how long should i let my twin boy and girl bath together and sleep in the same room.

Brandichadae - posted on 01/31/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )

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there only 9mon but i m not sure if i should keep them in the same room when they get older cuz they are a boy and a girl.

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Victoria - posted on 09/05/2012

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This was my question, too! My boy/girl twins are 3, and they still bathe together and sleep in the same room. I KNOW they are happier together. I will watch and see. Has anyone separated their twins, and if so, at what age?

Quilty - posted on 02/09/2010

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If there is ANYthing I hope you new(er) moms of multiples come away with, it's the idea of paying attention to YOUR kids, and letting THEM tell you when they're ready for the next step.

Doing things seperately IS a big step for twins, and as you can see here, it's one they all take at different times.

Andrea - posted on 02/01/2010

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We have boy/girl twins who are 3 1/2, and they still bathe together and share a room. They normally run around the house in just their underwear (or for my son, a pull-up), I just can't keep clothes on them at home. My son still isn't potty trained (another issue...), and I think until he is, this isn't even an issue. I think we'll know when it's time for more privacy.

Iridescent - posted on 01/31/2010

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We have 2 girls and 1 boy the same age. They all still share a room, bathe together, change clothing together. We don't make an issue of it. We think by the time they're 3.5 or 4 years we'll have to separate them.

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Aimie - posted on 09/08/2012

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My identical twin boys are 10 yrs old they went into their own bedrooms at about 4 when we moved to a bigger house. I found that they kept each other up an would not go to sleep when they were in the same room. We have never had any complaints about it. They also got put in separate classrooms at school because they would constantly fight and we thought being separated at school might make them be nicer to each other at home. That didn't make difference. They will yell at each other all the time but the minute you tell one of them off for something the other is ready to stick up for them.. It is so funny.

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my son is 10 my daughter is 11
they still shower togather and share the same room
that how they like it/
we told them it up to them

Angela - posted on 02/09/2010

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My boy/girl twins are now 7 so at about 2 I quit letting them bathe together as there was just no room in the tub for the 2 of them and they started liking thier own time as well.

Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2010

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We have boy/girl twins who are almost five. Once they hit kindergarten we'll start bathing them separately. Once we're in the new house in October/Nov they'll have their own rooms. the girl prefers showers with one of my older twin daughters. Zach gets to bathe by himself.

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Regardless that they are boy/girl, I wouldnt worry about creating more workload for yourself's.
I bathed mine together until they didn't fit in the bath together, they briefly shared a large cot, til one discovered how to wake the other:) they still share a room. Now 91/2yrs on, I would love to give them a room each. I think its important now, in needing their own space, where if they chose not to be around the other, they have somewhere to go... & can say, no you can't come in...so at this stage... just enjoy the togetherness without the rivalry.
All the best!

Lyn - posted on 02/08/2010

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I have boy/girl twins and they are 11.They have their own rooms but they stiil sleep over in each others rooms more than sleeping in their own. If you don't have an issue with them bathing sleeping together they won't either. As they get older they will decide when they want or need privacy from their twin.I have found as they have got older they have become closer in needing to share and experience things together. Just relax and enjot them they grow up way too fast. :)

Shannon - posted on 02/07/2010

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My boy, girl twins are almost 11. They took baths together until they were 3, then they wanted the tub to themselves to have more room to play. They slept in the same room until they were 4, at which time I gave my son his own room because he needed more sleep than his active sister. They adjusted easily, as they were right across the hall from one another and could still talk back and forth until they got used to not being in the same room.

Eadaoin - posted on 02/07/2010

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my twins boy & girl are 5 yrs still sleep together even though i have seperate rooms for them , there happier together, they tell me weather they want seperate baths or not more often though they share , they like the company,. once there happy i am happy. there still young. dont be in a big rush to seperate them they are so used to being with each other

Linda - posted on 02/07/2010

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my boy;girl twins are 11 now but by 3 1/2 to 4 they started taking baths seperate and at 5 they still shared a room but I had them change clothes in different rooms.

Linda - posted on 02/07/2010

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i have boy and girl twins i only let the bath tog until year and half. the girl started to tug on the boy. i thought it was time. they enjoy i better. they thought they had more room to swim.

Quilty - posted on 02/07/2010

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@Nouara: Absolutely! If they are comfortable together, why impose some artificial shame about their bodies??

Nouara - posted on 02/06/2010

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I have twins boy and girl, they are 8 and still have a bath together...they really like to play with toys in the water and I don't have any problem with that!

Lara - posted on 02/05/2010

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I have two sets of boy/girl twins. The Big'uns (our nickname) are 4.5 and the Litt'luns are 2.5. They all take baths together and help each other with bathroom breaks. We are going to be putting them into separate boy and girl bedrooms soon, but wanted them to bond with their twin for a bit before that happened. I don't think the genders seeing each other in the nude really matter before Kindergarten, if we treat it normal and nothing to be ashamed about. (I don't send my kids to Pre-school, but do activities and such at home.)

Alisa - posted on 02/05/2010

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Our boy/girl twins slept in the same cot when they were tiny, same room different cots until they started climbing out at about 2. We separated them to separate rooms after that and there was a little adjustment, but all is good now. They still bathe together which hasn't been an issue yet and they're 4. Once they start school they will probably begin taking showers on their own.

Quilty - posted on 02/05/2010

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My twins bathed together until my daughter realized that my son was dirtier, and she wanted her OWN water! LOL



By their own choice, they shared a room and a bed (even though there were two in the room) until about third grade. They slept at opposite ends of the bed, each with their own pillow and blanket. That lasted until they were tall enough to kick each other in the face in their sleep. :)

Tanja - posted on 02/04/2010

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oooopppppssss :-) mine are 9 year old twins (boy and girl) and no matter how I try and separate them they refuse. I have got it so far that they go to sleep in their own room but I always have to take one or the other back to their beds during the night..... I think it depends on you as a person. If you have issues with that sort of thing or make and issues about it or it really bothers you then separate would be better. Both my kids love being in their birthday suit and still will together play like this with friends who do the same. Let them be kids for as long as you can :-)

Sonya - posted on 02/04/2010

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HI. I have boy/girl twins who are 6 now and I still bath them together. We put them in separate bedrooms when they were about 4 as they got to the stage where they would talk and play for hours after bedtime. They still share a room on weekends tho as they are best friends and we use it as a kind of treat for good behaviour.

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Congrats on your twins! I have B/G twins that turned 4 in Nov. We put them in separate rooms at almost three as they would play at bedtime. A little hard on them at first but they adjusted. They still take bathes together and it's not an issue.

Dee Ana - posted on 02/04/2010

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I would separate them once the both have become potty trained. I don't have twins, however I am a twin...I have a twin brother. And that is around the time that my mom separated us into two different rooms

Lorna - posted on 02/04/2010

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My twins are now 6, one boy and one girl. They shared a room together for the first 5 years and still slept with eachother even though they had their own beds. Because they have older siblings that are also boy and girl, we have decided its time to seperate them by putting the girls together and the boys together in their own rooms. As far as bathing goes, they've become too big to fit in the tub together lol, but that too has come to an end. I have explained to them about their different private areas and they know the difference so its not a big deal.



They're used to doing everything together and to be honest it really made my life easier to do the bathing and sleeping thing together but they are learning to be independant. This is also the first year of schooling where they've been in seperate classes so they're going through a lot of changes and maybe some seperation anxiety..but their teachers have allowed them to visit eachother when they "need" one another.



I wouldnt worry about what age your babies should be seperated because they have a special bond and believe me when they get old enough they will let you know when they're ready.

Jane - posted on 02/04/2010

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Hi I also have boy/girl twins they are 27 months and still bath together. It's much easier for me to do like that and they do enjoy splashing etc together. He just started looking for his sister's bits (havn't been at all interested in each others bodies til now) and I just say 'no maisie is a little girl you dont look it's rude n he excepts this n carries on playing. Obviously if he was touching I would re-think the bathing together :0)

Leisa - posted on 02/03/2010

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I have twin boy/girl born 13 weeks prem, they are now 10yrs. They are quite immature for their age and my daughter is quite delayed and has cp. They share a room, have bunk beds and when they want to share a bath... it is one of the only times they play together on even terms, they have so much fun splashing water at each other etc., Most times it is the adults minds that are the problem, you no your children, twins have a special bond,and you will no when.... don't panic just enjoy.

Carmen - posted on 02/03/2010

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My boy / girl twins just turned five. They still bathe and sleep together in the same bed. I will leave them sleeping together until they tell me they are ready to be separated. After all, they grew together inside me, and are used to each other's company. I think sleep time might be traumatic if I forcibly separated them. As far as bathing together, I have always tried to be open minded and liberal about it...it's only a naked body, and nothing to be ashamed or shy about with your own immediate family! It's also a good opportunity to teach them about the anatomical differences between boys and girls, and to respect each other's bodies.

Tai - posted on 02/03/2010

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You can have them bathe together as long as they want ( it saves a lot of time to do them together). They can be in the same room for even longer. It's parents that usually have hang ups with boys and girls seeing each other naked but honestly, if you're chill and honest about it and willing to explain different body parts as they get older, it's not a big deal. My mother was in the same room with her brothers and sisters until she moved out of the house and they all turned out fine.

Amie - posted on 02/03/2010

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I truely don't see a big issue as long as you don't make it an issue. Of course I have twin girls instead of a boy and a girl so I may not have the best advice but I can tell you that while I was pregnant i thought I was have a boy and girl but that wasn't the case. So many people I talked to you that had boy and girl always told me that they would start them in different room but they would end up together. So I think you should just play it by ear and watch them together and then make that decision. Your mother instincts will tell you what to do. good luck

Joanne - posted on 02/03/2010

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I have 2 year old b/g twins who still share a bath and bedroom. I plan to keep them together for a while longer yet and have heard many reports of twins asking when they want the arrangement to be changed, but I'm thinking probably around 4-5 before I worry about separating them

Laurie-Anne - posted on 02/03/2010

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My boy/girl twins are five and still bath and sleep together in the same room. We can't afford to upgrade to a bigger home, so they are just going to have to lump it for the time being. They are definitely happier being together though - especially at night.

Farel - posted on 02/02/2010

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i have boy/girl twins that are 3years old they take baths together sometimes and sometimes i bathe them separate. until i see different i will bathe them together for right now. they have been in their own rooms since they were 6months old. i just think it all depends on the children.

Nancy - posted on 02/02/2010

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i have 3-1/2 year old twin boys - they sleep together in teh same bed still ....and still bath together !

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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My boy/girls twins are almost 19 months and still bathe together and sleep in the same room. They will sleep in the same room until we can afford to upgrade to a larger home, which is going to be another 3.5 years away. I think as long as they are not uncomfortable with being in their birthday suit around each other, we will just bathe them together. My older girls started taking showers by choice a few months prior to turning 4, so I am guessing at that point, my babies will do the same.

Cindy - posted on 02/01/2010

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My kids still sleep together and bath together at 3 years. They know about each others parts and are aware that it is their private areas. At this point we will continue to do it this way untill it becomes and issue. They will continue to share a room untill their baby brother is old enough to move to a big bed at which point the boys will share a room and my daughter will move on her own.

Kaci - posted on 02/01/2010

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I have a boy and a girl they dnt take baths together yet cause they are only 4 months but they will share a room for as long as they can stand each other...LOL

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