Shopping For Twins - It's Driving Me Nuts!!

Tally - posted on 06/25/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

39

37

2

I'm a first time mommy expecting twins. I really don't know much about shopping for babies and now I have to think about two! When I go online it seems so difficult finding double strollers or a twin crib.

This is harder than I thought. Does anyone know if it is ok and safe to sleep with newborns? If so, I don't have to worry about buying a crib. However, my sister say 'NO' it is not safe. But I've read a few places where it is ok to sleep with babies (and even better) ALSO..I see that it is safe to put 2 babies in one crib. That is better for me financially...can save me a lot of money.

Any Mommies know of any actual or virtual stores (with a wide variety of items) for twins? Please help me :(

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Amanda - posted on 08/02/2011

223

19

2

I have twin girls who are no 2 1/2 years old. They were our first kids. Twin shopping can be very overwhelming, but here are some tips. As far as co sleeping goes I was told and read in many places that its not a good idea. Though yes you can put both babies in the same crib for awhile. I had two cribs, but put them both in one crib until about 5 or 6 month when they started to roll around and it was just too cramped so I had to seperate them. As far as items to buy - a convertable crib (s) are handy b/c they convert from a crib to toddler bed then to big kid bed. Toddler bed still used crib mattress. I bought a Kolcraft double stroller from Target.com (also seen at Babies R us.com and toys R us .com). Very handy as the seats can be repositioned to face you, face away or face each other which keeps them entertained. I would invest in 2 swings (they were awsome - my kids loved to swing). Boppies are a good idea, orig used to breastfeed, but when I was by myself and both kids were hungry I would put them in boppies and feed them at the same time. Worked great. another good thing to get is cloth diapers to save on the cost of disposables. and they aren't as bad as they used to be. I used bum genious convertables which have velcro and snaps to adjust to growing kids. Mine are still using them now - we are hoping to potty train soon. A good lullaby cd or relaxation cd helps at bedtime. You will want a good sized diaper bag since there is two you need to pack for.

Another piece of good advice is to check around for garage sales for baby / kids clothes. Most are in good condition and are less than $1. Is a big help when alot of their clothes will get stained (invest in shout as well). I would buy alot of their clothes at garage sales and then buy some good clothes on sale or clearance in the stores. Or some churches have clothing exchanges ect. Check your area. Or maybe someone you know will give you hand me down clothes.

I know this is a novel that Im writing, but you sounded like you needed some good advice. Another thing that was good was one bouncy seat (mainly I used mine to hold one while the other was in the tub).

I hope this helps!! Good luck on the new adventure with twins. Dont be surprised when you are out with the new babies you will get all kinds of weird questions and attention b/c you have twins.

oh, and one more thing, when they are born try to get them on a schedule especially at night. When one wakes to feed get the other one up as well so you can get them both fed and back to bed to get as much sleep as possible.

Good luck!!

Kelly - posted on 06/26/2011

97

2

15

I have two sets of twins so hopefully I can be of help to you. I would get two cribs. They will probably sleep together for the first couple of months, but if for some reason they are not able to then you will want to be prepared. They will be in them for a good 2.5 years so you want something that will last. You can skip all the fancy bedding. All they really need in a mattress pad and fitted sheet. With my first set I used a Graco front/back stroller and it was alright. Felt like pushing a bus, so the second time around I went with a side-side. I like it alot better. The only thing you really need two of are cribs and car seats for right now. They will need highchairs once they are four months old and start eating from a spoon. Although, I HIGHLY recommend getting two bouncy chairs. This is the best way to bottle feed two at a time. I got tons of stuff at garage sales and on Craigslist. I order most of my diapers and wipes off Amazon. Got a big pack of cloth diapers at babies r us to use as burb cloths. Geez, I could go on forever. Feel free to message me if you have any questions. It might feel overwhelming, but just take it day by day. Once you hold them in your arms it is all worth it.

Candyce - posted on 06/29/2012

39

23

1

we have 3 1/2 yr old twins and from day one they have slept in their own beds. we have never had any trouble with it. look at garage sales, 2nd hand stores, borrow, and kijiji( LOVE KIJIJI!) but plz dont sleep with babies! too many times do i hear of babies dying while in bed with their parents. hope this helps. xo

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

28 Comments

View replies by

Nicky - posted on 06/26/2012

4

8

1

I have 4yr old b/g twins also. I would not recommend sleeping them in your bed with you. It may seem the easier option now but honestly not a very good option. I cam possibly imagine how scared you are now you will look back in a few yrs time an realise That the beginning was, the easy part ( well that's how I feel at the min :) ) I agree with the other posts about the stroller and bouncy chairs being double I also wish I had brought a cot that turns into a toddler bed to sleep them together so much longer as twin a was always woke up by twin b, very tiresome but also very rewarding when you look back and see what you have achieved with your little bundles of joy.

Having twins 1st I can imagine is very scary but I also think that, no matter how many children you have having twins is daunting for any1! Just trust your own instinct you know them better than any1 already maternal instinct is an amazing thing you will be surprised how many people will want to help to once they come along and I would let them.

Good luck and all the best you will be amazing

Cat - posted on 06/20/2012

3

0

0

would highly recommend that you buy one crib.. twins are usually smaller then full term.. you need some place to place them if you are taking a nap (which you should when they are napping!!)..
you can then transition them to separate -grow-able crib/beds..but 'go with flow' since their sizes and needs will differ then others. I would NOT recommend that you think you can sleep with them.. you need some physical space sometimes.. since you will be so very active with them for 24/7. You need to be able to take a nap yourself and not have to worry about rolling over them or something. One crib worked for my two.. then as they developed.. i found two which gave them separation since one was more active (and woke the other if they were side by side).
Please check if there is a 'family of multiples group' in your area.. also look for consignment stores.. which seriously can have some amazing values/deals.. also Craigslist- post your need if you are finding it a challenge financially(especially if you are a part of a church).
Best wishes.. bottom line make sure that you consider your psychological needs as well as your physical and financial.
Resource..find those in the area who have had twins or more. Ask for their resources..
best wishes..
c

TAMMY - posted on 11/12/2011

9

0

0

I have 6 year old twin girls i bought two of everything what i used the most was there bobby pillows swings and once they got to feeding age the bouncy seats were a big help.. i personally would never leave a newborn sleep with me to many risks.. But like i mentioned the bobby pillows helped in many ways even as preemie newborns i set one on each side of me and feed them there bottle at the same time it also helped because you can snuggle it around them and they are more comfortable..

Alissa - posted on 08/02/2011

14

1

1

I don't think that I have much to add other than, sleeping with the twins wasn't really an option here. We didn't sleep for the first few weeks. They were on opposite schedules plus I was nursing so it was a constant rotation of being "milked" :) If you are worried about cost ask around, friends and family are willing to loan stuff like an extra bouncy seat if you need it. We had our twins in the same crib until they began to roll over, and in the same room until they were 2. We had two swings, two bouncy seats, 1 jumper, 1 saucer, 2 highchairs, 2 potty seats, and on the list goes.

Michelle - posted on 08/01/2011

305

21

19

Co-sleeping with a baby is not recommended by the March of Dimes, American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), and the U.S. Consumer of Product Safety Commission (CSPC). You should talk to your Pediatrician about it. I would just get one crib and let them both sleep in them together until they start bugging each other.



If you are confused about what to buy this book Baby Bargains helped me to figure out what to get and what I don't need. They also talk about multiples.



I preferred the side by side stroller. As long as a place was wheel chair accessible I had no problem. Also, the book Super Baby Food is another good book to help with when and what type of food to introduce.



If you don't have a lot of money you can always check out books out at the library or look at a used book stores. Resale shops are a good place to go for baby stuff. Garage sales and Craigslist are other good places to shop for baby things. There is always a lot of baby stuff for sale.



Another thought is if you don't have a lot of space you don't need highchairs. You can get something like the baby to newborn reclining chair. I ended up getting rid of my highchairs and just using a smaller travel version of the newborn to toddler chair. My family traveled a lot so it was very convenient.





Good luck and twins aren't that bad. They have an instant playmate.

Karrisa - posted on 07/30/2011

30

25

3

Buy nuetral colors..2 of everything they will fight and i put my boys in the same crib. to behonest we used pack n plays til they where able to climb out and went right into twin size beds. best of luck.

Lindsey - posted on 07/02/2011

10

12

0

I have 15 month old b/g twins and they slept together for a very short time and then they had to go into cribs. We didn't have much money or room so I found two mini cribs. They are pretty cheap for cribs and they turn into twin beds later on. I found one at goodwill actually and the other on craig's list. The only problem is they take playpen sheets but they uaually aren't too hard to track down. My friend used one crib and bought a twin divider for it so they didn't get in each others space but I don't know where to buy that. Just take one thing at a time and try not to stress.

Shari - posted on 07/01/2011

4

2

0

My twin girls are now 16-months and initially we did purchase 2 cribs (gently used from a garage sale and checked into recalls to save money) but had them sleeping together until they began rolling over and then we separated them. I definitely didn't sleep with them, risk factors scared me a ton, my aunt knew someone personally who accidentally rolled onto the baby and it died. Although I never thought that would happen with me, doesn't everyone say that until it does? I've seen safe ways of doing that, but our bed isn't very large either. I was comfortable keeping them in their own bedroom together with the monitor, but that was me. As for a stroller, we purchased a Graco double stroller from Babies R Us that we love. It's so easy, pretty lightweight and works well for us. Wasn't extremely expensive compared to others either, so that was nice. We got doubles of a lot of things, but not everything, so just try to use your common sense and if you get one of something and end up needing two you can go back later ;) Being a first time mommy of twins also, I didn't know what to expect but once it happens you adapt. You have to. And you'll love it :)

Jessica - posted on 07/01/2011

9

10

0

I admit, I've only skimed a few of these posts. I have G/G twins, that are just now 18 months. We co-slept them together, but not with us. It was VERY scary to think of them being so little and us squishing them! But they continue to sleep in the same crib. That crib will turn into a toddler bed and a full size bed. They're simply not old enough for us to have hit the hurdle where they can't/won't/shouldn't sleep together. I absolutley recommend keeping them together-it's been great for us. We used a pack n play first-Chicco brand. It worked perfectly. We use a City Classic stroller, which still fits through any door designed to be large enough for a wheelchair. It allowed the seats to lay flat, for when the girls were newborns (MANY strollers don't lay flat enough...check that feature when you buy!) LOTS of people use in-line's, where one baby sits behind the other. We used identical carseats, and I sewed a patch on each one so we could tell them apart when their strap heights changed. Other than that, twins are just like a singleton...one monitor, one changing table. We didn't buy two high chairs, but two boosters instead...WAY cheaper, and they strap perfectly to a regular chair, so I'm not constantly tripping over two giant plastic monstrosities. What you're doing is perfect...asking questions! Do as much research as you need to feel comfortable, including asking a pediatrician! We bought most of our items from Amazon or BabiesRus, but on sale...or at consignment sales in our area. Check out JBF (Just Between Friends) sales...they are terrific! I never found a good virtual store, but someone else may have! Good luck!

[deleted account]

Sleeping with twins is a huge risk since they are typically born early and have some breathing issues. Co-bedding is recommended by many and my twins co-bedded until they started to crawl. As for purchasing items, check with your local MoM's or MOTC organization as many of them try to sell items within to other expecting parents to help keep the costs down with multiples.

Many stores have a twin discount, so don't be afraid to ask! It can be as low as 10% or even as much as 50%, but any savings is a huge help. Also try thrift stores, yard sales, and eBay for big ticket items you will need. Don't waste your $ on basinettes just use 1 crib for both babies.

One item you will need to make sure you get a good one of is a breast pump if you are planning on nursing. It's something that falls in the category of "you get what you pay for", so get a good Medela pump. Most lactation consultants and nurses suggest it and TONS of hospitals use them.

Also, if you're not already a member, join twiniversity (www.twiniversity.com and on facebook). It's an invaluable resource for expecting MoMs and MOTs. There is a listing that members have put together regarding your exact questions so it's worth it to check it out!!!

Jill - posted on 07/01/2011

20

28

2

I have 16 month old boy, girl twins and they shared a crib until they were 2 months old which is when my daughter started rolling. Since then they have been in their own cribs, I would not suggest sleeping with them if you plan on getting any sleep! There are dangers associated with sleeping in the same bed as babies also for your own sanity you will need your own space. Its easier to get them into a routine with feedings and bedtime when they have thier own space. Mine started sleeping through the night when they were two months old. The best suggestion I have for you is to get them on a routine as soon as they get home! Life does get expensive when you are buying two of everything- spluge items would be the cribs, stroller and car seats these would be the items you should do a lot of research on. I found the review tabs online really helped me when I was purchasing new products. Another life saver was getting a baby carrier/sling- this enables you to hold two more comfortably, I looked everywhere for a double sling but there isn't a lot of product available at this time. Good luck, its tough for the first couple months but so rewarding and so much fun.

Candyce - posted on 06/30/2011

39

23

1

i have 2 1/2 yr old twin boys they always from day one slept by themselves and never in our bed what if the roll off the bed get pushed off the bed or get smothered! if you cant afford 2 cribs at least get 1 for their safety! and if they dont sleep in your bed then its easier to keep themout of your bed!

Melissa - posted on 06/28/2011

2

13

0

Dont waste money on bassinets use a cot and put them together they can stay in there until they stop each other to from sleeping. I started with them side by side then head to toe.. i had the cot in my room until they were around 6 mths or sleeping through the night... unfortunately you will need two car seats, 2 high chairs but can share just about everything else. twin sane are great and could help you more. try your local mutiple birth group they are a great help.

[deleted account]

As far as twin products go, I had luck at amazon.com for my nursing pillow (My Brest Friend, Twin Delux), our tandem frame stoller for the car seats (Double snap n' go) and our diapers (save 30% if you join the subscibe and save program and Amazon mom program). Amazon has great prices especially compared to Babies R Us, which can be prohibitively expensive. We wanted a more substaintial stroller also so we also purchased one from Kolcraft (Contours Options II) that can accommodate the car seats now but also has regular stroller seats you insert when the babies get older. Also, a friend of ours had triplets and swore by bottle slings for feeding the babies at the same time (bebebottlelsings.com). We haven't used them yet because our boys are still nursing. We registered for one bounce seat and one swing and ended up borrowing one of each from friends - we definitely needed two of each - they are baby kryptonite and soothe the boys when they are tired but fighting sleep. Craigslist is a good resource as well - I purchased bumpo seats for $10 each as opposed to the $40 each retail. Some companies provide a multiples discount. You can do some research on line about those companies or check with your local Mothers of Twins Club - they may have some inforamtion as well. For example, the diaper companies will send you coupons and other items if you can show that you had twins, while some toy and shoe companies give you 50% if you buy two items. As for sleeping, you may be able to start out with one crib, but eventually you will need to get two cribs. We purchased the lifetime cribs that convert to a toddler bed and then a double bed. While it may be more expensive up front, we don't need to buy the boys beds again, just mattresses. The research I have seen suggests that you do not cosleep with babies, but some moms find that not to be practical - it is a personal choice that you have to make. It is easy to get overwhelmed with all the stuff, but it will all work out. Best of luck!

Nicole - posted on 06/28/2011

135

16

14

i did not sleep with my twins i was to scared of rolling on them. i did however have them in the same room with me. we used to put them in the same pack and play until they were 3 months at 3 months though they went into there own room and there own cribs. because by that point they stared to roll. oh and we have sepracte cribs, but double strollers u can buy can where i got mine from babies r us or even Burlington coat factory. im sure u can fine them on e-bay.

Choy - posted on 06/27/2011

5

6

0

Hahaha speaking of cribs, I asked my father to make a big crib for my twins...big as a bed that can accomodate 2 babies....sadly, my twins never liked to be in the crib...so they sleep with me on the same bed. When they were newly born...4 of us on the bed, twins, me and hubby. when they turned 1yo, 3 of us in the bed (their father on the floor)...now the're 3yo...they got the bed...me and hubby on the floor hahaha. I am now in the stage of thinking of giving them a new room for themselves. For the twin strollers...when I was preggy, i checked all the stores, online, etc to look for twin strollers, thank God I didnt get one. Kids grow old and you will not notice how fast they grow old, not even need for strollers. It depends ofcourse on the convenience of the mother/parents.

Choy - posted on 06/27/2011

5

6

0

Hahaha speaking of cribs, I asked my father to make a big crib for my twins...big as a bed that can accomodate 2 babies....sadly, my twins never liked to be in the crib...so they sleep with me on the same bed. When they were newly born...4 of us on the bed, twins, me and hubby. when they turned 1yo, 3 of us in the bed (their father on the floor)...now the're 3yo...they got the bed...me and hubby on the floor hahaha. I am now in the stage of thinking of giving them a new room for themselves. For the twin strollers...when I was preggy, i checked all the stores, online, etc to look for twin strollers, thank God I didnt get one. Kids grow old and you will not notice how fast they grow old, not even need for strollers. It depends ofcourse on the convenience of the mother/parents.

Michelle - posted on 06/26/2011

42

1

3

My boys are 3 months now and have been in separate cribs from the start (one is a flailer). We also got the Graco Double Stroller with the car seats that snap in and out -- huge lifesaver! I only got one bouncy seat initially, which was a huge mistake... now we have two. And two boppy pillows was also a huge lifesaver.

I would also strongly recommend having enough of everything to last you a day. After a few weeks with the boys, I went out and got more facecloths, receiving blankets, sleepers, bottles, etc because there simply wasn't time to clean these items during the day. I might have gone a little crazy, but I needed to not worry about having loads of laundry running or finding time to clean bottles.....

I remember feeling exactly like you when I was shopping -- no clue what I needed or what half the stuff was. Only three months later it feels like a distant memory. You'll be ok.

Siouxxsie - posted on 06/26/2011

27

77

8

We had 2 cribs, but we only used 1 for the first 4 months. Sometimes 1 or both babies would fall asleep on me through the night, during feedings, which I think is fine. I didn't have a bassinet w/my twins, but I did w/my singleton. We just put one of the cribs in the room w/us & used that so we didn't have to pay out more money than necessary. Double the babies, double the expenses. :0) My twins also slept in their swings on occasion during the day, or I had a playpen that we used for naps. I just rolled up a blanket really tightly & used that as a wedge, if necessary. I found that they actually preferred to be right next to each other, or at least touching. As for stroller, I got a double stroller & just laid them in it flat, like a bed....or we used our snuggli's to carry them everywhere, which was actually easier when someone was with me. :0) Our stroller was a back to back one so it was long, but narrow. I liked it much better than wide w/the side to side. As for clothing, whatever fits is what we used. :0) I had b/g so most of the stuff I got, I just got in neutral tones & lots of it at consignment shops or outlet stores. This way either baby could wear whatever.....not that we didn't have some boy & some girl only type of outfits, but for easy sake. :0) Man, as I start to recall all the stuff we did, there's just so much I could keep going on this one. :0) Best of luck to you & mainly, don't stress, just relax & enjoy the ride. Twins are awesometastic!!!

[deleted account]

We couldn't make one crib work with the twins here. First off...after they were born they fell into OPPOSITE sleep schedules. If one fell asleep, the other woke in 3 minutes.
Second...one is a wild sleeper..the other is not. We couldn't keep one girl from kicking and flailing into the other twin. That created sleep issues for us...and we found that two cribs were better...and that the girls slept more soundly when they were each in their own bed.

http://www.mytwinbabystore.com/
http://www.twinstuff.com/twinstor.htm

Baby Planet Boutique is an online shop featuring a wide variety of baby products. Use coupon code MULTIPLES at checkout to receive a 10% discount when you purchase at least two of the same product. The company offers free shipping on orders over $100.
http://www.babyplanetboutique.com/page.h...

http://www.trendytwinshop.com/
http://www.raising-twins.com/twin-baby-p...

Kim - posted on 06/26/2011

674

12

205

It is ok for them to sleep together until they are able to roll over on their own. We have two cribs and they have been sleeping in them since day 2 of being home! We also have a graco quattro duo tandem stroller. The graco car seats pop right in and out. It was great for when they were infants! I still use it now, it's been good to us. My boys still share clothes, I guess that's a plus to having twins of the same sex. Don't go too crazy with clothes, they grow so fast. I had a lot given to me and I didn't use much of them. I gave a lot of clothes away that the boys wore once. Onsies and Jammies are really all you will need for the first few months. Maybe a few cute outfits for special occasions. I didn't stress myself out about making them look cute everyday. I had a lot of bottles! We were going through 18 a day at the beginning when they at every 2-3 hours. And get a big diaper bag! We sometimes had to use two depending on where we were going. We were on a tight budget so we didn't really splurge on anything crazy. I was lucky enough to have family that helped pay for the big stuff. Two boppy pillows are a must have too. Great for having to feed both at once. I would put each pillow on either side of me and just hold their bottles. And swings! I would get two of those also. Look on Craigslist, sometimes people get rid of really good stuff on there! You might get lucky :) I could go on and on... but you will figure it out.

AMANDA - posted on 06/25/2011

427

38

33

i just had my b/g twins 6 weeks ago and i got two of everything.. so far my babies arent using their cribs so you could put that off for a while if you wanted to.. but my life saver is the two bouncers and two swings.. i got them on amazon.com the bouncers were 23$ each and the swings were 110$ each.. so far the babies sleep in the swings every night because they dont like sleeping flat plus they dont spit up as much either.. it was the only way we could/can get them to sleep at all and during the day i have them in their bouncer chairs while im cooking or cleaning or just trying to get anything done.. just makes life a LOT easier for me. also a good investment might be one of those baby carrier backpacks. i just got mine this past week and my gosh are they handy especially if you have a fussy baby..

as for a stroller i have a graco double stroller in the lowrey style i think it is.. i can put both carseats in it and its very easy to steer. i can do it one handed if necessary with no issues. you dont really need more then 2 towels and a few wash cloths if you have a washer and dryer at your home. a good investment is recieving blankets though.. they are useful for everything. you can swaddle the babies. cover them up, and also use them as changing pads while out and about and the best use is for burp rags.. the regular 'burp rags' arent worth the money cause half of a spit up and the thing is finished.. not sure how you are planning on doing the feedings bottle vs breast but if you are doing bottles you only need like 4-6 of them.. you should stock up on diapers and wipes though. i could go on and on .. if you want to know more you can find me on facebook i would be more then happy to give advice.. i have lots of neices and nephews plus my own kids so i have a lot of experience on shopping for babies. plus i know of some places online to get some good deals on certain stuff.

Tally - posted on 06/25/2011

39

37

2

@Karen...My twins are not here yet either but as time crawls by I still realize that time is winding down and I am starting to get anxious and even a bit worried.

Bondlets - posted on 06/25/2011

178

0

23

Honestly, there are as many opinions on sleeping with babies as there are moms out there. ;) I personally don't sleep with my babies in my bed because I don't sleep well enough as I'm constantly worried that I will accidentally pull a blanket over them or something. I do, however, keep them by my bed in a bassinet for a while (a month or so). I found a playpen that has twin bassinets with it online that may be useful rather than having two individual bassinets. I have one crib right now that the babies will share until they start rolling but I have a crib divider/"spacer" that I will use as well.



Strollers...do you have a Babies R Us by you or anything like that where you could test strollers? I got our double stroller (Joovy Big Caboose) from craigslist if that is an option where you live. Had I not found the Joovy for a smoking deal I would have just bought a double snap-and-go frame to use with the infant carseats then used my BOB Duallie when the babies are bigger.



Have you looked into a moms of multiples group where you live? I've been picking the brains of women where I am because even though I have a small tribe of kids this twin thing is a whole new experience and I have a ton of ?s/concerns. One thing I was advised to not do is buy double of everything except for crib, carseat and highchair; one bouncy seat, for example, will be sufficient because while one baby is in that one can be using the floor gym or whatever.



Hope this helps! I feel silly giving advice since my twins aren't here yet and hope I'm not confusing you more. :)

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms