What do you think? Should newborn twins be in the same room or separate?

Sharon - posted on 10/19/2009 ( 148 moms have responded )

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Hi,
I very recently found out I will be having twins in April 2010. It's very exciting and of course we're very happy, but we're a little nervous about how we're going to handle two babies at once, especially since it's my first pregnancy. So for all the experienced Mums out there, what do you think: should we set up two cribs in one room or should we keep them in separate rooms?

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Monica - posted on 10/24/2009

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Congrats on having twins!
My boy/boy twins were born in May of 08' they originally slept in the same crib until they were 3 months and we found out one had sleep apnea. I was afraid to co-sleep them after that with all the wires but they have shared a room the entire time. It's really funny, I think they are deeper sleepers because of it. Generally, they will sleep through anything!

The best advice anyone can give you is to go with your gut. If you think they are better off apart than that is what you should do. No one will know your children and what is best for them more than you will. Remember that when everyone tries to give you advice. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 10/24/2009

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We put are twins in the same room it made my life so much easier to have all their things together.They are 10 now and still share a room because they want to.

Erica - posted on 10/23/2009

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mine are in the same room... seperate beds though. it's easy having them close together when they get up a lot at night. now they sleep about 12 hrs a night. my boys are so used to the other one being in there, they don't wake each other up, but i could just be blessed with heavy sleepers..

Erica - posted on 10/23/2009

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i can't tell you what will be best for you, because it depends on a lot of things. my twins share a room (we live in a 2 br) but they have seperate cribs. i figures it would be easier to separate them when they were going through a lot of change anyway instead of letting them get attatched to sleeping together and splitting them up when they know what's going on and can object to it. good luck with whatever you decide!

Kat - posted on 10/23/2009

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Hi i had twin girls now five - we put them in the same cot side by side across the cot - then as they grew they went at each end of the cot until once again they grew and would start to bump heads - we then transferred them to their own cot in the same room side by side - they are still in the same room in bunk beds and now share it with their 3 year old sister - i also agree with Joanne - a really good rocking chair is a must - i think i lived in mine for the first 12 months - feeding , comforting and sometimes even sleeping with a baby or two on my chest! Godd luck it is hard work but soooo rewarding

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My twin girls are my first also! You will be able to handle it, I'm doing it alone! Mine are almost 3 months now...I also debated on putting them in seperate rooms and cribs. I decided to put them together in the same crib since they were already used to being close. They sleep very good and are so happy when they are together! I tried seperating them for a night and they cried! I will probably put mine in seperate cribs when they are about 4 months or so...

Laura - posted on 10/23/2009

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I had preemie twin girls and when they came home we started them off in the same room. One of the girls sreamed all the time and woke up the other one so after a few weeks of crabby babies we had to separate them. I have hope that once they are sleeping longer at one time we can put them back together. I think you will just have to see how they are when they come home.

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Congrats on your news. I have 4 year old twin boys who were born at 29 weeks. They were separated at birth due to illness and weren't put back together for 4 weeks. When they were finally put back together they did better than separate. Even the hospital put them in the same crib and noticed the difference on how they would perform. When I took them home I had them in the same cot until they were neally 12 mths old (obviously smaller being premiee). My advise is they were made together, developed together so don't split them up once they arrive. You will find they don't wake each other, even now at 4 my two still don't wake each other. Funny enough I would wake them together at night for feeds othewise you will never get any sleep! Good luck and enjoy, my boys were my first as well and as over whelming as it is now you will do great and enjoy every minute as they grow up so fast. I woudn't have had it any other way, twins are a blessing.

Angela - posted on 10/23/2009

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I kept my twins in the same basinette for the first few months, and now they are in the same room, and despite being M/F, they love it. mind you they are about 3yo.....

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I put my twin boys (7 years old now) in the same crib for the first 3 months. Then I put them in seperate cribs but in the same room. Congratulations and good luck. It is alot of work but it gets alot easier with time.

Whitney - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have twin girls that are 13 months now and they are my first too! They are so much fun so dont be too nervous. From the day they came home they were put in their own room that they shared and in their very own cribs. They never bothered eachother and if one was crying while the other one was sleeping she never woke up. I think they get used to eachother being in there. To me it was less steps I had to worry about if they slep together at some point they have to be seperated and I didnt want to have to worry about a transition for them becuase they weren't used to it.. not to say that it would necisarially be hard on them but if I could avoid it I wanted to. That is also why they never slept in my room with me. I didnt want to worry about them getting used to it and going to their crib in a different room. So that is my input. I just tried to think of everything to do to make my life easier and theirs when their is two of them. Hope that helped.

DENISE - posted on 10/23/2009

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put them in same room seperate cribs...they dont seem to bother each other or wake each other up . i have 5 year old identical twin boys.. Owen and Brett.. It waS hard when they were little, but a joy now

Kristina - posted on 10/23/2009

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Same room! My girls even shared the same crib at first. (Until they starting rolling around and stuff)

Kelly - posted on 10/23/2009

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Congrats. I also have twins. Boys...they were born on Valentine's Day 2006. I am not trying to scare you, but be careful about putting them in the same crib or same pack-n-play. I know (very well) a girl that lives in my area that had twins and she always kept the in the same crib and one of them smothered the other. Also the doctors are funny about it because of SIDS, which is what the twin died of. Not to scare you just be careful if you do that. My boys don't want to be apart. It was my first and only pregnancy and my husband and I are only children so we completely freaked out at first, but you get used to it. You find ways to make it work. But please cherish every minute of your time with them because they grow up so fast. I wish I could go back to those infant days again and cherish them more instead of being so afraid that I was doing something wrong.

Joni - posted on 10/23/2009

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I put my twins (now 10yrs old) in the same crib when they were baby. It helps them keep their connection that they have. Because they were together when they were born and they still sleep in the same bed now.

Keva - posted on 10/23/2009

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Congratulations, it is such a blessing to have twins. I have 10 year old twin daughters, and we kept them in the same room but in seperate beds. You would be surprised how much this will help their individualitity. And I will tell you now, when they get to be about 8-10 month's, if they want to even be in the same bed or not they will let you know. We actually caught our girls pushing their cribs togther at least once a week. It was so cute. Trust me they will let you know! Good Luck

Kathi - posted on 10/23/2009

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I put mine in the same room and in the same bed for the first 3 months because they slept better being together.

Farrah - posted on 10/23/2009

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I had twin girls on 4-08.. The slept together in the same pack n play in our room for about the first 3 months of there lives.. Now they are in the same room but seperate beds. There beds are right next to each other.. It all depends on how you and your husband want to do it.. My thinking was they were in my stomach together for 9 months, so I wanted to keep them together.. But it always dosent work for everyone..

Hope that helps..

Tricia - posted on 10/23/2009

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My twins are now 9. I had them in the same crib for about 3 months. They slept better together then they did apart. The were less fussy when I laid them down together.

Jessica - posted on 10/23/2009

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Congratulations! I have twins (boy & girl) and I put them in separate rooms. Mostly because of the sex. There is no right or wrong it is up to you and what you want.
My brother just had identical twin boys also and I may be getting temporary custody of them and if so, they will be put together. Good luck and God bless you all.

Becky - posted on 10/23/2009

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First I'd like to say congratulations!!! As a mother of twins, i'd just like to say that I found it easiest for me to have my twins be in the same room. I think that being a twin.. they share a special closeness and can self sooth and sleep better being in the company of their twin. Being a first time parent is hard.... but being a first time parent to a set of twins...WOW... Good luck with your little bundles of joy!!!

Miranda - posted on 10/23/2009

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My twins are 17 months old and sleep in seperate cribs in the same room. If one goes to bed before the other she will cry for her sister until I put the other in bed too. They like to be able to see and talk to eachother.

Cindy - posted on 10/23/2009

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The same room.. I kept my twins in the same room until they just outgrew each other and it has made them so close. When they were born they were premies and not doing very good when I finelly got to see them they had one on one end of the room and the other on the other end so I made them bring their beds together and within the hr they started improving. They have been together all that time inside you so yes keep them together!

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Same room and same crib!! The bond that they have is so amazing, and, it needs to continue to be forged the first several months of their lives! I have twin girls, now 13, who are extremely close. They have their own identities and personalities, but, the bond is strong and I believe it is because we encouraged it to be strengthened while they were young. They were in the same crib until they were a year (born very premature at 27 wks). Just remember to keep their nails trimmed and mittens on, so that they don't accidentally scratch one another. Watch...you will see them move to be closer to one another and snuggle together. It is such a beautiful bond...even to watch as my girls are teens, now. Good luck and God bless you!

Sheila - posted on 10/23/2009

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My 10 month old twin boys. Sleep in the same crib and always have. They tend to be restless if they are by themselves.

Andrea - posted on 10/22/2009

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My twiins are 16 an dstill in the sam eroom. They are as different as night and day and yet they will protect each other to the death. They should be together till you see fit to seperate them. Remember they are going to be together for 9 months and they are going to need that extra security for a little while. Mine where 4lbs. 11 oz at an 18 and 1 inches long. they slept in the same crib for 6 months. When they became very active we seperated them. I believe that is why they are the way they are today.

Chiky - posted on 10/22/2009

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i have a rare type of identical twin girls. where they shared a placents as well as a sac they are now almost 18 months now. they were our first as well and im fairly young and didnt know much about babies at all. they will tell you whats right for them.



while in the nicu, once they were out of incubators they were put in a crib together. they did so much better. their health improve alot because twins have special bonds. when they came home from the hospital we kept them in the same crib. we tried to seperate them into different cribs but they wouldnt sleep. now they are in seperate toddler beds in the same room and wake up frequently during the night trying to go in the other ones bed.



you will know as a mom what is best for you babies, trust your instinct and evrything will fall into place :)

good luck with your babies and congrats

Robin - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have twin daughters that will be 7 years old in a couple of days. When they first came home they slept more soundly when they were in the same crib - they would comfort each other during the night. They continue to sleep together at this age! They find more comfort knowing the other one is around and I have no issues with them sleeping together - unless they disturb one another.



I breast fed the first 3 months after they were born - so it was easier (since they were so small) to put them in the bassinet in my bedroom. When they moved to their room, it was still easier for them to sleep in the same crib. They seem to be more settled when they are co-sleeping. I hope this helps! Good luck to you with your babies!

Katherine - posted on 10/22/2009

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Here's my experience:

We had the boys in bassinettes for less than a month because they slept so lousily in them. We moved them into a crib where they slept much better until they were about six months old, after which we moved them into their own separate cribs. They're good with having their own beds as long as they are together.

When it comes down to it, WHATEVER WORKS!

Treasa - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have twins and my doctor recommended that they stay as close to each other as possible for awhile...including laying them in the same crib. Twins have a special bond with each other and you should try to keep them as close as possible...they will eventually need their space as they get older but you shouldn't seperate them until they are ready for their own space.

Jamey - posted on 10/22/2009

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My first pregnancy was also twins, I had two cribs in one room, but they slept in the same crib until they were both too big for one, I myself would not seperate them, they have a special bond and will always want to be together! My twins are now 8 and have their own rooms, but still sneak into one anothers rooms to sleep together when my husband and I go to bed!! LOL. Congratulations by the way on having twins, it will be eaiser than you think, my suggestions are to always have them on the same schedule, don't let one sleep while the other is eating or awake! It will make your life a heck of alot eaiser!! Sleep while the twins are napping, my mom always told me I should use that time to clean or do other things around the house, but 2 babies at once keeps you hopping! If you plan on breastfeeding make sure to have a boppy pillow, because you will constantly have babies on your boobies :), I would breast feed one and bottle feed the other then switch at the next feeding so they both got the breast milk, but I only did it for 8 weeks because it is very hard always having one or both attached every two hours!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Cheryl - posted on 10/22/2009

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I am expecting twins as well next April - and I already have 3 children! So I am looking forward to learning a lot from others' experiences.

Nina - posted on 10/22/2009

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Hi,my twins are almost 8 months old. They shared a crib until they started rolling on top of eachother and kicking eachother. Now they are in seperate cribs but they are in the same room. They are used to each other so if one cries the other stays asleep because itis normal. i recommend that you keep them inthe same room together that would make it so much easier to put them on the same schedule which will make it so much easier for you. My twins keep eachother occupied and now they are talking to eachother in thier own language and they answer eachother it is so amazing, so keep them together and good luck. Hope you have a great pregnancy and enjoy your babies.

Cleo - posted on 10/22/2009

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i have twin boys that are now 7. i breastfed for 6 mths. i quit cause i kept getting breast infections. however i let them stay in hte same bed until they could no longer fit. once they were in toddler beds they were in the same room. we moved to a bigger place and i gave them their own rooms thinking they would want their own space. nope! they would beg to sleep in eachother's rooms! so now i have loft beds for them cause ya know twins would fight over who got the top bunk on a bunk bed.

twins have a special closeness and you should keep that bond going. that would be like you and your spouse being together for so long and then put in seperate rooms forever. having twins first was quite the experience. i raised them alone for a few years too. good luck.

Mandy - posted on 10/22/2009

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well for about the first 2 months mine had their own bed but then we decided to put them in the same bed .. personaly i feel like they where in ther e together for 9 months and they might develope seperation issues if they get put in diffrent rooms ..

Adriane - posted on 10/22/2009

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Right now my twins are almost 2 months and they can't be apart when they sleep. SO in my opinion they should be together until they say they wanna be apart! I to had twin my first pregnancy but you will be fine and things will work themselves out. Right now my twins sleep in my bed together with my finance and I. I setup the one crib in my room and I have another crib as well. I was told that eventually if they ever get out of my bed they will reach a size where they will have to be put in different cribs. SO it's hard to say really it's gonna be based on them I think. Hope this helps!

Nicole - posted on 10/22/2009

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Hi,

Congratulations. I gave birth to twin girls in April of this year. It was my first pregnancy also. I had the same feelings as you, but honestly you just do what you have to do. I have not had any problems with caring for my girls on my own. Believe it or not I have found it easy. We have our girls in the same room. They shared the same cot for the first 6 weeks after we brought them home and then we moved them to seperate cots. I find it easier having them both in the same room because when they are both screaming you don't have to run around the house trying to calm them down you can just lean across to each one. Believe me I don't think there are any EXPERIENCED mums out there, we all learn as we go along.

Krista - posted on 10/22/2009

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My boy/girl twins are 3 1/2 years and i didnt seperate them from the same crib until they were 10months old and they still slept great together and then up until about a couple weeks ago they were still sharing the same room. i think there is nothing wrong with them sharing living/sleeping space they always seem to need eachother. Good Luck and Congratulations!

Angie - posted on 10/22/2009

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I am a mom of 7 year old twins and I actually allowed my twins *boy/girl* to sleep in the same crib together. I found this very soothing for them. they would talk to each other when they woke up and soothe each other in the middle of the night. Later we moved them to toddler beds and even then they would crawl into bed together. They seperated themselves around 2 years old.

Shannon - posted on 10/22/2009

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My twins are 2 1/2 now and still sleep in the same room. I think if anything they've slept better being with each other..they are more soothed knowing the other one is in the same room with them. And like Caroline said--it is truely amazeing how much noise 1 of the kids/babies can make and the other one sleep right through it all!!

Emma - posted on 10/22/2009

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am expecting twins in dec and have bought 2 moses baskets for the early days with rockers underneath anything to make sure they will settle!lol! i am goin to put them in seperate cots when they gt a bit bigger! i am keeping them in my room in the early days!

Daisha - posted on 10/22/2009

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Hi, I have 3 month old twins and I have a nursery set up with one crib. It is cheaper and believe me you need to save the money for other things. My twins sleep in a pack and play at the foot of my bed right now and when I take one out to feed them the other is awake in a bout 20 minutes. I tried to let them sleep separate but they were together for 9 months in your belly and they are used to being close to one another. Mine sleep better together than apart. Other suggestions I have for you; start buying diapers and formula (if bottle feeding) now I promise you will need then and it will save you money when they get here. Just one box every time you go to the store will be a life saver when they arrive!!!!!!

Shantae - posted on 10/22/2009

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Hey, Congrats!!!!! I have twins boys that will be 3 in december and they still sleep together! they don't have a problem at all and it seems to work. when they were little and I breast fed them I rather to have them on the same schedule instead of waking up at different times. It seemed easier to me to have them both up and fed then both back to sleep and i could sleep. and i was lucky enough to have full term twins. 5lbs 9oz and 6lbs. hope this helps and good luck.

Erica - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have a set of twins and they are 10months now and one is a girl and the other a boy. They are in the same room , it makes it easy to have all the supplies right their. I guess as they get older im going to have to split them up but as for now its great having themin one room. So i would tell you to do it. Having two is hard but to have two big smiles every morning lookin at you makes your day. good luck

Lisa - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have 10 month old baby girls. They are in the same room. They even slept in the same crib until the age of about 2 or 3 months. I have heard that they are more relaxed having each other around. I do have friend who keeps their twin girls (age 4) in the same room however put them to bed at different times, by 30 mins or so, (can be frustrating) since they keep each other awake by talking. Best answer...try they way you prefer first and see how the twins react. If poorly try switching to see if you get better results. Good Luck!

Angela - posted on 10/22/2009

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Congrats! You are about to have a lot of fun! My twins will be 12 in January. They slept in the same crib for a few months. We didn't find out they were twins until a month before they were born. We finally found a second crib and separated them but they have always shared the same room. Even now you will find them 9/10 nights in the same bed. Now we do have the occasional argument over he made the mess or that is my stuff, but I wouldn't dream of separating them.

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My twins girls are now 13! When we brought them home we had seperate cribs which lasted maybe 3 days. They have a connection and do so much better when put together. My girls now have seperate rooms but they still like to be together. On weekends and some week nights they will sleep in the same room. It is amazing how much they want to be together and the connection they have. I feel the closeness as birth gives them that bond no one can break. (not even boys:0) ) My girls have a couple of different friends but at the end of the day they still come together and share their day. One of my twins is a diabetic and I will tell you the other one is so tuned in that she pretty much saved her life one night. Twins are an amazing and their bond is heart warming.,

Denise - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have twins who will be 5 in a few days. This was my third pregnancy and was quite a shock. I had separate moses baskets for them but they often only settled when they were in the same one. When they were bigger they had separate cots but in the same room, again they sometimes needed to be in together. My twins are a boy and girl and they still share the same room as they are lost without each other. They have very rarely spent time away from one another but they still like their independence as long as they know where the other one is. Congratulations and good luck, it is hard work but it is all worth it.

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