School separation?

Liana - posted on 08/15/2009

I have identical 11 year old daughters. They will be starting middle school this year. I kept them together until 4th grade, which for my family was about the right age. Both of them did really well in their own classes...I think it was more difficult for me to split them. They now go into middle school having not only each other but a variety of different friends and their own experiences.

Kelly - posted on 08/15/2009

I live in Massachusetts where one of our former governors - a woman- had twin girls. There are some specific laws related to twins... one being that they can be in the same classroom if the parents want it that way. You could look into your state's law's if there might be something for you to stand on if you get any grievances from the school.

Stephanie - posted on 08/14/2009

my 8 yr old twins are going into 3rd also.Last yr for 2 nd grade we sepperated them and it was our best desicion.It ws harder on me then them.they finlly had their chance to shine and make their own friends.

Linda - posted on 08/14/2009

My identical twin girls started school last September and, as there was only 1 Foundation class they stayed together. I have requested that I want them to stay together this coming school year, which has been agreed!!! My girlies are VERY close and settled into school life really quickly, which I think is partly due to being together. Let's face it, it's a tough old world, so being a twin should be taken advantage of (if you know what I mean!!).

Stephanie - posted on 08/11/2009

I have four children. The twins are my youngest at 2. I have a 3 year old and a 6 year old. I will have 4 children in elementary school at once. I am keeping the twins in the same class for my sanity. Between field trips, conferences and volunteering, I know I won't be able to be 4 places at once. The identical twins are not dependent on each other now, so I don't see that chancing in the classroom.

Venetia - posted on 08/10/2009

i know with my twins that if there is more than 1 class of the same yeah they will be put into seperate classes, my twins were seperated in kindergarden and only put tpgether when hey went to a school that only had the one class. School like twins to have there own inderpendance even if the twins hate being apart as mine did. I know my twins imroved when together so not sure how they will cope when apart again, who knows they might like the time apart.

Ann - posted on 08/10/2009

My twins are now seven and have been in school now for two years young fives and kindergarten. This year we are seperating them for first grade. They seem to be allright with the concept. I noticed when going to the parent teacher conferences this last year the teacher kept getting the twins mixed up. This worried me, I want to know how each of them are doing as individuals not being compared with one another. My only concern is how they are going to do with being at school all day.

Angela - posted on 08/09/2009

my 6 yr old boys were separated in kindergarten, the school said they always separate twins. after about a month of school, i found out that there were triplets in the same class. at the end of last year, i requested that my boys were put together this year. this time, they listened. they are very independant of each other, so i never worried about that. i like them having the same homework, same parties, one teacher to deal with and did i mention, my boys love to tell on each other. they now know that i will find out every little thing they do wrong, i'm hoping that will help improve their behavior this year.

Dawn - posted on 08/09/2009

I don't know about girls, but my boys are probably better off not in the same class, they tend to fight a lot, and want to outdo each other. In the school they actually see a lot of each other in recess and also at lunch. They are close, but they like being able to be separate individuals. When they first entered school I was very concerned about them being in separate classes, and one of then had a VERY hard time adjusting, I still am not sure if it was just being in school period (he still has a hard time the first month of school after summer vacation) or because he was separated from his brother. You are the person that know your children the best I am sure you will make the best decision. :) Good luck and God bless

Kathleen - posted on 08/09/2009

Our school keeps twins together until 5th grade unless the parents request separate classes. From 6th grade on they might end up in the same classes but they cannot guarentee. I have a b/g twin and they don't depend on the other at school. They have different friends and shared friends.

Lisa - posted on 08/08/2009

My twins are now 14 and they only shared one grade together and that was kindergarden. I was against the idea of having them in separate classrooms at first, but now I see that for my twins, they are less dependant on one another then the other set of twins that go to their school. The other twins that I am refering too have always been in every class together and are inseperable.

Malia - posted on 08/07/2009

We separated our twins starting in 1st grade. They love the time apparate from each other. It gives them something to talk about when they get home from school since they weren't in the same class. About 1/2 of the time they would find each other in the lunch room. They didn't have to sit with their class in the lunch room. They are going into 3rd grade and want to have different teachers. Since there were 3 sets of separated twins in the second grade the teachers were good about coordinating homework for all of the 2nd graders. Having the same homework made it much easier. My daughter had mandatory homework in 1st grade and my son didn't so that made evenings a little touchy sometimes.
It was a group decision to split them up. My daughter is the strong student and would always give her brother the answers. Separate classrooms eliminated that possiblity.

Samantha - posted on 08/07/2009

We have 9 year old twin boys. They are completely different. One of the boys excels in math and science and is in the gifted program, which in our district happens to be at a different school! My other son is an accomplished actor who loves art and music. He is at the district charter school that has an art and music emphasis. So, not just classes, but actually across town. The only touchy topic is the fact that one passed the gifted test and one did not, I did not share this info, but they discuss it once in awhile. I am going to have to face the situation very soon, because in 5th grade they switch again and will be tracked in Jr. High and the one who didn't pass will need to be tracked in AP classes with his brother, he just doesn't test well.... we'll have to go about it in an untradtional fashion. The joys of twins.

Amy - posted on 08/07/2009

I have twin almost 9 year olds (they counting the days until their birthday) girls going into 4th grade. They were only together in kindergarten. After that they were in seperate classrooms and loved it. It was hard on one of my girls the first couple of months because she didn't have her sister right there with her. I teach first grade and the twins I've had has always been just one of them in my class..not both. However, we've also had twins in our school stay together up to 5th grade. In the end you have to go with your gut feeling as a mom...you know your girls...whatever decision you make will be what's best for your daughters.

Zyla - posted on 08/07/2009

I'm for the idea of alternating one year together one year apart, however they asked to remain in seperate classes after they tried it in 1st grade.

Andrea - posted on 08/07/2009

I live in Italy with my 9 year old twin daughters, over here they like to separate twins so they can be individuals. Problem we have in the village school is they only have one year with 3 kids in it, but when they change schools , we will be given the option and we think it would be good for them to make friends of their own and this would give them different things to talk about.

Tanith - posted on 08/06/2009

I am in Ireland so not sure how your school system works but I cannot imagine having my girls in different classes!! I would never seperate them. I imagine it would be difficult on your girls to suddenly not have each other!