Play Room or Split them up???

Khadijah - posted on 11/03/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My girls are 21 months and they have been in the same room since birth and they've slept in the same crib until they were 5 months. But now that they are getting older and getting so many toys as well as me adding new things to their room (book shelves, little rocking chairs their grand dad made for them) its starting to get a little cramped. These things on top of 2 cribs, a glider and otterman and twin bed, and 2 twin chest. Plus with Xmas coming and we are planning on getting them a kitchen and art easle, etc. I have no idea where to put everything!

So....my question is......Do I finally split the girls up and give them their own room or do I turn the spare bedroom into a playroom? We have 4 bedrooms on the main floor and a huge basement with 2 more bedrooms but the basement is freezing and I amost never go down there unless I'm doing laundry. On the main floor, Our room (the master) a guest room, the girls room, and then the office/workout room (both use to have their perspective rooms in the basement but since I haven't utilized the basement since girls were born my husband brought everything upstairs for me).

I just know how they would do if I split them up since they've been together for so long. My intial plan was to allow them to stay together until they were ready to split up but the space is shrinking and FAST!!!

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Loretta - posted on 11/09/2010

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KEEP THEM TOGETHER! My boys are almost 5 and they are best friends...if you seperate them now when it is your choice they will just go back together on their own when they can choose..Our boys find comfort and safeness by being together. Their sister who is 7 told them the other day that when they go to kindergarten that they are going to be seperated..THEY BAWLED! I told them not to worry that mama wouldn't let them.

Diona - posted on 11/05/2010

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OK, I have 6 year old identical twin girls. For the most part, kids adjust to whatever enviornment they are placed in. Please keep in mind that when they start school they will not put them in the same classroom. My girls used to be just like yours, being best friends and all. But with them being together all day, everday for 5 years, they got tired of each other. Now, because they were together SO MUCH, they actually WANT their own rooms now. I guess you have to look at the fact that they will have a lot more fun and more to "talk about" if they are seprated. It's just easier to do it now rather than waiting until the first day of Pre-K (Like I did) and then having to hear the heartbreak of them crying because they are not used to being by themselves. I just want you to look at the future result of the issue because it's cute right now, but it's heartache in the future. Remember, they are 2 different people with 2 different personalities. Plus, you know 2 women can't be in the "kitchen" but for some long together before there's a "misunderstanding".

Donna - posted on 11/05/2010

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My twins are 35 years old. They shared a room all their lives, even the same bed. I tried to split them up but they would get up in the middle of the night and i would find them sleeping with each other in the morning...trust me i would leave them together they have always been together and believe it or not get frightened when away from each other. Even today they live only blocks away from each other but have a need to be with each other daily. never do I see them apart. I would make a play room for them. when they get older let them make the choice of having separate rooms til then, think of them as two individuals that are deeply connected. My girls tell me they feel 'funny and anxious' when apart.

Heather - posted on 11/03/2010

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I would personally do a play room. Since they are both girls and they probably share all of their toys it would be easier than trying to figure out who gets what toys, and when it was time to pick up all the loose toys wouldn't end up in one girls room...

My girls share a room and then we have a play area down stairs. It works out really well for us. I can't imagine trying to put them to bed in different rooms each night! That would be really stressful for me! :(

CHERYL - posted on 11/03/2010

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wow u have a big house.my g-b twins are 16m and shared the same cot till they were 6ms.then they sterted waking eachother up and mainly because my house is very small and couldnt fit 2 cots in 1 room they have a room each.it works out very well as 1 sleeps better than the other.but they are next door and get excited to see each other in the morning. i would keep them sharing and do a playroom and when they are old enough they might want their own space.im a twin with a sister and we shared a room til i was 13 and then we wanted our own space and we r best friends today.

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Adrianne - posted on 11/09/2010

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i wouldnt worry about splitting them up! i had my twins together until the went to preschool but i have a boy and girl so they needed to be split. dont rush it

Suzanne - posted on 11/09/2010

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Hi, If I could do it again I would keep them in the same room and use the other room as a play room. My twins have seperate rooms and I cannot get them in the rooms. They now say if they could sleep in the same room they would sleep there. Luckily my son has a bunk bed so they can both sleep in his room. My twins are 6 years old and I still can't get them to sleep in their own individual rooms.

Khadijah - posted on 11/09/2010

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My husband and I got working on the play room this past weekend. So excited for the girls to have their own play area!! We also did a trail separation that did NOT go well! lol They would not sleep and kept pointing at the crib saying the other's name and crying. So its official.....they will be staying together. Until they say "Mommy I want my own room" together they will be!! :-)



Thanks again every one!

Dolores - posted on 11/08/2010

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I have boy, girl twins and they were in the same room until they were two. He doesn't go to sleep when you put him to bed and she is a Diva that has to have her sleep, so we split them. They have done fine in separate rooms. We have a playroom, but they want to play where you or Dad or everyone is at, not in the room away from everyone. My husband and I are thinking about putting their toys in their rooms, but I'm hesitate on that one only because my son will play all night and not sleep. So ours have done fine splitting them, she still bosses him and he does what she says 99% of the time.

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I think every set of twins are different. My twin girls - age 6 not only want the same room, but I often find them in the same twin bed :-). they don't even like to go to bed if the other one is not in there (ex: 5 min's early to bed as punishment or something). We have asked them if they wanted their own room but NO WAY they say. So we have a playroom..which is nice, don't have to split the toys. In terms of waking one another up, that has happened, but for the most part - they are pretty used to one another and most of the time, is not an issue if one does wake up in the middle of the night. Pretty much like you/your spouse...just all in what you are used to in terms of noise, etc. My girls are also in the same class at school (they attend private) - so far, they've never wanted to be separated. They do not have the issue of not playing with other children, but just like to know the other one is there. Yes, they do fight like normal siblings, etc..but, they really are each other's bestie. I think they have a healthy balance of wanting to be together, getting tired of one another - etc. LOL. I figure when they want to have their own space, they will tell me and we will honor it. Just leaving it up to them :-)

Cynthia - posted on 11/06/2010

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I vote for the "Spare room into the play room"! That's what we did and that worked out Great! Our twins are 7 and just now have moved into separate rooms. We still have the play room too but it's funny they take any opportunity to still sleep together:)

Penelope - posted on 11/06/2010

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You've answered your own question. It doesn't seem like splitting them up is a good answer to dealing with space issues due to toys and furniture. If it were me, I would totally make a play space for them. They need more than one space anyway as they grow and use them for different things. This would also allow them to play in two different places if they wanted to-which at some point may be very important. Our basement is cooler than the rest of the house, too, but it's my next mission. I was recently inspired by a friend's design and plan to make it into a better used space with areas for crafts/puzzles/games, dress up, running and physical activity, etc. Ikea seems to have some good solutions for this and for storage. I would also suggest you consider purging or storing and rotating toys. If your twins are like mine, they get bored with things pretty quickly anyway so taking them in and out of rotation allows them to be refreshed every few months or so. This might also ease your space issues. Hope this helps!

Danae - posted on 11/06/2010

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I had to seperate my boys at nine months to do the crying out thing...we did not put them back togeather for quit a while. When they were about a year or a little more they started to give each other hugs and saying goodby to each other at bedtime it broke my heart! They were put back into the same room shortly after. They are now five and still share a room, I have asked them if they would like their own rooms but they insist on staying togeather. So I guess I would turn the spare room into the play room and when they are older you can ask them if they would like their own rooms.

Ciera - posted on 11/05/2010

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well, i can't say for sure what would be easiest for you but here's what I did. My b/g (Aubree and Nicholas) are also 21 months (well, they will be next week). We did separate nurseries because my husband wanted classic airplanes for my boy and I wanted pink for my girl. Well, unfortunately for my boy, they shared the bed in the pink room for the first couple of months. Then we separated them into their own rooms. When they were 10 months, we found out we were pregnant again. I needed a room for the new baby so I put them back in my girl's room again and from ten months up to now they have shared that room. My 3 month old baby still sleeps with me so I ended up turning my boy's room into a playroom. It is still his room as in it is decorated in red,white and blue and classic airplanes, but I moved the beds,dresser, shelves into my girl;s room and moved all the toys into his room. It sucks for my husband that his son is sleeping in a pink bedroom, but at least when Annabelle (my baby) is old enough to share a room with her sister, we still have the "boy room" and the "girl's room". Since you just have girls it would probably be easier. The toy room idea has worked great though because it also helps limit the messes. I don't care if toys are out in there, as long as hey are not all over the house.

Lara - posted on 11/05/2010

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My 2.5 yr old boys share a full size bed with each having their own side so they sleep together yet are in the same bed. They have another area for their play room. My sister-in-law has 10 year old twins and a six year old who all end up sleeping in the same room by choice so I plan to keep mine together and will eventually get a bunk bed.

Wendy - posted on 11/05/2010

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We have twin girls that are 16 months old. I made our spare bedroom into a playroom. It is nice to have a few toys in their bedroom, but I like have a little more order in the bedroom. It helps me keep a little more organized too! I think do whatever works for your family. My girls seem more content when they wake up and see each other in the morning. Good luck!

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If there hasn't been a problem with them in the same room, I would not change anything. I split my girls when they were infants due to the fact that they kept waking each other up at night. They were split for about a year and then I asked them what they wanted to do....stay in their own rooms or be with each other and they chose to be with each other and I haven't had any problems. We made the other bedroom a play room. It is nice to have ALL the toys in 1 room instead of trying to split them all up and wonder who's room should get which toys. Your girls are 21 months old which means the cribs will be coming down soon enough and one more twin bed added...it will all work out! Splitting them now may cause more of a problem since they have been together for so long. Best of luck to you!!!

Khadijah - posted on 11/04/2010

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Thanks so much for your advice. My husband and I talked it over this morning and he and I both agree with what all of you said....to keep them in the same room and make them a play room instead. When I told him my idea of splitting them up the first thing he said was "Awww man, we can't do that! They're the best of friends! I think they both like each other more than any one of those toys in there." So true! They look for each other every night and every morning, and even though some nights one might wake up crying (which is rare) they usually do not disturb one another.



So thanks again everyone! We are going with the play room.

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