Strangest question asked by a stranger

Kandice - posted on 05/13/2010

A waitress came over to our table when my twin boy and girl was almost 2 months old. She was saying how cute they were and proceded to ask questions. I could not believe what came out of her mouth. She said how did you get them so close in age. I had to look up at her before I could answer. I thought she was joking. She was serious. I said to her very slowly.... um, they are twins. What I wanted to say was, I got pregnant and then a minute later I got pregnant again.

Deborah - posted on 05/12/2010

I had someone at a depatment store not believe me that my boys are twins, they were just infants at the time, they look nothing alike, and one has always been quite a bit bigger than the other!!

Shifa - posted on 05/12/2010

I take pride in letting people know I have twins when they ask because they envy me. Twins are such a blessing and a joy. I even fear getting pregnant again because i might have a singleton. if somebody told me i would have twins again I would get pregnant this minute.

Janna - posted on 05/11/2010

There are so many strange or silly questions asked by strangers and people you know when it comes to multiple births. I have boy/girl who are now 16 yrs. old and several of their teachers have just realized that they are twins even though they actually have several classes together. That's sort of funny since when I taught I always had my students' information and could easily tell if there were 2 kids with the same last name and the same birthdate in my class. When they were babies I decided to dress them often in pink & blue yet it never failed...someone would ask which one is the girl or which one is the boy? I also got the "Are they identical ?" many times and did on several occasions boldly tell them, "No, he has a penis & she doesn't." The strangest questions would probably be the ones where people would ask something along the lines of "How did that happen?" or "How did you concieve?" For some reason people (strangers) think that they can ask such personal questions. I could always blow their minds by telling them something like, "Well on two separate nights, my husband got a little amorous or frisky...and I managed to get pregnant on both nights" Of course then I would have to continue to explain that I did conceive my son first and then 2 weeks later conceived my daughter. It is not all that common but it does happen. At first the doctors thought there was a growth problem but as we took sonograms every week they came to realize that her development was consistenly 2 weeks behind his & even when they were born 8 wks early (10 for her) she just had to lay around and continue to develop.

Tina - posted on 05/11/2010

When they were 15 months old, I had a nurse ask me of they were born 6 months apart. My daughter from 2 to 5 was consistently 3 inches shorter and 7 pounds lighter than her twin brother. My daughter was always considered to be one or two years younger than her brother since she was in the 1% for her age. She was 35 pounds in kindergarten and everyone always wanted to pick her up. When I was asked if they are identical, I would reply - No, they have different body parts. They are now 16 and best friends.

Sarah - posted on 05/06/2010

The two that annoy me are "are they good?" to which I usually reply "no" and "which is the naughty one?" as though there must be an evil twin or something!

Vicki - posted on 05/03/2010

I was asked one time, "how in the world did you have 2 babies at the same time?" I just said duh and walked away. I mean seriously, is it that hard to understand?

Kimberly - posted on 05/02/2010

I went to my a dinner for my friend's birthday, and we put my 1 yo twin girls between my friend and I. The girls were dressed alike and in their high chairs. The male waiter came up to the table and asked us if we planned on dressing them alike or if it was just a coincidence? I just looked at him, and told him that they were both mine. He just said, "Oh, are they twins?" I just smiled and said "yep"

Also, I had one of my coworkers tell a lady that I had twins and she rudely responded "I don't envy her at all!" Which of course I heard and I just walked over to her, smiled and said "I envy me!" I couldn't believe the nerve.

I also feel that only having the twins is no more stressful than having only a singleton. A new parent is a new parent...no matter of how many kids. We do the best we can and get thru our day the best way we can.

Kristin - posted on 05/02/2010

I agree with one these post that says dont make eye contact!!! I cant walk 2 feet in the grocery store without someone asking "are they twins". Ive let my sarcasm get the best of the situation many times.. Ive responded with "no, they met on the itnernet" "no, just very good friends." and when asked" are they identical I reply .."no their replicas."

Julixa - posted on 04/29/2010

I actually came up with a line of shirts because this happened to me so often. Check it out,,,they're really funny!
http://www.stuff4multiples.com/index.php...

Alet - posted on 04/28/2010

I only hated it when I dress my boys all in blue and they ask me if its boys or girls!!! And of course "they look identical, how do I know them apart!" but the one is blonde and the other has dark brown hair as well as colouring! I mean really!!!!

Lori - posted on 04/27/2010

i got a call the other day from an older woman who said she worked for the provincial government of BC (in Canada) and was calling to confirm info for programs or whatever. the conversation went something like this:
her-"...so do i have the correct info in front of me? are you expecting a baby this year?"
me-"no. i had twin babies last year"
her-"oh twins? i have twins too! course mine are 55 now, but they are a lot of fun! congratulations! so what was their birthdate?"
me-"july 30th '09"
her-"both of them?"

we both laughed, she said "oh, what a stupid question..i can't believe i just asked you that, of course both of them...oh i can't believe i just asked you that!" lol

* i know it can happen where they have different b-days, but it's pretty rare!

Michele - posted on 04/27/2010

I have 2 sets of twins... Identical 10 yr old boys and fraternal 8 yr Boy/Girl.... I always get the are they twins question but my biggest pet peeve is "you must have your hands full." I also get are they natural which is rude and what are the chances of 2 sets happening. My response "Well my drs. told me after the second set its pretty common." Which all leads back to "are you having more?"

Michelle - posted on 04/26/2010

I get the "Are they twins?" question all the time and mine are identical boys. They are the same size, weight, etc. So much so, we have to "color code" them for daycare! My husband responds by " no, they are pretending to be each other today."

Sheri - posted on 04/26/2010

I get that one all the time and my favorite is when they have no comprehension as to why a boy and girl can't be idenical (dazed and confused looks). I swore to my husband that I would use the qoute the 5 year old from the Kindergarten Cop (movie with Arnold S.) and say, No, boys have a penis and girls have an vagina. Of course, I haven't gotten that quesitons since I swore that was how I was going to respond

Mareese - posted on 04/26/2010

haha yes makes ya wonder if sum people are thick or they just dont think...i had boy/girl twins and i got asked so many times if they were identical...or (wen there in all pink and all blue) are they girls or boys...wtf...mine are now 13 so i now get..oh are they brother n sister hahahaha...there is a big size diferent...lol

Stacey - posted on 04/25/2010

I have boy/girl twins 19mos old. I do get the Are they twins? comment quite alot. I always politely respond yes. But what do you say when someone asks you You had them yourself? NO my husband did you j----ass! Or awww what cute boys you have! And my girl is clearly wearing pink! And she sits in the front of the double stroller. People can be such ninnies.

Astrid - posted on 04/25/2010

I seem to get the inappropriate questions, like are they natural, but the do twins run in your family question gets old, I am at the point of saying, well yes, my 4 year old twins run all the time!!! And the I don't know how you do it, I normally answer with, "well, I get up in the morning, get going, and then fall into bed at night and I have never had a singleton, so don't know any different!"

Yolanda - posted on 04/24/2010

The weirdest question I got was "How do you keep them so clean?" Huh? So were your kids always filthy or something?

Debbie - posted on 04/24/2010

I found that when people would stop me to ask about my identical twin boys they would stare at the boys for a while to try and find a difference. My boys became so used to this that as they got older and they would meet new people, they would stare intently at them for awhile. I guess they were thinking this is the normal way we greet people!

Rina - posted on 04/24/2010

I have a 3yo and 9mth b/b twins of which one has extremely short hair and the other thick black curly hair and was also born with loads of hair so nothing much has changed. He has however had 3 hair cuts since birth though. I get the - are they twins and one is a boy and the other a girl? When I've deliberately dressed them both in blue - poor dad jumps to his defence a lot. So hair quantity was the conversation starter here - LOL

Nancy - posted on 04/23/2010

I have boy and girl twins and they look very different. I dress them in pink and blue as well. I was asked "How do you tell them apart?" I was also asked how far apart they were and my response was "1 minute!"

Rebecca - posted on 04/23/2010

My favourite was "are they girls or boys?" when it was fairly obvious as they were (usually) dress in pink from head to toe!!! I often got stopped in the street by people blocking the footpath just so I couldn't get past and then they could lift hats and generally touch my twins even when I said "please don't touch them"!!! It was a never-ending source of frustration and I hated taking them out! Now they're 5 and because they look nothing alike I think people just think one of them has a friend over to play. So it will get easier for you too :-)

Wendy - posted on 04/23/2010

"Do they respond to their names?"

When my boys were about 18 months if you asked them what their name was, they both had the same response "JackandDavid" at that point I realized I needed to start calling them one at a time to dinner, or play or whatever :-)

Khadijah - posted on 04/23/2010

These stories are HULARIOUS!!! Thought for sure I was the only one that get stopped everywhere I go with strange comments. I always get the: "Are they twins?" question. But then its always followed up with: "Are they the same age?" (smh) Hmmmm

Sometimes I just want to go to the store, get in and out without the paperazi following me!! I feel like "Bradgelina" on most outings! Maybe I should hire body gaurds. Wouldn't that be hularious!! LOL

Heather - posted on 04/23/2010

My identical 7 week twin girls are never dressed the same, I refuse to dress them the same as they are two different little ladies, but I do dress them in obviously girly clothes though I'm still finding people coming up and saying how lovely my little boy and girl are and it's the same baby being mistaken for a wee boy each time and I'm constantly asked if they are twins, are they identical, and regardless of the fact that they are both the double of me and in a twin pram I'm still asked if they are mine and if they are sisters.

I'm thinking for getting a big sign to carry above my head pointing out that they are identical girls and if you call my wee girl a boy again I may have to reply very rudely or just ignore you altogether and walk on. It is the most frustrating and upsetting thing, especially when I'm trying to enjoy a rare day out with my girls.

Anne - posted on 04/23/2010

We were paying to enter an off the highway amusement park. When I asked the lady at what age do we have to pay for the kids to get in, she pointed at one of my two year old twins and said "he's free", and then to the other, "you have to pay for him." When I laughed and asked again what the age was because they were twins and if one is young enough to be free, the other was as well. She never did tell me the age, she just grumpily ushered us all in.

Shirley - posted on 04/23/2010

My identical boys are 5 and yes it has been hard but like you I feel so blessed they are fantastic. Also have a daughter of 3.

Tara - posted on 04/23/2010

I hate that! "Oh, I am so sorry for you!" or "Trust me, It gets better!@' Ummmm . . . these two sweet babies are such a blessing and I was and still am so thrilled to have twins! Of all the babies born each day, God chose to give ME twins!!!! I am so lucky! And it is the most fun I have ever had! If it gets too much better, I won't be able to stand it!

Shirley - posted on 04/23/2010

My worst question was "Are they both boys?" when there in front of them was to babies ressed in blue identical and had blue blankets and blue buggy....erm......what do you think?

Jade - posted on 04/23/2010

i have 6month old girls and i am always asked are they twins to which i normally reply yes but i had one person follow me all the way round a supermarket asking me stupid questions and when they finally asked are they twins i said yes but they were ment to be triplets which made him leave me alone i always get asked are they boys or girls both in pink always get asked if they are both mine, last week iwas looking after my cousins 10 month old little boy had the girls in the double buggy and him in a baby carrier someone asked me if they were triplets i said no and they argued with me i was like i think i should know after about 10 minutes i was like ok they are triplets he was just born 4 months before them, was in asda feeding the girls in the cafe they were both in a highchair and someone came up to me and proceded to tell me how irresponsible i was to put 2 8 week old babies in high chairs so i told them they are 6 months old and can both sit unaided thankyou for your concern tho and they argued with me that they were only about 8 week old i wasso annoyed i told her i think i know when i had them and ended up having to show her a photo of the girls and me just after my c section with the date on to get her to go away and leave me alone always get asked which is the bad one/favourite one too

Leisa - posted on 04/23/2010

I often get people argue as well that my boys are identical. They do look very alike and sometimes we get confused at a first glance. But I think I know that they aren't identical. Our daughter looked the same when she was their age. They are siblings of course. The one question I could not get over was "are they twins", "yes", "what both of them". What do some people think. I also dont get the ones who say "I always wanted/I want twins, just so I can dress them the same." Yep because you choose twins, and just for that reason. I am in Australia and there are really bizarre questions all the time.

Amy - posted on 04/22/2010

I did cust service for 11 yrs and was always told, "It may be your 100th time answering that same question today, but it's that customer's first time." I look at these questions these people ask the same way. Yes, we may answer them a million times, but those people weren't around when the last person asked. And we only think they're stupid questions b/c we have twins and we know. I have g/b 3 yr old twins. Same questions, are they twins, boys/girls, identical? A favorite response of mine (trying to be funny w/people) is when they ask, "Who's older?". Our girl is older, but almost 2 inches shorter than our boy, so I say, "She is, by 2 minutes." People usually get a kick out of that. I know they're not trying to be rude, they're just curious, and I'd be asking the same things if I didn't have twins (and I actually sometimes do have to ask if they're identical - not for b/g twins of course). And we have 5 kids (almost 10, 6, 3, 3 and 1) and also get the "I don't know how you do it" a lot. I always just answer w/you just do what you have to do to get through the day. Just remember, they're asking b/c they don't have twins and don't know what it's like :)

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2010

I've been asked too which one is my favourite!!!! What a stupid question!!

Jodie - posted on 04/22/2010

I have fraternal girls. took them out once.. one in a pink dress one in a blue dress.. I got asked Are they twins, yes... Boy and a girl? No they have dresses on they are girls... Oh I just thought cause one has blue!!

I ended up taking a muslin and covering the pram up so people would leave me alone..I know they mean well but you have to add 30 minutes or more when they are babys to any trip you make!

Tamika - posted on 04/22/2010

I have strangers walk up to me and look at both of my daughters and say they are adorable with their cute pink outfits on.... So are they boys or girls? Grrrrrr no they are boys I wanted to dress them in pink today and put earrings in there ears!

Jamie - posted on 04/22/2010

While grocery shopping the other day I had a lady actually argue with me about my twins being identical...they are not identical but she insisted that they are. They look a lot different, but she kept asking if I was sure that they are fraternal...not only do they look different but their personalities are already complete opposite. I think as the parents we know!!

Batya - posted on 04/22/2010

oh yes, you will be ask any question any time any place,,,,,I live in Israel,,,and am from the USA,,,,, sooooo,,,,,, absolutely yes,,,,,

Carrie - posted on 04/22/2010

in response to Gina Campbells post I have a similar situation only my older boy is almost 2 and my twins b/g are 6 months old and I already get are they the twins as they point to the boys and my 2 yr old is 3ft tall and 33lbs where the 6 month old is short and chubby one talks the other doesnt one has a head full of teeth and the baby has none!!!! all this with the little twin girl with us!!!! people I dont think understand that much about twins and are easily confused at least thats what I tell myself to not blow my top at all the dumb questions!!!

Stephany - posted on 04/22/2010

My twins will be 8 in september and I still get all the crazy questions and comments. They don't even look a like. It just surprises me how people can be sometimes.

Stephany - posted on 04/22/2010

I don't understand why people who have never experienced having multiples always have something to say. I get oh my god how do you do it or you are better than me because I couldn't do it. To me multiple births are a blessing and I would not have had it any other way.

KERI - posted on 04/22/2010

My twin boys are almost 4 months now, and although I love getting the "are they twins" question I get extremely angry when people pass the "rather you than me" or "double trouble" comments...if anything they are double the blessing! And the most innapropriate question I get asked often is "were they natural"...it's none of anyone's business!!!

I agree with the pregnancy size comments too! I was also told i was huge then by the next person I was tiny - everyone is an expert on my tummy!

Betsy - posted on 04/21/2010

I have 1 yr old b/g twins and get the "are they twins" and "are they identical" all the time. But the best would have to have been a week or two before I had them when the person checking me out at the grocery store asked me if I was having twins, when I said yea, she said she just knew I was because it was either that or I was like 10.5 mos pregnant. This really shocked me cause up to that point everyone had been telling me that I was really small for twins.

Faye - posted on 04/21/2010

when my oldest 2 were little I also had a step son the same age as my oldest...so I had 3 boys ages 3,3,& 2...they did look like triplets but people would always ask...then want all the details... we went to DisneyWorld when they were 4,4,& 3 and the boys got so tired of this that finally when one poor lady asked,,,oh they're so cute, are they triplets one of the boys looked her in the eye and said sternly..."YES!, we're triplets"...then looked at me and said "c'mon mom let's go"...no more explaining for me!

Faye - posted on 04/21/2010

our twins are now 19 but when they were small--but old enough for it to be obvious that they were boy/girl twins people would say, oh your twins are a boy and a girl...are they identical?? I would reply...no, one is missing a part!!=)

Marla - posted on 04/21/2010

My girls are now 13, so I don't get quite as many stupid questions. My all-time favorite come-back to the "how do you tell them apart?" happened when I was at the mall with a friend with VERY different looking fraternal twins. Her answer, "Well, the boy weighs about 2 pounds more than the girl." The most unbelievable question I was asked was if I used fertility drugs! This was from a total stranger in the mall. Oh, my daughters were adopted from China! LOL

Nicole - posted on 04/21/2010

My twins are very different sizes. My son was 4 lbs 1 oz at birth, my daughter 6 lbs 6 oz. She is SUPER long.. and he is just a peanut. They are 9 months old.. she is wearing 12 & 18 month clothes already... he is still in 6 month.. to give you an idea.

I had a woman ask if they are twins. When I said yes, she proceeded to argue with me for 10 minutes that there was no way possible they could be... lmao. I am pretty sure I'd know ! In the end.. she asked me how my daughter could be so much bigger if they are twins. I was so fed up, I told her that they were supposed to be triplets, and she ate the third baby.

That shut her up :)

Randee - posted on 04/21/2010

I have identical twin boys, 15 and I know when the "are they twins" question is coming, because of the double-takes, and I dont mind it so much at all anymore, the one that bothered me when they were younger was "which is the bad one and which is the good one"....

Holly - posted on 04/21/2010

I get the "Are they twins?" question all the time. My husband always says "No, but their mothers are." LOL The craziest question I ever got was "Did you have to have all of that extra skin removed from having them?" Umm,,,"No."

Lisa - posted on 04/21/2010

Im from Australia,
A stranger was looking at my little men and she turns around and said "You had them a bit to close together didnt you?" My response to her was "3 mins apart is quiet fine i think for twins". She turned to her friend and said that i was rude for my reply. She didnt even know me and yet she made an assumption that I had 2 babies through 2 different pregnancies.
Another girl asked me "Are they both yours?" My reply "yes they are, why would i have a double pram for just one baby". Sometimes you have to wonder what posses people to come out with some of the things they say.