is it just me?

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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do you ever find that EVERYONE has to know every detail about your twins... even if you have never spoken to the intrigued? i love the attention the boys get, but it's almost like the feeling of the circus' main event... and i sometimes wonder how that affects them... they are special, and they should feel special, but all children are special... just my thoughts...

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Brandy - posted on 10/19/2009

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no It's not just you. Sometimes I would love to go to a store and make it down just one isle before someone stops us. I think it teaches them not to be afraid of strangers!

Stephanie - posted on 10/18/2009

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It does lessen a bit as they get older! but generally, yeah. twins are specials and unusual so everyone wants to know everything.
that doesn't mean you have to tell them everything though. :) Vague general answers are good for strangers or acquaintances. family and friends will want more of course. :)
congrats on your bundles!
I call my identical girls my carbon copies. :) They'll be 7 on Thursday.

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Sheila - posted on 10/24/2009

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Quoting Judi:

so funny! I have B/G twins, and we used to get the "are they identical?" question too. Uhm, no. Hard to not say something else when you are sleep deprived.



I hear ya Judi, we got this allot. One day while at menards both kids were clearly dressed appropriatley she is pink and frilly and he was in blue!  They were about 4 months old at the time. This sweet old cople walks up to coo over these kids they do not know. Then comes the stupid question.. Are they identical?  My husband shocked me when he blurted out, yes, all but the pluming.. I wonder if they ever figured that one out LOL

Erica - posted on 10/23/2009

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i feel like a side-show every time we go out... and everyone feels the need to tell me about every set of twins they have ever met or might be related to. it's kinda like, "yes, as a matter of fact i have heard of mary-kate and ashley, and yes! they were twins... okaaaaaay...".

Judi - posted on 10/23/2009

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so funny! I have B/G twins, and we used to get the "are they identical?" question too. Uhm, no. Hard to not say something else when you are sleep deprived.

Mary - posted on 10/23/2009

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I get so tired of people saying "are they twins? how do you tell them apart? are they identical?" I have been rude to strangers at times because it is really none of their business and I answer that no they are not twins - not even sisters just to see the reactions. I get a good laugh sometimes at the expressions when I say it.

Jessica - posted on 10/22/2009

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It does get better the older they get, at least with fraternals ;) I learned quick not to make eye contact with people & that they tend to move out of the way when you're pointing a large stroller at their shins while pretending you don't see them. I also would put 1 or 2 in carriers (on on the back & another on the front -worked well until combined they were over 40lbs). Having babies in seperate places makes people notice them less, a lot of people thought I was just a baby making machine not noticing there was no age difference. As my girls got older & wanted their independence from carriers & strollers I pretty much kept a running commentary with them making it harder for strangers to interject with their questions. My girls are almost 4 now & they've started answering the questions from strangers, which I can still easily curb with a "now honey, do we talk to strangers?" people tend to feel guilty about continuing to ask them questions after that & usually comment on kids in general to me & not more questions about my trio. Sometimes I think I have it easier though as the most common 1st question is "are they twins" & I easily answer 'no, triplets' it takes them a second to think of another question when they don't get the expected response to the 1st & as long as I'm not stuck in a line with them I'm gone before the 2nd question comes. :)

Angela - posted on 10/22/2009

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My twins boys are 11. They pretty much handle the questions now. The first one we get of course is the usual, "Are they twins?" Their usual response is: Twin 1 "No, we just look a lot alike and are the same age." Twins 2 "DUH!" This is usually accompanied by an eye roll. I would correct them for being rude, and I usually do, but the person who asked usually laughs and says, "Bet you get asked that a lot huh?"

Alda - posted on 10/22/2009

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I agree with Caroline. My girls are 13 months and look absolutely nothing alike. For a start the one has curly hair and the other one straight. When people say: how do you tell them apart? I just want to scream: It's because they bloody look nothing alike, what the hell is wrong with you! It's sometimes really hard to bite your tongue, especially when they then ask if your girls dressed in lovely pink and purple flowers are boys!

Tejashree - posted on 10/21/2009

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really the most common n foolish question everyone ask me for my 5 yr identical twins is how do u say the difference bet the two? n its very annoying they r my boys who have been in front of me since the time they r born how can u nt tell them apart????

Theresa - posted on 10/20/2009

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I loved the question "are they twins?" No .... dah! I am a people person, but when the twins were little found that I had to learn not to be. When we are 'friendly' to the questioners they tend to hang around and come up with more dumb questions. Turn on a bit of the cold shoulder, quit making eye contact with strangers, when you see them coming after you take your steps up a knotch and look the other way. People don't invade most new borns lives how dare they think they can invade ours. Enjoy!!

Caroline - posted on 10/19/2009

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What gets me is when people look at my girls (non-identical) who are nearly 1, and ask "how do you tell them apart!?" Or they get compared to each other......they're no more alike than me and my sister 9 years apart!



I do enjoy the extra attention though (however my nearly 4 year old son usually frowns or growls at the people looking at his girls!)



"Like it or not, you have just become a lifetime member of the most inclusive club in the world." Quoted from; double trouble Twins and How to Survive Them by Emma Mahony

Sandra - posted on 10/19/2009

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would be nice to be known as something other than the twins mum - I have a name too!! (and another daughter!)

Tabitha - posted on 10/18/2009

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I used to dread going out of the house because I knew we would be hit with a whole load of questions every time we went to the store. My husband and I teased that we should have a sign made that said "Yes they are twins, Yes they are both boys, no they are not identical" I don't like telling every stranger in the world everything about my boys. If I was in a real hurry, without being rude I would pretend that I didn't hear the comments... The attention was nice for about the first month, but at 13 months it is hard to deal with at times...

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