share or separate cribs for faternal boy/girl twins?

Gladys - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 73 moms have responded )

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Hi there! Need your opinion on which snooze time setup is best for my twins coming this January 2010. Share your experiences please! :)

Thanks in advance!

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Melissa - posted on 01/12/2010

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I used a pack & play that had 2 levels and they slept there with something in middle to hold it up (they r geared toward 1 child and slope in center) I think a laundry basket is what worked and they slept great for about the first 6 weeks. I had to go back to work so after that we put them in 1 room in 1 crib until they started moving around then 1 room and 2 cribs so they didn't disturb each other by movement. They are 4 now and have their own room. One thing to keep in mind with b/g twins is that there are laws in some states that govern different sex children in the same room! We moved our children into separate rooms just before 3 which is way before our guideline. Gentle separation worked for us. Have fun and know that it may be a challenge but there is lots of fun to be had!

Julie - posted on 01/11/2010

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My boy girl twins are 2 1/2 now, and they definately slept together!! They were in the NICU for almost 2 weeks ( born 5 weeks preemie), and as soon as they were well enough to be in a crib together, the docs put them in one, and it was amazing how much they thrived! Once we brought them home, they slept in the same bassinet, then in the same crib until I think 10 months. But when they were newborn, they knew when the other one was out of the bassinet, we had to trick them with a rolled up blanket so they would think the other one was next to them still! Its a complete 100% blessing having twins. Gifts from God. I for sure fed mine at the same times, they were on the same schedule ( still are even with naps and such). Get ready for a lot of sleepless nights, but its not as bad as you might think. I am blessed enough to be a stay at home mama, and I normally fed mine both myself and got up with them myself, unless of course one was sick or something. You just get the hang of it, you dont have a choice! Before you know it, you'll be able to feed both at the same time if needed, it will be like second nature to you. I miss mine being small like that, when they depended on you for everything. Now all I hear is " I do it Mama ". They grow so fast, and remember, when they are both screaming their heads off, it WILL be funny later! Me and my hubs tape recorded ours when they were about 3 months old, it was like clockwork, they were complete angels during church, as soon as we got home they both flipped out. We now have it on the computer both as a memory for us, and to show them when they are older! Enjoy your babies and congrats! :)

Erin - posted on 01/11/2010

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Our b/g twins are almost 4 (unbelievable!) and shared a crib for 3-4 months because of space limitations. It wasn't a problem. They still share a room and don't want to separate. We will likely let them stay together until 5 or 6. We leaned heavily on "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" during every transition and it has been VERY helpful. I do think we let them out of the cribs a bit too early - around 20 months just before their little brother was born, but bribery does work wonders for keeping kids in bed. (think stickers, chocolate and penny toys!)

HANNAH - posted on 01/10/2010

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Our b/g twins (born May 2009) share a crib and when we lay them down to sleep, they reach over and hold each others hand. I am sure they will want to separate at some point but right now they are happy (almost 8 months)

Heidie - posted on 01/10/2010

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My b/g twins were born in june 09 at the hospital they were in they on basinets. When we brought them home we had a twin basinet from babies r us online an they stayed in that in our room until 3 months and then we put them in their own cribs and they are 6 1/2 months and still in our room in their own cribs. My son seelps all night but my daughter wakes up a ffew times a night so I am not ready to put them across the house yet. They never slept in the same bed, I tried it but they would move to much and keep each other up. Good Luck

Sam - posted on 01/09/2010

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I have 6 y/o b/g twins, they did share a crib for some time, maybe until they were 9 mos old. after that I kept them in the same room in separate cribs, they shared a bedroom until they were around 3. Good Luck, I'm sure you will figure out what works for you!

Amy - posted on 01/09/2010

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When my twins first came home they shared, and then they had to go back to hospital so they got used to being apart. We put them back together until they started to annoy each other. I think it just depends on how it works for you :)

Lori - posted on 01/05/2010

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my 2 slept in the same crib up till about 8 months old . they were just under 4 lbs when born. it was easier to get them both when they were together . they liked the closeness. if i tried to seperate them. they would squirm around until they were side by each and then they were happy. when i did get them to seperate cribs they would both stand and shake there cribs until both beds were in the middle of the room and they could touch one another.

Miranda - posted on 10/23/2009

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Seperate. I have identical girls and they sleep in seperate cribs in the same room. They like to have their own space, but they still like to be able to see eachother.

Caren - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have 4month old boy/girl twins and they sleep in the same crib.I think they do better together. We even feed them at the same time routine is the key I have found. good luck and congrats!

Andrea - posted on 10/22/2009

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The are going to be tiny and want ththat security they had fo 8 or9 months,.You would be doing them a great injustice to seperate them. They can most time sleep in the same crib for as long as 6 months. Seperate beds will not keep one from waking the other. they will still feel and hear each other. Comfort for them and ease of care for you.

Nicci - posted on 10/22/2009

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don't laugh....we tried seperate cribs, then the twins wouldn't sleep. We moved both cribs to the same room and presto!They both started sleeping much better, however they scooted to the end of their cribs every snooze and at least some part of their bodies were touching one another. We did not move them to seperate rooms until we transitioned to toddler beds, around two and a half. Hope this is insightful! Enjoy every minute it goes by even faster with twins. Hope all are healthy when they arrive. One piece of advice...think healthy strong babies. They don't all come early. Ours were 8 and 9 lbs when they arrived and 9lbs 6oz and 9 lbs coming home. (no diabetic here either) wish you the best!

Jessica - posted on 10/22/2009

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My girls shared a crib from when they cam home from the NICU until about 2mo when we had to tilt the mattress for my refluxy one. Even then we kept their cribs side by side by side (we called it the 'baby filing cabinet' lol). When they moved out of cribs at 18mo they shared a queen bed until 3yrs when they got a bunk bed. They've always been together & they always will be (afterall we only have a 3 bedroom house!)

Julie - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have g/b twins that are 8 months old. My husband and I put them in our room and in the same crib until they started moving a lot. Then they get in each others space and wake up. If you are bottle feeding feed them both at the same time. If one is still sleeping then wake that one to eat as well, if not you will never get any sleep. Congrats and good luck. Oh yea and if you read any books or anything they usually tell you to put them in the same crib to start with b/c they are used to be so close to one another.

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

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when they start to roll over, don't put them beside each other if you are worried, put them feet to feet... my boys were content as long as some part of them was touching the other.

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

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keep them together, unless it doesn't work out... they will be coming from cramped living quarters right next to each other... they have never been alone... so why when they come out, do we instantly want to separate them? don't worry about gender issues until they are older...

Hellen - posted on 10/18/2009

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my two, boy and girl slept in the same cot right up till they went into a bed they learned that it was bedtime together and even when they were in a big bed id get up in the morning and they would be the same bed together lol

Elisa "Lisa" - posted on 10/17/2009

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my twins are b/g and they slept in the same crib/bed until they were almost 4 years old. i would put them to nap/bed at the same time. a great book to read is On Being Baby Wise (the multiple section especially), good advise on multiples daily routine. Hope this helps.

Michelle - posted on 10/16/2009

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Quoting Gladys:

share or separate cribs for faternal boy/girl twins?

Hi there! Need your opinion on which snooze time setup is best for my twins coming this January 2010. Share your experiences please! :)

Thanks in advance!


When they are born there is no actual time you can set up. They pretty much get up every 2-3 hrs for feeding, changing, love time... I was lucky enough that mine were on the same schedule at least. I guess they were about 9 months when they started sleeping through the night. In bed at 8pm and up at 7am. Hope this helps...


 

Jennifer - posted on 10/16/2009

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Absolutely share a crib!! My twins (Hannah & Nicholas) shared a crib. They need the close cuddling!!

Michelle - posted on 10/16/2009

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I have twin boys and we used separate cribs. They are almost 3 and we have now separated them. Cribs in different room. I would be afraid that they would use each other to climb on and fall out of the crib if they shared one. You can find some great deals for all things baby on Craigslist and also Freecycle on Yahoo Groups in your area. I hope this helps.

Leanne - posted on 10/16/2009

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I had twin girls in March of 2006. When they were first home, I had planned on them sleeping in the same portacrib in our bedroom, but that actually never happened because they hated that thing. They were small and liked being swaddled, so they actually preferred to sleep in their infant seats. We always had two cribs, but thought that they would sleep better together. We tried putting them together in their cribs at about 2 months, but they kept waking each other up. We moved them to their own cribs(same room) while they were still 2 months, and miraculously they slept through the night. It is honestly probably going to be a trial-and-error situation with you as well. As are most situations as a MOM!

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Quoting Gladys:



share or separate cribs for faternal boy/girl twins?



Hi there! Need your opinion on which snooze time setup is best for my twins coming this January 2010. Share your experiences please! :)

Thanks in advance!




Sarah - posted on 10/16/2009

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Had boy girl twins 22 years ago and they didnt ever want to be apart so I had to put them in the same crib until about 6 or 7 months old when they were too big to be together. You are going to have so much fun!!

Andrea - posted on 10/16/2009

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my twins boys are now 10 and didn't sleep much at all in the first year! You sleep when they sleep is the best advice I can give you- forget housework, it's not important and the house won't fall down.. We eventually did timed crying at 16 months which worked a treat.

Andrea - posted on 10/16/2009

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separate cribs is better or they'll only keep waking each other up through the night. Treat them as individuals

Laura - posted on 10/15/2009

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I have g/g twins. We had them in the pack-n-play in our room until about 3 1/2 months old. Then we put them in a crib together for about another 2 months. Then we split them into seperate cribs but in the same room. We have never had a problem with them sleeping but we are very strict when it comes to their sleep schedule. There is really no right or wrong way. Just go with your instincts and watch them for clues. BEST OF LUCK!

Stephanie - posted on 10/15/2009

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my boys are 15 mos old. once they began to roll over we put them in seperate cribs. you never know when one might roll over in their sleep and on the other!!! they slept through the night at 4mos old. !!! once they dont need their night bottles begin to CIO. slowly each night!!! :) good luck!

Holly - posted on 10/15/2009

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I allowed them together for the first three and a half months then in their own beds and have ever since....If they had been the same sex I would of kept them together but it's easier to do it sooner than later...good luck:)

Farah - posted on 10/15/2009

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My twins are 5 months now... they have slept together in the same crib so far but we are going to have to separate them soon because they are crawling around now.

Heather - posted on 10/15/2009

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I had b\g twins Sep 29, 09 they were both close to 6lbs and didn't have to spend any time in the nicu so they were in the same crib at the hospital for the 3 nights we spent there but have been in there own cribs since then. I thought I would try it and if they didn't like it I would put them together but no one seem to have noticed. I have kept both babies on a 3 hour routine since birth. I feed them for 30 min change them try to keep them awake for 10-15 min and then back to bed for 2 hours. If one wakes up early I try to prolong the feeding with a soother until it is close to 3 hours. Hope this helps!

April - posted on 10/15/2009

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My twins were preemies. The NICU staff finally put them together in one isolette because they didn't sleep well apart. We tried separating them when we came home from the hospital, but they wouldn't have it. They slept in the same crib, a lot of the time holding hands, until they were about 9 months old. They are nearly 2 now, and we have to keep their cribs where they can see each other. It depends on your babies; mine couldn't sleep apart, while some disturb each other.

Patty - posted on 10/15/2009

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I have fraternal twins (boy & girl) and they were born premature and remained in incubators for one month, so they were separated for a while. When I got them home they shared their crib (even though I had two) and they are inseparable now. They are 4 years old and they share their room with their beds close by. They need the comfort when they sleep and who better than their twin.

Shulena - posted on 10/15/2009

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I'm having identical twin girls in Feb. 2010 and I have done some research on this topic. I have read that twins sleep better (and perfer to be together) until there 3months old. I plan on having mine sleep together until they are 3months old.

Vicki - posted on 10/15/2009

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Had boy girl twins 21 years ago and they slept in the same crib until about 5-6 months. When they started becoming more active and moving around in their crib that was when it was time to seperate them. It was nice because keeping them together in the same crib made it easier for me to keep them on the same schedule for feedings. Congrats on your twins...

Chrissy - posted on 10/14/2009

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Twins are fun! I have a boy and girl and had seperate cribs from day one. It makes life alot easier. One can NOT wake the other one up. I tried a couple of times letting them nap in pack -n-play together...doesn't work, always bothered each other. Try it together and see how they react...if they are always awake, then seperate them. They will let you know what they want! My twins are 3 now! Time flies...have a BLAST with them.

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I separated my boy/girl twins because my son was more active than my daughter and I was afraid he would bother when she sleeps. But they stayed in the same room until 2nd grade.

Tasha - posted on 10/14/2009

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hey! hope all is well. my twins slept in the same crib for as long as they could (that is before they starting sleeping on top of each other lol) I think it worked really well for me (they even do it in the hospitals too) my nurse said it kinda reminds them of being in the womb. i have fraternal boy twins who just turned 4 today!! good luck

Jacqueline - posted on 10/14/2009

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hi how are u , i have 2 year old twin boys an they always shared there crib , i bought 2 cribs but 1 is still in the box never opened it , they seemed to settle an get comfort from each other xxxx hope this helps , oh now they are in beds as they learned to climb outta he crib lol an they still like to share even sleep up the same end of the bed he he he xxxx

Roxanne - posted on 10/13/2009

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I recommend sleeping them togther...When one wakes it usually wakes the other and then its easier to get them on the same routine...Mine shared until my daughter was strong enough to break out of her swaddle and started hurting her baby brother...around 3 months:) HAVE FUN!!

Amber - posted on 10/13/2009

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i kept my girls in the same crib, they are used to each other so I thought it best to keep them that way for as long as possible. bad thing is that kirsten kept moving around and trying to suck on any part of abbie that she could irritating abbie, so I ended seperating them to seperate cribs at about 2 months, but still put cribs side by side

Shelley - posted on 10/13/2009

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My b/g twins shared a pack n play for the first two weeks. Then, we moved them into their own room to attempt to get some sleep! They slept in the same crib until they were 5 months, and at that time, we got them their own cribs. They are 16 months old today and still sleep in the same room with their cribs right next to each other so they can touch each other and share toys. They're like a little married couple. They love each other and they fight like crazy! Lol.



One peice of advice I really could've used in advance was this book: Suzy Giordano The Baby Sleep Solution. There are so many sleep solution books out there, but this one is perfect for twin parents. The woman has worked with multiples up to quads and has never had a problem. I've passed the book on to several people w singles and twins. It is a lifesaver b/c it's not just a cry-it-out method; it's more of a mix, but it definitely reminds you that you are in charge. Reading it while prego will def get you some extra sleep early on. Good luck. Twice the work. Twice the reward. =)

Jodie - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have twin boys (identical) who will be 6 in December and for the first 3 months they sleep (what little they did) in the same crib after that we seperated them but keeped them in the same room. They still share a room and don't like to be seperated eventhough we did put them in seperated kindergarden classes.

Have fun and make sure you have lots of help. It gets rough sometimes but it is all worth it.

Michelle - posted on 10/13/2009

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Congratulations - TWINS are amazing and very rewarding. But they are hard work and you need to grab as much help as you can.

My boys slept in the same crib but we put them in separate cribs when they were too big to share. However, when they made the switch to cots we put them back in together and they slept much better. Again, when they became too big we separated them into a cot each. Just like all babies are different, so are all twins so some trial and error will be necessary to find out what is best for yours.

Best advice:

Like others have said, keep them on the same schedule. If one wakes for a feed then wake the other.

Be wary of advice from other moms or family members who have no experience of twins - it's just not the same and very often they just don’t understand.

Keep a log - type out some sheets to record feeds, nappies (wet or dirty), meds, etc, etc when you are tired it's impossible to remember who did what in the middle of the night. Plus it's a great log to look back on as they grow.

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We actually have 2 girls who intially were in one, but after watching them wake each other up when trying to go to sleep we seperated them!!

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Congrats on the twins!!! It's super exciting isn't it? My boy/girl twins were born back in April..and at the hospital the nurses always tried to put them together..but they didn't seem to enjoy it and woke more frequently..and often made each other cry...now that they are six months old they still really don't seem to like each other all that much..although they do well laying down together to play I do not have them sleep together. Also while I was pregnant with them I had read something in a magazine that twins should have their own cribs as putting them together raises their risks of SIDS since they can get in each others face and resperate the same air..Meanwhile I'm sure you will do what is best for your little babies and it will be just fine.

Elke - posted on 10/13/2009

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Salut Gladys,

Dear Gladys, I recommend to let twins share a crib. Please don´t seperate them that early :-) Twin babies need to be together, it is becalming and a save feeling for them of course. Please don´t seperate them. My boys shared a crib until they began to really disturb each other. We know have two little beds side by side. Good luck, Elke

Gill - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have boy/girl twins and they have had their own bed from the start as in the hospital they couldn't fit in the same cot even though they were only 3lb6 and 4lb 12. I found they weren't even aware of each other until they were around 3 months old and would cry when put next to each other in the cot as they liked their own space.

your babies will let you know if they aren't happy.

Amie - posted on 10/12/2009

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I have twin girls and I let them sleep together until they could roll over and that was about 6 months. I have friends who had twins that were boy and girls and they slept in same crib for along time. You will find out that because they are twins they will sleep better close to each other no matter what sex they are.

Theresa - posted on 10/12/2009

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I have boy/girl twins who are 23 years old now. When they were little they shared a crib until they were too big to "rattle the cage" together. lol. Once they stood up and could climb over each other, and pull at the bars or get in each other's way, I got a used crib and separated them. They slept in the same room for several years as toddlers. They are well adjusted adults now. You should be fine either way you go! oh, and congrats!!!!

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