how do i get my twins to stop bite'n each other while playing?

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i have twins, boy and girl, they have picked up a habbit of bite'n each other when one is mad that the other isn't doing what they want... i know it's them acting out about "sharing and playing" but how do i get it to stop. they are 1yr and 4 months.

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Kimberly - posted on 01/11/2010

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Mine are 3 1/2 and one has always been a biter, the other is a hair puller. To this day they still do that if something escalates enough. I never did find a way to get the biting to stop other than she grew out of it for the most part and now I try prevent things from getting to the point where she would be angry enough to bite. I personally could never bring myself to bite her. Mostly b/c of experience with my son, I learned that if I did something to him "to teach him a lesson" it backfired and he would take that to mean it was okay to do that and therefore either continued to do it or picked up a new bad habit!! I didn't want her to think that if Mommy does it then it must be okay and then make it worse. Good luck!! It will stop in time.

Justine - posted on 01/10/2010

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I think it's completely normal for twins to bite each other - though that doesn't make it any less hard to deal with. It's just about the only time my girls get a smack - we use the naughty corner approach for most other bad behaviour but if they deliberately hurt each other like a hard pinch or bite, they get a smack. It does seem to come and go in phases though, but each time after one or two smacking occasions it stops again for several weeks at a time.

Amy - posted on 01/08/2010

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all I can say is good luck I have B/G twins who are just over 2 and my little boy still bites his sister when he gets frustrated with her, I have tried telling him no, I have tried giving him a smack on the hand and bottom, I have tried the naughty corner and the only thing that I have found that will slow him down (as silly and nasty as is may sound) is if I bite him back this seems to stop the biting for at least a few weeks at a time, this time I think we are at about 3 1/2 weeks our longest stint so far.

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Lisa - posted on 01/14/2010

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I am having the same problem! I have 19 month old identical twin boys and they have been doing it for a while I have tried everything and cant find anything to get them to quit, when they hyave something the other one wants oor get mad they bite each other, its horrible if ya find something that works let me know

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Quoting Kimberly:

Mine are 3 1/2 and one has always been a biter, the other is a hair puller. To this day they still do that if something escalates enough. I never did find a way to get the biting to stop other than she grew out of it for the most part and now I try prevent things from getting to the point where she would be angry enough to bite. I personally could never bring myself to bite her. Mostly b/c of experience with my son, I learned that if I did something to him "to teach him a lesson" it backfired and he would take that to mean it was okay to do that and therefore either continued to do it or picked up a new bad habit!! I didn't want her to think that if Mommy does it then it must be okay and then make it worse. Good luck!! It will stop in time.


 



yeah i hated even trying it but after my son just started laughing at me for it i was horrifed and shock, hince i walked outta the room... but that was the only time he did it... and normally it's a 3-4 time a day, so i think if i just keep with the "no" in a mean voice and timeout i might be getting somewhere... cuz i agree with you and i don't want to teach them it's okay or to pick up a bad habbit.



 



 



thank you.

Jenny - posted on 01/11/2010

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It is completely normal. It is their way of showing their frustration. My son who is now 3 got kicked out of two schools before we nipped it.Everytime he would bite we would put soap on a paper towel and that seemed to work.

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okay, i caught my son biting his sister today, and i gently bit his arm and he looks up at me and i have the most stern face i've ever had with them and he just starts laughing at me! i was so upset i had to walk outta the room just so my husband wouldn't see me cry about it... i checked her to make sure it wasn't as bad as she crying about, but he left a good mark.... i'm at wits end with this "stage" i hope they get over it soon, cuz i've tried everything you all have advised me and the only thing so far is if i slap his butt and put him in time-out and sometimes that doesn't even work.

Celia - posted on 01/11/2010

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my two went through a stage of biting from about 16 months and i found the only thing that worked was to bite them very gently back it was enough of a shock that "mummy " was doing it to stop them and touch wood they very very rarely do it now

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My girls used to have bite marks up and down their arms CONSTANTLY. I taught them to tell each other 'no' which helped for a while... at least it gave me a warning that someone was going to get bit and I could intervene. But after a while even that became ineffective. Not only would they bite each other, but they'd bite themselves too. Obviously they knew how it felt... they just didn't care. I would NEVER bite my child. :( The only thing that worked was letting them outgrow the stage.

Cheryl - posted on 01/09/2010

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when my children ever bit each other i bit them back so they knew how it hurt

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i've tired both of what your saying, and trust me all i have to do is look at them and they cry, i'm the more "punish them as they do it" parent where as my husband just says no and goes back to what he was doing.. i've gone as far and taking away the toy for the day, but one day i stacked 20 toys by 3pm!! and she does it more then he does... i've even tried time out, i get about 2 days rest with the "that's naughty don't bite" to the point of bite'n lighting back, today i'm trying if they are naughty they get the time out chair while the other is sat on the couch with a toy or two.. is that the right thing? it seems to work, but i don't want it to be too cruel to the naughty twin.

Ginger - posted on 01/07/2010

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It may sound cruel, but definitely better than the biting... startle the biter as they are about to bite, put on a very stern face, and a rough voice and tell them "No biting- No!" It's something that you have to stop right away. My nephew bit my daughter in the face. For Christmas she had tooth marks and a bruise on her cheek. I realize that it may be of excitement, but they need to understand that it is never ok.

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