tell about your RUBE people in public?!?!

Samantha - posted on 08/26/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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LETs hear what are your storys when people come up to you? What do u say back...





My story:

Im 22 now but i dont look it. Married but still people would look at me with twin boys and say WOW i feel SORRY for you sweet heart. TWO babies bless your heart. and other one i get WOW double trouble!.! LAUGHING after saying this!!... and i would just look at them.. Confused?!?!? SAYING why would you say that...? Do i look like i cant do it? or that im doing a bad job at mothering my kids? OR what!! MY KIDS ARE A BLESSING.. and wouldnt trade it for the world. I just walk away from STUPID people and their RUDE comments... If you NOT know what to say.... DONT SAY ANYTHING!!!!! oh and people touching my babies dives me crazy!! I dont know you dont touch my babies.. or un cover them then i say THEY ARE SLEEPING!!! I have them covered for a REASON!!! I feel like im at the ZOO... But we are the animals people want to see!!

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Carolyn - posted on 09/01/2010

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I agree with Helen--people are just interested, curious and enjoy the sight of multiples! I have twin boys who are finally out in the real world now for 12 days after 111 days in a NICU. I have been waiting for this moment to be able to share my children and be proud of how far they have come! I don't mind people stopping and chatting me up about the boys because they are my little, strong miracles and I think that's something to be proud of and discuss. It also opens peoples' eyes that don't know much about twins, preemies and other experiences these children have had or endured in their young lives! The other day I said to my mother that I just have to plan at least 15 to 20 extra minutes when I go out in order to be able to stop and chat, because it happens about every 100 metres I walk when in the malls or grocery stores! LOL

Jade - posted on 09/01/2010

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My twins are 8 months old and if i go somewhere i dont want to deal with people i always wait til one baby will be hungry then walk around bfing him in the store lol. people really avoid you and you dont have to worry about the comments or them being touched lol.

But i know how you feel, i had my wins right before i turned 21 and i have a 3yr old girl and i definately dont look old enough to have three kids walking around with me. I get asked if im the babysitter all the time lol

Lori - posted on 09/01/2010

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How about I had a young lady say to me "boy you have your hands full" meanwhile when I asked her how many kids she had she said five...lol I was like I see you have your hands full too. When I said that she and her mother were very offended...lol I think that phrase just slips out of people's mouths without them even thinking about it. I say this because I took out only one of my twins the other day. He was very well behaved and someone opened the door for me and said, "you've got your hands full." I guess it is just something to say. People don't realize that it is a bit offensive until it is said to them. It makes me wonder how many times I have said something offensive and didn't know it. :)

Jessica - posted on 08/31/2010

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im 22 aswel with bg twins that are 11 months old. i can relate to every single one of those stories because i get the same thing. i hate hate hate random people touching my babies like what would ppl think if i went and randomly touched them. they'd probably file charges for assault or something. lol i used to get people giving me filthy looks when i was pregnant too because i look young and i was soso big without a ring on my finger. mostly older ladies :) i was going up an elevator one day and i overheard a lady (not lowering her voice or anything so i couldnt hear her) say wow shes young to have twins- like theres an age where ur suddenly accepted into having twins. and the lady with her said poor thing how does she cope. i mean how rude! my babies dont look like they're malnourished or anything so obviously im coping fine! I cant stand people feeling sorry for me because i have twins i love them to death and wouldnt have it any other way!

Danielle - posted on 08/31/2010

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Wow i didnt know there are some many young mothers of twins. I'm 23 with 6 month girls. I hate it when people touch them and ask "are they twins" or " boy and girl?" just cuz one of their names is dakota and i never dress them the same expect in pictures. I am very prond that i EBF them and tell everyone since they are growing so wonderfully. A trip to the store is very hard since i'm stopped ALOT! I have hard time NIP since i always have eyes on me and my girls.

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Susan - posted on 09/01/2010

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I have b/g twins that are now 4, when they were first born I got the "are the identical" question so many times it drove me crazy, I even had a couple of people argue about b/g twins being identical....and the "wow how do you do it?" I don't know how I do it, I just do....How do you get up and get dressed...and get your kids up and dressed and fed??????

Lori - posted on 09/01/2010

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I have 2 year old twin boys. Try this reply once or twice...makes people look. I had someone ask me if they were twins. I replied, "twins? Oh no, where did the other one go" as I began looking frantically down the street as though I had lost one of my children. Made the stranger shut up and keep going...

Samantha - posted on 09/01/2010

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Im so proud of everyone that has told there story about other people and thier RUDE comments.. I really think we are all very stronge people to have twins.. It alot of hard work.. but its so worth it to see them smile and giggle having all the love they will ever need... family is all that matter. Dont everyone else....





other one of my stories i have:

I just had eoungh of people and there comments for the day. I was trying so hard to be nice to people. but the cashier and this women were talkin about me in an low voice. {her kids runing around like they owned the place.. throwing clothes every where. hitting each other..} I can hear very well and heard all they were saying.." i could never do anything like that" and" how is she out in public with thous little ones" and " better her than me" " i wonder if they are her or is she just baby sitting" " She looks so young" " I feel so sorry for her." i had eough of the comments and i looked at them saying.. it reall is not that hard to have twins and my kids are great and im very blessed to have them both. when the lady was walking a-way.. the lady looked back at me and said come to me in about 2 years and we will see what you have to say than... i said really loud.... "MY KIDS ARENT GOING TO BE LIKE YOURS RUNNING ALL OVER THE PLACE NOR WILL THEY BEING AND BRATs LIKE YOURS ARE!! illl come to you in 2 years and show you HOW A REAL KIDS SHOULD ACT!!! after the the lady left the store.. and chashier said wow how rude was that lady... i just looked at her saying. I hear what you and that lady were talking about. yes it is hard to have twins.. but you need to watch what you say.. CUZ YOU NEVER KNOW WHO IS LISTENING... Plus, i dont know any different.. you have double the love, smile and giggles... the chashier never looked at me again the whole time i checked out!!! PRICELESS!!

Jessica - posted on 08/31/2010

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omg debby that story about ur trip to walmart is awful! even if they were triplets why would that make u a freak??!! some people do just try to be rude!

Liz - posted on 08/31/2010

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I know the feeling I'm 23. When my b/g twins were younger I'd get those comments all the time. One of the ones that really got me was three weeks ago I was out with my husband in the grocery store. I was waiting with my two year old twins and my one and a half month old son, who were all in the stroller while my husband checked out. I actually had a person ask me which of the three kids were twins.

Nina - posted on 08/31/2010

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oh I am sorry, people did that to me and still say "double trouble". some people just get too excited when they see twins like they are rare or some thing. I just look and smile and walk off. thing will get a little better as they get older. good luck! ~ Nina

Kirith - posted on 08/31/2010

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I used to get annoyed too when the boys were younger and as they are 26 months now it's not soo bad.
I drew the line though when total strangers would ask me if I had them naturally or c-sec, did I feed them or were they on a bottle an other very personal questions like that.
Nowadays, I just smile and carry on walking or just say thanks as usually people just comment on how gorgeous they are.
My fav was the other day though, we were in Tesco an the check-out person said "how many months apart are they?" (my youngest twins is lighter an a little smaller) I said "six minutes" and she just got all flustered and went "oh yeah, yeah of course"

Tina - posted on 08/31/2010

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HAHA! Yea, i feel you! The other day at a Wal mart, a guy looked at our kids and said right to my husband and me "I'm sorry hahahahahaa" He kept walking and my hubs was like 'Sorry you only have ONE!' haha Good times.

I like to show my girls off but I don't like talking to people. haha Plus, we live in Germany and Germans are always trying to talk to me, asking questions, telling me the babies are cold, I feel bad because I can't understand. oopsy.

Samantha - posted on 08/30/2010

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thanks for all the comments back. and i agree with everyone..but im just not in to the drama or people look at us. and even follow us in the mall. to ask me random questions about my twins... i would never follow someone i didnt know and ask them questions abOut their kids!? nor would i make comment bout thier kids either.. being 2 years apart and how hurt it must be on them...

i mean im just like everyone else just got my kids out of the way at one time...YES there is two but they look just like a normal baby does....WHY CANT PEOPLE JUST LEAVE US ALONE!!!!!

Debby - posted on 08/30/2010

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Ok, ladies, I think all of you are right on!!! When my boys were first born I was WAY too over protective, I needed babies at home with me, not back in the NICU!! LOL!!! My boys are 13 months now and we also have a 2 year old little girl. We are asked ALOT if they are triplets!!! Right now at least I hear it one time from someone per trip out. I just politely, say that the boys are twins and my daughter is 12 months older. And giggle!!!
Definetly, the most memorable event was when we were at Walmart and my husband was pushing the twins in their stroller and had our daughter in a backpack. We heard a gentleman exclaim "Now you would only see a freak show like that in Walmart." Seriously? I think that was the only time BOTH of us got really agrevated and wanted to "attack" LOL!!! I swear if people only understood that we didnt ask for the egg to split!!! OMG!!! It really is a blessing!! Oh and my favorite comment...."TWINS!!!! Better you than me!!! " My comeback....I give them my biggest fakest smile and say Yah, God thought so too!!! That shuts em up!!

Ruth - posted on 08/30/2010

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I think we all deal with this. I do not like people touching my babies but, the comments are not such a big deal to me. My twins were 12 weeks early and even though they are 15 months old now, the only thing that irritates me is other peoples germs. I don't need sick kids!!

Lori - posted on 08/29/2010

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It used to bother me. Now the boys are 23 months and I have mastered the art of ignoring people without appearing rude. When I don't feel like talking, I just act like I am sooooo busy that I can't make eye contact and I can't hear. If I am in the mood to talk, I just act normal...lol

Heather - posted on 08/29/2010

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I agree, I don't think people mean to be rude... except the welfare comment... that was way out of line! The ones that bother me the most are the "I hope you're done now" or "Have you figured out what causes that" because we have two older children as well. Again, I don't think they mean to be rude, they are just trying to make small talk and failing miserably.

My husband use to love it when we went to the zoo because our twins got more attention than the animals, lol! He ate it up!

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2010

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When my girls were little I used to get are they twins or are they just close in age or are they b/g which i really never minded, i still get the are they twins and they are 3 years old. I mean people are very intrigued by twins and yes I used to be one of those people that would say Oh God twins how do you do itbut I never meant it to be rude and I never take people saying that stuff to me to be rude

Helen - posted on 08/29/2010

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Oh come on!
People don't mean to be rude, they are trying to be friendly and are always interested in twins! I am so proud of my b/g twins and I LOVE to show them off - they are really beautiful little people and look! Twins! Yay! "Double Trouble" etc., just people's way of saying SOMETHING to you so they can admire your lovely children...
Get over yourselves - old or young twins are pretty cool!
I love and embrace the drama... :)

Kate - posted on 08/27/2010

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l stopped making eye contact wherever we go. At least you don't have people talking to you as though they are your grandkids. That's what l get. lf you see an older woman with young children, it's way more to polite to talk to her as though they are her children. She will feel complimented that you think she's young enough to be their mom. OK, so l'm 47, my youngest kids are 3 and 1 yr old twins. l also have sons who are 28 and 25. l'lm old enough to be their grandmother, but l'm their mother. l suffered the pregnancies and c-sections to have them. And as for being married, been there and finished with that. Besides, married couples do not get the benefits in the states that unmarried couples get, such as; we get back more from income taxes. lf the Obama health care passes, married couples would pay about $2000 a year more than unmarrieds.
l am finding the older they get, even at only 13 months, people aren't in our faces as much as when they were a lot younger. Not having them in their car seats in stores makes it easier for people to see them, so they keep back a bit more.

Sarah - posted on 08/27/2010

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I know exactly how you feel! I too get really annoyed when people, strangers, literally chase me down the street "twins?! Can i have a look?" and stick their heads into my pram! I now go everywhere with the rain-cover down as Im sick and tired of strangers poking their heads at my kids! Im 24 but people often mistake me for 18, 19 and I see peoples eyes go to my hands. Yes I am married thank you very much, no need to look so surprised! I also get "Are they identical?" I have boy girl twins....think about it.....!!!
People are very rude

Alana - posted on 08/26/2010

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I have boy twins who are about to turn one and I just turned 29, but people sometimes think I'm a "young mom," I also get people telling me they feel sorry for me. My motto now is "twice the work but twice the love."

CHERYL - posted on 08/26/2010

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i have b/g twins who are 14ms and i never mind those comments i get lots of stupid comments like are they twins?r they identical?yet 1 wears pink and other blue! but what really pissed me off a middle aged man came up 2 me and said r they twins? of course!! doulbe trouble? i said-twice as nice! i bet u get loads of benifits?!! i was angry ,i do work only 16hrs awk, cheeky sod. i really dont care if mothers are stay at home or go to work each to their own

Justine - posted on 08/26/2010

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i no exactly what you mean im also 22 with twin boys and get comments like that all the time.

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