twins fighting

Kamoo Jai - posted on 10/11/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 18 month old twins G /B are constantly fighting , hitting and even biting each other for the same things . Am afraid that
they may harm each other while im not looking . Are all twins like this at this age ?

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Kathy - posted on 10/14/2010

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my B/G twins turned 12 yesterday. They are best friends and worst enemies. They either love each other to death or fight like demons. They went through the biting about the same age. They were at day care and only bite each other, never another child. But they didn't fight much until they got older. I think it was because there were other children to play with at day care. But this is really age appropriate behaviour. I have always stressed to them that we do not hurt our friends. But being together 24/7 can get stressful. So sometimes the battle is on.

Becky - posted on 10/11/2010

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it's hard to see your kids fighting, but we've learned it's part of the learning process. We try not to get in the middle of the fights (unless the situation is dangerous). My b/g twins are just about 12 months & they have been fighting for months. We try to teach being nice but don't get mad when one takes a toy away from the other. They really need to work that out between themselves. Our 4 year old twin boys can get into big fights over toys and such. But they are the ones that will always be together so if we are always getting in the middle, they won't learn to work it out.



One thing we have found that helps is taking away the item that is the problem if they can't work it out. That way neither has the benefit of getting "their" way. We have more toys in time out than I can count at times. But they are learning. Also, there are days you can just tell that they need separation time from each other. Sometimes they just want some time alone (we found they would do something to get put into time out), so try giving them some free playtime by themself. My husband would do reading time with one & let the other play & then switch it up later. That way they both had some time to play with all the toys & also get some special time with mom/dad. Good luck

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Suzanne - posted on 07/19/2012

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Yes, mine are nearly 4 Id girls and they are doing the same thing, biting, scratching, and just being nasty to each other. I police the best I can. Do time outs, and make sure that they are not hurting each other too much. Siblings will fight, however due to the twins being so close it happens more often I feel. Also as they have to share mummy all the time it is hard.

Rachel - posted on 07/18/2012

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My 2 year old boys fight all day they bite hit and kick. The other day it got real quite I asked our 3 year old where the boys were and he said "in time out" i had to tell him only mom and dad can put them in time out.My twin sis and I fought in the womb and are still fighting into our 30's. MY mom got sick of our fighting one day and told us s he was sick of it and to work it out ourself
so we did.

Anita - posted on 03/26/2011

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my 2 year old boy and girl were exactly the same. I nearly checked myself into a mental institution over it. I don't really have much advice other than to say that I am sure most parents go though it at this stage. When mine got a little bit older I started getting tougher on the discipline. Time out in their room for the one who started the fight (without tv by the way). And I only got them out when they stopped crying, they soon learnt. They are pretty good now, although they still bicker every now and then. I also learnt to buy 2 of EXACTLY the same thing lol so there were no fights. It's hard at this age but you just have to keep positive and make sure they don't have access to anything they could use as a weapon lol. Good luck

Ashley - posted on 10/26/2010

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mine are three and have a almost 5 yr old brother and they do nothing but fight either playing or for real!! It drives me insane.

JESSICA - posted on 10/21/2010

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my twin boys who are now 9 years old went through the same thing.they still fight from time to time but not so much.

Tristian - posted on 10/21/2010

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My twin girls are 27 months and they grew out of the biting each other stage but they still hit each other, it has calmed down a lot though. If one twin gets hit by the other then the one who got hit will hit back, so then what I do is I get down to their level and ask does your owie hurt now, and I tell them that it hurts because you got hit, that it is not nice to hit. So far it is working out really good.

Jessica - posted on 10/20/2010

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I have twin boys that are 2 years old, and they fight ALL the time. They bite, pinch and hit each other a million times a day it seems like. They have been fighting since they were a year old.

Cyndy - posted on 10/20/2010

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yes they are. mine are now 7 B/B and they still fight. but at that age mine also were bitting and hitting.

Debbie - posted on 10/20/2010

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It's a love hate relationship just like most siblings except more so I think. Mine are 3 1/2 years old and have been fighting since they were months old. Like so many other parents, we leave them to settle it between themselves unless it gets serious or there is no resolution in sight and we take away the item that is causing the conflict. For the most part they play so well together and the moments we see them holding hands, kissing and hugging eachother are precious and far outway the moments they fight with each other. I'm pleased to say that at pre-school the teacher told us they are well behaved and play nicely with the other children which is obviously what you want as a parent!! Good luck and don't worry it's normal!

Rebecca - posted on 10/16/2010

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LOL! My twins ( boys ) are 13, and they still fight all the time! But they are also best friends too! When they were smaller I was worried about someone getting hurt, and I remember the doctor telling me that if one of them did get hurt, they'd learn a lesson! I will never forget the time when they were 4 years old and they were squeezing each others throats!! they both had red necks and I couldn't believe they did that! Its crazy the things twins do!

THERESA - posted on 10/16/2010

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Hi, my twins(boy/girl) are 2 years old and just started fighting with one another. They are both territorial and I make them hug and apologize to one another. I have also explained to them why they shouldn't be fighting each other. They have slowed down with that phase in life and they are on to the next one.

Jolene - posted on 10/15/2010

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mine are doing the same thing too! They're also 18 months old B/G twins... It's so frustrating & all I hear all day is whining & screaming & crying due to them fighting & stealing toys... I'm trying the "say your sorry & give your brother/sister a hug," sometimes they do & sometimes they dont...

Courtney - posted on 10/14/2010

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I have 15 month old b/g twins and they are constantly fighting all the time too. They push, shove, bite, hit, pull, pretty much the whole nine yards. I thought it wasnt normal too but I met some other moms who said theirs fight all the time too. Im sure its going to be a pain when they get older.

Laura - posted on 10/14/2010

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i have boy girl twins...they get on most of the time...have been fighting since about 9 10 mths....my son will thump my daugher and she will bite him...and does she bite!!!!!!! they havent overly huirt each other yet so i just keep an eye....my 2 are lamost 16mths

Keryn - posted on 10/13/2010

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Mine started fighting at 8 months old. We would sit them apart on the play rug and they would work their way towards each other on their bottoms and start belting each other!! They haven't stopped since and they are about to turn 3. I think it is just normal for all kids to fight and there is not much that can be done to stop it.

Lacie - posted on 10/11/2010

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I have 18 month old twin girls. the biting hasn't started yet (knock on wood) but they're hitters. i usually let them sort it out between themselves unless of course one of them looks at me and deliberately hits her sister to try and push her boundaries.. besides that i only step in if the one being hit is visibly upset about it. which isn't often.. they tend to think it's funny. but when i do step in i usually just have them kiss and make up. which is a win for me cuz it's adorable.. lol

Amanda - posted on 10/11/2010

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yeah my girls are almost 20 months and they been fighting since they were 19 months one of my girls bite the other when she gets mad they are constantly hitting and taking toys from one other all i'm doing right now is if they hit one other i say that not nice and say to them to say saw which they can't do right now but they hug and kiss each other its working right now and the fighting his stoping alittle but every sibiling fight let alone twins good luck!!!

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