Is being a twin mom as awful as some moms are making it out to be?

Laura - posted on 01/05/2013 ( 107 moms have responded )

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I am 30 weeks pregnant with twin boys and I've Had nothing but negative comments about how it's gonna be after they arrive. This is very scary for me due to the fact that I am a first time mom. When I tell people I having twins they look at me like its a death sentence and say things like, " oh you poor thing." I went through so much to get pregnant after five years of trying and I can't wait to meet my sweet baby boys. I'm on strict bed rest and I'm very uncomfortable at this point and I'm really looking forward to having them out of my belly but everyone keeps telling me that that's when it gets even harder. Help me out positive twin mamas! Is it really as horrible as they make it sound?

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Lisa - posted on 01/07/2013

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Find that multiples group now. They usually have some kind of bed rest support groups and NICU support if you need it.

Samantha - posted on 01/05/2013

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Congratulations! I love having twins. I was also a first time twin mom - this is all I knew and so this is my life with babies as I know it (when we see other friends with just one baby, it just seems 'so easy'). It can be pretty tiring in the beginning and it would help if you had some help. My girls will be two in a couple of months, and I can tell you the past 2 years have definitely flown by! It has been an amazing experience watching them grow and develop. I think I was pretty fortunate as my girls started sleeping through the night pretty early on. i really don't feel like it has been that bad at all and being able to see them play together and interact has been priceless. I am now expecting another baby in May :) so apparently having the twins alone wasn't challenging enough! Good luck!

Darene - posted on 06/14/2013

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No, I being a mom of twins isn't awful, IT"S WONDERFUL! I become a mom of twin overnight without all the worry. (we adopted twins at birth, didn't know their were two.)
I can't imagine parenting any other way but with twins. Are their challenges, yes, but if you take things with stride, develop good routines, and enjoy being a mom, in the end it's all worth it. Do find help, (I liked having an housekeeper who took care of the house, and me a bit), find supportive friends to do outing with, and enjoy.

Lisa - posted on 05/30/2013

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I have b/g twins now 4 years old and I think us moms of twins have it a little easier at this stage. They have each other to play with and entertain. The beginning was a little hectic with feedings and changing but once you find your groove. It's just as easy or hard as having one. The other thing I enjoyed was once diapers, baby food , diapers, diapers were done, you are done. Mothers with small children at different stages are training and breast feeding. Ugh ! Enjoy they are only small for a short time and there are times when it seems like forever, but it won't be line that forever.

LAKEISHA - posted on 05/28/2013

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I had twin boys at 19 and I was scared by everyone too with the horror stories. It isn't as bad as they say, in fact I had a better time with the twins then I did with my two single births. It was more time consuming but there was always something to do so it was fun. It is more expensive also. I had them at 37 weeks, the oldest weighed 5lbs 2ozs and the other weighed 5lbs 15ozs. My oldest had a kidney disorder and the other went to a different hospital fr 4 days because he popped an air pocket on his lungs. They are 15 now and the oldest is over 200lbs, is 5'8, has ADHD which I took him off his meds at 13, and hasn't had a problem with that disorder since he was 3. The other was diagnosed with asthma at 1 month, has ADD and a mood disorder,which I took hi off of his meds at 13 also, he is 133lbs and is 6ft tall. They both play sports and have overcame their hard start in life due to my preeclampsia. Every set is unique but once their here u do what u have to to survive and give them what they need. A routine works wonders although mine always threw the routine off so I just went off my maternal instincts and gave them what they needed when they wanted. My twins were delayed in speech but that was all besides their health promblems.

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Jan - posted on 12/05/2013

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My twin daughters are now 21yrs old and their brother is 24yrs. I had my stressful moments, but they all 3 were a blessing to me and I wouldn't change any of it. I learned from the first baby about breastfeeding and knew I would rather spend time holding and bonding them rather than mixing bottles. I would nurse the baby that woke first and after I would wake the other as I knew wouldn't be long for her to wake on her own. I loved each stage of all 3 children and all were different. Even being identical twins they were then and now different,and I encouraged them to be their own person and not always depend

Lindsey - posted on 12/05/2013

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I am sure you know by now that twins are blessings. My twins (boy and girl) were an opps and a wonderful surprise. I am truly sorry that so many told how awful it would be. I always tell moms of twins or singles, that it just becomes your normal. You do what you have to. For me it was never hard. There were days all I did was feed, change and hold babies, but I now wish for those days back. Every stage has a hard and an easy. Always changing. But never felt sorry for myself. My house suffer, it was never clean. But the day the twins leave for school, they are 2, and I have time to clean, I know I will cry and wish for those 3am snuggles.

Diane - posted on 06/16/2013

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By now I'm sure you realize all the things you heard were a load of crap. I had twin boys 11 weeks early, and they have been a source of joy and laughter for the past 19 years. There have been times in the past 4-5 years where they have tried my patience but as a whole they have shown me love and affection every day of their lives. What I have found with comments like you poor thing is they shouldn't have been mothers anyway! Enjoy them as much as you can, the years will fly by!

Regina R - posted on 06/11/2013

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I would have to say it has been nothing but a joy for me...It's much easier when you have a helping hand, and dad is def hands on so it balances out...after having the twins I noticed their much easier than my 2 single births and their such a joy and blessing...But then again their always happy babies never really cranky so I may have it a little too easy...

Serena - posted on 06/10/2013

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i have twin boys that will be 9 next month. while I will admit I had help the 1st few months from his sister. she was the greatest. but it really isnt that bad. make sure you have enough stuff to keep them busy. if you can make sure you have a swing,exersaucer, walker, the little jungle gyms. something to keep them busy so that you dont have 2 kids with nothing to do. it should help a lot. my boys wasnt bad they didnt stay up all night or cry alot. you just have to keep them on schedule. my aunt said it and it was true for cause shes a twin and she has twins. that twins will walk and talk about 4 months later than single births. it was true for me. now with boys they will be always busy but it really isnt that bad

Dana - posted on 06/08/2013

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No, try not to listen. Its hard, but not half as bad as many made it sound. Just stick to a very strict schedule with them with feedings and nap times after theyre 6 months.mine are almost 4 now and still take a nap every day same time. The first 6 months are hard when both are crying..but if they nap at same time (if u feed every 3 hrs and stuck to routine, they should), u will be able to get lots if rest too. If you will be home w them everyday, I recommend joining a gym with daycare around 6 months. I would take an hour and a half every day just for myself and it was a lifesaver

Alyssa - posted on 06/07/2013

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Laura, Relax, it will be fun! I had a 24 month and a 16 month old when my G/B twins were born. (They are 9 now.) The comment I hated was "OMG what are you going to do" I so badly wanted to answer "I am going to jump off a cliff" what did they expect me to say?, you learn just to deal with it and roll with it. ignore THE INSENSITIVE PEOPLE. When I was pregnant with the first singleton everyone had to tell me the horror stories of child birth. And as I read some of these replies sounds like many still fall into let me tell you the horror side of things. It is not all peaches and cream but weather it is a singleton or twins, there will be hard times, terrible times but more than everything there will be great times!!! Yes you will have sleepless nights but what mom (of any child), hasn't? and we all lived thru it, it is short lived. I strongly suggest find a local Moms of Multiples group, they are the only ones that truly understand everything you are (and will) be going through. They are a great resource, sounding block, venting, fun, help group. FINALLY NO IT IS NOT AS BAD AS THEY MAKE IT SOUND!!!, Enjoy being pregant, enjoy bedrest, enjoy your TWO soon to be bundles of joy.

Charlene - posted on 06/05/2013

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Stop listening to others it will drive you mad. Sift the information, store what you deem important and chuck the rest. When they give advice smile and say thank you and do what your gut tells you. YOU are the momma! Enjoy the last days of your pregnancy! And your babies when they arrive, they grow up way too fast!

Brandy - posted on 05/27/2013

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My first pregnancy was twin girls, and I didn't even really feel like I was ready to be a mom. I watched my sister 4 years earlier have a set of twin girls, she wanted to be a mommy her whole life. She struggled. I was panicked this was more than I could handle. Some days it was. Ask for help when you need it. Enjoy every small moment and milestone. If you look at the whole thing, yes, it can feel overwhelming. My twins are now 5 plus I have a 2.5 yr old boy. It's been great, it's been horrible. I wouldn't give back a single moment either way! The over all experience has been amazingly positive! And one of my daughters has Tourette's, so no, it's not a cake walk, but a wonderful journey none the less!!

Emily - posted on 05/20/2013

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No everyone says to me 'Oh you must have such a hard time with your identical twin girls' but i say twins are amazing! They are so close to eachover it's crazy to think about it. I only wish i had a twin sister to look out for me as my girls do. I have 13 year old twins called Abi and Jasmine, I know girls are suppose to be harder than boys but twins are lovely to be around xxx Emily

Rikki - posted on 05/19/2013

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I am the mom of 4 year old twin boys and am very blessed. They are so much fun. We also have 2 older boys 9 and 14 years old. Don't be afraid and take it one day at a time

Angela - posted on 05/19/2013

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I have 5 year old twin boys and love being a twin mom! They were also our 1st and I was on bed rest from 6 months pregnant. It was hard but well worth it! I delivered at 38 weeks and the boys were perfectly healthy with no NICU time. They are such an incredible blessing! Yes the first few months are really hard but that part is short lived! There us nothing like having to little babies living and needing you. And the twin bond they have is incredible. I wouldn't change it for the world

Joanne - posted on 05/16/2013

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I am a mom of twins and I love it! Yes, it is hard at times, but it is so worth it. I had a 23 month old when my twins were born and since the twins, I've had two more singletons. I was really hoping that my last pregnancy was twins again. Best of luck! you'll be a great twin mama!

Tiffany - posted on 05/14/2013

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Im not trying to scare you but I have 6yr. Old twin boys and it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do besides cope with my type 1 diabetes that was 1st gestational diabetes that turned into type 1. I love my boys but there is never a calm moment. They are very spoiled I mean they get stuff when they are bad.I would rather give them what they want then to reach my breaking point. I just hope you show them who is the boss and don't let them run you over. I don't have anybody that has twins and that knows how hard it is. So when Im whining bout how hard the day was they try to tell me just how hard they day was with just one 6year old. You can do it just put your foot down before they get out of hand. Im thankful for my boys They are just rotten 90% of the time:) I read all the comments and I don't want you to think Im rrying to scare you every mom is different on how they raise their children. There are so many good things about having twins. God gave them to you cause he knows you can handle it.

Karen - posted on 05/12/2013

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There are so many wonderful adventures every single day with twins. Everything from watching them react to each other and having their own language to the fun compition between them. Yes they are a little more work. Yes they act sometimes like everyday siblings, with fighting communicating loving. Once you get them home and begin your routine it will be just another part of your life. Twins are fabulous entertaining Cute beautiful fun just like singleton babies.

I have been a single mother to my twins for their whole life thats 12 years

Jackie - posted on 05/08/2013

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I am the proudest and happiest mother of twin boys out there. It is such a special gift to be chosen to be the mother of twins. Now I will not lie and say that it is not challenging at times, and those annoying people who say "I have Irish twins.... or mine are a year apart, its just like having twins", it so is not.... You will have 2 at every stage of development. But in some ways its easier than having one at a time, they always have a playmate. Twins bring such wonderful experiences and adventures into your life, and you will never be board again. Now there were times since I worked full time days and my husband worked evenings that were a struggle, many nights I ended up putting them in the crib (where they were safe), shutting the door, going out on the front porch and crying at 11:30 at night when they were both up screaming I was alone and had to work in the morning. But that was when they were infants and that time really goes fast. My suggestion to you is take a deep breath, make sure you have a good, solid support system set up, and don't worry... bask in the fact that you are one of the chosen... the truly special MOTs.

AMBER - posted on 05/07/2013

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I AM A SINGLE MOM OF 2 SETS OF TWIN BOYS, AGES 7 AND 5. IT WAS EASY ENOUGH FOR ME TO DO IT A SECOND TIME, AND I WOULDN'T CHANGE THEM FOR THE WORLD. MY HOME IS NEVER BORING, MY KIDS KEEP ME BUSY, AND WE ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO DO. ALL OF THEM HAVE PLAYED ON THE SAME FOOTBALL AND BASKETBALL TEAMS, AND IT CONFUSES THE COACHES AND OTHER PLAYERS! DON'T LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLES NEGATIVE OPINIONS. I HAVE HEARD IT ALL WHEN IT COMES TO MINE.... HAVE FUN AND ENJOY THE BABIES!!!!

DArcy - posted on 05/03/2013

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Best thing of being a twin mum - knowing you and your partner can take four hour shifts at night and eight hour shifts sometimes during the day and still somehow live and raise beautiful children with so little sleep. I like saying at work, "I have two two-year old twins at home, how hard can a little ol' work project like this be?" Best thing my mother in law said: she was visiting and we were just getting them to start sleeping through the night. Her room was next to the nursery and instead of letting them cry for a minute or two and letting them fall back asleep she would rush in and wake them up more. When we (hopefully, lovingly and patiently) observed that we were allowing them to learn to self-soothe and she was not supporting that program and we were cranky from the sleepless nights, she said, "This is the only time in their lives when a diaper change, and a bottle and a cuddle makes all the bad things go away for them. Enjoy having that power while you have it." As the babies became toddlers, baby girl would go sit with her back resting against her brother's back because she liked to be close to him. Sure, there have been biting phases, and hair pulling phases, but the image of those two sitting back to back playing quietly will always stay with me in my heart. Those singleton mums will never know what it is like to hear their own twins babbling and cooing and singing in harmonies and in their own language. They will never know the gasps of delight as people in the street stop you and your stroller to amaze at twin cuteness. We used to joke that we had to take long walks in our neighborhood in our double stroller just to improve the smile quotient of the day. Tip: The best thing we did was set the routine of the day. It changes as they grow and yet we always find sleep and naps are sacred time. We use the same routine for naps, with teeth and pajamas and it takes time but they need their rest. We just kept finding ourselves sticking to it and our twins slept through the night before they were a year old. Yay! We read and re-read most of the books, for us the biggest help has been Baby411 and Toddler411. FUNNY. And informative. I wanted to use the attachment parenting books as kindling as I needed my time to be me and get back to work and the life I knew and loved. You'll be fine. You will find your way. And you will be proud of your children and your accomplishments just as those singleton mums are - and like them you will have no idea how you manage to do it all except you set your standards and put one foot in front of the other!

Ashtin - posted on 03/24/2013

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I have 5 (almost 6) year old twin boys (they were our first also like you), and it was such a fun and easy pregnancy, delivery (csection) and this whole time its been pretty EASY!!!! We also have a 3 (almost 4) year old born exactly two years before his brothers (MM 9/30/07, m 9/22/09) and I would take twins over a singleton any day! Our third is just so determined to be like his big brothers we kinda got shorted our "baby time" and man is he full of character and a nice mix of his brothers and my husband and I. The twins will always have a great bond, someone to chat with, play with, and all that... Some women are blessed with twins and don't see the blessing in it, everyone parents differently, but having twins is something SO SPECIAL! I am so sorry ppl are ruining that for you girl... Praying for you and those precious boys xoxo

Rachel - posted on 03/23/2013

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I am a single mom of three year old identical twin boys, we all know that being a mother is a 24/7 job but it's soo worth while! One thing I found with my boys is because they are mirror image they litterally look at each other and act as though they are seeing their reflection so I have to dress them alike! Because my babies were 7 weeks early and spent 16 days in the nicu I couldn't breast feed but I did find that sitting Indian style in the floor with both of them propped up on the I side of my legs I was able to feed both at the same time, just remember just because they are twins doesn't mean they are exactly alike, they are individuals and may or may not like the same things. Good luck with your babies and yes take tons of pictures because it goes by way to fast

Michelle - posted on 03/23/2013

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I love having twin boys. It's s lot of fun...it can be guard but anything worthwhile is...don't worry...you'll do great"!

Nicolle - posted on 03/23/2013

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my twins are 12 now. I was on bed rest and uncomfortable too, I can empathize. I won't lie, it is work and tiring but so much joy and fun! I wouldn't trade a moment for anything. Take lots of pics if you can, they do the cutest things! My girls are inseperable. Most people with twins will tell you what a joy they are;)

Jessica - posted on 03/22/2013

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Hi Laura!

Im 30+3 too and people say omg you are never going to rest and its going to be hard. Like we don't know that already but I'm scared like you too! I just wanted to know that you are not alone my friend :)

Charity - posted on 03/22/2013

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Being a twin momma is fun! those first few months-a year are a more challenging but is so fun to watch them grow. My duo are almost 16 months and are a bunch of fun in the last few months I feel as if it has gotten easier. I had bad days when they were a few months old breastfeeding all day and needing a break but the sweet moments really do outweigh the bad moments. Remember in bad moments, think this will pass quickly and one day you will wonder why they had to grow so quickly. I remember all the comments while preggo you would of thought I would have been better off dead with some of the things people say. Geez! Just remember when you are on the other side of being a scared new twin mom to encourage twin parents. Twins are blessings!

Justine - posted on 03/22/2013

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Wow, people can be SO incredibly insensitive? Even if they THINK that why in the world would they think it's okay to go ahead and say it?

But the good news is they couldn't be more WRONG!

Having twins is awesome. I have five year old twin girls and have loved every single moment of having twins. Sure, it's not as easy as having one baby - in fact you will wonder what all of those singleton mums are complaining about, I mean how hard can it be - they only have the ONE baby!!! So yes, some things will be a bit more tricky with two babies - but you know what, you work it out, you get a system, and it just works. And then ... oh and THEN ... there is payoff by the bucket loads for any extra work involved in having two babies - the rewards of having twins are endless ... two special little people in your life and you get to watch them grow and develop together and that special twin bond. And as they get older there are so many benefits of having two kids the same age (and especially when they are the same gender) - they are happier to play together than different age siblings as they are always at the exact same stage of development and will most likely have similar broad interests, they will at the same stage at school and on the same schedules for activities etc ... in a couple of years you will be able to smugly say to all those insensitive mums who are now expecting baby number 2 and an have an active toddler "my word, that will be just TERRIBLE, gosh however will you cope with a baby AND a toddler..." ;-)

Renee - posted on 03/20/2013

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OMG twins are the best! Maybe you'll sleep a little less in the beginning but twin interaction, double love and milestones are twice as special! They learn social behaviour more quickly, have a best friend for life and occupy each other as they grow older.
It's not always easy but no parent can say it always was easy (if they do, they lie).
The only thing you'll need to worry about is loving twins so much you'll want more!
Good luck and welcome to the exclusive multiple club!

Mareese - posted on 03/19/2013

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Stress less hunni, I have a 28yo 19yo and my boy/girl twins are 16. sometimes its trying but on a whole you are bound to luv it, funny things they do together etc...But I was absolutly terrified when I found out. good luck mum-to-be its fun fun fun, just twice as much :)

Lisa - posted on 03/18/2013

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please do not listen to all of the negative comments. My husband and I have twin girls after many years of infertility. The first year is challenging but not horrible! Yes there may be days that feel like they will never end but in the end, you have two beautiful children. My girls are now 11. The time goes by so fast and you will look back and wonder where the time went.
I have never had a singleton so I don't know what that is like. But I do know that you do double the work with twins but you don't know anything different. It all works out! Listen to your heart and gut! Pick and choose your advice from others. Your kids will have their own personalities so some things may work for one but not the other. We also read Babywise. It helped us keep a schedule and my girls were sleeping through the night ( for the most part,) at 4 months. They still like to have a routine even at 11. They know what to expect.
Hope this helps! Keep up the great work...

Katy - posted on 03/18/2013

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I am really angry about how awful people were before we had our babies. they are 10 weeks today and yeah, some of it's hard, but it's really great. People scared the crap out of us and it was really mean spirited. We tried really hard for these babies and are so grateful to have them. People should be ashamed of themselves. Be excited! this is the best gig ever! love to you.

Erin - posted on 03/17/2013

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My boy/girl twins are almost 6. The first year we were in survival mode, but that doesn't mean it was horrible. I was just stupid with some things. I didn't take the advice of others because I thought being a good mom meant figuring things out on my own. After the first year it was probably easier than having a toddler/infant pair.

Janice - posted on 03/15/2013

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I was scared too when I found out I was having twins. I have to admit the first year was hard. I had to go back to work after 6 weeks, and I remember being so tired. My twins didn't sleep much, and their schedules were off. I did have a supportive husband who did more than his share and helped out a lot. Breastfeeding both was hard, and I don't know if I would do that again, although I know breast milk is the best for babies. It was just so draining. After that first year, things got much better and the boys have someone to play with which will make your life easier. I love having twins, just take the good (which there is an abudance of), with the other. And for those who are negative, just remember that God blessed you with 2 beautiful babies, and he wouldn't give you more than you can handle. Congrats

Julie - posted on 03/14/2013

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Hi Laura! I have 6 year old identical boys and I got the same type of comments when I was pregnant. I'm also a first time mom so I had no idea what to expect and I took what people said who DIDN'T have twins very lightly. You won't know until they are here. Now for me, the first three months or so are a complete blur. I won't sugar coat it...the beginning is very hard. And I had healthy non-colicky babies who were sleeping 10 hours a night by 2 1/2 months. I was a mad woman at keeping a schedule, keeping them on the same same sleep patterns, and charting everything so I could keep track of feedings, changings, sleep times, etc. I went a little too crazy, I think, now looking back...but my guys go to bed now with now issues and I still keep them on a pretty rigid schedule. I know being a bit OCD at the beginning has helped me keep order now as they have gotten older and into their rambunctious phase. :) I guess my best advice to you is don't believe everything you hear...every mom and baby is different. You will develop your own methods to the madness and before you know it another milestone has passed and you've made it through another stormy time. And who knows...maybe the people with all the 'opinions' had horrible kids and couldn't imagine having two of them! ;) Best of luck...enjoy them while you can when they are little...I know it will seem impossible at times because you will feel overwhelmed but I can't believe my babies are in kindergarten and learning fractions and having spelling tests. They are so precious and loving and I wouldn't change all the sleepless nights at the beginning for nothing. God bless you and your family. Julie V.

Diann - posted on 03/09/2013

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WHY IS IT that the SECOND a women gets pregnant, that all these HORRIBLE PEOPLE come along with such AWFUL STORIES! I am SO sorry about that honey so here is the deal. NO, having twins is a JOY! Your boys will always have a best friend, they will look alike but be different people, they will be the stunned comment from passers by. (OH MY GOSH! TWINS!!) and they will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS be the BLESSING that they are MENT to BE! I have several friends that have twins and they would NOT have it any other way. My Grandmother had twins, SHE LOVED IT!!! and that was in the 40s HOW MUCH BETTER TODAY??? You are SO right to be excited! HECK! I am excited FOR YOU and I don't even KNOW YOU! When I was pregnant, I was to have her in a military hospital and the stories about that????? Whew. Horrible, so I can only imagine what YOU are being told. I did discover something though, from my Momma, that I passed on to my daughters, (mine or otherwise) that I will pass on to you. You birth, and babies, will be what YOU keep telling yourself AND THEM, they will be. If you tell yourself this will be a JOY! it will be a joy, If you tell yourself that you will SO enjoy this blessing that you were given! You will enjoy it FULLY! If you tell yourself that your two sons are going to be the best thing that ever happened to this earth, And then, in turn, tell them this EACH and EVERY night for the rest of their lives.. Then they will live out the thoughts you put in their heads, because it has been in your, and their hearts for so long! It hurts me sometimes to know that there are Moms out there that are not only telling women like YOU how horrible twins are, but if you think this attitude is not wearing off on the children? it IS. So their twins will grow up to think that they are horrible and a bother. How very sad. When someone started with the stories I countered them with a "WOW...You think there is NOTHING good about your children? Wow, such a shame for THEM." Hey. if it whacks their nose out of joint GREAT! Maybe they will leave you alone! YOU don't need that! After all, they are trying to make others feel as pitiful as they do. OF their OWN making, You my dear and those two babies are going to be JUST FINE!!!!! In-fact BETTER then FINE! You three are going to be GREAT!!!! I am SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! BTW. Get someone to, or make it yourself a sing to go on your door. it will say, THIS IS A NEGATIVE FREE ZONE! If you have nothing good to say. you are permitted access!" Or something like that! If negative starts to spill? POINT to the door! Say !OUT! and maybe they will understand you are serious! Have your man as your bouncer. (He'll LOVE that!)

Deborah - posted on 03/09/2013

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In all fairness they are probably trying to give you a realistic view on raising twins. The truth is that it is hard! All babies are exhausting though, have two is just a little harder. That being said my twin boys just turned 8 and they are the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me! There are so many experiences that will happen to you on your journey that only someone with twins will ever be able to related too - some of them challenging and some of them magical! Watching their bond grow, their personalities develop and their amazing Tag Teaming techniques are all worth the moments that you want to pull your hair out or sell your soul for a 10 minute nap lol You'll have your own set of horror stories by the end of it, just make sure you sprinkle them with the great stories too when a pregnant mom with twins asks you what it's like! lol

Alexandra - posted on 03/08/2013

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I got the same thing when I was pregnant. My twins were my first pregnancy and they'll be 7 months old on the 17th and honestly it really hasn't been that bad. Of course you're going to have your good days and your bad days but you'd have that with a singleton. I cannot tell you how many people (especially my friends with singletons) say "I don't know how you do it, it's hard enough with one" ... but honestly, you just do.

I was lucky that my husband was able to take 4 weeks off and we got into a routine with the twins, and I was able to recover from the c-section. The biggest advice I have is get into a routine ... whatever works for you! That will save your sanity. A lot of twin moms advised to tandem feed, to me I found it more stressful so I fed them one at a time, it worked best for me, of course if they got hungry at the same time then I fed them at the same time. Don't try to do it all ... the housework will be there later, just take care of the twins. If you have family or friends offering to help you, TAKE THEM UP ON IT!!! Seriously!!! If you feel bad putting them to work around the house then put them to work keeping an eye on the twins so you can get a load of laundry done or take more than a 2 second shower.

My husband has always been a huge help and from the time he gets home from work he's helping with the twins. We take turns with baby duty -- I take it during the week and and he takes weekends, of course if I need him during the week then he's more than willing to help and vice versa. Figure out a schedule that works for the two of you.

You will find what works for your whole family and you will wonder one day what in the world you did without the twins. In my almost 7 months of having my twins it's never been a dull moment, it's been absolutely amazing, and everyday watching them grow, learn, explore, etc is down right amazing! I wouldn't trade any of it!

Congratulations on your twins! Good Luck!

Myra - posted on 03/07/2013

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Hi Laura, I have a set of twins, a boy and a girl that are a year old. Sometimes having twins could be very exhausting and overwhelming but also could be very rewarding. My babies get into things, fight, and are very demanding but they are also funny. It is funny and entertaining watching them communicate to each other and play. Day to day I watch them grow and it is amazing how they interact with one another. In addition, please make sure you have a support group and a lot of help because they will keep you very busy. I enjoy my babies and am happy God blessed me with a two for one deal. Most important enjoy your babies because they grow so fast.

Melissa - posted on 03/02/2013

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I got this too when I was pregnant and by the time I was 30 week pregnant, I had a few of my own comebacks thanks to my hormones. The answer is NO. I honestly couldn't imagine my life with just one.

You will be a bit overwhelmed at first, but you will figure out a scheduled. I made sure to keep them on the same schedule, I would have died if I didn't.

They are 18 months now (boy/girl) and they work together on EVERYTHING. We finally have to get two cribs even tho we dont have the space for it because one baby would lay down and the other would step on them to climb out..... and baby proofing? they have figured it ALL out.

When you reach around the 3 month point and they are sleeping all night, you will finally breathe and realize how easy it is.

The only hard part is going out alone.
When someone tells you that its going to be hard, tell them it might be for them, but you're a good mom so there is obviously a difference.

Good luck! I do have a blog on my life with twins!
www.MePlusYouAndTWO.com

Christina L - posted on 02/28/2013

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I am so sad that the consensus out there is so negative. I had boy-girl twins years ago (they are now 3-1/2). I am so very grateful. Yes, it has been the most difficult thing I have ever done. BUT- few things are worth much if you don't have to fight for it! Most people get a lot of help from relatives/friends. I have gotten NO help from my sister (yet I helped her with her ONE child), and MINIMAL help from my mother. Absolutley NO help from anyone else. It didn't need to be so hard for me, and that does make me angry. Yet here I sit telling you it won't be so bad... Like I said, most people get help. PLUS, my babes were 5 weeks premature AND low birth weight, and were born in the midst of an H1N1 epidemic, where the infected were less than 200 feet down the hall with a SHARED NURSES' STATION. Scary! Again- here I sit, saying it is wonderful to have twins. So here is my advice: work hard. Stand your ground (things ARE different for you!). Don't take advice from those who have had one at a time! (No offense) Seek solace from other multilples moms;)

Sara - posted on 02/26/2013

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I LOVE LOVE LOVE being a Mommy to my twin boys! I was 40 when they were born, so getting two was a bonus after figuring I would probably have none. They weren't exactly an accident, but they were a surprise. Every day is a challenge, but also an amazing gift from God. We have so much fun together and though my life has changed a LOT, I am really like my new Mama self. Anything worth doing is gonna be a little bit hard, but having twins is the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't listen to those whining negative people. They're jealous and ignorant. Since you, like me, don't know what having just one baby is like, having two will seem natural and you will rise to the tasks. Also some things are actually easier. Mine are 3 years old now, and they entertain each other playing together so that I can catch up on things I've been putting off for the last couple years now ;) And the way they look out for each other just wrings my heart for joy.

Heidi - posted on 02/24/2013

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My girls recently turned 20 and they were my first babies. The first 12 months is the hardest on you physically. But by no means scary. I've had two singleton boys since the twins and i must say i had more time to enjoy them as babies than the twins. I've always said the advantage to having twins first is that you don't have anything to compare it to, women who have twins after having a singleton struggle. Women who have twins first deal with what they've got & love doing it. When things get too hard and you just want to cry, be thankful they're not triplets.
Don't be scared, twins are delightful at any age. Not everyone is blessed with twins, we are special women indeed.

Valerie - posted on 02/22/2013

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My twin girls are 17 now... I REALLY enjoyed the younger years.. of course there are things that are harder as there are 2.. but then there are things that are easier as well, like keeping them occupied as toddlers.. they have eachother to help :) Enjoy your babies.. hopefully you have had them by now and are settling in with your boys!! In my mind, it isn't the fact my twins are twins.. it's the fact they are girls.. I have a singleton boy who was much easier, but not because there was just one of him, but I think it was because he was a boy ;) LOL... ENJOY those babies!!

Honey - posted on 02/18/2013

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It's not horrible at all. Most likely it's ones with a singleton who are scared of the thought of having twins. For me I find 3year old stage more challenging than new borns.

We struggled to get pregnant and had 8 miscarriages before our twins and I am forever greatful for my boys.

Lori - posted on 02/18/2013

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Is it more challenging - sure but the blessings surpass the work but the advantage u have is the same one I had since it is your first Mom experience u have nothing to compare it too - so having twin boys will be your "normal". Enjoy your sweet boys and REST!

Karen - posted on 02/17/2013

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I love being a twin mom and would not trade it for ANYTHING!! they are so sweet and love each other dearly. Sure there is an occasional skirmish as with ALL siblings. My first two are singles and occasionally fight. Anywhoo, mine were very patient, slept through the night earlier due to having a sweet brother with them all the time. They always have a playmate, and a very special bond very few have. You will love it!!

Belinda - posted on 02/17/2013

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i was a first time mum like yourself with twin boys i found it so easy once you get into a routine the joys of having twins is a fantastic experience you watch them bond talk baby talk to each other only they can understand is wonderful my twins are 26 now that bond is still there enjoy and good luck x

Keisha - posted on 02/15/2013

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I am the proud mom of two sets of twins. I have a sent of 5 year old boys and a set of 2 year old girls. There is nothing more rewarding to me. I dont think I would know what to do with one child at a time. Each set was different, unique in their own way. Yes at times if can be difficult but parenting is difficult anyway. As with anything, it is what you make it. My advise is to be positive, be honest with yourself and as for help if you need it and except help when offered. Good luck!

Nickie - posted on 02/15/2013

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i'm a twin mummy too :o) and it's the best feeling ever and no it's not dreadful at all they bring so much into your life :o) dont listen to any negative comments ...are they twin mums?? if not then what do they know !! my advice would be to enjoy the time when they're tiny as they grow so quickly mine are now 8 (boy/girl) and have tonight gone on their first 2 night camp with cubs (which is quite scarey for me) but i know they'll be fine as they will always have each other :o)
have you contacted any local twin groups?? they offer great advice and lots of support . also get in touch with 'TAMBA' (twins and multiple births association)
relax and enjoy the last part of pregnancy as uncomfortable as i'm sure you are you will miss them not being in your tummy .....best of luck and as i said before ignore the ignorant :o) x

Dawn - posted on 02/12/2013

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Having twins was one of the scariest things in my life! But they are amazing!!!! Being a twin mama does mean that some things are more of a challenge, but some things are going to be easier. And the comments won't stop after you have your twins. I very quickly learned that you have to have a quick wit to combat the ugly comments that you will get. And find a MOM's group ASAP!!! It will help!!!

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