I need help ASAP!!! I don't know what to do!!!!!

April - posted on 03/11/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Ok I have twin 18 month old boys and they share a room but in separate beds. We always put the boys down for a nap and down for the night with out rocking them, and we have been doing this sense they were 8 months. For the past two days my youngest twin has screamed I mean SCREAMED when we put him down for naps and bed time. He looks scared, his face is red and tears pouring down his face! I give him a hug and tell him it's ok and he has a death grip on me! When he wakes up he is fine and happy!!! Should I be worried??? I have no idea what to do!! I feel horrible! Any ideas??? Please HELP!!!!

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Pearl - posted on 03/15/2010

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I saw this in Super Nanny. Her suggestion is to stay close to his bed. Just sit on a chair or the floor, be visible as you can. Move away from his bed every few minutes. Do this until he falls asleep. I hope it works.

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Malorie - posted on 03/23/2010

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It sounds like he could be having nightmares. My boys do that sometimes too. I have found that I need to just hold them and let them cry it out while I try to think of something else. If I stress about trying to calm him down I just get more stressed. The calmer I am, the less time they cry. They are fine once they fall back to sleep.

Amy - posted on 03/22/2010

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I don't think that you should be worried. My twins are just a little over 2 and one of them wakes up screaming like that, I believe that it is just night terrors. I have ready that kids sometimes at this age get night terrors. I always go an comfront her and give her hugs, kisses and sometimes just hold her for a little bit and she is starting to out grow it.

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It could be seperation axiety like the other ladies are saying, or it could be he is having nightmares or bad dreams. Try sitting in his room until he falls asleep, and gradually moving your chair father and farther out of this room until it is no longer in it. He should feel better then. Also, I know this is going to sound stupid, but don't let him watch anything scary or the like. Kids this age pick up on more than you'd think, so don't watch horror movies while they're awake. Just my advice.

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Let the twins sleep together!

It all sounds very much like a 'separation anxiety thing' but sometimes with twins its not us they feel anxious being separated from :D

Whendi - posted on 03/21/2010

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My boys are now 10 but they too used to sleep in the same room different beds! When one of them used to have a hard nite they would climb in bed with the other! I dont know how you feel about that but maybe put them in bed together and see if they can comfort one another! We were fortunate that ours did this on their own but it did work for them! Even though we try to teach twins to be independant from one another there is nothing like the bond they have and they can be a GREAT comfort to eachother!

SHERIE - posted on 03/19/2010

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you should also try give him a top or a nighty with your scent on it. it does help as he can then smell his mammy from the top.

Bethany - posted on 03/19/2010

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I had the same problem with one of my twins when she was about the same age, (there 2 now). I think she had a bad dream that may have started it. She used to scream when i took her into her room. I used to just put her into her bed and comfort her then leave then come back every 5-10 mins (as she was still screaming) and gave her cuddles and kisses, just to let her know that i was still near. She stopped the screaming after about a week or so. So hopefully it will be the same for you.

User - posted on 03/15/2010

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That is exactly what my youngest twin did about a month ago. My husband and I have the same bedtime routine with our 18 month old twin boys. A couple nights, because we thought he was getting sick, or was scared, we took him out of the room and held him for awhile. He would be fine until we put him back in the crib. After almost a week of this he finally stopped. Not sure what the problem was. It was heart breaking to hear him scream, so I feel your pain. Hang in there.

Stacie - posted on 03/15/2010

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I have 13 omnths old boys and have about 11 years experience in the child care industry and what i have found to work is keep your same routine with putting the children to bed a routine is key and to not change it, and when he startes screaming give him a little bit of time to see if he goes to sleep if not go in the room lay him down pat back or rub back to calm him down alittle and leave and just keep repeating it adding a little more time in between going back in the room. it may take one or two days of doing this or longer but he will get over the anxiety of you leaving the room and will understand that you will come back to comfort him.

Stephany - posted on 03/14/2010

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Does your son have a blanket or other lovey? My 18 month old twins can't sleep without their blankies - they really help in times of anxiety.

Tyree - posted on 03/14/2010

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I have 13 year old twin daughters, with twins, nothing is a surprise. They will do all kinds of things that you dont understand. My girls went through different phases of things. Its okay to worry, thats what good mothers do, however, I really dont think that you have any thing to worry about. it should pass over time.

Jennifer - posted on 03/12/2010

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I have twin 2 1/2 year old girls. One of my daughters sleep fine naps and bed time. The other one tells us that she is scared no matter what time of the day or night. We put a night light in their room. They also have a sound machine. We do this new thing where we have a can of air fresh spray that we call Monster Spray. We have the girls go around the bed room and spray it under the bed, in the closet, and on their pillow. We tell them that it will keep the monsters away. It seems to work pretty good. We also spent some time coloring, and during that time, my husband colored a butterfly that he then hung on the wall. He told my daughters that the butterfly is so pretty that it scares all the bad things away. Everyone knows that bad things hate pretty things, right? Otherwise try to communicate with him and find out what he is scared of. Good luck.

Alana - posted on 03/12/2010

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I am having the same problem with my younger twin Corbin, he is 6 and a half months and has been sleeping in his crib for a couple months. My older guy Macon is still having trouble with his crib he won't sleep in it at all unless I let him sleep on his boppy pillow in his crib which I know is a big no no but he dosen't seem to have a problem with it, but at this point we are in a bad habit of lettin' Macon sleep in his swing another problem. For the last week or so Corbin screams and screams no matter what I do so I would love some suggestions for both the boys. I am pretty much raising them on my own, far from family, and their Dad works 80 hours week. I'm so frustrated I'm about to lose my cool. I have no friends, and Grandma is out of the country so I can't even talk to her. I have been in tears for days and I try not to let the boys see uhg....I need help too guess I should have started my own conversation instead of responding to your sorry...

Kim - posted on 03/12/2010

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My boys are 18 mos also and one of them does that on occasion. It's just a phase and he usually stops after a few minutes.

Emma - posted on 03/12/2010

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i say it will be a phase that he will grow out of, children develop strange phobias around this age! try giving him a comfort like a teddy or blanket etc! and tell him teddy will look after you, found it worked with my daughter

April - posted on 03/11/2010

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No I don't sit with them. My husband and I walk with them into their rooms and have a group hug, silly i know, and then we put them in to bed and say good night and walk out. i will give the book thing a chance.... I can see how they are getting separation anxiety, I am home all day with them!

Meghan - posted on 03/11/2010

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do you sit with then while they go to sleep and youe could try reading a book while they are laying in bed one of mine did the same but when i sterted reading books to them it really helped!!!!!

Iridescent - posted on 03/11/2010

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It's a developmental stage. He now remembers you when you are gone, and knows he wants you, but honestly thinks you're gone forever each time you go. It's related to separation anxiety.

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