Fighting

Sheila - posted on 07/13/2010

Oh, another thing we did was if they fought over a toy or an object, then that toy/object got taken away for the rest of the day...

Sheila - posted on 07/13/2010

It can be very stressful. My girls fight, but not very often any more. We started early on making them give each other a hug and apologize if they hit each other, pulled hair, etc. It has helped tremendously! At that age they were really good about doing it right away. Now they sometimes have to sit in time-out and think about it before they are ready to say "Sorry." Good luck! The fun is just beginning. LOL!

Jennifer - posted on 07/11/2010

Thanks! It does seem like they fight over whatever the other has, sippy cup, hat, toy...so on!

Heather - posted on 07/11/2010

My girls fight on occasion but nothing major. One of them has been picking on the other since before they were born... literally, during the ultrasound we watched her line up a kick to her sisters head. It was almost a proud day when her sister stood up to her for the first time.

For the most part my twins get a long great, but they are siblings, and siblings fight sometimes... I agree with Krista Hicks. Just reinforce who had it first, try to teach sharing, make them give back toys when they take it, discipline when they hurt each other and explain that they aren't allowed to do it because they hurt sissy or whatever. It will never totally go away, until they are grown and both out of the house (and then only maybe). But it can improve if you work at it.

Karen - posted on 07/11/2010

my twin girls are 8 now and are getting into a new kind of fighting, not hitting but arguing all the time! Usually ends up with one crying. I am so wishing to separate them, I made them separate rooms and have started to make them take 'alone' time but they usually still hang out in the same room and Allyssa says, get out! this is my room! and then Brianna cries and says you hate me! slams the door, goes to her own room. They still always sleep in Allyssas room but its nice to be able to separate them. I later find them quietly playing and they ask if they can play together again. As soon as the fights start, they go back in their room. I dont know what else to do! In a store it can be a real pain because I cant separate them. But sometimes they play together like angels too.

Laura - posted on 07/10/2010

Mine are 3 and they fight ALL the time! I usually ignore or tune them out unless they are really going at it then I just put them in bed usually they end up playing or falling asleep. I was hopeing it would end soon....but I don't know

Michele - posted on 07/10/2010

Our twin girls are 1 but they have been going at it since oh probably 7 months old. They take turns, one week one is the aggressor and the next week they switch. They steal toys, pull hair, push each other down and claw at each others face. It is bad but like someone said they also kiss each other and laugh together too so it all works out.

Krista - posted on 07/10/2010

I think most kids that age, as they are learning to share, will do those things. To me the best way to handle it is to always use a normal tone with your voice as you correct. I would just say something like, "No, no, she had that first. You play with 'this' (handing it to her) until she is finished." Even sitting in the floor playing with them for a second to distract them from the item they are both wanting may work. If they sense anger, frustration, etc. in your voice or on your face, they will act out. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Renee - posted on 07/10/2010

My girls are 27mths and they are usually pretty good...but OMG when they fight all hell breaks loose. I spoke to their daycare teacher about it and this was her advise..."do they call out for mum when fighting begins? YEP!!! well leave them to it,unless its biting or hard hitting, mum is the problem because they rely on you to break it up, this is how they get you attention,and they dont learn to sort out their own problems"...well I thought thats pretty hard core for 2yrs BUT...I tried it and was surprised at the results, was harder for me than them, I had to shrug my shoulders and walk away, they pretty much stopped because they didnt have my attention! it may/may not work for you but you can only try...and Jennifer, its usually over the exact same toy, which is exactly the same as the one one the floor next to them..lol hope this helps....

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2010

Oh they can be awful!

Janna - posted on 07/09/2010

I am sorry that I do not have advise, but glad to hear that it is normal. My 9month old b-g twins are already starting!!

Tiffany - posted on 07/08/2010

They don't grow out of it either. My 6 yr old B/G twins argue about everything! One says "black" the other says "white". If I don't buy 2 of everything (cars, dolls, etc.) they end up fighting over the 1 thing, even when at the time we're buying it, the other one didn't want whatever it was. I even had to buy a baby doll for my son when he was 2. Thankfully, my kids don't pull hair or hit (very often).

I have a friend with the same problem (her kids are 5 and 7) and she says she doesn't intervene unless there's blood involved.

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2010

I have one that is starting to bite too and she thinks it is the funniest thing ever! They sure get into trouble! We also have a 3 y/o, a 4 y/o and a 12 y/o

CHERYL - posted on 07/08/2010

my g-b twins are just 1 have started already one bites the other smacks always pulling toy from each other, but on the other hand i often hear them giggling with each other.so i just think its like anyother siblin relastionship.i have 2 sisters and a brother and it was always like world war 3 in our house when we were younger.

Elaine - posted on 07/07/2010

Hey i have twin boys who are 3 and they do nothing but fight like mad, when younger i bought two of each toy now i dont they are at nursery and have to learn to share, its upsetting watching them fighting i really think they need space on their own away from each other hopefully the fighting should stop soon x

Jasmin - posted on 07/07/2010

Lol..yes i have this same exact problem everyday!!! It can be very stressful at times but whenever i see mine get started i always scream nap time..that makes them stop (sometimes)!!