Have 9 month old twins boys is it too soon to think about another baby??? Ideas experiences please

Wendy - posted on 07/27/2012

noooooooooo lol i had 5 under 5 the closer the better i think they will grow up together i was pregnant with my 3rd child when my twins were 3 months 4th when my new baby was 4 months and then it took 2 yrs for my last 1

Mersadees - posted on 07/25/2012

if i were you wait until they are able to feed themselves and walk. then think about it lol i have an almost 1 year old and i just thinking about what i had 2 of her and one on the way oh my she is into everything and when you tell her no she thinks its funny and does it anyway so if i were you wait lol i am waiting until she is at least 3 or 5 which ever i feel ready lol that and i can afford lol and just think how much diapers will cost with a 3 on the way you will have a hard time potty training while with a newborn on the way and if they are not potty trained by the time the baby is born whew i would hate to be in your shoes lol

Mersadees - posted on 06/23/2012

i would wait until they start school that way when you get tired and your ankles swell and stuff that way you can have you time while they are school that's what i have decided to do and i already want another baby as well but i am trying to make a goal of it to wait until Saphira is 5 and in school to even have to think about it lol i want 3 kids total lol i will be 27 for my next one

Tiffany - posted on 06/19/2012

Ok so I'm in the same situation 9 mo old boy/girl twins. I think all the time about another baby! Then I realize that sometimes my boyfriend makes baby #3 and decide to wait. Lol he's a great dad but doesn't always get it. I would wait until they were closer to 2. Then see how you feel

Carolyn - posted on 06/15/2012

I have twin boys as well.They are 9 months and I may be pregnant again,but my problem is I am afraid that I will have all kids n diapers and one out of diapers.If I am I am thinking about adoption for this 1.

Vicki - posted on 01/04/2010

my boys arte now 3 years old we were thinking of trying for another one over a year ago and i must admit i'm glad we have put aa hold on that for the time been as i know my boys are good and loving but they have also started to have big tantrums and are to me more demanding now then when they were babies so we will be leving at least 5 years beetween them all i can say is if you are feeling tired emotionally give it more time ?

Nicola - posted on 01/03/2010

i fell pregnant when my twins were 10 month and have a lovely son they love him to bits.they all go sleep at same time in the day and at night too it works for me

Catherine - posted on 01/02/2010

I got pregnant with my twins when my son was 8 months old. It is so hard being pregnant chasing after a toddler and after the babies are born it seems like you can never give enough attention to each child. I am so glad that I had the kids this close eventhough it is hard. I know they will be great playmates and like I say to my husband " the buckmans will rule the school" good luck

Tracey - posted on 12/30/2009

My twins r nearly 7 and my little girl is 4. I found the age gap helped as my twin girl just wanted to help when i had the baby. It depends on the individual and how your twins are.

Kelly - posted on 12/29/2009

hiya i have 7 children i had twins on number 5 and 6 all mine are very close in age when they twins were 2 years old their little was born a couple of week after, i love having a large family and i think close in age is alot better!

Cynthia - posted on 12/28/2009

My son was 3 and a half and my twin girls were 18 months old when my youngest daugter was born soooo I found out I was preggos when the twins were 9 months old. I really love that the kids are close togather and it works for me. Know one ever says having a baby is easy peasy so imagine having 3 or more. I'm pretty frazzeled when the kids are sleeping and my husband comes home from work, sometimes we try to hang out just the both of us and we passout on eachother. It's tough at first but as the kids get older it just get's a lil bit easier. My kids are close very very close to eachother and I love seeing them interact with eachother. Just find out what you really want and what you think you can handle.

Amy - posted on 12/28/2009

I have a 4 1/2 year old, b/g twins that turned 2 in october and their baby sister was born in August so only 22 months apart there, It is so much easier to deal with with only 1. However having the 4 is sometimes a handful but I wouldn't change it for anything in the world.

Pros: Grow up very close

All go to school together

love playing together

so many special moments....

Cons: Need big car, so more petrol

bigger food bill

Arguements

Kary - posted on 12/25/2009

We are in the same situation-but the opposite, lol! When my daughter was 9 months my husband and I decided to try again- we had a lot of reasons to try again, so we made a list, which was very helpful in making our decision. Anyhow, we got pregnant right away-- with twins. We don't regret it all- we are actually very excited! I think, if you think that you are ready, and every part of you feels ready, then you should go ahead and try again. Your twins are either walking, or on the verge of walking, and by the time your next baby is born, the twins with be a year and a half to two years old.... if that sounds like a good age gap-- then rock on, and get working, lol!!! Good luck to you on making this decision, I know it's not always easy, but go with what feels right for you!!

Michelle - posted on 12/21/2009

Well I have twin 6 yr old boys, a 4 yr old boy, and a 2 yr old boy. I personally would not want them any closer together unless you have lots of help, a great support group, and a very involved, supportive husband.

It's expensive. You need to have even more of everything. You might think "oh, I can hand down the clothes." but that might not be the case if your youngest turns out to outgrow the older ones. You will be extremely tired, more than you realize, hence the good support. Diapers, Diapers, Diapers. You might think, "Oh, I'll potty train the oldest and it won't be an issue." Potty training happens when it happens. Also, think about the quality of time you can spend with the twins and youngest. I know people have triplets or more don't have a choice, but you do. Think about do you want your kids in activities, any mommy and me activities, etc. It gets expensive. Preschool, expensive.

I don't mean to be a downer, but those are thoughts that first come to my mind. Just really think about it. Ask yourself, Why are you doing this, reasons, etc? Would this be best for the family as a whole? Can we financially afford this? Is this the best for the twins? Should I spend more time with them before getting pregnant?

Remember the third one might feel like a third wheel sometimes with have twin siblings.

Hope this helps. Just think about your reasons and then do what you want.

Liz - posted on 12/20/2009

It's all up to you. I have a set of 18 month old b/g twins, and by the time they are going to be two we are expecting our third child. It's all personal preference though, and don't let anyone talk you out of what you want to do!

Teresa - posted on 12/19/2009

I knew that I could not handle 3 kids at home full time w/out any breaks, so I wanted my 3rd child to be born when my girls were 4.5-5 years old and in school during the day. God had other plans for us though and my son was born when the girls were 6.25 years old. It was a good spacing for us since my ex left before the baby was born and my girls are a HUGE help w/ him. They adore their brother (now 21 months old) and he adores them.... even when they all drive each other (and me) nuts.

Ciera - posted on 12/14/2009

also, just think about what u already hear from parent's of singles. people think they couldn't handle twins until they get them then they get annoyed w the people who say, "...not me". people who have triplets might think the same of us who talk about how much twins are to handle. you can handle whatever you have. if u don't think you could take 3 just wait til you have 3 and you realize, hmmm...i survive, they survive, this is no big deal at all.

Ciera - posted on 12/14/2009

my sister has 3 children each 13months from the previous one. (that's 3 kids in 2 years, 2 year old, 1 year old and newborn) i have b/g twins 10 months old. My husband and I are neither trying nor preventing but kinda hoping that maybe it will ahppen soon. My sister's kids (particularly the 2 and 1 year olds) are almost like twins bc of how close they are in age and relationally and then she has her newborn and she manages just fine. She actually is trying to get pregnant again now. between us, she may be crazy about that but hey, i thought she was crazy when trying for the third but he has just come perfectly into their family. this has been my encouragement when I wondered if i was being stupid for wanting to get pregnant now. If you and your husband feel you are ready for another one, you probably are. most people would right off say they couldn't take another one for "at least a while". i have also heard so many people say that having the first one is hard, having the second is harder then having the third doesn't seem like any adjustment at all...just adding another one to the mix. i have heard people with only singles AND people with twins say this. good luck!

April - posted on 12/12/2009

WOW!!! I couldn't do it. If your twins were natural you know your chances of having twins again are HIGH like 1 in 8. My husband and I talked about it but my aunt had twins and they had a baby when the twins were a little over a year and I always felt bad for the youngest one he was always left out because his twin brothers did everything together. I think that why I wouldn't mind only having my twins. I don't want my twins to get all the unwanted attention from strangers just because they are twins you know.... I would feel guilty... but thats me..... if you have more kids good luck with that!!!!

Keisha - posted on 12/12/2009

I would say it is not to early i have 9 mths old twin girl and have been think about it too, also have 2.5 yr old,

Irene - posted on 12/11/2009

I also wanted another child when my girls were that age and if thats what you want then go for it, i found once the girls hit the terrible twos i was soooo thankful that i didnt have another. Twin toddlers are a handfull and at nearly three now its not getting any easier lol i went from wanting another to now saying no more kids for me ha ha i think the terrible twos has scared me for life , i cannot imagine having to care for a younger child as well as the twins at this stage. In saying this my twins are super wild and many people have done what you are thinking about doing and lived to tell the tale ( mabey just with a couple more grey hairs )

Kim - posted on 12/09/2009

Perfect timing! That's when I got pregnant after having my twins, and three years later I have to say it was ideal! Admittedly it's rough in the beginning, but you get the diaper stage over and done with, still have a lot of baby items to use for your next one, and best off all the three kids are close enough in age that now they play together beatifully! Our second pregnancy was not planned, but looking back I couldn't have timed it any better! Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 12/09/2009

Since you asked, I would say GO FOR IT!! My husband and I were so out of minds and tired the first several months after our boys were born that we said, 'We already have two, there is no way we are going through this again!'. Then by the time things got so much easier, I was 40 and he was 42 and we made the decision to just stick with our boys. In hindsight, I feel that we should have just jumped in again before we got to the 'easier' stages of parenting that way we wouldn't have known the difference by the time the new one arrived.

Desiree - posted on 11/30/2009

Well, all I can say is if you can handle it, go for it! I have a 4 year old girl and 5 month old twin boys... I'm already whining about another baby.... I want one sooo bad. I wouldn't mind twins again either...
Good luck! :D :D :D
***Especially if you family and friends near by willing to help***

Anita - posted on 11/29/2009

I had both my babies 10 months apart and it's extremely hard! I think I have PND actually! (although I am hoping it gets better ...). I think the best age gap would be when the older child (or children in your case) are old enough to communicate well... eg. when I put my two (they are 5 months and 15 months old) to bed at night it's a bloody nightmare, I usually have both crying and it's impossible to keep one quiet until I get the other to sleep. It's also very exhausting because they are at different developmental stages. It is starting to get slightly easier now but was extremely difficult when my youngest was just born and my oldest was only 10 months old!!!! I am having a hard time at the moment with my oldest (who is only 15 months old) poking his younger sister in the eyes and mouth. He is still so young and a baby himself and I feel guilty that he has had to 'grow up' a lot quicker than usual.



I think an age gap of AT LEAST 2 years is perfect (eg the older children would be 2 when the younger one is born).

Ladies please DON'T HAVE YOUR CHILDREN 10 MONTHS APART LOL!

Ashley - posted on 11/28/2009

Our twin girls are almost 15 months and I have been ready for some time to have another baby. Although it is harder to keep up with two walking, they need us less than they did when they couldn't move around on their own. Go with your gut ;-) and know that whatever decision you make will be the right one for your family.

Jayn - posted on 11/28/2009

I had my third 2.5 years after the twins ( all boys) and I think now ( little 'un is 8, twins almost 11) that another year wait would have been good, or a year earlier! There is no 'right' time so just go with what feels right for you. Good luck ( but just a hint - 3 in nappies is NOT good!!)

J xx

Haylli - posted on 11/28/2009

Thats funny you asked that question because I have twin girls that are 7 months old and I just found out I am almost 2 months pregnant, totally freaked out but the more I think about it the easier it is to see possible. I wasnt planning on more kids right away but I am glad that they will be all close in age and going to school around the same time:) If your ready I say go for it or just whatever happens happens, aparently that is our moto. Good luck to you.

Debra - posted on 11/28/2009

Our twin boys were 26 months old when their younger sister was born. Their older sister was two weeks shy of 24 months when they were born. This worked well for us. All the best what ever you decide is best for you.

Rebecca - posted on 11/27/2009

Don't do it. I went through the same feelings when my twin boys were about 8 to 9 months. Fortunately, one of my friends who had twins told me to wait because toddler twins are such a handful. I'm so glad I listened to her. I think I would kill myself if I had an infant to watch right now in addition to the twins. I think 6 to 10 months is a honeymoon period for twins, but once they start walking, things get much more difficult. Then they start to get into the tantrum phase and it gets even crazier. Ultimately, you need to decide what is right for you, but I would say wait until they start walking before you decide anything. I definitely want more, but toddler twin boys plus a newborn just seems like a nightmare to me...

Amanda - posted on 11/27/2009

we got pregnant with our twins when our oldest son was eight months old. they came home when our oldest was 16 months old. the hardest part was double diapers. but as far as everything else we perferred it. they share clothes, beds, carseats, etc. but the only things we are not looking forward to is them being so close in school and the expense of school supplies and classrings, proms, cars, etc. but we enjoy it. it works for us, but that many that small is challenging and not for everyone.

Shantel - posted on 11/27/2009

hey my boys are 6 moths and im trying again i want my children to be close together. and i would like to get it all out of the way so i can go back to work ect. and ppl always go oh its way to early but that there thought not urs if u want to have one now GO FOR IT.

Sara - posted on 11/26/2009

If you want another one I say go for it...as long as you and your partner both agree upon it and you can afford too. I had twins and then 20 months later had another one. It was and still is hard but I like having them close together. I would like to have another by next year.

Jodie - posted on 11/26/2009

if you and ur partner are ready then its no one elses decision. my partner would have another one now and our twins are 7mths old. however we r gettin married in 2011 and i want to trim up. lol. so we will wait til after the weddin. if anyone is critical to your decision then its their problem. theres many children out there who are unloved and uncared for. at least your child will be loved and that is what matters. good luck with everything

Stephanie - posted on 11/26/2009

My kids are almost 5 years apart. I had my twins my second year of college. I took a year long leave of absence, so I knew I couldn't take any more time off until I graduated. It took me a while to manage it, but as soon as I was we got pregnant again.
I know for me, I wasn't ready until 3 years had passed. The thought of being pregnant again and labor and a newborn was too scary until then. I'd say if you're ready to have toddlers and be pregnant and then toddlers and a newborn, go for it. for me, it sounds a little nuts. :) you're very brave to be thinking about it.

Dolores - posted on 11/25/2009

Wow!

Well yes, i waited 18 months to get pregnant after the twins.

Now they are 6 yrs old and brother is 4. The age gap is not too big and at least they were able to walk, before i had to carry another baby in arms.