Melissa - posted on 04/12/2011 ( 36 moms have responded )
Hello Fellow Twin Mommies!
I've never posted on this board before but was hoping someone out there could give me some advice or insight....I am a working mother to 15 month old fraternal twin girls, Ava & Olivia. While I love them more then life itself I find myself having a hard time connecting with them not to mention the fact that my husband is driving me crazy. My husband is a SAHD while I work full time and am the sole provider for the family. One of my girls still gets up in the middle of the night and my husband won't get up with her because he claims he "doesn't hear her", so I get up with her, then get up for work, am gone from 7am-5pm and the second I walk in the door my husband takes off in the car for hours claiming he "needs a break" while I'm left to cook dinner, clean, do laundry, bath time and put the girls to bed. Ummm yeah I know it's hard for him to watch the girls all day but don't but I ever get a break? He claims the weekends are his days off so I get up with them at night, in the morning and take care of them all day while he sleeps. It seems like there are never enough hours in the day so I find myself taking my frustrations out on the girls and I don't want them to see me as "the mommy that always yells" but I'm just exhausted. Not to mention they are at that age now where they are throwing tantrums and screaming fits and nothing ever calms them down. Some days I feel like the worse mother in the world because I can't get everything done while other days I feel so resentful towards my husband because I feel like I'm entitled to a break every once in awhile as well. Any thoughts as to how I can keep my cool better with my babies and still try and be Super Mom? How I can get my Husband to see that I need help and a break now and then too? He's a great father but not the best husband so having a conversation about it is not really an option anymore because he just gets mad and starts screaming at me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!