twin pregnancy advice?

Lisa - posted on 08/11/2010 ( 55 moms have responded )

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My induction date in Aug. 18th, and i'm getting a lil restless. their are a few twins in my extended family but they are too far away to really talk to. so i was wondering if their was any advice about twins that no one told you about till after they were borne. any advice i could get would be great.

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Emily - posted on 08/12/2010

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Congrats on the twins! Being a mom of twins is truly an amazing experience, although like anyone with a new baby, it will have its rough days, so through those just take a deep breath, do what you can, and focus on just making it through the day. Really, though, I found twins in many ways easier than I expected, but I did find it harder than I thought when both of them were crying and I didn't know what to do. The first three months I found to be by far the toughest, and after six months I found things got MUCH easier. Although now they are both walking and so things are BUSY! =) Everyone's experience is different though, but that is just what I found. Get a good baby carrier, and what I actually found when mine were 8 months was that with a wrap and a Mei Tai (so two carriers) I could wear them both, and although a bit tricky to figure out how to put them on, once they were both on, it was GREAT, and I wish I had known earlier. If you decide to try this out, though, see if you can get an expert to show you the best way, it makes it much easier. But really, both mine LOVE to be worn, and so even if they are having a really fussy day, that really soothes them. I would recommend both a bouncy chair AND a swing if you can, although not two of each until you find out if both yours like it, as one of mine loved the boucy chair, the other hated, and visa versa with the swing. Get prepared to sing, babies LOVE your voice, and I found when both were crying and I didn't know what to do, at least singing to them gave me the feeling that I was doing something to sooth them if nothing else was working. I have a terrible singing voice, can't carry a tune to save my life, but I sing ALL the time now and my 14 month olds love it. Not sure how you feel about soothers, I think pros and cons, but my daughter is a soother addict, and although it will make life tough taking it away, it made things easier in the beginning, as she was a fussy baby.
It took about four months to get the babies on a schedule, but once I did, things got easier for both me and the babies I think. Also, I did the "one up to eat, both up to eat, one down to sleep, both down to sleep" and it worked really well. I also slept in their room on a little couch for the first six weeks, and I found that was great.
Finally, and I think this is my biggest thing....start taking them out by yourself as soon as you can. It's really scary initially, so pick somewhere easy to go, but once you do it a couple of times, it really doesn't seem like a big deal and you are no longer housebound, which is great for you, and most babies seem to really like the change of scene as well. We initially started going to mother/baby "Mother Goose" sessions, I was the only twin mom, but everyone was SO helpful, and if you had two crying babies, everyone understood. We started that at 5 weeks old, and now a lot of those babies are still friends of the twins, so they've known them almost since birth, which is fun especially if they stay friends in the years to come and I made some great mom friends too.
Oh, and one more hint (sorry, I just wrote you a small novel.....SORRY!!!!!), if you end up bottle feeding (I couldn't nurse at all, so my babies were on bottles almost from their second week), I would put each on a nursing pillow on either side of me on the couch or on the floor and fed them that way. They love those nursing pillows, and I was on my own most of the time so that allowed me to feed both at the same time easily. They often fell asleep after their bottles like that, so then I could leave them asleep, or transfer them to their crib (which is what I did at night). Good luck!

Angela - posted on 08/12/2010

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I have twin daughters and they are a whole lot of fun. Good luck to you and just take things one day at a time and love every minute of their youth!! One thing my girls did as a baby was they had to be facing each other otherwise they would be very fussy. Just think they were together in a tight space ( your belly) for nine months they still enjoy that while they are in this big world! Once they start crawling on each other be careful they love to crawl on each other. Thats when I decided to seperate them in seperate cribs!
Twins really are alot of fun......as they say double the trouble...but I say double the pleasure and fun!!! As for breastfeeding if thats what you decide to do, it can be done! If breastfeeding at the same time...hold them in the foot ball hold..with their heads together and feet off to the side of you. Thats what worked for me as I breast fed for 6 months!
In time and daily routine you will figure out what works best for you. It is very busy at first but very rewarding and fun also!! Just remember enjoy every minute of it..it will go by fast and it will get easier and when all is said and done you couldn't imagine it any other way!!!
Hope this helps to ease your thoughts!!

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Honestly, I would avoid being induced if you can. You are more likely to end up with a c-section, will have a more painful labor, and may have problems getting your milk to come in. I would buy an EZtwin nursing pillow if you don't already have one so you can feed them at the same time (either bottles or nursing). Sit on the floor with your back against a couch or wall if you are nursing -- its tough to position twin nursing newborns by yourself and it's easier if you are on the floor. Feed them at the same time ALWAYS. If one wakes up to eat, wake the other one up and feed them together. Change them after you feed them -- they will most likely poop while eating for the first few weeks. Buy at least one swing -- that way if you are by yourself you have something to soothe one baby while you are holding another. That's all I have for now!

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Nicole - posted on 08/30/2010

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People say get them on a schdule, but that is impossiable until they are older, i tried and failed. feed them when they wake up don't wake them up. at night though i suggest if one wakes up to eat then wake the other, it is the only way u will get sleep. i pumped and breast feed for 3 months it is a chore but well worth it. sleep when they sleep. walk away if u feel like u can't take any more of the crying, just go into another room and take a 5 min. time out. don't worry if u r feeding one and the other wakes up crying, it will be there turn soon enough. invest in chairs or boopy's to use so u can feed them both at the same time.Swings r ur best friend, mine love them. well thats it for now.

Marlena - posted on 08/29/2010

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Enjoy them. Believe you are the best mom for those babies in the world. Noone can be a better mom to them than you. Read to them every chance you get. Just do your best. Don't worry about what you can and cannot do. ie: breastfeeding is great, but not the only way to do it. I only lasted 4 and 6 weeks with my twins but got to 2 years with the other three. Get help if you need it but realize your limitations. Then keep going with the next step. You'll be fine. Congrats!!

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-Sleep when they sleep.
-It's ok to ask your partner for help.
-Get 2 vibrating bouncies and 2 swings. Sometimes that was the only way I could go to the bathroom or get a shower.
-Hire a cleaning lady. If money is an issue, get one for the first few weeks.
-Get a chef for the first few weeks (not in an home one, but I had a chef cook me up a month's worth of freezable meals at one time) and having all that there was the biggest lifesaver for that first month when you are in survival mode. It was actually not that much more than what I would have spent buying groceries for that first month. There are also some companies that you can put together meals ahead of time (depending on where you live). Here is an example of one with a lot of locations: http://www.dreamdinners.com . If you are on bedrest, you can have a friend, spouse, or family member get them for you or most places will allow you to pay a small fee to have the company make them for you. Trust me when I say this..this was the absolute biggest lifesaver for me.
-If you have a c-section, walk around as soon as your doctor will allow you to even though it hurts.
-Carve out a little time for yourself. It might be as something as small as going to the grocery store by yourself.
-If you take the twins anywhere out of the house, expect your trips to take twice as long because everyone and their grandma will stop to want to look at them and ask you about them.
-I agree that the same eating and sleeping routine is imperative. The word "schedule" has such a negative connotation in the mommy world, but I don't think there is anything wrong with a flexible schedule because it is a huge sanity keeper. For example, it doesn't have to be up at 6 am if they are still sleeping. I see it as more along the lines of when they wake up, feed them, burp them, play, then nap. Then etc. Get in the habit of a daily routine and it helps them know what is coming next even if they can't conceptualize the idea.
-I know you'll be tired. However, one of the best things I did for my kids was once they were old enough to eat I made their baby food. I highly recommend this and it helped my kids have such an appreciation for healthy food that most of their peers do not have.
-ask for twins discounts when you go shopping.
-Practice using the infant seats and strollers before they come. Breaking down and setting up a dual stroller isn't so easy so practice ahead of time. Also practice putting the infant carrier in and out of the car.
-If you end up using formula (even to supplement), get the Pampered Chef mixer pitchers because it makes life easier.
-You should have had the babies by now so good luck. You're going to need it. I'm not even going to lie - those first few months were horrible. But you will survive.

Rachelle - posted on 08/24/2010

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Oh and if you are planning on breastfeeding the best thing you can buy is a feeding pillow that wraps around your waist it was the best purchase i made, made feeding time so much easier

Rachelle - posted on 08/24/2010

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My advice is a good routine, feeding at the same time sleeping at the same time that sort of thing otherwise you start to feel like its non stop. And if they are both sleeping at the same time it gives you a break. If someone offers to help take them up on it even if its the smallest thing, im a single mum and found having a routine with my twin boys made life a bit easier

Amanda - posted on 08/23/2010

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I know Im a little late on this post, but I thought I would still give my advice. I have 19 month old twin girls. Def put them on a schedule - especially with sleep. do the same bedtime routine every night - We would dim the lights, turn off the tv and feed the girls and put them in their cribs. When one of them woke up in the middle of the night to feed, we would get the other one up to feed as well. If you don't you will never get any sleep. It takes both of you to take care of twins. Its def a full time job and then some. It will take some time to get used to going things with twins and how to make things work for you when you are by yourself. A tip when bottle feeding them both while you are by yourself - I would put one of them in the Boppy pillow and have the other one in my lap and feed them both with bottles. swings work too to feed them or their infant carriers. If you dress them alike, make sure that something on them is slightly different. I was given this piece of advice. One of them should be wearing a slightly different bib or socks or something so later on when looking back at the pics you can remember which is which if the pic didn't get labeled. Treat them as individuals. This sounds easier than it really is. Its very easy to compare your twins to the other one because they develop and grow together, but not always at the same pace. Just because they are twins doesn't mean they are exactly alike in every way possible. Mine have different personalities, attitudes and have developed at different times for milestones. Enjoy every minute of them because they grow up way too fast and before you know it they are turning one years old and you are planning their birthday party. One more thing to be aware of: when you are out in public with your twins be prepared for a ton of attention from people. They will ask some of the most stupid questions (are they twins? you have a boy and a girl? when i have two girls dressed in head to toe pink. is it hard? better you than me.) At first the comments aren't so bad, but when you hear them all the time when you go out it starts to become annoying. I wish you luck, and trust me - even with all the advice in the world, we were winging it with what to do and what worked best, and what didn't work at all. you will be a good parent, and if you dont have any other kids, then twins is all you know and you just adapt and go with it.

Natashia - posted on 08/18/2010

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Awe i hope that you have them today!! Today is mine and my husbands 1st married anniversary! We had our Twins 11 days later. My advice to you let people who want to help, help. I tried to do it all with out help for along time, but than i just accepted the fact i needed help when the husband was at work! Good luck! I Hope everything goes well today!

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Happy Birthday Babies!
Mom -- if you go the formula route -- learn the conversion to make anywhere from a quart to a gallon in your blender. It's much cheaper than ready-to-use and then you don't make bottles ALL day long! You will go thru a lot of it! Best of luck

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Sleep schedule! My twins are now 8 months and have slept thru the nite since 2 months with regular naps thru the day. I only nursed for 2 months and would beat myself up over it -- don't do that to yourself, it's not worth it! Remeber that you are not dividing your love between them only your time. It can get a little crazy keeping 2 babies happy if you're alone during the day and you'll feel like you've run a marathon! But at the end of each day you can smile and know that you've survived another one!

Melanie (Ureta) - posted on 08/17/2010

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Hi Lisa. My twin girls were born in April-- it was my first pregnancy (and probably my last!) and was NOT comfortable at all, which you're probably finding yourself! Are you having a C-section? My doctor only did C-sections for multiples because it was safer, so I didn't go through labor (which was fine with me). If any problems were to arise from trying to have a vaginal birth, I may have had to recover from an emergency C-section PLUS a vaginal delivery, and I agreed that a C-section was fine with me. The C-section was quick and easy, although I didn't react that well to the anesthesia/epidural and was a little queasy/sleepy (but everyone reacts differently). The delivery went well, as well as my recovery. I had no problems with my milk coming in. My younger twin, Felicity, had to go to the NICU while I was in the hospital (she wasn't able to keep her glucose levels up high enough) but was able to go home with us when I was discharged after 4 nights. Noelle (my older twin) had to sleep on a light-bed for a couple of days/nights in the hospital because of a little jaundice.

After delivery, the first month was the hardest (but don't worry, it DOES get easier!) I breast-fed (mainly pumped while supplementing with formula) for 7 weeks until I just couldn't do it anymore. It was tough doing feedings every 3 hours for both of them. It seemed I was constantly feeding, pumping, or changing diapers, and got very little sleep. I read a great book, "On Becoming Babywise," which helped me get them on a good sleep/feeding schedule, and they started sleeping through the night by 2 months. They've been sleeping about 10 hours at night since they were around 3 months old (now they're 4 months). I feed Noelle (my oldest) first because she eats faster. Then I feed Felicity. Then they have a nap for a couple of hours until it's time to feed again. Now, they're going about 4 hours between feedings, and I feed them 4 times a day. I agree, it's a good idea to get them on the same sleep/feeding schedule. Wake them when it's time to feed them. Otherwise, if their schedules are off, you won't have any time to get anything else done. You'll have to figure out what works best for you. Every baby is different, so what works for one mom may not work for another.

Congrats and best wishes to you for a quick, successful delivery and a speedy recovery! Enjoy every precious moment with your twins! They are a true joy and you are doubly blessed!

Lindsay - posted on 08/17/2010

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My advice is definately to get them on the same eating/sleeping schedule, it seems like it would be way harder but if you can do it, it gives you more time to yourself. I am a mother of 6mo. old b/g twins and they are amazing! they sleep from 9pm until 10 or 11 am every day! i also have a 2 and 4 y/o and it is so much easier than i've ever imagined it to be. as long as you can get comfortable with them and get a routine im sure you will be just fine. When the twins were first brought home, if one would wake up at night i would get the other up too, just so that they were both satisfied and i could get a lil sleep, because if they r on a separate schedule you will never rest!

Cindy - posted on 08/17/2010

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well my advice is to take the help that is offered get a double stroller and a swing and a bouncy seat i cnat offer too much advice as my twins came in early and was in the nicu in the same hospital and in another city so for me it was 51/2 months of hospitals im just learning about my little angel for she is only 3 weeks adjusted age but u will find what works for u dispite that advice that everyone will give

Amy - posted on 08/17/2010

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My advice would be write down who ate when, and when you changed diapers... I bought a chalkboard, where it was easy to see. This way you and anyone helping you won't get confused...

Vicky - posted on 08/17/2010

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I have 9 mo old twin girls, and alot of advice I would of given is above I used boppys to feed them , mine were born at 33 weeks c-sect and in NICU for about 3 weeks, Everything I do to one I do with the other, changing, feeding, naps etc.. the boppys were a huge help as well as bouncy seats , also my snap n go double stroller as well.. Once girls got thier shots I go thier ears pierced different colors so I'd always be able to tell apart, sometimes I could and sometimes I couldnt so didnt want there to be any question..lol and YESSS accept any help offered.. also at my shower we did a raffle for diapers if someone brought diapers or wipes they were entered in a drawing for a cool basket my friend made.. I had a wall of diapers and wipes and helped ALOT..sleep when they sleep until you get your strength which will take some time to get used to schedules then later do all you need while they nap... Those were the things that helped me most aside from my husband and family. Right now Im dealing with teeth and crawling everywhere..I keep them entertained though..Im sure you'll do great and feel free to ask any questions later on here or FB..Lots of Luck..

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Another mother of twins once told me "God only gives twins to those of us who can handle it". Keeping that in my head always seemed to help. Also, like Sheila said, they entertain each other and keep each other company. I only have twins, never a singleton, but after you get thru the first few months, I think twins are actually easier than a just one baby. And they're just so much fun! Congratulations!

Annette - posted on 08/17/2010

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Congradulation on ur twins. Well I had twins in 1996. I have a boy and a girl. When I got to take them home everything was okay till it came to night time. My son had colic and let me tell you it was hard but I managed. All twins are different, some wake up at the same time, and then some wake up one at a time. I was blessed cuz mine would wake up one at a time. I would feed and change one baby. Put him/her to sleep and then the other was waking up. I would sleep when they would sleep. If these are your first one you may need help just till you get into a routine and then everything will be okay. It will need to be patient and treat them both the same never favor one over the other cuz they can sence that. Well thats my opinion.

Courtney - posted on 08/17/2010

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Same eating and sleeping routine for certain. It can be done! Breast feed them at the same time. MUCH easier than one at a time. Best $$ spent was that twins nursing pillow. Brilliant! I made it to a year and a half. If you've done everything to keep them happy and they just cry, try lying down with both of them on your chest. It worked for me and sometimes when nothing else worked I just needed to do it. When even that didn't work or I just couldn't stand lying there anymore with 2 babies on me I would put them in the crib and step outside. It is ok to let them cry when you've just had enough. I wouldn't say you'd want to do this all the time, but honestly, sometimes I needed to just go outside the house and yell or cry when I just couldn't take it anymore. Those times were few, so no worries! Good luck!

Gail - posted on 08/16/2010

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For the first week of my twins being home I did everything (feeding, changing etc.) for them separate and that proved to be the most exhausting time for me. I remember really thinking having twins wasn't so great after all, lol. Once I learned to treat them like one baby and feed, change them etc. at the same time, it got better. Still much more difficult than with one but better. It is sooo hard to wake up a sleeping baby to eat but I found it was worth it. Either way though the first few months (longer if they are preemies) were really super tough. I don't know if it's like that for everyone because mine were hospitalized at different times and with me also having surgery within the first 2 months and having very little outside help. But you do get through it and it is amazing to see twins interact with each other. I guess I was lucky because my girls naturally did a lot of things at the same time like teething and even soiling their diapers so that was helpful! Oh and one other thing I'd wish I'd done differently is not move them to toddler beds so early. It worked at 20 months with my older 3 children but once my twins were in toddler beds at the same age it was like one big party in their room at nap and bedtime. It is still like that and now that they are 3 1/2 years I wish I could put them in separate rooms because they constantly feed off each other.

Jessica - posted on 08/15/2010

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Congratulations! I was induced with my twins (fraternal boys, now 9 years old), and it was easier than having my first baby. I have only two small bits of advice for you. First, visit the website of the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs (http://www.nomotc.org/) and see if there is a local moms of multiples club in your area; if there is, join it. You will not regret it. The mothers of multiples club I was part of had monthly meetings where we had guest speakers and shared advice and tips with one another, semi-annual clothing and equipment swaps, and family activities (like Christmas and Easter parties). We moved away from the area 5 years ago, but I'm still friends with some of those moms.

The other bit of advice is not to let anyone bully you into breastfeeding if you decide it's not in your children's or your best interest. I know "breastmilk is best" and all that, but it's hard enough with one, let alone two who may be on different feeding schedules. If you decide not to breastfeed, don't let anyone make you feel like a bad person who doesn't love her babies as much as a breastfeeding mom does. As long as your babies get adequate nutrition and are growing normally, that's all that matters. I didn't even try to breastfeed my twins after the debacle that was my attempt at breastfeeding my firstborn, and they are all three of them strong, healthy, smart, normal boys now.

Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 08/15/2010

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i havent read the other responses but i have b/g twins that are about to be a year old in sept. my kids made their own schedule. but everything i did was routine. when one woke up to eat (even in the middle of the night) i would wake the other to eat at the same time, and change diapers right after. if i laid one down then i laid the other down. having them together usually comforts them and they will probably sleep better together. i dont know if you have other kids but if ever i started to feel overwhelmed i would let them sleep on me and next to me while i slept. i know a lot of people say not to do that but we all slept for so much longer that way. good luck and i hope some of this helps

Andrea - posted on 08/15/2010

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My boys are 14 now so a lot about when they were babies is fuzzy to me. I was a walking zombie for some months after they were born. They were my first and only kids so I didn't know what to expect. Scheduling is a must. Most moms before me have said that and have also given you very good advice. I breastfed and supplemented with formula until they were 4 months old. I wanted them to get any milk my poor breasts could produce...which wasn't much! Football hold was the easiest for me. I didn't always nurse them at the same time though. Oh, and you will get stopped numerous times in stores and asked a zillion questions and given just as much advice. It was so annoying but they meant well. Gas drops as one mom said is a good idea. I agree that you take all the help you "want" at first. Once you get the gist of things it gets easier. Definitely keep a log of feedings and such as you might be too tired to remember who ate when. It gets easier as they get older...then they hit puberty! Good luck and I hope you have very happy and healthy babies.

KIM - posted on 08/15/2010

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HELLO LISA I'M A MOTHER OF TWIN BOYS. 9YRS OLD NOW. MY ADVICE IF POSSIBLE FEED AT SAME TIME THIS WAY THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING ON SCHEDULE. U CAN FEED CHANGE AND MAKE THEM SLEEP ON SCHEDULE. KEEP IT! MY BOYS STILL GO 2 BED @ 9PM. TWINS CAN B SCARY AND OVERWHELMING BUT THEY R SO MUCH FUN ENJOY THEM AND BEST OF LUCK MY LOVE.

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Just do what comes naturally. I have a little girl that will be 2 on the 17th and 7 month old twins. It has been a challenge for me. I was induced as well and everything went fine. I delivered both babies vaginally. They weighed 6lbs 9oz and 7lbs, If you have friends and family near and you feel that you need help CALL THEM! Do not try to do it all by yourself. I have to have help for now. I can not go to the store by myself with the kids at this point or anywhere for the most part. Twins are just like any other baby the only difference is that there are 2 of them. I feed my twins when they are hungry. With the 3 of them it is way too hard to feed the twins at the same time. I feed them formula I was not even going to attempt to breastfeed. If you have any questions or anything you can email me and I will be more than happy to help you out. Good luck and congratulatios!

Connie - posted on 08/15/2010

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also, when you have them, if they get constipated, try Similac Alimentum before you do medication. We used it in every other bottle (regular formula in the others of course) and it really got them regulated and reduced the spit up and fussiness.

Pathma - posted on 08/15/2010

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My twins are now 5 months and i feel that as time goes by, it's easier to take care of them. Having a routine was so helpful for me. They got into their schedule so quickly and were able to drop their early morning feeds at 3 months. Rest as much as you can for you'll need your energy:) It's a fantastic journey - enjoy :)

Karla - posted on 08/15/2010

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My twins are turning 13 next month and I can't believe how the time flies... My advice is to take every bit of help that is offered to you and don't feel guilty about it! My sister-in-law took our twins and 2 year old for overnight when they were 6 weeks old and I still say that it was the best gift that I ever received.

Good Luck!

Donna - posted on 08/14/2010

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you think getting up in the middle of the night for one babys tough, 2 is even tougher. wanna talk about sleep deprovation. And as they get older, one instagates and the other follows. And theres twice the mess

Angela - posted on 08/14/2010

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I kept my twins on a schedule for feeding, and it worked great. I also agree with gas drops being a lifesaver! If breastfeeding does not work out, I would suggest making the sixteen bottles you would use for the day all at once, either in the morning before they get up or before you go to bed at night. It is so much easier to wash and make all at once. Enjoy every second with them and take lots of pictures. You will cherish them later!

Melisah - posted on 08/14/2010

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all i can say is its better to do what comes naturally to you i had to many people telling me different things it kind of got in the way of my instincts every child is different twins is an experience you will only

get to enjoy once you start bonding you get to know theyre sleeping times during last stages you will feel whos more active at such in such time i did my twin girl was more active around 10pm and she was waking at that same time after birth my twin boy was more active during the day and same as when he was born you will work it out and eventually get a routine going not straight away but you will look back in 6yrs like i have and think man why was i so paniky it was no sweat!! every parents different on how they manage but the most important thing i found was take up any help that is offered you know like around the house laundry etc..yourl do great God Bless

Paula - posted on 08/13/2010

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I really do believe that you need to try different things and see what works best for you and the babies. I have 2 sets of twins and what worked for the first set did not always work for the second set. With my first, feeding them together worked very well but it did not work with my second set. I think it is alot of trial and error. Listen to peoples advice, try the things you think might work but in the end, do what works best for you and the babies, no matter what others say. The only other advice I have is to sleep whenever you can, don't try to be a super mom. If someone offers to come and help you with the babies or with house hold stuff, let them come. If you are lucky enough to have someone to help out at night, go for it. I always found that I could handle almost anything as long as I got some sleep. Congratulations and good luck to you.

Diane - posted on 08/13/2010

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Unless there is a serious medical reason for your induction I would wait for natural labor, it is way safer than induction. Aside from that the best piece of advice I can give you is to talk to a lactation consultant as early as possible (even before the babies are born) Breastfeeding is totally possible with twins and it is special in a way that is very different from nursing singletons (they hold hands when they nurse) Nursing is a great time to just relax and cuddle with your babies and for the first few months it takes a lot of time but no more than it would to prepare bottles, it's just that the time spent is more relaxing and you have fewer dishes to wash :) Also, my twins were 10 months old before they ever even got a cold, I can't imagine having 2 sick babies all the time. Honestly, breastfeeding twins really isn't that hard, the hardest part about it is getting past the stigma and the learning curve in the begining. If you nurse on demand you'll have plenty of milk (even during the night) We co-sleep in our house and the hardest part of having twins was before I figured out how to position them so that I could nurse both of them throughout the night. With one baby you just do the side lying position but with two it was a challenge. My husband and I spent 2 weeks trading babies back and forth in and out of the bassinet when I finally found a position that worked and now we all sleep really well all night long and we haven't had a baby crying in the night since then (honestly) You just lay on your back with a baby in each arm (sort of like the double cradle hold only lying down) and you prop your arms up with pillows so that they can rest and you just hold the babies like that all night and you get to sleep and they have constant access to your breast and when you wake up it's only for a second and then everyone goes back to sleep :)

Tina-Jane - posted on 08/13/2010

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tyr if you can to get them into there own bedrooms, Mine slept in their moses basket in their cot for a bit ! fab no sleeping in muma room - good luck hun & twins are great x x x

Dee - posted on 08/13/2010

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Routine as soon as they are born. I dont really believe in on demand feeding, i was advised to feed regularly in the first few weeks then extend the the time between feeds e.g feed 2 hourly initially then extend to 3 etc depending on how much they take. I always do everything with my twins at the same time, feeding, changing, playing.
Also i never let them sleep together as i was scared of not being able to seperate them when i needed to and i never let them be held all the time by visitors etc. when you are home alone and they are too big to hold together they wont be very happy!! twins are amazing and special and it is hard but enjoy every second x x

Elizabeth - posted on 08/13/2010

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I agree with Tiffany to definitley keep them on the same eating and sleeping schedule. That is sooo important, otherwise you will be feeding one of them all the time! My twins were pretty good about that. We kept them in the same basinette for about a month and swaddled them to make them feel secure. They stayed in the same crib together for 3-4 months. Always accept help from family or neighbors. You will need a break once in a while. Don't feel bad asking for help. Its way better than being a mom at the end of your rope! Also check to see if you have a local twins support group. It will be hard for the first few months, but it is such a blessing having twins. I tried breastfeeding but it didn't work out. Only you know what is best for you.My girls are 14 months old now, and every time we take them somewhere we get comments. It gets a little old answering questions constantly when you just want to get in and out of the store quickly. One great thing to have for later on is a bumbo seat. I use one every time we go shopping. One girls sits in the front of the cart, and the other sits in the bumbo. It works great!! Best of luck to you!

Melanie - posted on 08/13/2010

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Just remember to relax. Accept all the help that you can get. Be prepared to laugh and cry at the same time.Keep a good support system. Be prepared for the attention. Try to keep them on the same schedule.

Sarah - posted on 08/13/2010

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The best advice is to relax, dont expect your house to be tidy, and your chores to be done, your main priority will be the babies and as long as they are contented you are doing a good job! Chores can wait or ask any visitors nicely if they can help,dont be afraid to ask for help! Feeding when they first come home, all i can say is get into a routine, get a chart or book and write down the feeds and times if thats easier thats what I did, and as soon as you can get them feeding at the same time. So that you are not in an endless feeding circle. (This was an issue for me as I had twin 1 with me in the ward while twin 2 was in special care, so it took me till they were about 2.5 weeks to get them fully in sync.) It gets easier and most of all enjoy them as babies because it flies by even though at the time you think it doesn't. believe me before you know it they are in preschool. Best of luck and congratulations having twins is a special and amazing experience, enjoy it.

Wendy - posted on 08/12/2010

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I have 2 sets of twins and all I can say is get as much help as you can, listen to your heart and remember time for you. Between feeding and changing nappies you can become a little lost.

Connie - posted on 08/12/2010

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you will find what wotks best for you. I saw A LOT of people said to feed at the same time... I let one baby sleep while I feed the other so I ahve time to play with her for a while before the other is ready to eat. My best advise is to buy a dry erase board to keep track of who ate when and when they are first born to keep track of bowel movements and any medication. I had lots of help when they were first born and it was the only way for everyone in the house to know what was going on. I still use it - my girls are 6 months old. Best of luck to you and relax. dont let others intimidate you on thinking you can not do it. people adapt to their situation and you will too.

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Looks like there's lots of great advice here- eat at the same time, get help, let them fall asleep on their own... One thing I do wish I had when my twins were babies would be a double carrier. Carrying babies around while you do housework helps soothe them. Also important: if they are identical, make sure you pick a color for each to wear or nail polish on a toenail. I had a hard time telling them apart at first until I discovered they each had a different freckle. It'll be difficult at first (the first 6 mo were pretty rough) and exhausting but do enjoy the little things- the tiny clothes, the smiles, the kisses. Congrats!

Alison - posted on 08/12/2010

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I haven't read through all the responses, although I should as I am only three months in with twin girls, but I think that those rocking vibrating chairs are a must! I breastfed until a week ago and these chairs are what I feed them in now. Just set up one on either side of me and it works great. I dont use the vibrating function but more because I left it on, drained the batteries and can never remember to buy more. Also great swaddling blankets and lots of them. The hospital let use have two and had I known how great they were I would have "borrowed" more. My girls do everything together and always have, thanks to the nurses at the NICU. They eat, nap and play together and it has saved us and now they are sleeping 5 hrs straight at night. If they are a little off, I wake the other one up. Also, and this might just be me but bonding came harder for me thanks to the hospital time and the girls being identical. I made a point of always saying the name of the little lady who I was picking up, changing, feeding and snuggling. It really worked for me and was something I had to do. It's easily the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and at times I did not feel so lucky but overall mom's of twins are lucky and it is amazing! Congrats on your little ones and please let me mknow if you need anything else. Like I said I am still pretty new at it but would love to help you out!

Gretchen - posted on 08/12/2010

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Enjoy the ride! It will be hard at first, until you find your groove, but then you will be an expert! Like someone else said, take all the help that is offered and don't feel guilty about it! Congratulations and many blessings to you!

Beth - posted on 08/12/2010

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Accept help when someone offers. Don't feel too proud to let someone do your dishes or laundry. That was a big deal at my house..I wish I would have accepted more help. Keeping them on the same schedule will be a life saver. My girls were in the NICU together so they got on the same schedule that way. If one wakes up to eat, wake the other one to and try to get them to eat as well. I nursed my daughters for 5.5 months. It was hard to keep my supply up because I didn't have time to take care of myself and keep my calorie intake up. I would try to do it, but if you can't DO NOT feel guilty it's a lot of stress on a persons body to feed two. If you don't have any children you will find out it's hard on a marriage. Make sure you and your spouse communicate with eachother. Hmmm...what else?? OH....I am not sure if you plan on rocking them to sleep, but I would definately start having them put themselves to sleep as soon as you can. I think the earlier they get used to that routine the better. Trying to rock two to sleep takes up a lot of your night...I learned that the hard way. Best of luck to you and your family. It is such a blessing and it gets easier as they get older! This website is a great source! Take care and good luck with your delivery!!

Tina - posted on 08/12/2010

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Wow, its a tough one, but here goes, first of all i was shocked when i found out i was carrying twin girls, anyway i gradually got myself accustom to the thought of two babies. Now i would suggest you get them both doing the same things at once, make sure you have loving support of family and friends around you for the first month or so, breastfeeding the two at the same time will be a bit challenging, but once you have adjusted your thoughts to the idea it will work. I actually did this for 1 year. Get them to bed the same time, this after a while allows them to fall into a routine, now after that practice, my girls gets sleepy has 7'oclock kicks in. Routine works. Hope this helps.

Sheila - posted on 08/11/2010

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I forgot to mention that I don't think that twins are any harder than singletons. They are automatic entertainment for each other...natural best friends.

Sheila - posted on 08/11/2010

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The only person that I knew with twins was a friend from college...until I had mine, then twins were popping up all around me. One time, I actually called my friend because I felt like a bad mom because one of them was needy and the other was laid back. She told me not to worry about that because their personalities will switch back and forth. I have found this to be true. There are days that I just want to send them off to Switzerland or somewhere very far away so I don't have to deal with all of their drama, but the blessings of having twins far out weighs the trials. I call them my precious treasures. Expect drama, especially as they near the 2year mark. I agree with the others. Have a routine that works for you. I'm not a strict schedule kind of mom, but that is the routine that works for me. I've known people that watched the clock and kept a strict schedule, and that works for them. I'd go crazy if I had to do that. Definately get them sleeping at the same time. All three of my kids (3yo, and 20 month twins) take their afternoon nap at the same time, and if I can do it, I rest then. I find that that time gives me the energy to be the kind of wife I need to be for my husband. When I don't get a nap in the afternoon, I'm usually exhausted by the time I get them to bed. I can't finish up without some advice about the comments. You are a very blessed lady. It used to bother me when people would comment to me about having my hands full, but I've gotten used to it. I've heard some great comebacks for those comments, but when I get them, I look at my precious treasures, and no matter how naughty they have been, I always answer, "Yes, but I'm very blessed." God has chosen you for the wonderful task of raising two precious little ones, so enjoy them! They are soooooooooooo much fun...and work. I almost forgot to mention my thoughts about feeding. I tried to breast feed, but couldn't make enough milk for both, so I would feed one with my milk and one with formula. I would switch back and forth each feeding so they would both get some of my milk. That only lasted for a month or two, then I went to formula for both. I have been told that the health food stores carry products to help with producing breast milk, if you really want to go that route, check out your local health food store. I haven't looked into it myself, so I can't speak for how good the products are or if they actually work. Good luck with your own precious treasures!

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I agree with Tiffany, the faster you get them on a schedule the better! My twins are now 5 months old and have been sleeping through the night since about 3 1/2 months old. I feed them one right after another and have always put them to bed at the same time for naps and at night. Babies crave routine and schedules so the better the routine the better off they'll be. Oh and yes no matter where you go, people will stop you and want to say "Oh better you than me" or "You have your hands full", I just always tell them I love having twins and it isn't as hard as you may think! Also if I'm in a time crunch when I'm out I just keep pushing the stroller along and when people try to stop me I just keep moving. Your on your schedule not others. Hope this helps! Congrats! And don't stress it's not that hard.

Ruth - posted on 08/11/2010

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It really is not that difficult to manage with twins. I have two older children as well that were singletons. I was able to nurse for 4 months but my twins were early and hospitalized at different times. I couldn't do it without the double stroller with the carseats that just click in. I have definitely gotten my moneys worth out of that. Toys are a must as they get older. Some days you will not be able to keep a "normal" schedule but I feel a schedule is a must. Try to get them to nap at the same time during the day. You will need the break. Just have fun and remember the 1st year is the easiest!!

Tarra - posted on 08/11/2010

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Gas drops are a must!! Mine wouldn't burp for anything and so i started using the gas drops here and there and then I could sleep at night. At least one swing is a must and bouncer. Oh there are newer swings that plug into an outlet, pay the extra you will use the swing and its a lot cheaper in the end then going thru batteries and they always die when you need them the most. Breast feeding is difficult with two but try your best, I lasted a month and only one would do it and so I didn't make enough for both of them. Oh the same routine is also a big plus too, makes it so much easier!!! Take help when its offered and don't feel bad for taking it and also ask for it when you need it!!!! We lucked out and for our first year stayed with my mom and she was heaven sent!!!! You will also find that when you go the store you will look for parking spots next to the carts in the lot, it makes it so much easier!!! Oh and you will get use to every one stopping and asking if they are twins even as they get older, I still get stopped and they are four. But you have lots of fun ahead and it gets way easier!!! They are best friends and mine are fraternal twins g/g and they even tried to switch names on us and we just laughed..... Good Luck!!!

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my baby is scheduled cesarean on the 18th also! (My twins are 18 months old already) With my twins, I tried everyone's advice pretty much at least once just to see what was easiest for mine. Of course, there is nobody who can tell you exactly what to do in any situation so as annoying as all the different advice is, sometimes it is worth taking it all in just to sort through. I did their feedings at the same time for a while (wake one when the other wakes) and then I changed to just feeding only the one that was hungry when they were hungry. I ended up going back to both at the same time bc it was easier with mine but my friend says it is easier for her to just let them eat when they want. You will just have to do what you want. Everyone says get a lot of help and rotations/shifts for help but honestly, I found it more annoying having people around so my husband and I did everything ourselves and it was no big deal at all with mine. It would have been more of a hassle having people in my house and telling me how to take care of my own babies all the time so again it is all what will work best for you. I am starting to stress out right now with my #3 coming next week so I understand how you feel in not being prepared but everything will come to you and you will do great. A lot of it is just trial and error and finding what fits your particular schedule best. A schedule doesn't have to be perfect routines, sometimes it is just having certain elements that you incorporate into your dfay every day. That was more how my schedule was and it worked for me though some people are totally regimented and wouldn't do it any other way. Good luck and enjoy those beautiful little babies and especially this last week of having them inside you. Everytime I see or hear of someone pregnant with twins, I still get jealous that mine are not inside me anymore. It was such a great 9 months even though it is definitely more fun now that I can actually play with them! You will LOVE twins!

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