additional day they stay in there is better for the babies. I personally didn't really enjoy my pregnancy with twins at any point -- I just viewed it as something to be endured. I would just try to sleep and rest as much as possible since in a few short weeks you won't be getting any sleep at all!!!

Khadijah - posted on 11/04/2010

Hi Samantha! I think all of us M.O.T. can relate to how you are feeling right now. By my 29th week (or possibly before) I was MISERABLE!!! No sleep position was comfortable. The pre-term labor problem were a whole other issue, and I was so swollen I thought I would pop! Most food made me vomit throughout my entire pregnancy so I HAd to be medicated for it!! So by 35 weeks I wanted them OUT for sure!! There were nights when I was brought to tears I was so miserable, but at the same time I knew I wanted to carry them as long as I could to ensure they would both be developed and healthy. I made it to 38wks and from the moment they appeared in the O.R. (C-section) all of that misery melted away. Hang in there Hun. I know its rough but those little babies are such a blessing and right now they are depending on you in so many ways.



BTW: Because I carried my girls until 38w I took both of them home on the day that I left. ONe of my girls were taken to the NICU right after delivery but that was due to low glucose levels. She improved after 3 days and they brought her to me the day before I went home! Best of luck



((((((Big Hug))))

CHERYL - posted on 11/04/2010

hi i cant really imagine how hard it is as i went to prem labour very quick at 32w after a very gud pregnancy(just worried lots as i never felt much movement as my 2 placentas were at the front). my labour was around 5hrs long,they 3.5lb each. but i never saw them for another 4hrs as they were wisked away they were in nicu for 2 wks tube fed so missed out on the 1st precious moments.it wasnt nice to just look at them in incubators.try to enjoy as much as u can b4 they come cause trust me u wont have a minute when they come. good luck hun its orth it in the end

Brianna - posted on 11/04/2010

I had a singleton pregnancy before my twins and that pregnancy was cake walk compaired to my twins, so I feel your pain! I could hardly sleep, I was sick to my stomach all the time, could never find a comfortable position, ect. I went into labor at 35weeks and 2 days and wish more than anything my body could have held out a little longer. Both my boys went to the NICU and had to stay for only one day, but they had a variety of issues due to their prematurity including blood sugar problems, jaundice, breathing issues, one even needed a feeding tube for a little while. They both came home with us 4 days after delivery but they were both very small. Born at 5 pounds and 5 pounds 2 oz they both dropped to 4 1/2 pounds at the hospital. It's scary to see babies so little, especially when they are your own. My advice to you would be to relax and rest as much as you possibly can and keep those babies in for a couple more weeks. Believe me, once those babies are born you will forget all about how uncomfortable you were during those last few weeks and it will be totally worth it! Congrats and good luck to you!

Lynn - posted on 11/04/2010

Trust me I was the same way not I wish they waited longer to come out. I felt like they were falling out of me all the time with all the pressure they placed on my cervix. I ended up getting induced around my 35 week and dont get me wrong I love them so much but enjoy the time you have now before they come. Live will change so much some for the good and some for the bad (like wishing to sleep in for just an extra hour). Keep your head up it will come faster than you know it!

Chairettie - posted on 11/01/2010

I did not have serious comlications with my girls (they are almost 4 months now) I just wanted to say how relieved I was at 37 1/2 weeks that my girls were healthy and all the pain and discomfort was worth the outcome. I understand how you are feeling, I had to keep telling myself I want them healthy...I think everyone who gets this far is just wanting them out because it is so hard to carry multiples. Baby B (Izabella) was breach and was suppose to weigh nearly a pound more so my Drs recommended a C section...if she was head down and not 20% larger I would not have agreed to it. Best of luck to you

Heather - posted on 10/31/2010

Ugh! I had contractions every 3 minutes for 2 weeks that didn't affect my cervix! They finally did a c-section.

Celeste - posted on 10/31/2010

I remember feeling like that as well! I was exhausted and in pain, I couldn't sleep well. Plus, I was on bedrest, in and out of the hospital. It was pretty isolating and depressing.

Totally normal for wanting the out but wanting to keep them in as long as possible. Hang in there!

Jessica - posted on 10/30/2010

I went into preterm labor at 26 weeks and spent 12 days in the hospital on Mag. When they released me, I was still having contractions, but they were infrequent and not affect my cervix. I continued to have contractions, which became more frequent and stronger at week 35 and they did start to affect my cervix. I was miserable, but hoping they would stay in until at least week 37. They did, and then my doctor ended up having to induce me at week 38. By that point, I was more than happy to have them out!! They were born perfectly healthy. The only additional care was that they both had to go in the warmer for about a half hour.

Jenmy - posted on 10/29/2010

Honey try to relax, I was feeling exactly like that at 35 weeks and I regretted it, cause my twins were born at 35 weeks and some days and what I went through I don't want anybody to go through...they both were in the ICU, I couldn't meet my kids or hold them until next day (cause of the c-section) and in the end I have to go home with only one baby cause baby B have to stay for another week...going to the hospital every night and see my poor baby and have to say goodbye was the hardest thing in my life. Trust me, you don't to see your babies like that, read a book or do something to keep your mind busy. Good Luck!

Kathy - posted on 10/29/2010

When I found out I was having twins, the first thing in my mind was the stories I heard all my life of my mom and her twin sister being premature and weighing 2 pounds. I immediately started praying for my babies to be big and healthy and full term. When I was 35 weeks, (what the dr said was my goal) I got out of bed and cleaned the house, moved the furniture, cleaned out the closets....to no avail. I carried them 39 weeks, and they were 6.5 lbs each. I couldn't sleep, I could barely eat, I could barely walk. The last month was truly brutal. I really feel your pain. ;( I will tell you that the day they were born I felt fabulous, and I felt like every second had been worth it! I know it's hard -- but it isn't much longer. hang in honey. it will be worth it!

Theresa - posted on 10/29/2010

I know exactly how you feel too!! I went into preterm labor with my twins at 24 weeks. They stopped my labor and I was put on bedrest until 34 weeks. My c-section was moved up quickly, apparently my body couldn't take the stress anymore and I became sick. My twins were pretty healthy, despite having to be in the NICU for a week, but looking back if I could've kept them in a little longer I certainly would have. For those 10 weeks of bedrest, I was depressed, uncomfortable, tired, unable to eat etc etc etc. Just keep telling your self, it will be over soon. That day when your angels are born, you'll start to forget about how crummy you felt and start focusing on how amazingly beautiful and in love you are with your little ones. It will all be worth it! Keep your chin up.....Smile!

Kennie - posted on 10/29/2010

Being pregnant with twins is definitely a challenge!!! My first pregnancy... singleton was a breeze and a picture perfect pregnancy, labor AND delivery.

My twins wreaked havoc on me. I went into preterm labor three times (at 21 weeks, 30 weeks, and 32 weeks) and had a lot of problems during my pregnancy with my twins. I was hospitalized multiple times and had to be on that horrible magnesium drip!!! I was out of work for quite a long time.

Like you, I couldn't wait to have the twins but at the same time I wanted to make sure they stayed in as long as possible so they can mature. I also had the steroid shots and all the wonderful tests that comes with having twins.

Thankfully I was able to hold on until 37 weeks then they had to be taken out via c-section urgently. Thankfully they were both very healthy and we were able to take them home with us.

I know it's hard. Hang in there. It's easy to get depressed because being pregnant with twins is definitely no walk in the park. In the end, you'll have two wonderful and beautiful babies that will be the joy of your life. Good luck to you. Once again, hang in there. I will be praying for you.

Charlotte - posted on 10/29/2010

I totally know how you feel!!!!! I had exactly the same prob at 33 weeks and was in hospital for 9 days. When I went hom I had my v stupid (now ex) MIL keeping an eye on me cos I was suposed to stay lying down as much as poss! It was the longest 3 weeks of my life! It really ruined my last days of not having kids! I became pretty much annorexic, I was so stressed by the situation! I got induced at 37 and 1/2 weeks due to liver problems and I was relieved to say the least!

Danielle - posted on 10/29/2010

I had my twins at 34 weeks. I wanted them out so bad....but in retrospect I wish I had been able to keep them in a couple more weeks after that. I had 2 rounds of steroids and my babies were still in the NICU for 11 days. hang in there, you will get there...try to rent some movies and order some comfort food to try to relax. My prayers are with you...and try to rest...the first year is CRAZY!! (my twins are a year old)!