wat if i cant tell my girls apart.

TAMMY - posted on 11/10/2011

We had braclets that i put on my girls right after they were born in the nicu on the ankles they had them on for awhile but there is something that you will learn to tell them apart with on of my girls have a mole on her cheek the other girls is behind her ear.. you will figure out how to tell them apart..

Kary - posted on 11/08/2011

HI! I was worried about the same thing! I also have identical girls. I painted one of the twins pinky finger nails and one of their toe nails to tell them apart. After a couple of months one of them developed a skin discoloration on her foot which made it either. But honestly- most of the time my husband and I still can't tell them apart. But their personalities are differant, they just look exactly the same! Luckily, we have the foot discoloration, lol! But painting the finger and toe worked for me :o)

Innocentia - posted on 10/31/2011

lol you will be able to tell them apart,the was this one time when i gave musa a cokkies and a few minutes later she was crying for another one......so i was like''i just gave you one now" only to find that mixo was holding the full cookie.even to this day i cant figure it.but once you are with them you will see they are identical but the will be something different,you will spot it in the appearance.sooner than you think,don't stress

Melissa - posted on 10/25/2011

We plan to give them two different dressing styles and one will wear Huggies and the other will wear Pampers until they learn their names. And we their faces lol.

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2011

My identical twin girls are almost two and I STILL have issues. I got lucky though. When they were born, one had a bright red "flame' above her eye that faded at 4 months...but at 4 months, she got a freckle on her foot! Now she has a total of three freckles. One on her foot, leg and butt. But when she's fully dressed and they are wearing matching outfits, I do get confused. I did pick colors for them. One is usually in pink or yellow and the other in purple or green. I tend to buy coordinating outfits rather than matching and I left the hospital bracelets on for the first 3 months (of course the first 2 months they were in the hospital because they were born at 31 weeks). I tried the toenail painting but my girls were wiggle worms even in the womb! I'm still worried that they'll be 16 and I'll be struggling to figure out who's who. (I always tell my husband I'll just make them drop their pants!) :-) Good luck and congrats!!

Amy - posted on 09/21/2011

I have identical girls. I just didnt dress mine the same, cause that simply makes it harder. My girls had curtain side of the bed, I put them on. Just to make theings the same. But they are 3 1/2 now. And I still have problems telling them apart. Many twins a something little about them. one of my twins has a little blue vain on the bridge of her nose. But as they get older, they will tell you who is who. I am 30, and I have a identical twin sister. And people still get us confused. oh and I kept one twins hospital bracelet on for about a week or so

Noel - posted on 09/19/2011

When I brought mine home, the first thing I did was paint ones toenails (I just so happened to have a color called So Much Fawn, and Fawn is her middle name). There was a slight weight difference and difference in skull shape. Now that theyre 3 months I can tell them apart by looking and from their personalities. I keep one only in pink and the other in purple or other colors so grandma and others can tell them apart at a glance

Brandi - posted on 09/19/2011

We worried about that with our boys. But when we had them we could notice small things. I little more hair, or a rounder face. Then we put a little finger nail polish on one of their toes until we felt a little more comfortable.

Pamela - posted on 09/09/2011

I was worried about that, too, but my boys ended up fraternal and not looking a thing alike! However, my husband went to school with identical twin brothers and their mom would put a specific color of nailpolish on a toe nail for each of them. That had been my intention, if I would have needed it. I did make them ankle bracelets with their names on for when they were in the church nursery, because I knew that not everyone could tell them apart as easily as I could. We also did "assign" them each a different color, which helps keep items like toothbrushes easily identifiable. We would sometimes dress them in their assigned color, which would sometimes help people keep them straight when they were younger.

Ceinwen - posted on 12/12/2010

i still get mine mixed up at 6yrs if they are not next to each other or not standing still so can work out who has the least weight. the closer the weight the harder it gets. I was very happy when one twin got afreckle/birthmark at one month on his belly but not easy to see in baby clothes so braclets worked for me. At two I had to go pick one twin up early from daycare as he had a temp. I was told it was Hamish so automatically called him this both twins kept this up for two hours when his temp. went back up and I put him in a teppid bath and realised it was callum. Have fun twins are a wonderful experience all are different find what works for you

Heather - posted on 12/02/2010

I knew one mom who painted their toe nails different colors... but most identical twins have some kind of identifying mark. The identical twins I went to school with were different only because of a birthmark on ones cheek. Another set I knew one had a slightly bigger nose (I could only tell them apart if they were next to each other...)

Diona - posted on 11/30/2010

I have identical twin daughters who are now 5. For the first 6 weeks I kept their hospital bracklets on, just to be sure I wouldn't mix them up. After that, I got braclets for them, which they eventually grew out of. But as they get older, even if you don't know which one they are, they know who they are. Even now, I get them mixed up. My husband can tell them apart VERY well, even down to their voices. But trust me, no matter what, you will be an excellent Mom. Enjoy your double blessing!!!

Cecilie - posted on 06/12/2010

My twins are not identical, and I have to say that it still took a few days to tell them apart. But you shouldn't worry about that at all. They have different personalities and you will get tuned with them after a few days. Take your time and get to know them. Don't worry!

Sandra - posted on 06/12/2010

I have identical twin girls and had the same worry. Now they are almost 21months old and I have to say, I've never had any problems recognizing them. I think as a mom, you have an instinct to tell who is who. Don't worry too much about it. And indeed, in the beginning you can let them wear a bracelet or different clothes to tell who is who.
On pictures it's sometimes harder than in person to tell them apart.

Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy and the delivery! It's not that far away anymore :-)

Michelle - posted on 06/12/2010

As a mother of identical boys, totally my concern at the time. They are now 11 and I still say, "son" and then they will turn around and tell me who they are! LOL! But when they were first born, the doctors "named" them Baby A and Baby B, with color coded hospital bands. A=Red, B=Blue. Seeing all the clothes were those two colors, we just put Baby A in Red and Baby B in blue. There are difference that you will see, when they are sitting still or sleeping, but as they get older, keeping still becomes the issue. So best advice, color code them. We did not match their outfits, styled the same, but different colors. Also, helped them establish that some thing was theirs, not shared. Glad that I did that now that they are older... just remember to love them. The rest is cake! Oh, yeah! You will survive!

Lynnette - posted on 06/12/2010

My girls are identical with a few key differences. The oldest was born a half pound lighter than her sister. Besides looking smaller, she has a distinct ear that is shaped differently from the other. The younger twin has a double crown cowlick. Now that they are two, the older has passed her sister up in size her face is slightly wider than her sisters. Telling identicals apart can be tricky. I have heard of painting toenails, but they are always wearing socks. My husband wanted to take a Sharpie marker and write a K and a S on their foreheads. I was worried about the ink on their skin. Other people use bracelets, which can fall off. My best advice, study your babies closely after they are born and look for marks or different features. I asked people who gave clothing as gifts to not get matching outfits, but rather the same outfit in different colors. Good Luck.

Carrie - posted on 06/11/2010

I never had that problem for more than a short time, but always realized who was who eventually (never took me more than a few hours to realize my mistake). Ours always had something to distinguish them--birthmarks, one had a hernia on his belly button, one had surgery later on. Usually there is some distinction you can rely on if you need a quick check. But once you get to know them you don't get them mixed up any more--you know which one is which, even if you are a fooled for just a few seconds.

Dehra - posted on 06/11/2010

i just had identical twin girls! ....congratz on being prego with yours.....when they get here you will mix them up dont worry it'll get better as time goes on and you may even get like me and they wont look so much the same after a while ;)

Tanya - posted on 06/11/2010

Congratulations!! :0) My twins are identical and now 11. I remember worrying about it but in my case it wasn't an issue. I can't remember what the medical term was, but basically baby A had taken a lot of baby B's nourishment so baby A was a little bigger than baby B. Baby B came out bright red, IDK the medical term for that. When the Dr. looked at my placenta he said they shared one cord, which had split in two. However, when baby B gained some weight they were very identical, but by then we could tell them apart. Also, I had inspected both babies thoroughly and one had a faint birthmark on her lower back that the other twin didn't, and the other twin had a small, birthmark near the whorl of her ear so I knew I wasn't going to mix them up. ;0) I had read in a magazine that you could paint the toenail of one twin. Up until they got their haircut last year, many people had a hard time telling them apart sans close family and friends, of course. They're great fun and enjoy your babies! The years will pass sooooo fast! :0)

Dorothy - posted on 06/11/2010

i have identical twin girls, they are 7 months old today! they are very very very identical. there are lots of tricks that you can try though. everyone whose identicals are older say you just know. i like to think i know... but i'm not totally sure at this point. :) we dress the girls different. same outfit generally but different colors. once one of them wears an outfit, that outfit is hers and hers alone. that way we know at a glance who is who. one thing that we did that was very helpful in the beginning was we left their hospital bands on as long as we could (until they were too tight). a lot of people paint toenails. (we haven't gone that route yet... their toes are so tiny and now their toes are always in their mouths!) some people pierce ears (i wouldn't recommend this one though) when they are little it WILL be hard, but don't stress about it. as they get older and their personalities start to develop, it gets easier. the different clothes is helpful so you know right away who is who rather than looking for little markings or whatever the case may be! another tip for you, when taking pictures, upload them as soon as you get a chance and label them. you think you will remember who is who... but you probably wont! you are going to do great. identicals are so amazing! they do the same things at the same times... so amazing to watch them grow and develop!! good luck!! enjoy every moment with them!!! feel free to add me to your circle... would love to help you as time goes on... :)

Jennifer - posted on 06/11/2010

Rosa, My 3yo twins are ID. We put one in pink and the other in purple in the begining. We actually had one sitter that thought it was cute to put them in matching outfits. She got them mixed and it took about 6 hours to figure it out because they took a nap. The only way we could tell at 6mo was because one sucked her thumb and the other sucked the first two fingers. Needless to say, we got a new sitter fast.
The girls have started wanting to pick out their own clothes out. It can be hard sometimes. I've considered bracelets. I'm just not sure they would keep them on.

Jennifer - posted on 06/10/2010

I have identical boys, and I had no problems telling my guys apart. I studied them so close after they were born that I picked out the littlest differences - like they both have a colick in the front, but Paul's is more pronounced than Vince's, and Paul has always been loosey-goosey and relaxed, while Vince is a bit more tight and high strung. You'll pick these types of things out with your girls, too, don't worry. :) You'll probably find that you're the only one who gets them right 99% of the time!

Congrats on your twins!

Kristina - posted on 06/10/2010

You are the mom, and dont forget that! My girls too are identical and my MIL had me scared to death that I would not be able to tell them apart, and that I should paint one set of toe nails or ID bracelets.... When your girls are born, you will see subtle differences and you will be able to tell them apart! As they start to grow, they will have different personalities and to you they will look nothing alike. You will start to see the similarities after you take pictures and look back on them after a yr. You will be fine and your girls will be gorgeous to you each in their own way that makes them unique and different to you.

Debbie - posted on 06/10/2010

Another bit of advice to keep in mind, get a chart for feed and diaper changes. It may seem like a strange thing to do, but it is SO helpful with the sleep deprivation thing. I was more fortunate than most people since I had 15 and 16 yo daughters when I had the twins. We were able to trade off on occasion for naps here and there. So many moms are not able to do this and the chart will help keep up with how much each baby is eating and if they have been to the bathroom on a regular basis or not. It is more important than one would realize. Also prepping your bottles in advance when possible is helpful too.

Tiffany - posted on 06/10/2010

My twins are boy/girl. I remember one night, maybe two, when I was so tired that I got THEM mixed up. I remember staring at my little boy and I couldn't for the life of me figure out why he was wearing his sisters jammies! Of course, I was holding his sister at the time! Sleep deprivation does crazy things to you. I'm quite sure you WILL get them mixed up. Maybe putting them in different colors will help. Or you can paint a toe-nail on one of them, like people do with puppies! Hahaha!

Debbie - posted on 06/10/2010

We are the mom of identical twin girls. They have been identical in height and weight since they were born and are now 3years old. We have tried several things but finally decided on clothing as the way to tell them apart instantly as well as in pictures for later years. Many times, the girls are hard to tell apart in pictures or if they have their backs towards us. Lily and Delilah happen to have names that start with L and D so their clothing or hair bows (if they are in matching clothes) designate who they are. It makes it easier for our extended family to know who is who as well. The fingernails help with the same thing. We paint them light and dark of pink, red blue or whatever color they are painted. Good luck!

Emma - posted on 06/10/2010

Hi, I am a mum of identical twin girls, and to be honest with you I found it really hard to tell them apart for the first few months. But a great trick i used was to paint a finger nail of one twin red, and then you will be able to tell until you learn to recognize the differences - and you will. I found the hospital bracelets would fall off and the nail polish was the best way.
Good luck with your babies - its hard work, but so so lovely xx

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2010

You will be able to tell them apart through small differences. I can't tell you how you will know, but you will. I had identical twin boys who were born at 32 weeks almost 7 years ago. I had the same fear, but once they were born I noticed small things. Like one had a scratch above their eye, one is just very slightly bigger and has a slightly fuller face. It's small stuff, but you will know. If nothing else just leave the hospital bracelets on until you are comfortable. Good luck. They are a blast having identicals.

Vicki - posted on 06/09/2010

When my boys were babies, I got them confused ALL the time, but as they got older, I could tell them apart by their voices, attitudes, things like that. I wouldn't worry too much :)

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2010

You are mom, and you will be able to tell them apart. I have identical girls and their faces have always looked a little different to me. You will notice little differences. We were given all of the usual suggestions but in the end I did not use any of them. There was also a size difference between the two when they were first born which also helps. I was very nervous about that when I was pregnant but after the babies come and you become more confident that is not longer a worry.

Laura - posted on 06/09/2010

my twin girls are identical and before we left the hospital to bring them home, i painted their toenails... one was pink and the other was purple. they are 9 months old and even still, one always wears pink clothes and the other wears purple. unless i feel like messing with the family and that's when i dress them identical.. in time you will be able to tell the differences in them.. it's just realy fun to screw with the family and make them think you forgot who's who!

Christine - posted on 06/09/2010

You may have trouble telling them apart - I have identical boys and I always dressed one in blue when they were newborns. Every once in a while they throw me off for a second and they are almost 3yrs! They have the same voice and the same cry - so on the baby monitor I have no idea who it is until I see them. It's fun!

Brandi - posted on 06/09/2010

i had identical boys and worried about the same thing. when they were born i left their bracelets on...then i started noticing small differences...sometimes i call them by the wrong name but upon closer inspection i can tell which one is which.

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2010

You can always tell your kids apart -- if you can't put a bracelet on one of them.

Lisa - posted on 06/09/2010

i have faternal twins but it was still hard at first to tell them apart, i used nail polish on one of the girls toes to make it easier but after about a week or so u should be able to tell their cries apart :)

good luck i hope it all goes well for u

Dawn - posted on 06/08/2010

You will know who is who. I was worried also. My boys are almost 2 1/2 now. I cried about it for months. Once they were born I could see a difference. Don't worry, enjoy the ride. It can be crazy at times, but it will go by so fast. Some people ask me how I keep them straight, I tell them I don't think they look alike. When I look at pictures I have a hard time, but in person I can see the difference.

Linda - posted on 06/08/2010

When I freaked out about not telling my twins apart (turned out they were fraternal anyway!) my friend told me to paint there toenails different colours. Seriously at birth upwards. When they are older ok you will DEFINATELY know :O) Its scary thinking you wont tell them apart but I have 3 boys (my eldest is 10 and my twins are almost 6) and I sometimes even get them ALL wrong now! And they are all so different. I know that I was quite worried that they would name my boys wrong so I made absolutely SURE they got the wrist bands right first time round. GOOD LUCK, 33 weeks! Not long to go now :O) How exciting!

Rebecca - posted on 06/07/2010

i still cant tell mine apart some times but ur mommy and ull be around them all the time so dnt worry you'll be able to... even identical twins have differences like head shape and skin tone or one will have a birth mark and the other wont thats how mine r...it might be tough the first few weeks but ull get it...i was worried about the same thing but once u meet them it will be easy.. u can use braclets or anklets too. hope this helps

Betty - posted on 06/07/2010

i had that problem for the first couple of weeks and i just painted their nails different colors and just so people wouldnt look at me weird i told them that gma did it and at 6 months we got them bracletes

Ciera - posted on 06/06/2010

mine are b/g and dont even look alike inthe face so obviously didnt have that problem but i have always wondered that. i've wondered if there has ever been parents that mixed up their kids and didnt realize it until days, weeks, months or even years later...probably not but it would be crazy!

Kate - posted on 06/06/2010

Our boys are fraternal. We still had trouble telling them apart for a couple of weeks. l think it was mostly from sleep deprevation. lt was around 6 months that l could tell which one was crying without looking.
Amy gave a lot of good suggestions. l know a mom of twin boys that one had yellow sock, bottles, and carseat, the other twin had all green.

Iridescent - posted on 06/05/2010

It happens for a little bit sometimes. It's easy to choose a specific color for clothing on each, or a bracelet, until you learn. You do learn to tell their cries apart and their personalities even if you can't tell by looking. You can even paint their nails different colors since they are girls.