Is anyone else's twins as mean as mine??NEED ADVICE!

Naomi - posted on 10/21/2012

Hello....my twins are 2 years old. They are moody as heck. All they do is scream and fight. It seems like nothing makes them happy. People constantly tell me that its just a stage but it feels never ending.

Chabree - posted on 10/17/2012

My 19 month old twins b/b are the same way. It's making me crazy. I don't know what to do. If i hold one he will bet his bother and ty to get him off of me so i will hold him.

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2012

It sounds like they are doing power plays on each other, this happens on occassion you just need to distract them give them heaps of activities to do and correct them when they are being aggressive. Look for signs of frustration like tired and adapt a different routine. Look at it this way if you had to put up with the same person 24/7 you would probably get frustrated too. My boys are close but they sometimes will have love hate tiffs. In our family theres not fighting period.

Pink - posted on 08/14/2012

http://www.circleofmoms.com/twins/help-m...

as you can see you are not alone, only one question, since mine are now 15 months and don't dislike each other that much yet....did you breastfeed them at the same time? I found that when I do sometimes they fight on the spot, sometimes they kind of hold hands...they are funny anyway =)

Tina De - posted on 08/07/2012

Hi I have 10 month old twin boys. They are driving me nuts. I have tried to teach them how to share for months now but nothing is working. They share fine with everyone esle. I dont know what to do.

Pepper - posted on 01/10/2010

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! I have 5 year old B/G twins and they have fought since the womb. I thought like you that they would be so close. But they can be really mean to eachother. I have found that alone time with me does help. We have Mommy Dates where I take one out one day and the next day the other one goes. I am glad I fond this post because I was really feeling like mine were the only ones.

Martine - posted on 01/10/2010

I think all siblings go thru it, twins or not. My twins are 6 we have a boy and a girl. they will be playing together one minute and fighting 2 mins later and then best of friends again.

Rhonda - posted on 01/09/2010

I agree with the other postings that this is a stage. My twin boys are 4 1/2 and at around 1-2 years they were constantly biting each other. They are now best friends and do not like to be apart. They still argue over toys sometimes but the closeness they share is heartwarming. It gets easier when they are able to entertain each other.

Shannon - posted on 01/09/2010

Hi, I have twin girls soon to be 5. They fight each other all the time, pushing, pulling hair, smacking. I break it up, and they go back to playing fine with each other. They just try to dominate each other. They fight each other over who's sitting on mommy's lap, who's helping mommy, etc. I give them ways for both of them to help and have them both sit on my lap. I think you will always have that issue at least sometimes as they work out their frustrations on how to get their point across to the other.

Jennie - posted on 01/08/2010

I have twin boys, and I had the same problem. They are two now, but when they were younger, they did the same thing, especially pushing each other and fighting over toys. That was a big one. Now most of the time, if we can't get something in twos, we get what we can and let them chose who gets it. Like if one wants it now, then we let him have it, then later let the other have it. They're really good about it now. Make sure that they interact with other children. That way at least you'll know that they know that they're supposed to but at home they can get away with it. Just keep trying and be patient.

Kellie - posted on 01/08/2010

I have twin boys who are 5 1/2, the bad news is that it does not get any better, the good news is you have done nothing wrong. I use to think the same way, and my boys fight all the time! I think the fighting is a boy thing! They will probably be close and be good friends, although mine fight on a daily basis, they also do not like to do without the other, if one is sick and out of class the other will look for him all day or ask about him all day. Try not to worry the fighting is part of that special closeness, it is there just in a different way! Good Luck

Tracie - posted on 01/08/2010

They will grow out of it!!!! My twins are 17 years old, fraternal girls, and they still fight at times but nobody else better try that...LOL!!!! Actually they are each other's best friend!

Rachel - posted on 01/08/2010

Ihave 19 month old boy/girl twins. What you descibe is normal behaviour and gets better as they get older. My son has just started to pull his sister´s hair again *sigh* and he gets told off (a firm "no" and a serious-faced mum!) and told why it´s wrong. I think he´s partly doing it for attention. They both still fight over toys too. It´s nothing you´re doing wrong, its just they are at the age of cause & effect (i.e. "what will happen if I do this...") and sharing isnt part of their vocabulary. Dont worry, keep telling them what´s wrong and why and they´ll start to understand. Also, make a big deal when they are nice to each other, they´ll start doing it more! GL and hang in there! :-)

Lesli - posted on 01/07/2010

my babies are like a week old, they are preemies, and when i try to just hold them at the same time james ( baby B) gets so upset because he doesn't want his sister around. and she just wants to lay on top of him or kick him. i think it's normal for them to be competitive with each other, but every single twin relative i have has gone through something similar, and most people tell me it helps when you spend some one on one time with each of them without their sibling, to kinda reassure them that even though there are two of them they are each special...

Katie - posted on 01/07/2010

My g/g twins are 11 months old and are exactly the same as yours! They step on each other, pull hair, slap, scratch and get upset when I'm paying attention to the other rather than them. I think its just a baby thing - they want attention, they think they are the most important...I think mine are in denial that there is actually another baby around! I hope they grow out of it!!

Joanne - posted on 01/07/2010

I have boy/girl twins who are now 13. They went through a similar stage when they were the age of your twins. Now they look out for each other. They still fight at times, but they always stick up for each other.

Susan - posted on 01/07/2010

I think it's just a phase they go through and has a lot to do with their age. My twin boys went through the same thing. They are 5 years old now, and while they do still have their arguments, they are very close. It's hard when they are that age, but it will get better. Please don't blame yourself for anything you did or didn't do. With twins, you do the best you can and go on. Hope I've helped some :)

Amanda - posted on 01/07/2010

I had the same situation with my twin boys! They will grow out of it. They are at a point where they are figuring themselves out as well as the other twin. Mine went through stages of best friends to worse enemies. It was crazy! They are now 19, and they still go through the stages. In the end though, they love each other and know that one is always there for the other, and they just like their independence. They even went through the stages of liking to dress alike, then they hated it!! I learned to let them have their own space, and to give them individual attention when possible. Even send one to a friend or whoever, and spend the day with the other doing something special. It helped us, I hope it will help you and yours as well.

Becky - posted on 01/07/2010

i have twin boys just turned 3 they went through a really bad stage about that age of fighting, hitting each other with toys, biting, pinching each others faces they made each other bleed sometimes with the biting and pinching there was nothing i could do to stop them they would turn on each other in seconds. i have a 2 yr old son aswell but they never hurt him like that occassionally they will push him out of the way. they have been a lot better the last 12 months and they do still fight but not as bad as they used to but they play lovely together now and they like to know where the other one is all the time, and they look out for each other and there younger brother. my health visitor told me that twins were the worst for sibling rivalry as the are going through the exact same stage as each other both fighting for there territory both learning he same things at the same time but always got someone there to compete with 24/7. she said it was normal for twins to be like that. you are not on your own i have met a few people with twins since and they all have the same problems. it will get better althoughit doesnt seem like it now.

Betty - posted on 01/06/2010

You have done nothing. My twins were like that, we felt we had truely the good twin and evil twin. Its a stage they go through. Mine are 25 now and are best friends.

Mandy - posted on 01/06/2010

Hi, i have boy/girl twins just gone 19 months old, mine was just like that fight over toys,pull hair hit each other, they dont do that any more they still fight over whos going to sit on my lap frist etc. It does get better i didnt think it would but its does hang in there xx

Summer - posted on 01/05/2010

I have boy/girl twins the same age as yours and I am so glad to know that my kids are not the only ones going through this!!! My kids are mean to each other and I fear that when they play with other kids they will treat them the same way. They bite, take toys away from each other and tease each other horribly!! Thanks for posting and hopefully things will get better for the both of us!!

Joanne - posted on 01/05/2010

my almost 6 year old twin girls have fought from before they were born. they get pretty vicious but 2 minutes later they are so nice to each other and show their closeness, and god help anyone that tries to hurt one of them or come between them. i have had one tell me off for telling the other one off several times. i get told you can't tell my sister off

Alda - posted on 01/05/2010

I think it's just a stage - establishing their place in the 'pecking order', exploring, learning cause and effect etc. I just put the culprit down with her back to us and make a huge fuss of the victim. Culprit soon learns that doing that doesn't get attention and comes back all smiles.

Jennifer - posted on 01/04/2010

I don't think that it is anything that you are doing maybe just a stage that the twins are going thru. We had that issue with our 24 month b/g twins the girl was over powering the boy biting and hitting to get attention. Once she realized that we did not give attention for that acation it stopped. It was hard to just ignore her after displaying those actions but it did work.



Best of luck