What do you think? Should newborn twins be in the same room or separate?

Sharon - posted on 10/19/2009 ( 148 moms have responded )

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Hi,
I very recently found out I will be having twins in April 2010. It's very exciting and of course we're very happy, but we're a little nervous about how we're going to handle two babies at once, especially since it's my first pregnancy. So for all the experienced Mums out there, what do you think: should we set up two cribs in one room or should we keep them in separate rooms?

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Kylie - posted on 03/15/2011

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congrats to you. my girls was my first pregnancy as well. my husband and i were somewhat prepared to concieve twins as i am a twin myself but didn't think that it would actually happen. surfice to say my now nearly 4 yr girls are a joy. it was very hard in the begining for me though as most of the care was all done by me as my husband worked alot. we had the girls together in a port a cot in our room to start with then they went into cots of their own in the same room. they are still in the same room but in normal single beds now. if our home was much bigger i think that i'd rather them in seperate rooms. any way good luck with it all and accept any help that anyone offers you and get plenty of rest you will need it. kylie

Laura - posted on 11/20/2009

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In my personal opinion with having (boy/girl) twins. Do not separate them. They will know and not be happy and for awhile it may even better for them to share a bed(mine di for the first 6 months then they wanted their own space).. They have a special bond and look to each other for comfort. My twins were premature and one got sent home from the NICU before the other and within 24 hrs they stopped eating. THe NICU staff told me not to bring my daughter back to the hospital after taking her home. BIG MISTAKE. After 15 min of cuddling with each other in my sons bed they both started screaming for food. Thank goodness I had been pumping my milk so I could feed one and the nurse could feed the other. They are currently 3 years old and are still in the same room because that is how they want it and I'm not going to force them to separate until they are ready or until with age it would be more appropriate. I don't mean to be pushy but I just wanted to give you my honest opinion!! Congrats on the twins you will have double the blessings!!!

Kristy - posted on 03/28/2011

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We only purchased one crib at first, but then about 6-8 months later purchased the 2nd crib and set them both up in the same room. The boys will be 3 in May and still share a bedroom. We bought convertible cribs so they are in the toddler daybed stage right now. They love it and they know which bed is theirs too! I hope you and the babies are doing well since it is now the end of March.

Samantha - posted on 11/01/2009

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Congratulations first and formost...People said that just put them into one cot and so forth it works for some but for me i did use two cots and after about three weeks i had to even put them into two rooms as they kept waking each other up. Mine are fracternal, it might be different for identical...At 3 they now share the same room along with their elder sister and the twins sometimes share a bed for their day sleep their choice...You will work out what suits you best at the time...Something I would say to any parent........."Be open to new ideas", "Try anything once", "Don't be scared to ask", "Work with one another in parenthood not against each other", "If unsure seek advice from a proffessional", Most importantly "Do what you feel is right for your child/ children, as your motherly insticts are there for a reason". Good luck and best wishes, Sam.

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Kimberly - posted on 03/23/2010

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I HAVE TWIN BOY& GIRL THEY ARE 13 NOW .I HAD THEM IN two cribs in one room . BUT THEY WOULD END UP IN EACH OTHERS CRIBS.KEEP THEM TOGETHER .

Kristy - posted on 03/23/2010

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my twins are 2 n a half now n i had them toe to toe for the first few months, but 2 cots in the room in any case n occasionally gave em time in each to adjust. they didnt like bein apart when we put them in seperate cots moved them side by side and they held hands n slept much better. i hope that helps u :) they were in the same room and were more settled as we tried every thing first now theyre fine seperate rooms etc and r doin great GOOD LUCK !! and wishing u every happiness on meeting ur new babies!!! xxx

Sarah - posted on 03/23/2010

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hi. we've had twins (boy and girl) nearly 4 years ago. they were premature and had health problems, so were in separate incubators right from the beginning, but next to each other. we kept the idea at home : 2 cots (travel cots), right next to each other, you could see them while asleep crawling to be against the other one. they are still sleeping in the same room, and being used to the other one's noises, if one cries at night, the other doesn't wake up. it's also a lot easier if they are in the same room, with a really comfy armchair, changing mat, and the rest. saves a lot of walking around at night .. good luck

Jodie - posted on 11/22/2009

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congratulations! i had non identical twins in april. it was my first pregnancy so having two babies was exciting but scary too. u will be suprised by how quicky u adapt. in the end ur like a robot and dont even think about it.lol. my girls have never been in the same cot as we thought they may get used to it and create problems in the future. so they are in separate rockin cribs on either side of the bed. so whichever one wakes up durin the night, who ever is closest gets to care for that baby. they have been sleeping thru the night for about 2-3mths now. hope this helps :)

Kristy - posted on 11/21/2009

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i had my lil bubs in the same cot toe 2 toe for the first few weeks, as when i tried seperatin em it was pure hell!!! i guess they needed the comfort of each other, n then i moved em to seperathe cots bit with enough room 4 em to reach each other n that seemed to work, hope i was helpful and good luck xx

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My twins will be five years old tomorrow. They shared one pack n play until about six weeks old and then a crib together until 13 months. At that point we moved across the country and they went to different rooms and into big beds with bed rails.

Denise - posted on 11/20/2009

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definately keep them together...just think how traumtic birth is and then seperating on top of that? much easier on u too!!!

Denise - posted on 11/20/2009

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definately keep them together...just think how traumtic birth is and then seperating on top of that? much easier on u too!!!

Tessa - posted on 11/08/2009

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i have my 8 mth twins in the same room in the same cot at the moment but they are about to be placed in seperate cots but staying in the same room.....you will be very surprised they know when the twin is not there and they will let you know that they have noticed...........i am all for twins in the same room.....let that bond stay close because they will need the closeness as they grow up......congratulations by the way.

Abby - posted on 11/02/2009

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My first pregnancy was with my twins and i put them in the same room because if one wakes up for a feeding then you want the other one to wake up too or you wont ever get any sleep. I put them in thier own beds because of the risk for SIDS and the fact that they kept waking each other up.

Alisha - posted on 11/01/2009

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my boy/ girl twins are 4 months and still crib sharing. When I 1st brought them home I swaddled them together. They were 6 weeks early and stayed warmer that way. Now they sleep in their own swaddle but same crib.

Pauline - posted on 11/01/2009

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hi Sharon, i had twin boys 16 years ago, they were 3 months prem - you wouldn't think so now though....anyway i found it easier to keep them together in the 1 cot, they were pretty much like that for nearly 4 years, i had 2 cots but they wouldn't sleep unless they were together even if they topped & tailed they were okay.....& it was also easier to keep them warm at night, Now that they are 16 they still can't stay away from each other for too long, they call each other names but they have never ever thrown punches & they know if something is wrong when they are apart....when the time comes you will decide for yourself how you want to do your babies - you shouldn't rely on anyone else because in the long run it is you who will be doing all the work with your babies....oh & by the way CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Amy - posted on 10/31/2009

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Think that they have been in tight quaters for 9 months-if you make it to full term they are used to it and will sleep better if you not only have them in the same room but the same crib!! I did this until they were too big for one crib and even then we had the cribs pushed rigth together so they could still touch each other!!! They will be a blessing to you and you will have good days and bad but the joy will be doubled!! My twins are now 11 and still bring Joy to me everyday!!!

Kelley - posted on 10/29/2009

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I put mine in the same room- even the same crib for a while- I think they really like it. They dod wake each other up sometimes, but the majority of the the time the play with each other and are in no hurry to get out. They started laughing and each other at 6 months. They are 29 months old now and even now when one of them does not want to go to sleep, the other one sings songs to him or asks to read a book, etc. I think it is one of the best thinkgs about twins and makes up for the hard parts.



They also get used to each others noises, it is not always easy, but i like it

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Our twins (boy/girl) started out in the same crib and then advanced to separate cribs in the same room. They didn't have their own rooms until they were 3. I think if I had it to do over again, I would do it the same way. They are happy and healthy little six year olds now. They have a strong bond, but are great on their own too! Good luck with your new little bundles of joy, twins are a wonderful experience. Warning: people will drive you crazy wanting to look at them and ask you questions, give yourself additional time when shopping etc. It will take you longer than you think! :)

Mary - posted on 10/28/2009

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HI there! I am currently pregnant with twins, due December 15th. Until they grow large enough, I am keeping them in one crib, with a crib divider to separate them, so they can't roll around and kick each other. I got it on Amazon, Leachco Crib Spacer , for $24.99. Hope this helps!

Kelly - posted on 10/28/2009

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My twins are now six. We started them out in the same crib and they still prefer to sleep together now. They're always comforted by being close to each other. I caught one of my twins covering the other one up in the middle of the night last week. So cute. They are in seperate kindergarten classes this year and that is also working out well. Pros and cons to what ever you decide. Just watch and you will know what is best for them. Congrats

Kristen - posted on 10/28/2009

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Hi! I have twin boys who will be 3 next month. As newborns, they slept in the same crib until they were big enough for their own. Then they were in separate cribs in the same bedroom. Now they are still in the same room. I believe this is definately the way to go! For one, they comfort each other. They are used to being together- they have been since conception and when my boys were in the NICU, I honestly felt that they grew and became healthy enough to come home because they were together in the same crib. If you are having babies of the opposite sex, then they will need their own room down the road, but for now, I think their better off together. Also, having twins with your first pregnancy is intimidating, but because they'll be your only ones, you don't realize how different it is from having just one. You just learn to do everything twice!! Good Luck and I hope this helps!

Cassie - posted on 10/28/2009

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Mine are 9 mth now and were in the same crib/play yard until they were 6 mth. I didn't have a second crib yet, but I found out an extra bumper pad can eaisly seperate a crib into 2! When we moved into our new house they got their own room and own beds. They sleep so much better now in seperate, but when they do sleep together they have to be touching! I think in the same room to start is a good idea, after that, just follow their lead, they'll let you know if they want their own bed/room. Good luck and God bless!

Carol - posted on 10/28/2009

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Me again. My twins are10 and they still sleep in the same room due to lack of space primarily. They sleep in bunk beds. All that comforting they did as babies they now pick, fight and argue @ bedtime. I can't hardly shut one or the other up. Still no sleep. :>( Though, when they are separated, like one sleeps in another room or stays at a friends house, the other can't sleep?! They say it's too quite or something! But I know they are missing the other though they won't admit it! I guess I'll get my sleep when I'm old!!!!!!! Have fun. Mine are my heart!

Carol - posted on 10/28/2009

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Congrats!! Twins are fun but they are alot of work! Especially if you decide to breast feed. I felt it was the best start for them. It's amazing how much sleep you can go without then when you look back and realize you really are Super Woman! :>)

My twins are now 10. They slept in the same crib, I felt they found comfort with each other since after all they were used to sharing a womb! And they did! I would wake up to one crying and go check only to find the other had already stuck his thumb in the others mouth! TOO CUTE! When they were big enough to crawl all over each other for their safety, I put them in separate beds. Mine were born in June, it was very hot. hey would cry alot I thought it was to the heat so I covered them loosely. Till my sister came over, who had 2 sets of twins!, And took their blankets and wrapped them tightly called swaddling. It looked like torture to me. For heavens sakes!! It worked, they slept better and I was able to get things done...like SLEEP! She said they are accustomed to the close tight and cramped feeling, not all this freedom and room I was giving them. She's so smart! She should get the Smarty Pants Badge!!

Good Luck, Good Love, and God Bless!!!

PS. Now when they get 10 and start fighting, I hope I'll have more good advise! :>(

Katie - posted on 10/26/2009

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Congratulations! This is a very exciting time! I had my twins (first babies for me too!) this past January, they are almost 9 months old. When they were really little they slept in our room (we set up one of the cribs in there) in the same crib for about 6 weeks. Once I was comfortable with moving them we put them in the same room but in separate cribs. We split them into separate rooms at about 6 months old...and it was the best thing we ever did! When they were in the same room they woke each other up, we were slaves to the baby monitor, if one cried we had to go running hoping that they wouldn't wake up the other. But not with them in separate rooms they learn to soothe themselves back to sleep and we can let them cry a little.



The best advice I can give you is to do what works for your family and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. We kept them in the same room until it didn't work anymore but I'm sure people will tell you that their twins did great in the same room. I find my babies sleep better at night and nap better in their own rooms.



Good luck!!

Kate - posted on 10/26/2009

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Congrats! My twin girls each have their own crib but do not sleep in them yet. They are 8 weeks old. The doctor suggested having them sleep together for a while, so we have them sleep in a pack and play right now. For one they have been together for the last 9 months or so and once they get out they love love love being next to each other. Also they said it would help so they learn each others crys and what not. More of a comfort thing than anything else

Karen - posted on 10/26/2009

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Congratulations! I found my boys settled and slept better together, they even shared a moses basket. I'm sure you will find out what works best for you as each child is different. The only advice I would give is not to beat yourself up about not being in two places at once, so to speak, once I realised that I only had two hands and not four, I relaxed a lot more and so did they. Yes the first few years can be exhausting at times, but I feel completely blessed with my boys, who are inseperable. To end on a funny, there was a point where they both thought their name was Maxandluke! how awful. Good luck for the birth etc.xxxxxxxxxx

Charlene - posted on 10/26/2009

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Keep them in the same crib until they start really moving around 2-3 months then in the same room but separate cribs,that is what we did and it works well they still have there own space but aren't far away from each other,don't forget they have been together for 9 months why take them away from each other now...hope this helps you,and enjoy it is so much fun hard work but worth it,enjoy

Penny - posted on 10/26/2009

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My twins are 2 1/2 and they still share the same bed. We have tried to separate them but they just crawl back in bed with sister. They have always slept together and we have never had a problem. They can't sleep with out each other and I think it is sweet. It may become a problem at some point but they have two beds in their room for when they decide to sleelp separately. I think it is up to you and what you feel is best for your family.

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Keep them together. It would even be good to put them in the same crib for the first few months. I did with mine and they did really well. They are always comforted by the presence of their twin! After all, they have been super close up until their birth!

Julie Chantal - posted on 10/26/2009

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When ny twins were born Jenna got jaundice and had to sleep in a special little bed on my dresser, Jeff slept in his little crib, the first night they slept was when I laid them side by side in the little crib, Jenna curled up to her twin brother and they went to sleep.

Nicole - posted on 10/25/2009

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HI, dont put the second one up yet. The others are right. I tried to put my twins in separate cradles and they always ended up together. They soothe each other. Even in the hospital, we bundled they each by themselves and then laid them next to each other. They slept so well. When they were 2 months I moved them to one crib and when they got to big for one crib, I put their cribs next to each other and they would reach threw the slots and touch each other and and share toys etc. Even now, they are in toddler beds, right next to each other, they beds touch. and when one gets up and comes to get in my bed, within seconds the other has sensed that they left the room and they come to find them. It is a bond none of us can explain or come to understand. Let them decide and it will be so much easier. But keep them on the same schedule. Eat, sleep , same time. There is no other way, I promise. Good Luck.

DeeDee - posted on 10/25/2009

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My boy/girl twins are now almost five years old. They shared a room until they left their cribs and moved to big kid beds at 18 months. Now they have their own rooms, but always wake with the both of them in the same bed, not partial to one bed, but they always wake together. They didn't wake each other when they shared a room as infants.

Tracee - posted on 10/25/2009

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My twin boys are 5 years old now, but they slept in the same crib up until they were about 3 months old and it got too cramped! I think it was good for them because they were used to being so close to each other in utero. I know your main concern is probably one waking the other up, but actually that is a good thing. If one wakes up to eat, go ahead and wake the other up to eat, so that you can go back to sleep for a couple of hours without interruption, otherwise, you'll be up every hour!

Myra - posted on 10/25/2009

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I have 5 year old twins and they still share a room. We set up both cribs in the same room. I think it helps to when they get a little older, they will coo and laugh at each other.

Lee Ann - posted on 10/25/2009

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Well congrats! I had my twins 5 years ago, boy and a girl. They slept in the same crib in mine and my husbands room. They slept in the same crib for 8 months then moved into their own cribs in the same room (out of mine and my husbands) until they they were old enough to have toddler beds. Around four years old the got their own rooms. Congrats again and remember you are blessed to have them no matter what!

Kristi - posted on 10/25/2009

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First off, Congrats!!! I just had my twin girls 5 months ago, also a first pregnancy. I think having twins first is the best, because having the twins after awhile is just normal, compared to having one baby first then twins. You aren't sure what to expect so I found myself expecting the worst when it came to taking care of them and honestly now it is just routine and not bad at all.

Now, I personally have my girls in the same room. Each has their own crib, however they still are sleeping in the same crib. I find they find it more comforting sleeping together being that they were in the womb for 38 weeks together. I do think putting them in the same room will be easiest for you and your partner, along with more comforting for the twins.



Good Luck!!

Jenmy - posted on 10/25/2009

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Congratulations! welcome to a very special and undescribable journey. Same room definely! my twins used to sleep in the same crib until 3 months old when one of them start rolling over, they love to be able to see each other and feel close, they are 4 months and 1 week old now and sleeping in different cribs but same room....remember their were together in so tiny space for 9 months and now put them apart is not fear. Good luck with ur delivery on April.

Anja - posted on 10/25/2009

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Just read some of the comments. We also had one room set up for our twin girls (5 yrs ago) with 2 cribs. During the first 2,5 month we had one crib in our room with both sleeping in them and moved them then into their own room and they slept in 2 cribs. You will be exhausted the first few months - catch as much sleep as possible now and do not let anybody tell you that you "must" breastfeed...if you are exhausted you cannot breastfeed or pump off milk or really take care of them the way you want to. Don't let the "guilt monster" get you when you are not breastfeeding :) Enjoy the time with the little ones before and after the birth

Laura - posted on 10/25/2009

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Congratulations! I have twins boy/girl that turn 5 on Halloween this year. I kept them in a pack n play on side of my bed, with wedges to separate them for 3 months. I did let them sleep together for a while until they started moving around too much. They now sleep in toddler beds in the same room and Nicholas does not like it because Lauren will get into his bed at night. They were my 3rd pregnancy and as babies they were easy to deal with, now that they are so independent I find it harder to handle at times. They are so different, yet I can see the connection. Lauren is more attached to Nicholas and Nicholas doesn't care if she is there or not. They are sometimes starting to have disagreements and other times just hugging and loving each other. You will figure out what works best for you, but having everything in one place makes it easier on yourself. They are a joy, enjoy them while they are little because they grow up so fastg.

Annette - posted on 10/24/2009

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I know that this will sound crazy, but you will adjust and do just fine with twins. I was totally shocked when I found out I was having twins. They are 1 year old today and I would not change it for the world. I think the good thing is that I will never know how it feels to just have 1 baby because all I know is twins. I kept them in the same crib for about 2 weeks, then put them each in their own crib but in the same room. This worked well for us. They never wake each other up in the middle of the night. Good luck to you and the best piece of advice I can give you is to get on a schedule and stick with it. Feed at the same time, nap at the same time if possible. These are things I learned from other Twin Moms and it was the best advice i got. Take care and once again, congrats!!!

Faith - posted on 10/24/2009

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Congradulations, I had my twins (faternal) 4 years ago and my oldest was 6 months old when I found out...I had my twins in the same bed for awhile...one was 7 lbs and the other was 4 lbs...however Tiffany the 4 lbs was stronger than Damon...I recomend keeping them in the same bed...they sleep MUCH better.

Edna - posted on 10/24/2009

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I have 5 1/2 yro twin boys and they share the same room..They sleep in same bed also..They are lost if one is not with the other..In school they are in diff class's and that seems to work great for them..If one is sick tho the other mopes about missing the other..Its always sweet to see the one come home from school and they give each other hugs..I wouldnt separate them personally since they grew togeather..JMO tho..GL with whatever you decide :)

Heather - posted on 10/24/2009

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I have B/G twins. We kept them in the same crib in our room for the first month. AFter that, we moved them to one crib in their own room. At about 2 months old, we put them in their own crib. This was part due to the fact that kept kicking each other at night and waking each other up. That is when we split them,

Kimberly - posted on 10/24/2009

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Mine were in the same room until they turned 3 then they got there own room.I think its up to you if you want them seperated or not.

Lyndsay - posted on 10/24/2009

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My twins are now just over 3yrs they shared the same cot in our room until they were four months old and then we moved them into their own room in seperate cots. They still share a room and love being together, they are non-identical. We purchased cot beds and also a cot divider so they slept side by side until they got too big and then we put one one end and the other twin the other side so they were head to head!! Cot beds are great because they have so much space. My boys would not be without each other they love sharing the same room and I love it too. They never once woke each other one slept even if his brother had everyone in the area awake. The first six months are tough but after that they amuse each other and entertain us so much, best of luck and enjoy xx.

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2009

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I definitely think it's a good idea to have them in the same room when they are newborns if not in the same crib. My twin boys were born at 31 weeks and had many problems, but even at Riley Hospital in Indiana they were kept in the same crib and swaddled together. Their opinion was that it helps them heal and they are more comfortable because they are used to being together in the womb. I had two cribs set up the entire time but for the first few months they slept together and I had no problems at all. Now that they are 5 I am starting to have trouble with them wanting to play and talk instead of sleeping but at the beginning I definitely say put them in the same room not only for yourself but for their comfort as well!

Monica - posted on 10/24/2009

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Congrats on having twins!
My boy/boy twins were born in May of 08' they originally slept in the same crib until they were 3 months and we found out one had sleep apnea. I was afraid to co-sleep them after that with all the wires but they have shared a room the entire time. It's really funny, I think they are deeper sleepers because of it. Generally, they will sleep through anything!

The best advice anyone can give you is to go with your gut. If you think they are better off apart than that is what you should do. No one will know your children and what is best for them more than you will. Remember that when everyone tries to give you advice. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 10/24/2009

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We put are twins in the same room it made my life so much easier to have all their things together.They are 10 now and still share a room because they want to.

Erica - posted on 10/23/2009

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mine are in the same room... seperate beds though. it's easy having them close together when they get up a lot at night. now they sleep about 12 hrs a night. my boys are so used to the other one being in there, they don't wake each other up, but i could just be blessed with heavy sleepers..

Erica - posted on 10/23/2009

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i can't tell you what will be best for you, because it depends on a lot of things. my twins share a room (we live in a 2 br) but they have seperate cribs. i figures it would be easier to separate them when they were going through a lot of change anyway instead of letting them get attatched to sleeping together and splitting them up when they know what's going on and can object to it. good luck with whatever you decide!

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