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One on one time for twins - separate daycare once a week?

Courtney - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I've been finding it VERY hard for the girls to have "alone" time. Basically so they aren't together 24/7. My husband and I just can't seem to make it happen. I had thought he'd take one and I'd take one occasionally so they would be apart sometimes but it's few and far between. I was thinking of having them go to daycare one day apart. My sister-in-law is available to watch them once a week and I thought I'd ask her to take just one one of them one day and the other could go to our regular daycare. I work 3 days a week. Any of you do this or have any opinions about it? How do you find time for them to be apart and get one-on-one time?

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Terri - posted on 08/15/2009

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We tried the one with me, one with husband, but of course since I am a girl and I had boys, my husband was the more fun one so it didn't really work. I'm thinking though that it is less important to be apart from twin than it is more important to spend time with you alone. Can you do an additional daycare day for just one every week and trade off who gets to spend time with mommy? I always noticed when one son was acting up it was almost always a call for more attention from one of us. We both worked 5 days/week, and very hard to get one of one time. One of my sons got into the habit of spending time cuddling with me watching tv in my bed with me at night every once in awhile when he needed mommy time. He would say "momma you look tired dont you think you need to watch tv in bed tonight?" that would be my clue he needed some attention from me. And even though the tv was on we would always talk to each other and it was just the two of us, the other twin couldn't be there. He might try to interupt. But they had to take turns. My other son would do it every once in awhile but didn't need it as often. Funny, although its been years since then, I am still very close to the cuddling son, and we "talk" about things more (they are 15 now)

Courtney - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Heather:

I didn't put them in day care but to get that alone one on one time I enrolled them in seperate fun classes. I did Gymboree with one and Mommy and Me with the other. This way it was something that they did with just me, they had all of my attention for that hour or so it was nice, they loved it.


That's a great idea. And if I did something like this, it would be scheduled at least so it would make it "easier" in a sense to make sure I made the time. Thanks!

Heather - posted on 08/10/2009

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I didn't put them in day care but to get that alone one on one time I enrolled them in seperate fun classes. I did Gymboree with one and Mommy and Me with the other. This way it was something that they did with just me, they had all of my attention for that hour or so it was nice, they loved it.

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