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My daughter is 18, a mother of a beautiful little girl, and 8 months pregnant with twin boys. When she found out she was pregnant she was going to give the baby up for adoption. When she found out she was pregnant w/twins she was devastated. She said it would've been hard enough giving up one, and now she had to give up two. So, I volunteered to raise the boys as my own; eventually adopting them. My delemmas are multiple...we all live in the same house. If I'm going to adopt them, what do they call me? What do they call her? What do they call their sister? I've taken on a big task, not only financially, but emotionally as well. What will this do to my relationship with my daughter? I know I'm doing what's in the best interest of the twins and my daughter, but now I'm wondering if it's in the best interest of the family. I have huge concerns about missing work to care for them for the first six weeks. Child care is very expensive. My daughter doesn't work, but when I decided to do this I made a promise that I wouldn't put the task of watching the twins on my daughter. I'm just afraid I may lose my job trying to find childcare for the boys. I've got so many things to work out. I just need a little feedback from outside the family to help me see some perspective, and to remind me that I'm doing the right thing.