Linda - posted on 02/09/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am really struggling about my girls' birthday party this year. The are fraternal twins and are very different in appearance and personality. They will turn 8 in April and they each want their own party. They are in the same classroom and share some of the same friends. The concern I have is that one friend might be invited to one girl's party and not the other. Each girl is very specific about who they want to invite and I fear the potential harm outweighs their desire to have separate parties. They have shared their parties in the past so this is new territory.
They are in the same classroom by default since they are enrolled in a language immersion program where there is only one class per grade. This has had its pros and cons, but as they get older, the cons dominate much of the time. It seems like one twin gets more attention due to the "cuteness" factor and the other twin feels left out. I am trying to encourage the girls to take care of each other first especially when a friend is mean to them.
I welcome any and all ideas/suggestions! Thanks!