I need help! My twins cry ALL the time over EVERYTHING.. Any suggestions???

Rebecca - posted on 06/27/2010

I'm going through the same thing with (thankfully) only one of my twins -- he just has toddler temper tantrums from hell. First he's screaming over wanting to be picked up, then to be put down, then for his milk, etc. I think he just gets frustrated and mad and it dissolves into a rage to that point he doesn't even know what he's mad about. I wish I could give you some advice, but I'm struggling with myself. Sometimes I just ignore him because I've had enough and just need to zone out for a while. Any chance they are getting their 2 year molars? My son has his coming in and I think that's contributing to the crankiness.

Connie - posted on 06/27/2010

Thanks Laura. I guess I will just keep at it. Today, for example, my husband went upstairs with my son to get him clothes and he told the girls to stay downstairs and locked the gate behind him and headed upstairs, that started a stream of meltdowns and hyperventilating! It just blows my mind. I went to get down on their level and tell them daddy will be right back, he just went to get clothes and when one of them came to me and I patted their back, the other one flipped out because I was rubbing the other ones back! It is a never ending battle!

Laura - posted on 06/27/2010

well i have 11 month old twins and a 2 year old daughter, and even though my 2 year old isn't a twin, i wanted to respond because she does the SAME thing! every time i say no, she cries. every time i say stop, she cries. every time i scold her for taking toys away from her sisters, or pushes them down, or grabs our cat's tail- she CRIES! and then i get frustrated cause she's crying for no reason! i started sitting her down and saying to her, "it's not a big deal- if i won't let you play with computer cord you found, go find another toy- do not cry." since she's a little older, she's starting to understand a little more. or give her a choice- you can either have this color crayon, or you can go to your room.

i think if/when my twins get to this stage- i'll just separate them. they are identical and do EVERYTHING together, so i'll just separate them in different rooms and until they behave i'll let them play together again. and you're right- babying them and cuddling with them is gonna get old and exhausting- we don't have time for that! lol so keep a firm hand about it and soon they'll just get it. also, they could just be going through a rough time- they may be growing or teething or SOMETHING and can't tell you, but acting up gets your attention and they feel somewhat better about it....

that's what i think is wrong with some parent's parenting styles- discipline is NO fun and it takes FOREVER for the kid to learn "no" means "NO!" so they just give in and give them a sucker, or new toy, or whatever they want- but that doesn't help the kid in the long run! keep being consistent, the kids will catch on sooner or later, and then they'll behave!

hope this helps! good luck!! :)