Having twins and already have 3 at home..

B - posted on 11/12/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am having twins, 20 weeks now. Don't know how it happened cause they don't run in the family. I just turned 25, and have 3 singleton pregnancies. My girls are 4, 3 next month and 1 in January. My husband has been deployed for the last 3 months, and won't be home for the births. Everyone says you need a lot of help when having twins, but I really won't have any help and I have the other 3.. Wondering how I am going to do this and survive.. Any suggestions??

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Irene - posted on 12/11/2009

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God only gives twins to those that can handle it .......It might sound silly but i live by that when times get tough it makes me feel its my duty to soldier on.

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Margaret Jane - posted on 01/27/2014

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I just had twin girls the first of January, had twin boys last year in march and have a four year old daughter. I am also expecting triplets at the end of November. I know how you feel it can be stressful, just keep your chin up and it'll all be worth it.

Marie - posted on 01/09/2010

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i have 2 older than my twin 11 month olds, a girl, 4 and a boy, 2...i thought it was going to be hard...but when you have more little ones running around..they kind of keep the babies occupied...i find anyways! you'll get through it, and you'll look back and be proud :)

Donna - posted on 12/22/2009

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If your husband is deployed you have help in other wives out there-your gonna need it! Your other ones are too little to assist and are going to need attention too. Look to join a multiples group early before they are born, church members, neighbors anyone you are close to. Having twins can be very overwhelming and if your alone can be even more so. How do you plan on being up all night with feedings then awake during the day to care for your other kids? You have time to set wheels in motion now-I would do it. I thought having twins alone was hard...good luck with all of them!

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I have two month old twin boys, and three other boys ages 1,3, and 10, and two girls ages 14 and 18. My 18 year old is in the Military and so is my husband. You can do this, you will be tired and it will not be easy the first couple of months, but you CAN do this. If you can get some help that would be great. If someone could sit with the children once or twice a week so you could catch up on your sleep that would be a huge help. If you keep them on a schedule of eating every two hours until the first month and then every three hours, waking them in the daytime to make sure they eat every three hours, and then feeding them at night when they wake up and are hungry (unless they wake up before the three hours after the last feeding began), they will be sleeping through the night by two months. Mine now sleep from 10:30 pm to 5:30 am. Also, if you give your doctor your husband's social security number and his unit information, he/she can set a date to induce labor and can call the red cross and let them know that he is needed at home to care for the other children while you are giving birth. He will get to come home for the birth and be home at least a week, maybe two to help out.

Cathy - posted on 12/19/2009

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You are going to need help. My kids are now 11, 9 and the twins are 27 months. I couldn't have done it with out the help of my husband, of course, my parents who are the biggest help and luckily my older children. The simplist things are tough, like running to the store for milk. Maybe a friend or distant relative will help. Sometimes it's just someone to sit in the car. I pay my friends teenage daughter to just sit in the car if I have mulitple quick errands. If I had to get the boys out of their car seats for lets say 4 different quick stops and handle them and then buckle back up etc., one hour of errands would take 2 hours and it would be too stressful. Good luck and God bless you and Thank you to your husband for serving our country.

Beckie - posted on 12/08/2009

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Well when I had my twins I had 4 other children however my husband was not deployed. I strongly recommend you find a good church to be involved with and let them know what you are up against. Get as organized as you possibly can now and don't be afraid to ask a church/ neighbors for help!

Casey - posted on 11/22/2009

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Congrats on the twins! I had 3 children when my twins were born. It's rough but you'll manage. If I could offer any advice it is schedule schedule schedule!!!! It will save your sanity! Put all of the kids on a schedule, not just the twins. It has worked out well to have the twins on the same eating and sleeping schedule but took about a month to accomplish it. The older 3 have a schedule as well. The first month is the hardest, after you get past that it gets easier with each passing week. My twins are 5 1/2 months old now and I don't know how I survived the first weeks but I did and I'm stronger for it now. BTW my husband is a truck driver and was gone for a week or two at a time and I had no help. Be prepared! The less trips to the store the better once the twins come!

Vanessa - posted on 11/21/2009

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First of all, Congrats! and secondly, i have seven kids, i did it without any help. Youll have alot of sleepless nights in the begining, but dont lose hope! do you have family who will come help? or maybe a friend? There are programs for military wives, or there were when my hubby was in. talk to the local chaplin. theyll likely put you in touch with people who will you. if you have any questions you can ask me directly if you like. my email is babypaliminobabe@yahoo.com is also have messenger under the same name.

Cheryl - posted on 11/19/2009

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I know exactly what you are going through I am pregnant with twins now and have 3 kids already..My bf is a twin and I have talked to his mom and she has told me how easy it was with twins..so much easier than just the one..you are gonna get into a routine and hopefully that helps.. I am 14 weeks now and am very very nervous... Do you have any family with you now? my bf is military also and hopefully he wil not be deployed againfor a while..I know how it feels..and if you ever want to chat let me know cherylstapleton@rocketmail.com

Jamala - posted on 11/18/2009

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wow!!! boy do i remember the days!!! I had an 8yr old, a 5 year old and a 1 yr old when my twins were born. Suddenly being a mommy of 5 is not an easy thing. You are most definitely going to need some help, at least for a month or so after the babies are born. I would suggest if you have family or close friends/church members near u to tell them in advance what u are going to need.(help with meals, laundry, feeding the babies, changing the OTHER babies,etc.) if u dont have any help anywhere around, start looking now online for mommy groups in ur area. i found a great mommy and me support group online. just type in mommy and me in google and put in ur area. You are going to need an awesome support system, even if its just to pray u through, talk with u, or listen when u need to vent. It does get easier though, u just have to be well organized and PLAN AHEAD.. handle all ur business while u are pregnant, get the kids who are home now on a TIGHT schedule and get ready for the most amazing, wild, headachy, funny, loving ride of ur life.. God bless u and Im praying that u find some helping hands!!!

Billi Leslie - posted on 11/16/2009

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There are often community resources that can help. Look in the phone book, on the internet or ask your Dr. to recommend someplace. You might be able to hire a nannie to help during the day, at least till the twins get a little older. Church is also a great resource. Many churches have organizations designed to help people with whatever they need, they might also be able to point you in the right direction to get the help you need. I had a 9yr a 6yr and a 13 month old when I had my twins. My husband and I didn't have any help. It will be hard but I know you will do just fine!

Rena - posted on 11/15/2009

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I have a 6 year old, a 3 year old, and 8 week old twins. I have not had alot of help available to me other than my husband. It is difficult at times but your experience with all of your other children will be extremely helpful! The hardest part I feel is making enough time for each one of my kids so that noone feels that the babies are getting all of the attention. It is really hard to do but I am blessed that the twins are pretty good babies. You will survive because that's what we are made for! Never underestimate the strength of a mom! Good luck to you, I'm sure you will handle it just fine!

Laila - posted on 11/12/2009

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I know what you're going through. I had a one year old and had my twins. It is difficult. Keep in mind when you have twins they dont always need something at the same time. Do you have any friends nearby that can help at times? Or maybe ask your doctor if he/she has any tips or knows of any ways to be of assistance?

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