How do I get my twins to sleep through the night?

Shannon - posted on 06/24/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Read all the articles. Swaddle, Establish routine. Other ideas? Crying it out doesn't work because it wakes the other one.



They are about 4 1/2 months old. But really 12 weeks. If you separate them as most of you have suggested, how do you keep them on the same schedule?

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Miriam - posted on 04/19/2012

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they are young!! mine are 15 months old they are perfectly healthy always have been were born 5 weeks early but healthy no nicu and never any complications and they still wake at least 2-3 times each at night! I just enjoy them because soon enough they will be too grown to be babied!!! enjoy them one day you will sleep again...

Katrina - posted on 04/18/2012

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Oh my the old days ... With my twins now three and half, some night were just great and others yikes... I don't know if you have yet but try music, like smooth rhythmic music. First months were tough, routine is key depending on there nature within the womb bring that out to the world that they r in now, talk to them sing let them hear ur voice. You need to be skin to skin allowing them to hear you.. I figure they sleep nice when they are Ttach to one another , even tho sometimes one more and wakes the other , I read somewhere I think babycenter.com that shhhy them works remember our heart beat in the womb was as loud as a vaccum so give them a piece of that ... Well hope this helps... :)

Charity - posted on 04/18/2012

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I posted this on another Mom's site. She has twins also.
Maybe some of these will help you. I don't know. I don't have twins. And from what I've read from the other mom's, I don't think I'll be wishing for twins any time soon. :-) Mom's of twins should get a few extra jewels in their crowns when they get to heaven. :)

I don't have twins so I don't know if my advice will help but here goes:
(this advice is based on the assumption that you put your babies to sleep on their backs. If you don't, then feel free to read through and try the other things I mention in here)

Babies have NO CONTROL over their muscles. None what so ever. Their arms and legs will move all over the place. If you lay them on their backs, they will wake themselves up. They sleep good in the hospital because most of the time, the nurses wrap them up in the blanket so they can't move their arms and legs. I tried to "swaddle" them the same way but it didn't work for me. So I started putting my babies on their tummies right away. I put the pacifier in their mouth, softly hum a little song, and rub their back. I was very fortunate, both of my babies slept 6 hours a night by the time they were 4 weeks old.

A lot of people have issues with the tummy sleeping. But truth be told, there is NO CERTAIN cause for crib death. And if you think about it, if your baby spits up and it gets stuck in her throat, wouldn't you rather she were on her stomach so it could flow down rather than her choking on it because she's on her back? Just clear everything out of the crib except for the small blanket you cover her with. If a single blanket worries you, just bundle her up in a onesie and a one piece pajama (with the feet attached). Her arms and legs will stay still because they are resting on the bed. There's no where for them to go so she won't wake herself up. And if the babies are sleeping, MOMMY CAN SLEEP. Lack of sleep can make even the tiniest bit of post pardum depression 10 time worse! And that can put more stress on the baby which can cause them to not feel comfortable enough to sleep. It's a viscious cycle.

As a nurse once said to me, "if the good Lord is going to take her, there is nothing anyone can do about it." I know that might seem harsh, but it's honest. And I'm a person who appreciates honesty even if it hurts a little. My mom put all 5 of us on our tummies. I put my 2 on their tummies. I have nieces and nephews who all slept on their tummies.

Another thing I did was I used a music CD. It had the sound of a real heartbeat on it with soft lullabies playing over the heartbeat. My daughter LOVED it. I can't remember what it's called, the hospital at Fort Hood, TX gave it to me. I'm sure you can Google it and find it. Anyway, it's supposed to provide that soothing "mommy's heartbeat" that babies love so it helps them relax and go to sleep.

You could try sleeping with one of their sheets for a few nights and then putting it in their cribs. Your smell might help them sleep.

Maybe their new room is too drafty.
It might be that they like being able to hear you breathe.

And the only other thing I can think to offer is maybe they just aren't ready to be in their own room. If they were sleeping in their own beds but in your room, maybe they should stay that way for a few more months. I kept my daughter in her crib next to my bed till she was 2. Mostly because we didn't have another bedroom. She either slept in her bed in my room or in her bed in Grandma's room. My husband and I didn't have any problems with her being in our room. Were they sleeping in their beds in your room? Or were they sleeping in bed with you and your hubs? If they were sleeping with you in your bed then it is definitely going to take a while for them to get used to. If that's the case then I strongly urge you to get the CD I was telling you about. The information in the case talks about helping babies adjust to sleeping in their own beds.

If they were sleeping in their own beds but in you room:
One thing people always told me was, "your baby will tell you what she needs."
They might be telling you they want to go back to the way it was.

I hope you find your answers. Keep trying. And don't lose hope. It will get better. :)

Marcy - posted on 04/16/2012

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I have twin boys 8mos old Trey and Clay. I am in desperate need of sleep. Thanks for all the tips I will be sure to try them one by one.They are waking up 4to5 times a night, when I figure it out I will be sure to post.

Julie - posted on 07/08/2009

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I have twin girls - two and a half years old. They slept through the night at 6 weeks. They were on a very strict feeding schedule and I put them in their swings during the night. They slept in the swings for the first six months. Then I transferred them to their beds (seperate beds). The doctor kind of frowned on this, but it worked. The transfer only took a week before they were used to their beds,

Paula - posted on 07/08/2009

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I have twin boys who are almost 4 months old. One of them sleeps all the way through now from 7.30pm to 6am and the other one wakes up once at night (usually - this can be a bit variable!). The thing that made the difference for us was a strict schedule, as Katie mentions above. Within a couple of days we went from being woken up 4 or 5 times a night to only once or twice. The schedule is based on ensuring they eat and sleep enough during the day - at 3 months they were on a 3 hour schedule, so e.g. wake up 6am, feed, change nappies, play, back to cot at 7:30am for a 1.5 hour nap, then next wake up time is 9am, feed, change, play, back to nap at 10:30 and so on. 5 1.5 hour awake and feed times in a day (6,9,12,3,6), with 4 1.5 hour naps, and then in the final awake time we introduced bath time whether they needed it or not. This seemed to help them to differentiate between day and night. They are in their own room, in separate cots. We also play classical music CDs or Cafe del Mar at final bedtime.



The lady we talked to about establishing a routine said if they were affecting each other's nap / sleep times we might need to separate them (into separate rooms) just while they got used to the routine, but fortunately we didnt have to do that. The thing with having a routine is that once you establish it you have something to get back to. The routine is punishing though for the person who has to implement it during the day - its really hard work and you can do nothing else - but for us, well worth it so that we could finally get some sleep! Good luck!!

Katie - posted on 07/08/2009

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My twin girls are 5 months old. We keep them on a very strict schedule during the day which has helped them sleep through the night. I read and followed the book "On Becoming Babywise" by Ezzo Buchnam, it really has worked for us.

The girls sleep in the same room but in separate cribs and we run a fan as well as a CD player (playing soft classical music) when they first go to bed, I think it helps calm them and blocks out excess noise.

Good luck, I know it is really exhausting. Check out that book, it was a lifesaver for me!

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Congratulations on your teins



I also have 2 setsof b/g twins now 10 (11 nxt month) and 13 year ols so it's been a while but something i will never forget...my older twins slept through the nite when they were 10 weeks old thanks to my mum who sed jus leave them to cry.....i was practically a zombie for 10 weeks. it was so hard and painful to hear but it worked afta a week and a half and i thank her for that advice..........i did the same with my younger ones and they slept throught the nite at 8 weeks...I really does get easier good luck..

Trish - posted on 06/30/2009

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My girls slept in the same room but different cribs. That did the trick. Also put a little cd player in the room.... Good luck it gets better my girls are now 13 months.

Shelley - posted on 06/30/2009

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I suggest a sound machine to put between their cribs. They're less than $20 at Target and very worth it. We did a mix of methods. We let them cry 5 minutes before going in to soothe them, without picking them up. Only patting them and whispering to them until they're calm again. We did that consistently until they fall asleep. They learn to sleep through the other one's crying very quickly. If they wake in the middle of the night, we start the method over again. Try the book: The Baby Sleep Solution by Suzy Giordano. It saved my life. And it's geared toward multiples, so it's actually relevant to your life. Good luck! =)

Julie - posted on 06/27/2009

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Congratulations on your twins! I have boy/girl twins that are 4 1/2 months old. I started giving them cereal at night before bed with their last feeding. Some people prefer to put a little in their bottle, but I give it to them off of a spoon. Spoon feeding takes some time at first until they get used to eating off of a spoon. I start about a half hour before their scheduled feeding time so one is not screaming while feeding the other. Some individuals and doctors will not agree with this, but no one knows their child better then the mother. The bottle alone might not be filling enough to them. My twins eat fruit for breakfast, veggies at lunch, then cereal mixed with applesauce before bed, and they still have formula between all that. I told my doctor that I give them first foods and baby cereal and he said that it is not bothering them, so he was not yelling at me. Good luck and hopefully you will find some rest at night.
Julie

Andrea - posted on 06/25/2009

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Congratulations on your twins. I had that problem too, and remember crying with them at times. I had to get them on a very strict schedule with their sleep and eating. It took a while to get it, but they did start sleeping through the night. I seperated them and gave them their own rooms fairly early as well because they would wake each other up. Ok to be more specific, my son would wake my daughter up :)

Amanda - posted on 06/25/2009

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my twins are 2 and a half and the only way my twins have learnt to sleep through the night is by separating them. We struggled for a long time getting up through the night with them and tried letting the cry it out which eventually get the neighbours complaining they were waking them up, we tried giving bottles to help them settle but then your up all night changing nappies as well so this was the last resort and although they still wake up through the night the settle themselves are now less dependent on each other to go to sleep.

Rebekah - posted on 06/24/2009

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Shannon, congrats on your twins! :) They are so much fun.

How old are they?

Our twins were waking me between 3-8 times a night and we finally thought that was enough, as it seemed they were just waking out of habit. They were nearly 8 months old, but only 4.5 months corrected age (they were born at 25 weeks).

We ended up having to separate them into different rooms and then when they woke we let them cry. If they kept on crying I would get up to them, but sometimes they would re-settle and go back to sleep. It only took a few days before I was down to maybe 1-3 times a night.

But it's up to you whether you have the space to separate them, whether you can handle them crying (my husband had to make me stay in bed) and whether they are just waking out of habit or are really in need of something. It also depends on how old they are.

We did all the above - swaddling (they had this in the NICU), routine etc.

Laura - posted on 06/24/2009

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Good luck. I have two sets of twins. My first set slept like angels. My second set didn't sleep through the night until they were five! It's so individualized with each kid. Friends tried to tell me to let them cry, but they never had twins...LOL. I found that sleeping in their room helped me tremendously. I think when they woke up and saw me there, they would just feel more comfort and fall back aslepp. Of course, my husband and I didn't really know how tired we really were until they were five and started sleeping through the night. Augh, wait until they can clmib out of their cribs...LOL. Have you tried having them sleep together?

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