Rachel - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )
I am curious to know your experience with raising twins. I looked online to see what twin moms had to say about it, and it seemed like a ton of horror stories! Now please don't get me wrong, I can only imagine how hard it is! Twins moms are definitely strong people. I had a colicy first born, I can't even imagine having two babies at once. I do know that it can be a little different when they are a surprise after already having children vs. when they are your first (via IVF or Clomid). Can you tell me your experience? I am a surro mom, and I'm contemplating carrying twins for a couple. I do have the option of only accepting one embryo, or not taking any fertility meds (since those increase your chances). I'm a little nervous about how the pregnancy will be, and how they will handle raising twins.
So many moms lashed out at me on another website, telling me that twins are so hard why would you ever wish for them, or carry them for another couple. That it's too hard on the kids, because they will constantly have to fight for attention and have trouble with their own individuality, fighting over friends in school, that sort of thing. Is this a big problem? They also said it was so hard they would 'never wish it on anyone'. I would never wish a colicy baby on anyone, but it doesn't mean I wouldn't go through it all over again to have my wonderful baby boy!
I know that couples faced with infertility would love twins, and have the resources to give them everything they would ever want. I'm just worried about how the children would do. And after a twin pregnancy, would I have to take off extra time? Has anyone become pregnant after having twins? We are ready for Baby #2, and want to have him/her after this next pregnancy. I always wait 6 months in between pregnancies, but I can imagine it must be a little more taxing on your body.
I'd love info. Thank you ladies!