Stupid things people say to parents of twins

Cat - posted on 10/14/2008 ( 560 moms have responded )

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Our twins are 13 months old and my husband and i are constantly amazed at the things people ask us about twins. My favourite so far has been "Are they twins, does that mean they were born on the same day?" I'm sure heaps of mums have funny stories, so lets hear them.

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Kerrie - posted on 07/13/2009

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well ladies i have identical 4month old boys and i get all the time how are they identical when one has less hair and is fatter that then the other.. arrrrg!!! my lil men were big boys 7lb11oz and 8lb2oz.. but i also get god u have ur hands full i have a 4 yr old girl and a 2 yr old girls my eldest has a few lil problems not walking and talking.. i always get how do u cope i really dont know how to answer that what am i meant to do oh sorry this is to hard can u take 1 back or make montana normal i really hate that when ppl say that it would make things easier if montana was normal.....DEFINE NORMAL my princess has a heart beat and legs and arms and eyes like everyone else just cause she cant do everything we do that dont make her ABNORMAL......

Kerrie - posted on 07/13/2009

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well ladies i have identical 4month old boys and i get all the time how are they identical when one has less hair and is fatter that then the other.. arrrrg!!! my lil men were big boys 7lb11oz and 8lb2oz.. but i also get god u have ur hands full i have a 4 yr old girl and a 2 yr old girls my eldest has a few lil problems not walking and talking.. i always get how do u cope i really dont know how to answer that what am i meant to do oh sorry this is to hard can u take 1 back or make montana normal i really hate that when ppl say that it would make things easier if montana was normal.....DEFINE NORMAL my princess has a heart beat and legs and arms and eyes like everyone else just cause she cant do everything we do that dont make her ABNORMAL......

Jill - posted on 07/13/2009

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I haven't read all of these but I think it is funny when people ask me if my girls are identical when they have just call one a boy. When clearly they do not look the same. My girls are fratenal.

Jill - posted on 07/13/2009

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I haven't read all of these but I think it is funny when people ask me if my girls are identical when they have just call one a boy. When clearly they do not look the same. My girls are fratenal.

Panayiota - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have 4yr b/g twins and a 3yr old boy. You would not believe how many times people have asked me if my youngest is also a twin.

Panayiota - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have 4yr b/g twins and a 3yr old boy. You would not believe how many times people have asked me if my youngest is also a twin.

Nikki - posted on 07/13/2009

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Quoting Barbara:

My favorite is when I call to make my twins doctors appointments and after I tell them it is for my twin girls, they will still ask what each of their birthdays are! Duh!!!



Too funny!! They always ask the first birthday I tell them 12/22/06 and then ask the name I tell them Aaliyah or Skylar and then we make the appointment then they ask for the second birthday and I tell them 12/22/06 and they always come back with.. ...................umm............... you already gave me that birthday I laugh and then tell them I have twins!

Kristina - posted on 07/13/2009

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im sick of the question "are they twins?" - um NO - i had them 2 months apart.... argh - and the other question is "are they identical" - do they look alike? some people!

Tracy - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have four kids, and people are always asking how old they are so I say ' My oldest son is 8, my girls are 7 year old twins and my youngest is 5.' Then they proceed to say both your girls are 7...were they born in the same year or are they twins ?....hmmm didn't I just say that

Rachael - posted on 07/13/2009

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My favourite was when my girls were 6weeks we were at dr for their jabs, and an elderly lady said äre they twins? I said yes and she said "but they are not wearin the same hats" it took me an my sister inlaw half an hr to stop giggling.



Now when people ask if they are twins I quite often reply with "No they are 12minutes apart" that really stops people in there tracks lol

Candice - posted on 07/12/2009

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i have identical twins, girls, 22 months. my absolute worst thing to hear is aww, what adorable little guys! are they twins? especially if im out with a friend, i just say no, this one is mine, that one is hers. and to hear that having your children close together is just like having kids drives me nuts. uh, no...the oldest is walking, and the youngest is not. do any of you ever get asked about the "secret twin talk" thing? i honestly believe it is just toddler talk, but i always get asked if i can understand mine, like its a foreign language or something!

Carrie - posted on 07/12/2009

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Quoting Diana:

I dont have twins, but I do take care of a pair of twins...
I just wanted to say that I attend to University and in one of my child development classes, the prof said that although rare, You can have a boy/girl identical twins.
So, even though most people would be asking this question not thinking at all, it is possible!.
So maybe afterall it is not a stupid question!


Diana, my understanding is that b/g twins who look very similar may be half identical - the egg can split before fertilization - so one egg, 2 sperm. The genetic material that determines the sex of your child is different, so b/g twins cannot be truly identical. I get so annoyed when people ask me how I tell my b/g twins (1 who has blue eyes and 1 who has brown eyes, for starters) apart. Well, if I'm having a bad day, I just take their nappies off! From there I'm usually able to work it out!

Martine - posted on 07/12/2009

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My boys are now 15 going on 16 and something I really hated was when people would tell me to give them one, because I still had another one left. I would tell them that mine only come together and not seperate. The looks on their faces was just hilarious. Another thing I hated was when people would say that they were glad that they had their kids one by one and were glad that they didn't have twins. Something else I hated was "which one is the good kid and which one is the naughty one?"
Something that really made me laugh was the next story. One day I was walking down the street with my boys in the stroller, when a little girl came up to me to look at the boys. Her mom said "Look they are twins because they are alike" and the little girl said that they didn't look alike (one has brown hair and the other one was pretty fair) and she was right about that. Her mom kept saying that they had to be alike because they were twins without even looking at my kids.
I once had an argument too with an older lady that my kids couldn't be twins because they were not dressed alike. I told her that I preferred it that way and that it was my choice not to dress them alike. She kind of got mad with me so I told her that they were my kids and that eventhough they were born at the same day they were 2 separete individuals too and if they wanted to dress alike later on it was up to them. She walked away shaking her head with my stupidity of not dressing them alike so everyone could see that they were twins. Oh well!!!!

Mary - posted on 07/11/2009

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Mine are boy/girl twins. People ask if one is easier than the other to deal with. Like as if boy are easier to raise than girls.

Rachelle - posted on 07/11/2009

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I have 2 year old twin boys.They are monogentic which means they r very alike. People ask me if they r twins

Belinda - posted on 07/11/2009

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my twin boys are now 22yrs old and reading the coments all you ladies have wrote made me laugh people still cant tell my boys apart but when they were little what joy they are theyve always competed with each other and still do it now but its funny my lads do cross country running ppl laugh cos they always come 1st and 2nd oh what joy lol

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I love the husband that says "oh sh** honey, we lost one". That cracked me up. My boys are only 4 1/2 months so I guess I haven't had a chance to actually get tired of the curiosity. I have to admit I did enjoy seeing the looks I would get when I was still pregnant...my belly was 50 inches. When was walking around shopping at 8 months, people would say, "any day now?" When I said, "Oh no we are hoping for at least another month or two!" Sometimes I would share the fact that we were having twins, other times...I just kept going.

Since their birth, my husband loves to push them around. He is very proud of our blessings and says we would have been bored with just one. Folks are very curious, and we do the the hands full comment...I have to agree rather have them be full than MT!

Elisa "Lisa" - posted on 07/10/2009

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We have twins that just turned 5 and people still ask us that same question.

Debra - posted on 07/10/2009

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I have fraternal twin girls, one with naturally curly & the other straight. People will still ask is her hair naturally curly or did I give her a perm..who would give their young daughter a perm?People amaze me!

Amie - posted on 07/10/2009

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My twins are 9 weeks old and i get a lot of "there a lot work". Like i don't know that already.

Melissa - posted on 07/10/2009

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I have 13 mth old b/g twins and he is 6 lbs bigger than her. I love it when people ask if they are twins. I am starting to be smart and stating that I had him first and three months later I had her. I also love it when they ask if they are Identical!!

Nina - posted on 07/10/2009

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my fav was how can you tell them apart and my girls are not identical one has blond hair and blue eyes and the other has black hair and deep blue with some yellow in her eyes

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My favourite is 'who's older'???? Duh???? They were both conceived at the same time so they are the same age...no one is older regardless of who comes out first.

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My favourite is 'who's older'???? Duh???? They were both conceived at the same time so they are the same age...no one is older regardless of who comes out first.

Linda - posted on 07/09/2009

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I have boy/girl twins and you'd be surpised how many people ask "are they identical? oh I guess not huh"

Hilary - posted on 07/09/2009

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Fun to read, we all have the same story over and over! I once had a Dr. who asked if they are identical. Not only are they a boy and a girl, one has red hair and the other has dark brown! When people say, boy you have your hands full I say "my two are easier than many people's one!"



I like the "not when their naked" comment, I will have to use that!

Dawn - posted on 07/09/2009

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I have had the same thing with the boy/girl twins. Are they identical? Lets see maybe except for their gender lol.

Kelly - posted on 07/09/2009

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yes i agree with some stupid questions that people ask,i have boy/girl twins 7yrs now and we alwys got asked if they identical...1 normaly dressed in blue the other in pink...sheesh and then they ask they born on the same day? when you look back its funny at what strangers will say...



enjoy your twins cat...they are beautiful =)

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2009

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Ever since my twin girls were born, and we are out and about, it seams like if we are celeberties. We always get a big croud, which can sometimes get annoying. its like havent you seen a twin before. I have to agree with everything all you moms have been saying too. gave me a big laugh! =)

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Quoting Cat:

welcome Mary.
Yeah that's always funny. I often dress my girls in the same clothes but different colours, pink and purple. People ask "Are they twins?" "yes" "Identical?" "yes"
"oh how wonderful for you a girl and a boy" LOL



Yea I get that alot too (with dressing them one pink & one purple), except they always end with "so they are both girls" yes they are girls!!!!! lol

Christy - posted on 07/07/2009

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it's hilarious when people ask me if I can tell my twin girls apart. Of course I can, I'm there mother :) LOL

Lauren - posted on 07/07/2009

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We have a 7 yr old and twin 2 yr olds, and I love when people say wow I don't know how you do it with 3. I can remember when I was pregnant with the twins people would tell me thank God I'm not pregnant with twins I can't imagine what you're going through. Good luck to you and so on and so on. And to tell you the truth I have found the twins to be sometimes easier than our older one. They have someone to entertain/play with them, while our older son didn't. I love all of our boys and I wouldn't trade them for the world!!!!

Lisa - posted on 07/07/2009

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omg lol so true I am grammy of twins and people always look at my two granddaughters who are dressed alike and say are they twins!!!(now keep in mind they are identical)they look like mirror images I am always tempted to say no not even related just dressed alike but I am too nice for that....

Rachael - posted on 07/07/2009

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I am pregnant with our first babies! My husband and I always wanted twins, so we were very excited to find out that we were expecting twins! I have found out through this pregnancy that people really say some stupid things. This is one that gets me a little....when they find out that we are expecting to they say, " Oh, I am sorry..." or one more," so, y'all decided to knock it all out at once?" When did people decide that if you have twins that is all that you are going to have??? This experience has taught me to keep my big mouth shut!

Michelle - posted on 07/06/2009

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I too often get asked for their birth date for each of them when I have just said twin boys and I do think it's just a robotic response of receptionist's that are overwork so try saying you must be having a busy day to ask that question about twins???? I also hated it when the boys were babies strangers would take their dummies out without asking

Christine - posted on 07/06/2009

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We have b/g twins and are constantly asked if they are identical!!! They are the third direct set in our family ( identical twin aunt's and half-sisters also), plus, they are the 10th set in the family b/t all the cousins. We as a family love to exchange stories about these types of things,but the above is what I hear the most.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2009

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I love the "are they twins" question. My sons are identical (looks), but one wears glasses and is 5 lbs heavier. One is aggressive, and one is passive. One is momma's boy and the other is daddy's boy. The best is the statements: "that must be tough, how did you manage, is it hard, are you broke. LOL

LATOYA - posted on 07/05/2009

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IT WOULD ALWAYS BE HILARIOUS WHEN I WAS PREGNANT I WOULD TELL PEOPLE THAT I WAS HAVING TWINS & THEY WOULD ASK'DID U GET HELP?" MEANING DID I GO 2 A FERTILITY CLINIC AS IF I WANTED 2 @ ONE TIME PURPOSELY!!!!!!

Daphanie - posted on 07/04/2009

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My favorite has to be, "You must be a busy mom" or "I bet your glad you got it all done in one shot!" its like nope i just sit here and do nothing, and im not stopping at 2 i eventually want more! haha. I just get a kick out of the reaction of people when they see such a young mom with 2 kids. Or the best one i have heard so far was "Are they yours?, you look to young to have kids"

Sindhu - posted on 07/03/2009

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I have 17 months old twin gals, top questions I/we get/got were:

(a) Are they both gals?( even when both of them are wearing frocks!)

(b) Did you always know you were going to have twins?(dah, who knew, I was hardly aware of being pregnant at 8 weeks!!)

(c) Was it a surprise that you delivered twins?( even after I tell people that I knew I was twins from the ultrasound at 12 weeks!!)

(d) Didn't you ever wish that they were one boy and one gal?( as if I had a choice!!)

(e) Are you planning to have more ? ( I just act dumb? I wonder if they know what they are talking about?)

(f) Your twins look lot healthier than other twins I have seen, Is there something special? ( I have no clue, I just give them everything organic is my reply!)

LOL, just cracks me up when people can't stop staring at you and my gals.. Sometimes I like the attention and sometime I just want to be left alone.. On the other hand my husband always loves the attention and he'd politely answer people's silly doubts too...

Jane - posted on 07/03/2009

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Quoting Latisha:

The question I hate the most is are they both boys. of course I tell them "no they are both girls and their 'age'", because I know the next question will be, "how old are they?" When we had the bucket car seats they were black the blankets we used were yellow. neutral colors, because we plan to have another pregnancy and don't want to buy the same stuff again.

The other question that gets me "does twins run in your side or your husbands side of the family?"



I get that last question a lot too.  It makes me want to ask them to think.  But I calmly reply that fraternal twins are from the mother's side as you need two eggs to start with.  Even then I still get some puzzled looks and are you sure questons!!!!

Jane - posted on 07/03/2009

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Quoting Latisha:

The question I hate the most is are they both boys. of course I tell them "no they are both girls and their 'age'", because I know the next question will be, "how old are they?" When we had the bucket car seats they were black the blankets we used were yellow. neutral colors, because we plan to have another pregnancy and don't want to buy the same stuff again.

The other question that gets me "does twins run in your side or your husbands side of the family?"



I get that last question a lot too.  It makes me want to ask them to think.  But I calmly reply that fraternal twins are from the mother's side as you need two eggs to start with.  Even then I still get some puzzled looks and are you sure questons!!!!

Jane - posted on 07/03/2009

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Both my sets of twins are fraternal, the first set a boy and a girl. The second set 2 boys, one with blue eyes, the other brown, plus plenty of other differences. Yet I still get asked if they are identical!

User - posted on 07/03/2009

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I used to bite my tongue and not reply to silly comments but now I don't.

To "Are they twins?"...no, there's 5 years between them

To " I Don't know how you cope with 2"...I don't know why you complain about 1

To " Are they IVF?"...no, so how were your children conceived?

To "Are they boys or girls?"...yes

Carolina - posted on 07/02/2009

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when i was about 5 months pregnant with my twin girls and already as big as a house, someone asked r u due anytime soon, and i said "What i'm just bloated, im not pregnant" the man turned around and took off running and i just started truely laughing my ass off

Adrienne - posted on 07/02/2009

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My favorite thing to get is, "Are they twins?" My husband always wants to tell them, "No we just carry an extra car seat in case we need it!"

Alison - posted on 07/02/2009

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Quoting Leah:

Amen to the comment on John and Kate plus 8 comment below - I am constantly getting asked if I watch this show. I have 4 kids under the age of 6 my youngest two are twins. I am constantly told oh you must have your hands full and I just comment back " I am blessed that my hands are full rather then empty"



I have four kids under the age of 4 (my oldest will be 5 in Nov., then a 2yr old and 4mth old twins) and I always get the comment about having my hands full, it is usually followed by "how are you coping?, you know there are lots of places like Salvos etc that can help you if your aren't coping", this comment annoys me the most and I think it is due to my age (I'm 26),it's almost as if because I'm only young that I can't cope with looking after my kids. I wonder if any other people get this?



I also get the "geez, you musn't have a TV!!" my hubby usually responds with "yeah we do and foxtel and the internet!! guess we better stop washing our undies together!!"

Sanela - posted on 07/01/2009

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My twins are total oposite. Boy is dark and has a brown eyes and hair,and he is bigger , and girl is blond and has a blue eyes. And people always asks us how old are they and are they twins then, as they could be same age and not be a twins.

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