Takaoiya - posted on 11/26/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )
Takaoiya - posted on 11/26/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )
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Amanda - posted on 12/08/2009
I have a set of 11 month old twins - my first set of kids. I got a really good piece of advice when I first had mine. When one gets up in the middle of the night to feed, get the other one up. That way they are both fed and you can get some sleep - b/c if you feed one and not the other, then u will be on a constant cycle of feeding. Also, get them on a schedule. At night we found that when its bedtime we turn off the lights with the exception of a table lamp, turn on a lullaby cd and feed them a bottle, then put them in their cribs. They sleep great through the night, and that started at about 8 weeks. Also, learn how to deal with both of them when you are by yourself. There are going to be times when they are both hungry at the same time and you can't make one wait while you feed the other one. Boppy pillows work great to lay them down in and feed them each a bottle. Swings are awsome to have - def get a set. We use cloth diapers on our girls (not the old fashioned kind where you have to pin and fold it) there are new updated diapers. Look into it - it will save you a ton on money on diapers - though you do laundry every night. Treat them as individuals and don't try to compare one to the other. They develop, as every baby does, at their own pace. We do dress ours alike, it makes for cute pics. But we try to treat each like their own person, not as a set. Try not to fret about the small stuff - its not worth it!! Cherish every moment - they really do grow up fast!! You will figure out things as you go - we pretty much were winging it as we went along and figuring out what worked the best and what really didnt. I hope all of this helps. Sign up for Huggies, pampers, .....ect newsletters - they give good advice on babies.
Amanda - posted on 12/08/2009
make sure you say stuff everyone else and spend time bonding with them ........ i never got the chance with all the commotion from family and friends etc ..... i regret it now ! finally bonded but was hard and i feel i missed out on the early days , which sadens me .
Stacia - posted on 12/07/2009
I have twin boys that just turned a year old. While your pregnant, enjoy your time when you can rest. When the babies get here, get them on the same schedule right away. My babies ate at the same time that way I could feed them, change them, and get back to bed.....it takes longer with 2 (they have a brother that is three years older so I did a single baby too) but it is WELL worth it to have them on the same schedule. It also helps to plan outings around the babies schedules:) Good luck and twins are a HUGE blessing!
Lauren - posted on 12/07/2009
My twins are 18 months old now. I have a boy and a girl but my advice is take a lot of help when you first have them. My twins had to be fed every 3 hours so I chose to bottle feed them. Our crib was right in front of our bed and the twins shared a crib for the first 9 months. When they got bigger and were rolling, I used 2 bumpers, one went around the crib and the other in between the babies to separate them. That actually got them used to sleeping in their own crib. I agree with the assembly line the other mom posted. Do everything with them in a row. I had mine on a schedule so they had to eat at the same time and woke up at the same time. I would sit on the bed indian style and put one in my lap and then prop the other baby on the pillow in front of me. Then I would have to hold 2 bottles at the same time. Don't try that at home!! It's extremely difficult. And let your husband take over as much as possible when they are born. You will definitely need rest. Also try to connect with other moms.
Oh and you are about to be an instant celebrity. Everywhere you go, random people will come up to you and try to ask you about the twins. They want to know every single detail. I got fed up with it after about 2 wks of taking them out. Sometimes, you just have to be rude but don't let them ruin your time out. Twins are a great blessing and a great responsiblity at the same time!! Don't let yourself get discouraged when you are tired. Just ask for help!!
Denise - posted on 12/07/2009
Congratulations! My twins are now 12yrs. old and I always tried everything once by myself with out help. I never really asked for help only because I felt like if no one was every around when I needed it then I would be screwed. Also anything they tell you not to do with one baby...I always say do with twins! (exp...prop the bottles if you have to and just be patient because it is what it is)
Michelle - posted on 12/07/2009
My identical girls are three now. It is important to be organised, but be willing to be flexible at a moments notice. I found breastfeeding two much more tiring and very thirsty work so make sure you drink heaps of water. I had a notebook and wrote down everything regarding their routine. This helped me to remember what happened during the day, and especially helped my hubby understand what has happened without me retelling it. I did that until the girls were about 4 months old. I made sure that the baby bag was packed every night. You may not think that you will be going out the next morning, but you will be surprised at how often you have to fly out the door at a moment's notice. Nothing more frustrating when you are in a hurry to pack a baby bag and get two babies organised quickly. Also as mentioned before accept all offers given by family members and friends. And learn to be a good delegator, cause as much as we try and be Wonderwoman we need help too! Good luck and congrats on your twin pregnancy.
Hanan - posted on 12/05/2009
try to sleep, rest and go out as much as u can cause hard work is waiting. but look at the bright side they will grow up together and it will be nice espacially if they have the same sex, i mean 2 girls or 2 boys.
Jodie - posted on 12/04/2009
be organised! it makes life 100 times easier. also dont worry if the house chores build up. it certainly wont run away-unfortunately lol my mum helps me out by doin my ironin. maybe ur family can help u out too? as for the twins,if u get stressed with them leave the room until u calm down. at times in the beginning its very tryin, but theres no such thing as a perfect mum so relax and take each day as it comes. congrats by the way :)
Syndi - posted on 12/04/2009
Enjoy the pregnancy and get everything done by 30 weeks. If you go longer then that rest. I tried to be superwoman and get everything done. I got things done but I regret not reading, resting, and taking multiple showers a day. I get to do none of those now. lol. Seriously, my boys are 12 weeks old today and they atre such a blessing. Two smiles together are just awesome.
Melissa - posted on 12/03/2009
Buy LOTS of the same socks....saves a HUGE amoint of time when you are getting everyone ready/
Amber - posted on 12/03/2009
REST! Everyone will tell you to rest while you can, so take the advice and do it! :) I have 3 month old twin girls and was on bed rest for a month before having them at 33 wks. My biggest mistake was stressing over getting stuff done and not resting. Ask people you feel comfortable with for help doing household chores and rest when they are sleeping. The biggest thing I am learning is cleaning can wait...spending as much one on one time with my girls is more important than a super clean house. Trust me it is hard if you are anything like me and have a touch of OCD, but remind yourself you are doing your best and if your babies are feed, bathed and loved you are already supermom! Here are some other things I find helpful....feed one then feed the other, keep a burp cloth under each baby's head when in the crib to save on washing sheets if the spit up alot, extra sleepers, onsies and sleepsacks are a must to save on laundry, gerber multipurpose pads on the changing table help if they have accidents,if you have any showers coming up ask for diapers as gifts, if you bottle feed make up bottles ahead of time! Good luck to you...it is the biggest blessing in life X 2 :)
Chris - posted on 12/03/2009
Be prepared...lot of stuff is needed for double the pleasure. Be patient and relax. My twins were my easiest because they comforted, played and kept each other company. They were so much fun seeing how similar yet different they were. ENJOY!!
Becky - posted on 12/02/2009
One thing I did was prepare a bunch of meals in advance and place in the freezer with instructions taped on them. I also kept a pad of paper on my counter. I would write down when and how much I fed them. I also wrote down ?s I had for their ped.. This way when I went to the Dr. office I could hand him the pad of paper and he could answer all of my ?s not just the ones I could remember. I had my twin boys on a 1/2 hour schedule so that I had time with both. Sleep when ever possible and accept any help you can get!
Heather - posted on 12/02/2009
Just remember, it might be twice the food, diapers, crying and twice the college fund, but its also twice the hugs, kisses and love!! Keep that in prospective and you'll make it through!!
Jessica - posted on 12/02/2009
Rest as much as you can now because when they come your whole focus is on their well being. Sleep when they sleep, however if one is awake while the other is sleeping try putting them in a swing and just try a cat nap. You feel so much better. Dont be afraid to ask for help. Good luck. It is the hardest job you will ever do, but the rewards are worth it.
Alexandra - posted on 12/02/2009
make a schedule and keep to it u will find thst hsving them on a schedule will give u a designated time for yourself trust me my twins are now 8 and they were preemies so i had to change their hospital schedule to a home schedule and i knew at 10 am i was guaranteed atleast 1 hour when they took their nap good luck and congrats
HOLLY - posted on 12/01/2009
enjoy the pregnancy, stay off your feet in the end... and no vaccumming... do what the doc says ... twins are a little more than a singleton but the pregancies aren't that much different!! be honest with your doctor, and anything that you feel is not right... dont hesitate to pick up that phone!!!
Linda - posted on 12/01/2009
My twins are 9 years old now, and although they were hard work, I miss them being babies very much! Get your babies on a schedule, like the other moms said, feed one, feed the other, change one, change the other. That way they will hopefully SLEEP at the same time, giving you a break. When they sleep, YOU sleep, take all the naps you can get, because when they start to get older and not nap as often, you will wish you had! The Fisher Price rocker/vibrator chairs are awesome, I had two. I had a swing and a floor mat play center, and switched the twins between them, too. Good luck and ENJOY, they will grow wayyyyy too fast!! Take LOTS of pictures! God Bless! :)
Kerry - posted on 11/30/2009
Invest in a strong wooden change table with 2 wheels one end so it can be moved easily if need be. If you have a two story home get one for each floor, it will save your back and is especially important if you have a c sec. Also go with what Amanda said about the fisher price Rocker chair that vibrates, we had one of those and a normal chair that was given to us, the Fisher price one was a life saver. Everything else is just down to what you feel you want really, but the chairs and change tables are a definite must. Twins are hard work, so take any help offered, but the rewards are amazing. Mine are 4.5 months old now and are just sooooooo adorable, it is very special indeed :-)
Desiree - posted on 11/30/2009
Take all of the help you can get!
My fiance gets up in the night with the boys and I have them all day, it's such a blessing! When friends and family stop over for a visit, it's - here, take a baby I'm going to fold laundry!
Twins are fun, really they are! I let mine sleep together although most doctors frown upon it. They were created together, grew together, and born together. It's normal to them to be together. When we first brought them home, they would not sleep in separate bassinets so we finally put them together in one and they slept through the night. I don't know how many others have done this, but they just seem happier together.
I do everything with them together, also. They are going to be 5 months old on the 8th. I have a little 4 year old helper too. (She wants to know why she doesn't have a twin sister lol) anyway... I lay them down together, grab two diapers, take off both of their pants then left to right, change them. Bathing I do one at a time so they don't drown. As soon as one is out, he gets dried then diaper on. Bathe the other and then dress them both. I feed them together also. I rest one in my arm and one on my lap, my legs crossed indian style, when they get a bottle. Otherwise, baby food, spoon in one mouth switch and spoon in the other, then back to the first. They do everything together, on the exact same schedule and they are so much alike. They have both pee'd IN MY FACE at the same time. That was one and only bath time in mommy's tub on a towel. NEVER AGAIN lol. They both sleep with one arm straight up in the air in a fist, the left arm. Two completely different babies yet the same!
My friend Steph's babies were complete opposites... and opposite schedules. I think it's easier to put them on the same schedule. I'm a stay at home mommy and when all three of the kids are napping, I have time to get housework done. Or because my daughter only takes one nap a day and not 3 or 4, I have time with just her when the boys are asleep.
Good luck and Congratulations! So excited for you!!! And if it makes it any easier, I think the boys together as infants are so much easier than my daughter was by herself. She was a screamer! And boy did she have some lungs on her! :D
Sheryl - posted on 11/27/2009
Don't take anything for granted. Enjoy every minute you have with them, it is a new experience compared to having one. The BEST piece of info or advice I can give, after being a mom of twins myself, is work everything like an assembly line. Feed one, then immediately feed the next, change one then change the other, bathe one, then bathe the other. When 1st have them, ask the nurses to get the babies feeding schedule approx. 15 min apart. I say this because it allows you some special one on one time with each baby. Not to mention we only have 2 hands and it is a lot easier to feed one at a time. !5 min. is bout right that way when you are finishing up the last of the routine with the 1st one the 2nd one is just starting to get restless. I learned a lot of tricks because my husband at the time was of NO help at all. I might just as well of been single, it felt like I was at times. It is hard work, lots of patience but it is worth every minute of it. Having twins is so much different than just one.
Jeorge - posted on 11/26/2009
Enjoy the peace and quiet and the fact that you can carry both of them with no hands. Get a massage or a pedicure(as long as you aren't having any contractions) Read a book go for a short walk because soon you will be a mother of two and everything is a production from walking to the mail box to going on vacation.
Amanda - posted on 11/26/2009
its a blast while your pregnant sleep and relax as much as possible after they are born have fun and enjoy them. time passes way to quickly mine are 9 months now and i miss them as newborns lol if you are breastfeeding invest in a good double pump and nursing pillow and if you are bottle feeding invest in two really good vibrating chairs. my favorite vibrating chairs are the fisherprice ones that have an extra bar that can tuck under them or swing out so it basically holds the baby like your cradling it in your arms. it makes it alot easier to feed both of them at the same time instead of having one scream at you while you feed the other one. and for bath time i would suggest placing the baby bath on the kitchen table and then bathing them there its the perfect height so it doesnt hurt your back. and i found the books "twin set" and "juggling twins" very helpful. they have alot of great tips about everything.
Haylli - posted on 11/26/2009
Yes be patient and dont stress out over little things youll go crazy. Just enjoy all the time you will spend with them because you will be spending alot of time on them, and when you have alone time take advantage of it. Feeding, when one wakes up to eat wake the other up. that way it feels like your really only dealing with one baby , but taking twice as long. lol Congrats, you'll have a blast they are so much fun.