Twins born at 32 weeks

Whitney - posted on 03/29/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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My twins were born at 32 weeks and are in the NICU, how do you cope with not being able to bring them home?????

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Payne - posted on 08/16/2012

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Hi I just recently had my ft g/b at 32 weeks early sat morning and I too am trying to cope with leaving my babies at the hospital although I see that they are making great gains as far as their breathing which they dont need help and the iv's have been removed I know that it is in their best interest to be there but I want them home with the rest of the family.....I have read some of the posts and it helps to see how others have dealt with the time away....

Sasha - posted on 01/29/2011

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I am 32 weeks with b/g twins. I also have a 4 year old. my daughter (Baby B) has intermittant abscence in her dopplers and shes is significantly tinier than our son (baby A) I am trying to keep them in as long as possible to give her time to grow but have the strasnge feeling that theyll be coming any day. Ultrasound measurements 4 days ago saythat she wieghs 3lbs and he weighs 4lbs. Im wondering if anyone else had the doppler issue in thier pregnancy and what are the chances of my twins having life long complications if born now. Our 4 year old has cystic fibrosis so I am already familiar with the NICU and PICU but would love it if my twins had a chance of living healthy lives after being released from NICU

User - posted on 04/11/2009

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I gave birth to my Twins 2 and a half hours away from were we lived. The twins had to stay in the NICU for a month, so  we had to find a place to stay. Because I was breast feeding, i was up every 3 hours to pump, and at the hospital all day with the baby's.  It was so hard but everything worked out in the end. My twins are 2 know and are really keeping me busy. But I love every minuet of it. Best of luck!

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Hi, I went through the same thing, My twin girls were born at 28 weeks. and spent 10 weeks in NICU. It is hard not being able to hold them and take them home. But you will get through it. They are a precious gift and you will cherish these moments, when you look back. The time does pass quickly as they enter each stage of the NICU. You will be able to spend more time with them as they get stronger and it is wonderfull when the day comes to bring them home. That was 17 years ago already for me and I remember it as if it was only yesterday. God Bless

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2009

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Good Morning Whitney. I want to encourage you to do what feels right. Our twins were born at 25 weeks and not expected to make it through the night. They are now 14 months old, and each have gone through 6 major surgeries. Christopher was in the NICU for 4 months before he came home. Isaac was in the NICU for 4 months where he then transferred to another state and stayed in the hospital for another 4 months before coming home. I will never forget that first night of leaving them. But you do what you haev to do for the safety of your children. If you need to stay at the NICU with them for hours, then go ahead and do that. My husband worked while I spent 8-14 hours every day at the NICU reading to the boys, and cuddling once we were finally able to hold them. I will be praying for your children.

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Avi - posted on 02/28/2014

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Sasha, I'm 32 weeks with fraternal boy twins. They have been different sizes from the beginning and the smaller one has had intermittent diastolic flow for months. I'm wondering how your twins are doing and if they ever found a cause for the issues? Hope you are home with all your little peanuts growing strong!

Samantha - posted on 05/29/2012

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my twins were in hospital for 2 weeks born at 35 weeks and it felt like a life time it was soooo hard and i started to think i would never get them home i felt so down all the time i visited them every day and exspressed milk to take to them i hated leaveing them but then we got told that the twins was well and could come home just like that we packed there things and took our babys home it felt great the best feeling ever you just have to keep telling your self that with each day they are at the hospital getting strong the closer the day you get to take your bundles of joy home with you

Tulanicambareri - posted on 05/28/2012

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I was fortunate enough to stay on at the hospital. One thing I did was take an iPod. I'd often listen to music to block out the sounds of other people's sick/pre-term babies who were crying in distress or pain as things were being done to them. I realise that things need to be done for these babies, but it's still hard - especially when there isn't a mum around (for whatever reason) and the health staff have other babies to care for. It is heartbreaking to see babies in distress, and, after a number of days, my iPod became essential. NICU's and SCBU's can be harrowing places.

Tulanicambareri - posted on 05/28/2012

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I think it is impossible to "enjoy" the time that they are in hospital. If you'd said that to me, I would have wondered what planet you were from. How can you "enjoy" the time that they are in hospital? Having a baby or babies in NICU or SCBU is an extremely difficult time, not an enjoyable time!

Venus - posted on 05/28/2012

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i went through same thing.. enjoy the time they are in the hospital..and know that the babies are in good hands.. mine stayed in the hospital for 3weeks after they were born @ 31weeks 5 days.. I used the time they were in hospital to get as much rest as i could

Tulanicambareri - posted on 05/26/2012

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Hi,
My twins were born at 35 weeks and 4 days because of mistakes with ultrasounds. They spent two weeks in SCBU because of their prematurity.

Firstly, the best thing you can do right now, is get a hospital grade double Medela breast pump and pump around 12 times a day (includes at least a couple of sessions during the night, too). Breastmilk is the best thing for your bubs right now. Did you know that the breastmilk produced by a mother of a pre-term baby is different from that produced by a mum of a full-term baby?

I hope they haven't discharged you?! This is a sore point for me, and something that needs to change. Kick up the biggest fuss you can in order to stay in hospital. I did, and they let me pay to stay. Your babies need you to be on-call for them. Babies whose mother has stayed are actually discharged sooner than those whose mother went home. It disgusts me that our health system in Australia doesn't permit mums to routinely stay. If your child is admitted to the paediatric unit, you are allowed to stay. It baffles me why a mother who is trying to breastfeed, bond and be there for her pre-term babies is not allowed to stay. Things need to change!

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2012

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It's really hard! I had to leave one of my boys in the hospital for awhile after he was born, and going home without him was torture! Not to mention that you're also hormonal and everything is upsetting! Keep these things in mind though... This is only temporary. They are where they need to be right now to make them well and strong. One day they will be toddlers and you WILL wish you could take them back to the NICU for a few hours! LOL Go see them as much as you can (and don't let anyone make you feel unwelcome...these are YOUR children and you have every right to be there as much as you want, as long as you aren't in the way and aren't causing problems!) Be gentle with yourself and take this time to rest and recover... you are going to soon have a crazy but wonderful household and will need all the energy you can muster! :)
Just keep saying "this isn't forever". You're working toward a goal of healthy, happy babies, and soon you'll all be back together!

Dani - posted on 06/08/2009

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my twins were born at 29 weeks.. they stayed in hospital for 9 weeks and 5 days.. twin 1 could have come home 2 weeks earlier but we wanted them to stay together... twin 2 had surgery at 5 weeks old.. he was classed as failing to survive because of a hole in the heart that needed to be surgically fixed.. and then he had to catch up.. while u r taking the premmie journey its a rough ride.. but when u look back on it u think it wasnt too bad and it could have been worse..

Carrie - posted on 04/16/2009

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omg i would have died if mine had got sent to different hospitals i am just glad ou are all ok my twins lily and imogen were only in 2 weeks i was really lucky

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2009

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my twins hannah and jake were born at 31 weeks and were taken to different hospitals it was my worst nightmare come true they were kept in scbu for 9 weeks.i had to express my milk and bring it to one hospital while my husband went to the other and then we'd switch the next day,i also had 3 other kids at home,they are 2 years old now and doing great but i'll never forget that heart racking time,but you will be able to show them offb4 you know it and u'll be asked the same questions over again everyone loves to see twins,i wish you the best of luck you have great times ahead of you.xx

Alia - posted on 04/14/2009

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My boy/girl twins were born at 33 weeks 6 days. I had 2 girls at home already that were 4 and 3. I cried when I left the hospital but tried to stay strong for my girls. About 2 minutes after leaving the hospital, I turned around to see my 4 year old sobbing. She was crushed that we couldn't bring them home. It was horrible. We ended up pulling the car over and me, my mom, and both of my girls sat there crying. We made it home and managed to make it through the 3 weeks they stayed in the NICU. My daughter came home first and leaving my son there by himself was awful. He came home 3 days later, and we were elated. However... After being home only 24 hours, he stopped breathing and we had to lifeflight him. Then the very next day, my daughter did the same thing and we had to lifeflight her. We ended up in Children's for 3 more weeks. As sad as it is leaving them, the NICU is truly the best place for them. We now have 2 healthy 15 month olds who are so much fun. I wouldn't change anything. Just remember... God doesn't give you what you can't handle. It will be over before you know it.

Tara - posted on 04/14/2009

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There is nothing as bad as the feeling of walking out of the hospital without your babies. It is unnatural. My twins were born at 29 weeks. what was supposed to be a joyous occasion turned into one of fear and uncertainty. We were robbed of our normal pregancy and childbirth. My twins were in the hospital for 2 months. They were the longest 2 months of my life. But you have to get through it. I spent my days at the hospital. I brought a book with me, so I got a lot of reading done between feedings. I tried my best to relax and get some rest, cause when those babies come home, you won't get much of it. Take one day at a time. Trust in your caregivers, ask them any questions that you may have, and try to get involved in their care as much as you can. this way you'll still feel like you are playing som part in their lives. Believe it or not, it will get easier, and one day you'll get to take them home and all of this will just be a memory. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks 3 days and stayed in NICU for 2 weeks, and i saw them on my way to my room after a c-section and couldnt see them for 2 days because of the amount of pain i was in. I'd been discharged a week before they were and i just broke down when i left them for the first night. For the next week my fiance and I were up there about 12 hours a day to breastfeed so i could get them home. They are now 4 months old and the time apart hasnt affected the bond at all. It was just a little delayed.

Audrey - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks and One came home after 2 weeks the other 1 1/2 months and the second one also came home on oxygen. It's a lot of work but I think it helped that I was able to bring home one then the other. I also have a 3 year old who wasn't even 2 when they were born so I had to juggle a lot. Get as much rest as you can and be thankful they are gonna be ok. Rest knowing that they are in a place that can take very good care of them around the clock.

Leah - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks and i was a bit sad at going home without them. I was given the option to stay in the in-between ward but since i had a 2 and a half year old at home. It wasn't gonna work. I was back and forth everyday until they came home.



I mainly just mentally toughened myself and told myself that they needed to be there to get healthy and strong and it wouldn't be long until they'd be home.



I remember leaving them everyday. .  It was hard but they were in good hands and getting looked after better than if they were home.



Your babies will be home soon enough and you'll be glad to have had that in between time of getting to know them without having the stress of 2 small babies 24 hours a day.

Mechelle - posted on 04/12/2009

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It is a very hard thing to go through! What helped me is that I was there ALL THE TIME. My other two babies were big babies so I just made myself be at the hospital and learn all I can about what they are going through and what they are connected to. Engulf yourself into that NICU.





Sheryl - posted on 04/12/2009

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Quoting Karen:



I had my boys at 33 weeks, and they stayed in the NICU when I left the hospital. The first time I left the hospital I cried the entire drive home and for the rest of the day. I missed them terriblby already, and people just didn't understand this. I felt so terrible leaving them there, but I got more and more comfortalbe with the whole situation. I kept telling myself that they truly were in good hands, and that I should get as much rest as possible before they come home from the hospital. It didn't make it any easier, just more bearable on me. Then one of my boys came home after two weeks and the other stayed for another week. That was just so terribly difficult. I felt so torn to try and be in both places at the same time. It was tough, and I don't wish it on anyone. Good luck, and do get some rest. Focus on the fact that they're surrounded by capable nurses and doctors.






You just described how I felt!  Everyone tried to be helpful, and I would just cry, but it was honestly one of the hardest days of my life.  We lived 2 hours away, so I would go for 2-3 days and then come home for 1 -2.  And when I was home, I would do things to feel close to them.  LIke their baby announcements, put their photos in scrapbooks, work on their nursery.  I also knew that I had to take care of myself because once they were home, there wouldn't be much time for rest.  Another thought that helped me was that they wouldn't be there if they didn't need the help, and that's where they needed to be for awhile, with great nurses and doctors.  Hang in there - it's tough, but you'll get through! 

Karen - posted on 04/09/2009

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My twins were born at 33 weeks, and they stayed in the NICU when I left the hospital. The first time I left the hospital I cried the entire drive home and for the rest of the day. I missed them terribly already, and people just didn't understand this. I felt so terrible leaving them there, but I got more and more comfortalbe with the whole situation. I kept telling myself that they truly were in good hands, and that I should get as much rest as possible before they come home from the hospital. It didn't make it any easier, just more bearable on me. Then one of my boys came home after two weeks and the other stayed for another week. That was just so terribly difficult. I felt so torn to try and be in both places at the same time. It was tough, and I don't wish it on anyone. Good luck, and do get some rest. Focus on the fact that they're surrounded by capable nurses and doctors.

Meghan - posted on 04/09/2009

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my twins were born at 33 1/2 weeks weighing in at about 3 1/2lbs each. they were there for 3 weeks before coming home. it was hard. i remembering having to go to the NICU and ASK to touch or hold one of my babies.... and sometimes they even said NO if their temps were down or if there was a shift change or something. i remember just crying. i just wanted my girls to be home with me. one thing i learned is that it was very helpful to have all the nurses around in the begining. i have been around alot of infants, but none as small as mine. it made me nervous. but i had nurses show me hands on how to care for these little ones. i also learned all kinds of tips and tricks for keeping them content. it turned out to be a good experience. i will never forget the day we brought them hme. i help my breath i think for the whole car ride!



a good think to do is to talk to other NICU parents. i believe the march of dimes has a section on their website to talk to other NICU parents. it's very helpful.



good luck!!

Nicole - posted on 04/04/2009

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my girls were born at exactly 33 weeks by c section, at a hospital 105 miles from home after 4 days they was transfered back to our local hospital were as i was discharged, i found it vary hard the first 3 days not being with them, but i soon realised to calm down and make the most of my healing time, i visited them from 9am till the nurses kicked me out about 10pm, and was pleased when thay came out after 3 weeks,the girls are 6 now and considering there small start in live they are doing well and are nearly the tallest in there class at school, it may be hard for you now but they are in the best possible place, just look forward to the day they come home. take care. xxxx

Tiffiny - posted on 04/04/2009

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First I want to say Congrats!! I know how hard it is to leave you babies at the hospital. I had my girls at 34.6 week and B stayed in for 1 week while A was in for 2 weeks. I just had to FOCUS all my time and energy on getting things ready for them when they cames home, plus being at the hospital for 5-6 hrs everyday also helped. I also had a 2.5 yr. old at the time so she also took up my time. JUSt trust in the nurses and have as positive of an attitude you can. Good luck!!

Moriah - posted on 04/03/2009

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My twin girls were also born at 32 weeks and went straight to the NICU.  When it came time for me to go home I my emotions were a mess because they had to stay behind.  At first it was very difficult for me because I was so scared to leave them even though I knew they would get great care.  However, I also had an 11 1/2 month at home that I had to be there for too.  I was fortunate enough to live about 20 miles from the hospital so I went up to the NICU every other feeding to nurse and then I would always go at 12am whether it was feeding time or not.  



I guess they only way I was really able to cope was because I knew that all my twins had to do to come home was to maintain their body temp except for Lindsey she kept dropping her heart rate.  They came home one at a time. Lana came home after 2 weeks after being in the NICU and Lindsey came home after 3 weeks in the NICU and she came home with an apnea monitor.   It is 3 years later and they are doing awesome.



  It is hard. But God will help you and we are here for you.

Liz - posted on 04/03/2009

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My twins were born 33 weeks and 6 days.  It was really hard leaving them at the hospital when I was released.  I ended up having to have an emergancy c-section, but despite that I was up at the hospital every day at least once if not more, plus I was getting finishing touches done for when they did finally come home.   I'd say the hardest part was when our son came home and our daughter was still in the hospital.  It was hard to balance between them, and although he was home it was even that much harder leaving my baby girl at the hospital.



 



Luckily though she came home twelve days after they were born, and he came home eight days after they were born so we didn't have to live like this for long.

Kimberly - posted on 04/03/2009

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My b/g twins were born at 27 weeks. We lived less than 5 miles from the hospital so I was able to make multiple trips everyday to see them. Just being able to see them frequently helped me a lot with coping.

Emily - posted on 04/03/2009

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My girls were in the NICU as well (born almost 36 weeks) one came home 2 days after me the other a week. I truly believe that they were in the best place for them...I didn't think about me just what I knew in my heart would be best for them...I was actually nervous taking them home afraid maybe they weren't ready.



One day I was overcome by emotion in the NICU and one of the wonderful nurses there said to me..."This will all soon be a very distant memory." It is so true. I am grateful for the time that my babies had with such wonderful care. They got my girls off to such a great start to life.



Best of luck to you...it will go fast...strong healthy thoughts...

Dana - posted on 04/03/2009

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JUST HANG IN THERE!!!  THE BEST PLACE FOR THEM RIGHT NOW IS THE NIC U.  ITS VERY HARD BUT THEY WILL GET STRONGER AND GROW AND GET VERY GOOD CARE IN THERE.  MY SON HAD TO STAY IN THERE, HE WAS A 35 WEEKER AND I GOT TO BRING MY DAUGHTER HOME AN D HE HAD TO STAY.  IT WAS VERY HARD, BUT HE IS DOING GREAT NOW.  GOOD LUCK.  I FEEL YOUR PAIN , JUST BE STRONG, THEY WILL BE HOME SOON .  ONE MORE THING,  TRY AND REST  UP BECAUSE I WON'T LIE ITS AMAZING BUT VERY TIREING AND OVERWELMING AT TIMES.

Angela - posted on 04/02/2009

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Crying helps. We cried a lot. And we went to the support groups that the hospital had, that helped just to talk and listen to other people. The only good things about having them stay in the hospital: 1) the nurses get them on a great schedule which will TOTALLY help when you bring them home-keep them on it  ( this would be hard to do if you brough them right home=) & 2) you can sleep though the night a bit. We left at night after their 9 pm feeding at about 10 and I was back @ 6am and stayed all day. So, I did get a lot more sleep then most new moms and I kind of got weened into motherhood gradually.



The heartbreak is hard, especially when one can come home and the other one can not. BUT, they will come home to you, the hospital is not going to keep them. They will grow up and become strong (they are strong!) healty people. The nurses are amazing and they are doing their job although sometimes you just want to sneer at them for keeping your baby. lol. Keep strong, Stay positive. Pray for your little blessings! 

Stephanie - posted on 03/31/2009

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My girls were born at 35 weeks. Allie had to stay behind a week and Madison almost 2 weeks. It was hard not being able to bring them home right away and leaving them at the hospital, but I knew that was what was best for them. So I took advantage of it and rested as much as I could at home. It helped me heal a lot faster because at home I was actually able to stay off my feet as much as I could...until we went to the hospital.

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My girls born at 33 weeks too and very hard to leave them in hospital but I was so happy and thankful to just have them to leave - you will get them home soon enough just try to be up there as much as possible. Hopefully they are together as I had mine in two different hospitals for a whole week, that was awful.

Melissa - posted on 03/30/2009

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Yes its scarry and you feel alone but we were so focused on getting them big enough to come home I felt safe knowing that i was only a phone call away incase something happened or if something went wrong we were always there for the twins ...Trying to sleep at night was hard as well your mind racing and thinking you just want to be in the NICU but it gets better when you see the gains the twins are making...Good luck to you all!

Melissa - posted on 03/30/2009

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My twins were born at 32 weeks also and were in the NICU for 4 weeks both being on ly 3 lbs and 2 lbs we were lucky enough to stay in the NICU mother/Baby Room ! No0w they are almost 4 in June and doing sooo welll !! we are greatfull for the best possible help they had !!

Jan - posted on 03/30/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks and in the hospital for 2 weeks (one came home a few days earlier than the other).  When I was discharged, I absolutely sobbed...I was so sad to have to leave them there.  But like the other women have posted, use their hospital stay as your recovery time.  Visit them daily (I got up every morning, made it for rounds, and stayed 8-10 hours with my babes), and rest assured that they are getting the proper attention to grow strong.  Hang in there...before you know it, their hospital stay will be a blur to you.  You will have them home soon enough...we can all attest to that.  Good luck to you!

Melissa - posted on 03/30/2009

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my twins were born at exactly 32 weeks also....I had to tell myself that because they were early and they had a few issues that it was best for them to stay in the care of people who could give them what they needed at that time. Mine came home after being in the NICU for 5 weeks. It seemed like a lifetime but I thank god they had special care becuase now they are healthy....wonderful babies at 23 months old!!! Good luck and keep your head high, everything will be alright.

Kellee - posted on 03/29/2009

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My boys were born at 34 weeks and spent 13 days in the hospital. We went back and forth everyday and it broke my heart to leave them. I don't know how many times I cried, but I know it was the best thing for them. My worst fear was to bring them home before they were ready and then have to take them back. So just be patient and remember they are in the best hands. We also learned so much from the nurses. Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 03/29/2009

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my twins were born at 34 weeks and in scbu,tyler was in for two weeks,tia was in for three,obviously a hard time going back and forth but they are in the right place the staff are great,they will be fine you truly need to trust in god at this time.my twins are now four years old and doing so well,,all the very best x

Kimberly - posted on 03/29/2009

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My Boy/girl Twins were born at 27 weeks, 2lbs 4oz each, Their health was my major concern, I guess between the busy schedule and traveling back and forth to the NICU(they stayed for 3 months) I kept alot of emotions bottled up inside, I know exactly what you are going through. I was so hard being away from them and not being able to take them home. The closer it got to taking them home, the more frustrating it became, just make sure to take a couple minutes/half hour to yourself a day. I found that relaxing, crying, sleeping during this time helped me cope just a little better!  They are now 3 years old and very healthy, people can't beleive they were born so early and so little! We are very bleassed! Time goes by soo quickly! You will soon have both your babies in your arms! You are in my thoughts and prayers!

Carrie - posted on 03/29/2009

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my twin girls were born at 34 weeks and went straight to SCBU (special care baby unit) and they were in 2 weeks i didnt get to see them till the day after as i had to go to recorvery after my c section i got discharged 3 days later and i hated the thought of leaving my girls there and not being ablt to hold them but i knew they were in the right place they were doing well and i knew they were being well cared for. they are now 3 months old and doing relly well i couldnt be prouder and so will you be your babies will be fine they are in the bets place best of luck x x

Chrisandra - posted on 03/29/2009

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I went through the same thing with my twins. They were born at 33 wks. The main thing I was told, by the nurses was 'Get some rest now while you can. We've been doing this a long time. They'll be fine' I know it's hard, but this is so true. I spent a lot of time going back and forth. All you can do is be there as much as possible and trust that God and the medical staff know what they are doing.  Hope this helps some. Good luck!

Dani - posted on 06/08/2009

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my twins were born at 29 weeks.. they stayed in hospital for 9 weeks and 5 days.. twin 1 could have come home 2 weeks earlier but we wanted them to stay together... twin 2 had surgery at 5 weeks old.. he was classed as failing to survive because of a hole in the heart that needed to be surgically fixed.. and then he had to catch up.. while u r taking the premmie journey its a rough ride.. but when u look back on it u think it wasnt too bad and it could have been worse..

Alia - posted on 04/14/2009

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My boy/girl twins were born at 33 weeks 6 days. I had 2 girls at home already that were 4 and 3. I cried when I left the hospital but tried to stay strong for my girls. About 2 minutes after leaving the hospital, I turned around to see my 4 year old sobbing. She was crushed that we couldn't bring them home. It was horrible. We ended up pulling the car over and me, my mom, and both of my girls sat there crying. We made it home and managed to make it through the 3 weeks they stayed in the NICU. My daughter came home first and leaving my son there by himself was awful. He came home 3 days later, and we were elated. However... After being home only 24 hours, he stopped breathing and we had to lifeflight him. Then the very next day, my daughter did the same thing and we had to lifeflight her. We ended up in Children's for 3 more weeks. As sad as it is leaving them, the NICU is truly the best place for them. We now have 2 healthy 15 month olds who are so much fun. I wouldn't change anything. Just remember... God doesn't give you what you can't handle. It will be over before you know it.

Amy - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks 3 days and stayed in NICU for 2 weeks, and i saw them on my way to my room after a c-section and couldnt see them for 2 days because of the amount of pain i was in. I'd been discharged a week before they were and i just broke down when i left them for the first night. For the next week my fiance and I were up there about 12 hours a day to breastfeed so i could get them home. They are now 4 months old and the time apart hasnt affected the bond at all. It was just a little delayed.

Audrey - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks and One came home after 2 weeks the other 1 1/2 months and the second one also came home on oxygen. It's a lot of work but I think it helped that I was able to bring home one then the other. I also have a 3 year old who wasn't even 2 when they were born so I had to juggle a lot. Get as much rest as you can and be thankful they are gonna be ok. Rest knowing that they are in a place that can take very good care of them around the clock.

Leah - posted on 04/13/2009

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My twins were born at 34 weeks and i was a bit sad at going home without them. I was given the option to stay in the in-between ward but since i had a 2 and a half year old at home. It wasn't gonna work. I was back and forth everyday until they came home.



I mainly just mentally toughened myself and told myself that they needed to be there to get healthy and strong and it wouldn't be long until they'd be home.



I remember leaving them everyday. .  It was hard but they were in good hands and getting looked after better than if they were home.



Your babies will be home soon enough and you'll be glad to have had that in between time of getting to know them without having the stress of 2 small babies 24 hours a day.

Karen - posted on 04/09/2009

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My twins were born at 33 weeks, and they stayed in the NICU when I left the hospital. The first time I left the hospital I cried the entire drive home and for the rest of the day. I missed them terribly already, and people just didn't understand this. I felt so terrible leaving them there, but I got more and more comfortalbe with the whole situation. I kept telling myself that they truly were in good hands, and that I should get as much rest as possible before they come home from the hospital. It didn't make it any easier, just more bearable on me. Then one of my boys came home after two weeks and the other stayed for another week. That was just so terribly difficult. I felt so torn to try and be in both places at the same time. It was tough, and I don't wish it on anyone. Good luck, and do get some rest. Focus on the fact that they're surrounded by capable nurses and doctors.

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my twins were born at 33 1/2 weeks weighing in at about 3 1/2lbs each. they were there for 3 weeks before coming home. it was hard. i remembering having to go to the NICU and ASK to touch or hold one of my babies.... and sometimes they even said NO if their temps were down or if there was a shift change or something. i remember just crying. i just wanted my girls to be home with me. one thing i learned is that it was very helpful to have all the nurses around in the begining. i have been around alot of infants, but none as small as mine. it made me nervous. but i had nurses show me hands on how to care for these little ones. i also learned all kinds of tips and tricks for keeping them content. it turned out to be a good experience. i will never forget the day we brought them hme. i help my breath i think for the whole car ride!



a good think to do is to talk to other NICU parents. i believe the march of dimes has a section on their website to talk to other NICU parents. it's very helpful.



good luck!!

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