how is it for others to do it alone not most of the time but sometiem
Shelley - posted on 07/10/2009
I keep the mindframe of "I am in control." It's hard to always feel that way. I give myself pep talks and if I'm super stressed, I'll step out for a minute, count to ten, breathe deeply, and go back in.. It gets easier as they get older. We're on a strict routine, so they know what to expect and what I expect of them.
Linda - posted on 07/09/2009
my husband worked a lot too and I was pretty distraught. lots of gadgets, music, driving, helped. took a few days vaca by myself when they were about 2yrs when my husband had been working crazy hours for a few months and had finally finished the project. that was a wonderful few days even though I missed them terribly.
Adrienne - posted on 07/09/2009
I have 4 month old b/g twins, and since they were 2.5 mos old I have been putting them into a routine. All I can say is thank God for swings! When I need to do dishes or laundry or even clean the bathroom I put them in the swings and give them a rattle or two. Of course there are moments when they scream and need to just see me and know that I'm close. My husband is leaving for Iraq in a month, so to prepare I try to do everything as though he's already gone, but it is nice to have the luxury at night of him being home to entertain them. Good luck gals!!
Jillian - posted on 07/09/2009
I have 9 month old twins and it was hard. My girls would not stick to a routine - no mater how hard I tried. I just finally has to realize that the girls come first and housework comes last. The girls had to cry once in a while and I would just yell from the other room that I would be there right away. I am hoping that eventually they will learn to be patient. It is possible to do it on your own - hang in there. You will find a schedule that works best for you.
Alana - posted on 07/08/2009
Mine are just over six months old now. I had been wondering the same thing, as I was going through a transition of my husband going back to work (laid off in January, started working back full time nights about a month ago). Anyways, when it was the two of us full time, we really didn't force the whole routine thing. Well let me tell you what a mistake that was for me! When DH was no longer there, I started to implement the routine aspect, which is working wonders. Plus, i do spend a fair amount of time transferring them from one holding equipment to another just to keep them entertained, but then as they have each other to keep company, they don't mind so much when I leave the room.
Now the challenge is getting the DH to respect the routine and work with it. As he's not there very often, he wants to spend time with the children on his schedule, not theirs, as he thinks they should be flexible! LOL Well, I am the one that stays at home with them when he goes, therefore I'm the one that suffers the consequences if they get off the routine. As a couple before children, we led a very non structured lifestyle. No routine. So it's wasn't just about training the children, it was about training the husband too, to respect what you do even when they aren't there to see what's going on.
Oh, my one peice of advice that I gave to a friend of mine who just had twins as well, was:
Do not feel bad if one has to cry a little when you are dealing with their sibling. If you know they are safe, do what you need to do, and tune it out. It doesn't hurt them to wait a bit. Moms of twins do not have the luxury of being able to respond at a moments notice to each of their babies cries when they are doing it in sync!
Shaena - posted on 07/08/2009
i had my twins a year and a week after my oldest and i was home while their father was at work. it was very hard when they were little but they had lots of things to sit in they loved their carseats most of all i thought it was so hard then now that they are 3 and 4 i wish that they were all still small . now im running in 3 diffrent directions and they have moments at the same time . i sit in the bathroom and have a good cry :)
Lila - posted on 07/08/2009
Hi I have 12 week old twins, and am often by my self. I am just starting to get the hang of tandem feeding but it's tricky! The little guys never finish at the same time, or if they do how to tandem burp? Oh I just hear a lot of crying, do the best I can and wait for this first year to pass. Thanks for the advice from above and good luck to all!! WE CAN DO IT!
Angela - posted on 07/08/2009
I have 6-year-old twins, Sean and Savanna (boy/girl) and as every one else has said routine and consistiency is the key. Keep them on a schedule and allow time to get things done because everything will take twice as long. Have a playtime schedule where as newborns you just massage them and talk to them and the boppy twin pillow was my friend, I nursed one while I bottle fed the other then switched back and forth. When they both cry at the same time, just take a deep breath and know that You can do it!!! good luck.
Sandra - posted on 07/08/2009
You know routine helps a whole lot!!! My twins have 2 2hr naps a day and sleep all night from about 8pm - 8:30am. So those nap times are crutial for me to get the cleaning done catch up on anything else that needs doin...also to have a sit down and a coffee!!!
Corinne - posted on 07/07/2009
Hi, I was a single mum of twin boy's till they were 4. I lived by routine/ structure as best i could and they seemed to respond very well to this. Our day's use to consist of an early morning walk as they would be up at 5 so straight away off for a walk then home for breaky or maybe we would have a picnic out then a nap and off to the park again home for a nap or shopping(depending if they were sleepy or not) then an afternoon stroll a play, a swim at the beach if it was warm and the home.
The park was my best friend as they loved the adventure of the different textures. hope this helps.
Stephanie - posted on 07/07/2009
It is very hard with newborn twins. You need a schedule and plenty of gear to help you get through your day. Boppy pillows work very well also. If you have older kids give them a job to do to help out. My older children thought it was nice because they still felt wanted and needed.
HARD!! My husband works a lot and i'm in a new city so i don't know anyone...I use lots of gadgets....swings, exersaucers, pacifiers, gyms, whatever will occupy them. I think going for an afternoon stroll helps everyone, and usually someone else stops us and entertains the babies for a bit....we are getting a twin mommy group together and i think that will help make things seem a little more normal, too. Good luck!!
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