Need behavioral advice for my twins.

Leanne - posted on 03/10/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have 14 month old twins and one of them seems to bully the other. When the younger one (by 2 minutes) is playing with a toy the older one will shove him away and take it. If the younger one comes to me for affection the older one will put himself between us or try to shove him away. I want them to learn to play nicely together and have tried to intervene but it doesn't seem to help much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Heather - posted on 03/12/2011

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When my B/G twins are not listening or fighting or what ever I use isolation. Same as a naughty chair but you take everything out of their cribs and leave the lights on and put them in and close the door. After about 2 min I go in and try to explain what they did wrong. It doesn't make them hate their cribs because the circumstances are different. At bed time we put our sleeping bags on sing and turn off the lights. Now after a warning I ask if they want to go in their cribs and they will often stop the behavior. Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 03/12/2011

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My girls are 17 months. They seem to enjoy pulling each others hair, and they always fight over my attention. When they act too rough with our dog, I tell them "Be nice. Awwww..." I showed them how to nicely pet the dog, and they would copy me. Now whenever they are being mean to each other, I tell them "Be nice. Awww" and they start petting each other!! Oh well, better than pulling clumps of hair out! Lol

Leanne - posted on 03/12/2011

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Thanks to everyone for responding. It's good to know I am not alone. The past few days they have been getting along very good. It changes from day to day : ) I never know what to expect when I wake up every morning. Life with twins is always an adventure.

Kristy - posted on 03/11/2011

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my twins are boy/girl and are now 3 almost going on 4, they have been doing they bullying thing for awhile now, but on and off and the "bullier" changes from my little boy to my little girl, my little girls 2 minutes older also :) they bully by yelling,snatching, sometimes hitting and wanting whatever toy/item the other one has. i stop them but im thinking (as i also have an 8yo daughter) that its just a phase they're going thru, my twins have gone thru biting/seperation anxiety/punching/pushing... the list is endless and as theres 2 kids the same age it becomes very stressful, now everytime i see any bully type activity I put a stop to it straight away, by talking to them and then without me asking they say sorry and give each other a kiss and cuddle. I hope for u also, that its only a phase too, im still waiting IMpatiently lol for it to pass!!! i commend u in any case twins are hard work. WELL worth it but very tiring xo i have a few groups on here if you would like to join them? your most welcome to i hope this helps you, all the best, kristy-heres my groups

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Danielle - posted on 03/11/2011

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time out hasnt worked for my 16 month old g/g fraternal twins. the smaller and younger twin is my bully the older twin is a cuddler and wouldnt hurt a fly. When the younger one steals toys, pushes her sister, hit her sister, etc i step in and tell her that its not nice and show her how to touch her sister gently and how to share the toys and get more toys out to play with. Distractions work, but they dont fix the problem, but i find showing them how to act is waay easier than yelling at them. I hope this helps you!!

Angie - posted on 03/11/2011

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The same thing is happening with my 17 month old girls. I try putting the bully into time out but she thinks it neat to sit in a special chair and then of course her sister wants to sit in there too....so I would love advice too!

User - posted on 03/10/2011

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My twins seem to take turns being the bully, and it seems to be that whichever one is bigger (even by a couple ounces) is the bully. Mine will be 2 next month and their biggest thing right now is biting. At first I didn't even know they did it to each other until I would find a bite mark on one of them later and it seemed they were even enough I didn't feel too bad just letting them take care of things themselves (as long as things weren't getting out of hand) but now they are biting cousins and friends their age that don't know what to do with them and I am now realizing that I need to figure out how to stop the bullying.

I am sorry I am not full of advice, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

Kim - posted on 03/10/2011

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hahaha... you're not alone! My boys are the same exact way. Except the younger one ( who is bigger ) bully's his older brother. They only fight over me when they are cranky or tired. I think as with other siblings, you have to just keep reminding them to share and that it's not nice to take things from someone else. If one of them takes a toy from the other, I take it back and hand it to whoever had it first. They might not like it but, I give the one stealing the toy a different toy to play with and eventually they forget what they were fighting over. Mine are going to be 15 months old March 18th, so we are about the same time frame of development. Mine play very well independently and together, but sometimes they just want that favorite toy! If you have any advice in return, or something that works for you, let me know! lol

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