What have people said when they saw that you have twins or you were carrying twins?

LaNette - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Carol:

I'm sure you all can relate to this one, especially Renata!
How about when you have to go to the store or out in public, your time is of great essence!
I would just want to get done what I needed and get home to do what I needed and I would silently chant...Please, don't let any one stop me. Please don't let anyone stop me! Just about make it when someone(s) would stop me. *sigh* I know all babies are irresistible to look at...But I'm so tired and still have so much to do!!!!!!!! I would let out a deep sigh, force a happy face, muster up some patience that I was trying to reserve for my family, then turn around with a look of...Ah Huh on my face as I tried to answer respectively some of these silly questions! I am sure I did not have much of a poker face! God certainly taught me self control and patience in those early stages!!

I also have people stop me all the time when I'm out.  It get's so annoying.  It's like they've never seen twins before. 

LaNette - posted on 12/19/2009

I have 8 month old twin boys. I have people ask is it two girls, one of each. Come on their dressed in boy colors. Before I found out I was having twins. My dad was joking around with me and said, I bet your going to have twins. And I did!!

Laura - posted on 12/19/2009

double trouble and better you and not me. are they twins??? are they fraternal or identitical duh i have a boy and girl.

Liz - posted on 12/19/2009

I am the VERY proud parent of two sets of twins (only 13 months apart) and an 11 yr old daughter. When people hear that i have 2 sets of twins, many of them say "Oh, I'm sorry!" Just recently a lady said that to me and I just looked at her and said "Oh, you don't have to be sorry. I have wonderful kids and my life would be boring without them". She immediately said "Oh well, I didn't mean it like that!" -- Seriously I think people just don't think before they speak!!

I have also had STRANGERS ask if I was on feritlity pills! Ummmm, hello? First of all NO!, secondly NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

Grace - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Carol:

Oh my Gosh! You brought back some funny memories for me! Hopefully this is te last one I add!
I was @ a tire store when I was about 4 months pregnant with my twins, getting a tire for my garden tractor. When the manager (who I did not know) announced over the speaker Would the woman trying to steal a bowling ball step up to the counter! When I realized he was talking about me (duh!) and approached the counter, he then says laughing...My God, lady! When are you due?! As I replied...In 5 months. It's twins!!! I was not amused! You should have seen the look on his face! Needless to say..He lost a sale & I just realized I haven't been back!! lol

That is absolutely crass, but you handled the situation very well.  people are unbelievable sometimes.  when i was pregnant and huge, and i looked like i was 12 when i was actually 21 there were different responses from waitresses or check out people..like, you don't look old enough to be married much less pregnant. one time a waitress asked my husband how he felt with his daughter (me) being an unwed mother-ok, we were husband and wife and how would they know how old i was or if he really was my "father" maybe we were enjoying visiting when my husband was working? 

another time when i was pregnant and went to the grocery store with my older sister and the clerk at the check out said that i didn't look old enough to be the one that was pregnant.

and then another time with the same sister although we were on vacation visiting her with the boys when they were little.  i was buying diapers and baby suplies since we were traveling and the clerk kept looking to my sister to buy everything assumed that the boys were hers because she was older.  we were each pushing a cart and she had one boy and i had the other. 

so i can relate but the situation you were in was absolutely low and mean

Grace - posted on 12/19/2009

we received some really rude/mean comments such as, "your troubles are just beginning," or worse. our twins are grown now but when ever i see a parent of multiples out and about i always comment to them how lovely they are and what a blessing our twins were to us and that i know their experience will be the same. usually the conversation grows from there and we can have a larger conversation.

when our boys were infants we heard the comment, "oh, are they twins?!" so many times that my mother had shirts made that said, "Yes! We ARE!" she wanted to put the birth details as well, weight and inches tall, but there just was not that much room on these little shirts! But, oh! I can well imagine the rude and uncompassionate comments parents of multiples receive. it really makes m angry. but too i remember thinking that the generation of people making these comments did not have the same kind of birth control that we had and maybe they didn't intentionally plan their pregnancies. i am the product of that generation that were not as in control of their reproduction as couples are today. also, i think that some people just don't think before they say the things they do.

Carol - posted on 12/19/2009

I'm sure you all can relate to this one, especially Renata!
How about when you have to go to the store or out in public, your time is of great essence!
I would just want to get done what I needed and get home to do what I needed and I would silently chant...Please, don't let any one stop me. Please don't let anyone stop me! Just about make it when someone(s) would stop me. *sigh* I know all babies are irresistible to look at...But I'm so tired and still have so much to do!!!!!!!! I would let out a deep sigh, force a happy face, muster up some patience that I was trying to reserve for my family, then turn around with a look of...Ah Huh on my face as I tried to answer respectively some of these silly questions! I am sure I did not have much of a poker face! God certainly taught me self control and patience in those early stages!!

Renata - posted on 12/18/2009

Quoting April :

so I went to the Post Office today with my twins and no stroller. Those things are the DEVIL!! Anywho, it was packed and we were about to the font and this little old lady from the back yells, "How do you do it with twins?' I sat there and in one split second all these comments flashed through my head! lol I looked back at and yelled, 'You just do it!" Everyone started laughing... did I miss something? lol

Oh, I hate "how do you do it with triplets". I always say, "I don't know, how do you do it with one? I don't know any other way. This is normal for me" The response is usually "I guess so".

Rachel - posted on 12/18/2009

I took my 5 1/2 month old identical twin boys Christmas shopping and some lady asked if they were they same age!!! Really do they look like they could possibly be 9 months apart.

Jenniffer - posted on 12/18/2009

I ALWAYS have people ask if my identical twin boys, dressed the exact same, are twins when I'm out and about. This one time I was out grocery shopping and a woman came up and asked me that lovely question to which I answered "yes." She then told me she adopted a set of twins when they were babies and by the time they were 7 she had to commit herself to an institution because she had gone mad from raising them....she said the last bit while laughing. Not wanting to display too much shock on my face and not let the woman feel too uncomfortable after telling me such personal information, I look down at my twins who were about 6 months at the time and I looked back at her and replied..."Well, I guess I have a few more good years left." *lightly laughing...* I hear all kinds of crazy comments, but that one definately sticks out. :)

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2009

Oh I have stories about this...My fraternal twin girls were about 6 moths old , we were in our local Wal-mart check outs and the cashier was talking to me about my babies when I told her they were twins she rudely replied :Are you sure?" I was quite upset with her and answered back, no actually you're right the hospital was having a buy 1 get 1 free day. Needless to say the cashier no avoids me and my children when we are shopping.

April - posted on 12/18/2009

so I went to the Post Office today with my twins and no stroller. Those things are the DEVIL!! Anywho, it was packed and we were about to the font and this little old lady from the back yells, "How do you do it with twins?' I sat there and in one split second all these comments flashed through my head! lol I looked back at and yelled, 'You just do it!" Everyone started laughing... did I miss something? lol

Margo - posted on 12/18/2009

Oh I forgot another thing I say when people tell me that it must be tough raising twins.
My response is usually that I think it's probably easier, they are the same age, do pretty much the same thing at the same time. Compared to non-twins, where most have a toddler when they have their second child. Yes...Twins (and other multiples) are a wonderful blessing! On top of that, a child, no matter what their birth status, is a blessing.

Renata - posted on 12/17/2009

Quoting Carol:

Quoting Renata:

Quoting Carol:

Quoting April :

Ok so yesterday I was out finishing my Christmas shopping, and yes I had the boys with me, and they were getting hungry so I thought a stop at McDonald's would be a nice treat sense we don't eat out. When I was leaving I had a kid in each arm, a diaper bag over my shoulder, car keys with a happy meal in one hand and a happy meal in the other. I had to bump the door with my BUT and I had around 10-15 guys in there just watching me manhandle this door. HELLOOOOOO you could help and not stare! Sorry I had to rant! lol

Ahh! That was funny! I used to feel sorry for the couples who had triplets, quads,quints and ect....till I realized atleast they were getting help! LOL

You know I have triplets and yes, I'm lucky to have help, but that still leaves 2 people taking care of 3 active babies. It's exhausting as hell. I'm not even going to get to the cost of raising triplets. And there is no help there. In any case, you don't need to feel sorry for us, just like nobody should feel sorry for you. My babies are are blessing and we're very happy.
Talk about inappropriate comments.

Oh NO Renata!!!!! I meant No disrespect to you or any other mother or father experiencing the demands of parenting a single or multiple birth!!!!!  Biological, adopted, or blended!!! Don't get your diapers in a wad. I trully appreciate, respect, sympathize, and am in true amazement with the gift that was given to you along with the ones that were entrusted to me! I don't get too serious about peoples comments and now that I can reflect, I can now laugh even more to what I thought was serious in the midst of "my" storm! Frustration, energy level, finances, and YES the blessings I am all too familiar with and I am sure to not of yours or others degree. So in all due respect...I commend, understand and appreciate your offensiveness. My response was merely a thought in my storm during MY "poor whoe is me episodes"! You also missed my other comment as to your judgemental response...People say the darndest things!

God Bless you and yours as you continue to receive blessings and grace.

No problem, I probably read too much into it. I better get some rest now :)

Renata - posted on 12/17/2009

Quoting Carol:

Quoting Renata:

Quoting Carol:

Quoting April :

Ok so yesterday I was out finishing my Christmas shopping, and yes I had the boys with me, and they were getting hungry so I thought a stop at McDonald's would be a nice treat sense we don't eat out. When I was leaving I had a kid in each arm, a diaper bag over my shoulder, car keys with a happy meal in one hand and a happy meal in the other. I had to bump the door with my BUT and I had around 10-15 guys in there just watching me manhandle this door. HELLOOOOOO you could help and not stare! Sorry I had to rant! lol

Ahh! That was funny! I used to feel sorry for the couples who had triplets, quads,quints and ect....till I realized atleast they were getting help! LOL

You know I have triplets and yes, I'm lucky to have help, but that still leaves 2 people taking care of 3 active babies. It's exhausting as hell. I'm not even going to get to the cost of raising triplets. And there is no help there. In any case, you don't need to feel sorry for us, just like nobody should feel sorry for you. My babies are are blessing and we're very happy.
Talk about inappropriate comments.

Oh NO Renata!!!!! I meant No disrespect to you or any other mother or father experiencing the demands of parenting a single or multiple birth!!!!!  Biological, adopted, or blended!!! Don't get your diapers in a wad. I trully appreciate, respect, sympathize, and am in true amazement with the gift that was given to you along with the ones that were entrusted to me! I don't get too serious about peoples comments and now that I can reflect, I can now laugh even more to what I thought was serious in the midst of "my" storm! Frustration, energy level, finances, and YES the blessings I am all too familiar with and I am sure to not of yours or others degree. So in all due respect...I commend, understand and appreciate your offensiveness. My response was merely a thought in my storm during MY "poor whoe is me episodes"! You also missed my other comment as to your judgemental response...People say the darndest things!

God Bless you and yours as you continue to receive blessings and grace.

No problem, I probably read too much into it. I better get some rest now :)

Regina - posted on 12/17/2009

everyone was like wow twins its going to be so hard for you . my twins are the best twins ever. they don't really cry , and all they do is love . Everyone wanted to know if they were goiong to be dress the same . foe about a week they were, but yhey r so different . one looks like me {white with green eyes and dirty blond hair} ond looks like her father { black with brown eyes and black hair}

April - posted on 12/17/2009

Quoting Kathryn:

My favourite are the WalMart greeters. Every time I went into WalMart while I was pregnant the lady at the door, and never the SAME lady, would always be like, "Oh my, dear, you look like you're about ready to burst." I got that line from about 4 months.lol Lady, there's 2 in there... I'll survive.lol Next question was always, "Do you mind if I ask if you plan a vaginal delivery?" Really? Are you kidding me? Have we met? How ridiculous a question can you ask a complete stranger!!!
Nothing beats my outing to the mall when they were 4 days old. I had an emergency c-section, but knew my husband was leaving to work clear across the country and so I needed to get back on my feet ASAP. I went to the mall, or wherever, just to walk around with the support of the stroller holding me up.haha A lady pulling out of her parking space actually back up after pulling away, just to roll down her window and say, "My God dear, are you crazy? Those babies can't be very old for you to be expecting another one already! What were you thinking?" Yeah. She went there. I looked at her and said, "Actually, they're 4 days old. Thanks for the confidence boost. Think before you speak."

Oh that happened to me too!  The boys and I were only in the hospital for three days, remind you my boys were 6 wks early they are troopers, and when we got home it was around 6:30pm and I had my husband watch the boys while my mother-in-law drove me to get my prescriptions.  When I went to check out the cashier looked at me and said you look like you are ready to pop!  I looked at her and said I just gave birth three days ago to twins.  I totally agree about think b4 you speak! 

Kathryn - posted on 12/17/2009

My favourite are the WalMart greeters. Every time I went into WalMart while I was pregnant the lady at the door, and never the SAME lady, would always be like, "Oh my, dear, you look like you're about ready to burst." I got that line from about 4 months.lol Lady, there's 2 in there... I'll survive.lol Next question was always, "Do you mind if I ask if you plan a vaginal delivery?" Really? Are you kidding me? Have we met? How ridiculous a question can you ask a complete stranger!!!
Nothing beats my outing to the mall when they were 4 days old. I had an emergency c-section, but knew my husband was leaving to work clear across the country and so I needed to get back on my feet ASAP. I went to the mall, or wherever, just to walk around with the support of the stroller holding me up.haha A lady pulling out of her parking space actually back up after pulling away, just to roll down her window and say, "My God dear, are you crazy? Those babies can't be very old for you to be expecting another one already! What were you thinking?" Yeah. She went there. I looked at her and said, "Actually, they're 4 days old. Thanks for the confidence boost. Think before you speak."

Kelly - posted on 12/17/2009

Are they twins is one. I would get really upset when I was pregnant and would get the "your going to have your hands full, BETTER YOU THEN ME!" Like I wasn't scared enough I need your comment. And the one other big one is did you have them naturally? Even though yes they were conceived naturally that is a very insensitive and personal question to ask. I find it funny I was to have twins because I hate talking to people and I get people coming up and talking to me. I have figured out if I look like a complete B**** no one bothers me hahah

Michelle - posted on 12/16/2009

My husband and I own a shoe repair business. We recently updated our photos of the twins, as his customers are always asking to look at their photos and ask questions about how they are going. Yesterday one customer hadn't seen my hubby for some time, and asked if he had updated the twins photos yet. He picked up the photo frame that he already has out for the rest of the world to see, and proudly announced "here are my gorgeous girls". Then the silly customer asked if they were both his!! Seriously, didn't you hear what he said? Also my oldest daughter is 8 years older than her twin sisters. She does sometimes feel left out when we go shopping as all people do is recognise the twins. I make a point of saying I also have an 11 year old daughter too. Though she is tall as an adult, so I don't know mabye people just assume that she is a lot older than what she is. As much as I know people are fascinated by twins, I used to hate it when they were really little babies and it used to take me forever to go and do a handful of things at the shops. I know people are curious and can't help but stop you for a quick chat and congrats, or share a silly comment or two. But when you have 5 or 6 people doing the same thing, it makes for a looong morning! Now I am blase about people staring, the finger pointing, and the comments that you hear "hey look over there at those twins". It doesn't help with the fact that my girls are little show offs and like to dance around, sing and chat and wave to people as they go past.

Sarah - posted on 12/16/2009

I always get (and am sick and tired of hearing) "Are they twins?" "Are they identical?" Boy you've got your hands full" "Oh you've got Double the trouble" and my favorite "Is it different from having two at one timethen one right after another?" Really??? My twins are 7 years younger then my oldest, but I'm going to go ahead and say Uh yeah it's definately different from having one at a time. Honestly I hate when people say anything about it, Makes me feel like a freak show.

Allison - posted on 12/16/2009

I had a good one when my twins were about seven weeks old. My daughter was 5 and was taking swimming lessons. I would take the boys and sit in the park with them in their car seats and watch my daughter swim. One day a lady walked up and said " you look so tired". Well let me tell you why!!! Are you kidding me. Come stay a night at my house and you will see why I look so tired. LOL!!!! Gotta laugh though.

Allison - posted on 12/16/2009

Your are so right though. I got the same comment a zillion times. I actually replied to this question like this one time. I said "no I had one and then a week later I had the other one so no they are not twins..... I got the "deer in the head light look" SOOOOO funny!!!

User - posted on 12/16/2009

I didn't read all the posts but the one I've been asked is "are they IVF babies?" and no one can believe that they aren't. And yes, I keep getting asked if they're identical....I've got B/G twins...and the old does it run in your family...I just tell them that I'm the first to actually give birth to live twins...shuts them up pretty quickly.

Faizah - posted on 12/16/2009

Its a tough responsibilities having twins....

Allison - posted on 12/16/2009

When I announced that I was pregnant with twins, we were far enough along to be in the safe zone (we told everyone in mid Septermber) plus, I had a son that was to be a year old that November... I was told that I was lucky because I had a child first. What other mothers of twins told me is that they didn't know how to handle two at a time, they planned for one and since I had one already, I would be able to know what to do with two... well... they were born early and now my twins are 1 year old and my older son is 2 years old... It was easier when they weren't moving.. We take them out to public and it's funny how some people come up to you and other's will say comments. we've gotten the "OH MY, TRIPLETS".... most women will come up to you, but most recently, we had a man come up to us and introduce us to his son who is a twin and said how much of a joy it was for him to have twins and that it does get better as they get older...

Jessica - posted on 12/16/2009

Mainly people say "Oh my god i can't believe you had twins you are so tiny" or "Wow look at the size difference!" and sometimes people ask stupid questions like "Are they twins?" DUH! or "Are they identical?" I usually answer that question with a responds along the lines of Well they are boy and girl so you figure it out.

Roberta - posted on 12/16/2009

Hi April..Love the name! wanted it for my kids..but my husband rejected it...Men have no taste..hehe
I have two very unidentical twin 2yr old boys. One brown hair / eyes and the other has blonde hair, green eyes, and a 4yr old daughter aswell so I always get ' Gee youve got your hands full!' especially in the supermarket when ur in a hurry ppl want to stop and talk to you.Means shopping can take twice as long to get done.
When I was pregnant I was huge and I'd get 'Are you sure it's not triplets?'
It is starting to happen less n less as they get older but still is annoying when your in a hurry!

Nahla - posted on 12/16/2009

i had 2 girls identical twins the same question always "are they a boy and a girl " i said no they are both girls , the same person another question "are they twins?" oh god its boring and the most stupid thing that i was with my girls in the mall and a well dressed lady was starring and called" mum come and see mum look mum come come " and of course her mother was already beside her and in same day another lade with her small boy and she stops in front of the children cart and starts to jump and laugh with her boy in front of me so of course i pushed the babies car and left without even smiling .

Shannon - posted on 12/16/2009

That is a fantastic spin on a conversation (both had babies on the same day) Im going to you that one!! LOL!
My husband and I get ridiculous comments all the time!!
Pushing a double long stroller and we get:
oh you have 2 in there? no we love the convienience of the long stroller and the cost...wow!! or "no" we actually cary our dog in the other car seat.or are they twins...seriously??? why do people ask such retorical questions??
I have also heard:
"wow you have your hands full" how/why do they know/assume that??
or do twins run in your family...no, why should they? Not all twins are because of genetics, and after 7 years of trying...pretty sure its NOT genetics, and "r they identical" no, no they judt look EXACTLY the same!!! people really need to pick their words wisely, not because we are ALL sick of hearing dumb statements but they look dumb for saying/asking them. All of us with twins....it will continue, lol!!

Stacia - posted on 12/16/2009

I get a lot of the same comments as others "boy are your hands full (the twins have an older brother but still)", "are they twins", "are you going to try for a girl" - none of their business not to mention that I lost a lil girl in pregnancy so I just say no she's an angel, so this question does irriatate me when I'm having a sad day. Many people act like they are one baby, no they are two babies. Good luck on your assignment.

Becky - posted on 12/16/2009

I get the same comments... "boy you have your hands full!" and "are they twins?" and "wow, a boy and a girl- you're DONE, right?" who's business is it anyway? I get REALLY irritated with that last one. I DO want another child. sometimes I'll say "oh, I don't know... I'm thinking of having maybe 5 more..." or "I'll take whatever God gives me!"

Carol - posted on 12/16/2009

Quoting Renata:

Quoting Carol:

Quoting April :

Ok so yesterday I was out finishing my Christmas shopping, and yes I had the boys with me, and they were getting hungry so I thought a stop at McDonald's would be a nice treat sense we don't eat out. When I was leaving I had a kid in each arm, a diaper bag over my shoulder, car keys with a happy meal in one hand and a happy meal in the other. I had to bump the door with my BUT and I had around 10-15 guys in there just watching me manhandle this door. HELLOOOOOO you could help and not stare! Sorry I had to rant! lol

Ahh! That was funny! I used to feel sorry for the couples who had triplets, quads,quints and ect....till I realized atleast they were getting help! LOL

You know I have triplets and yes, I'm lucky to have help, but that still leaves 2 people taking care of 3 active babies. It's exhausting as hell. I'm not even going to get to the cost of raising triplets. And there is no help there. In any case, you don't need to feel sorry for us, just like nobody should feel sorry for you. My babies are are blessing and we're very happy.
Talk about inappropriate comments.

Oh NO Renata!!!!! I meant No disrespect to you or any other mother or father experiencing the demands of parenting a single or multiple birth!!!!!  Biological, adopted, or blended!!! Don't get your diapers in a wad. I trully appreciate, respect, sympathize, and am in true amazement with the gift that was given to you along with the ones that were entrusted to me! I don't get too serious about peoples comments and now that I can reflect, I can now laugh even more to what I thought was serious in the midst of "my" storm! Frustration, energy level, finances, and YES the blessings I am all too familiar with and I am sure to not of yours or others degree. So in all due respect...I commend, understand and appreciate your offensiveness. My response was merely a thought in my storm during MY "poor whoe is me episodes"! You also missed my other comment as to your judgemental response...People say the darndest things!

God Bless you and yours as you continue to receive blessings and grace.

BettyAnn - posted on 12/16/2009

Quoting Ashley:

I would think my favourite comment I get all the time from people when they see my family out would be : "Are those twins?!" and when they are dressed in pink from head to toe ask "Are they girls?" -- We simply look at them and walk away now.

My identical boys are now 9 but when they were about a year, all dressed in blue wrapped in blue blankets in a blue & green double stroller...I had a woman come up and ask...Are they twins? (yes) Which one is the girl?  (HUH??)  I seriously stared at her for a second realizing that she truly thought twins meant one had to be of each gender.  She looked really puzzled when I said they're both boys.

I had one lady come up and grab ahold of my stroller stopping me from walking while she called to her whole family...hey guys, come over her and look at he twins!  I was like WTF??  Who are you?  And get your hands of my stroller!  Didn't actually say it but I sure wanted to!  People can really be rude.

My boys were 2 and we were at the mall with my friend (who people always ask if she's my sister) and comeone asked if they were twins...I responded...no, one's mine one's her's...they just stared and walked away.  I had just had enough of the comments that day I guess.

The worst was two days after I delivered my twins. (after a month on hospital bedrest getting pumped full of steroids and who knows what else)  They were transferred to another hospital's NICU at about 10 hours old so I had to have someone drive me over a half hour there to see them because I wasn't allowed to drive again yet.  I was pumping at home so I had the cooler of bottles and a bag with clothes for them to wear and snacks for me since I had planned to stay a good part of the day.  It was killing me that not only did my babies not come home but they went to a farther hospital and I was still in shock that I still looked a good 4-5 mos pregnant after I delivered.  A lady and her daughter were on the elevator and, thinking she was funny, she says...False alarm huh? ha ha ha...better luck next time.  I said in a not thrilled tone with tears in my eyes, I had my twins two days ago and I'm visiting them in the NICU.  She turned scarlet red and clearly couldn't wait to get off the elevator.  No response at all, not sorry or oh or anything.  Hope her daughter learned something about making comments to strangers at least.

The comments never stop as they get older either.  I do think people say things they have heard before without thinking about if it makes any sense, just because they want to say something.  People do back off a bit as they get older because they're not as tiny and cute and not trapped into a big stroller making it obvious there's more than one but we still get the typical comments.

Actually...as my boys have gotten older they've realized the benefits of dressing alike and rather enjoy the attention they get some days.  They have been given gifts by various stores and restaurants and get free dessert, etc because people still think twins are so interesting.

Jodie - posted on 12/16/2009

If 1 more person looks at my identical girls and says " OMG Are they twins?" i'll lose it!
or " Geez, twins? You must be so blessed" or " Are they double trouble" or "How do you cope?"

To be bluntly truthful, my girls can be horrors and they can be angels. Just like every other kid on the planet. Yes they fight just like any other siblings do, and the bonus of them always having someone their own age to play with whenever they want helps. Really twins are no different than having one child. My eldest son was harder to deal with than the twins, he had every ailment you could think of. The twins slept in the same bassinet and cot together until they were nearly a year old and started sleeping through the night from 6 weeks. You feel like being nasty some times when people make comments but now my girls are starting to react when people get them mixed up. They have been playing "switch" since they were 2, now they are 5 and due to start school. Some people make a comment about making sure they are separated and put in different classes, but they've never been apart. If you don't have twins or multiples then you should really just be quiet and let them decide when they are ready to do it themselves.

April - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting Renata:

This is such a fun topic, bringing back some memories. Last summer I had my triplets in a stroller and a lady came up to me and said "are they triplets", because I've been hearing that all day, I said "no, they're clones". She said "oh, that's nice" and walked away! Sometimes people just talk for the sake of starting a conversation and staring, not even hearing what's being said.
Another time, I was at a cancer fundraiser with my sister and we were all at the start line getting ready for the walk and a lady comes up to me and says, "are they triplets?" I said, "no, I collect children, you got any?". She looked offended and walked away. What do you expect? You ask a stupid question, you get a stupid answer.

I almost peed myself!  lol Oh man! I am glad i am not the only one that had fun with the answers.  My parents do the same thing when they have them.  They had the boys at Target and my mom had them in one basket and my dad had another and this lady asked if they were twins and my dad said Oh my gosh we walked off with that lady's kid we gotta find her!  My mom about died! 

April - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting Melinda:

We are just going into our 2nd Trimester and found out about a month ago, we are having fraternal twins. We already have 3 boys, the oldest is 13 and is special needs but a huge blessing to our family. My youngest boys are 9 and 7. Since I am 36 years old and yes, this was an unexpected pregnancy, I have taken a lot of flack for being pregnant with twins. "WOW! DON'T YOU KNOW BY NOW WHAT CAUSES THAT?" or "I'M GLAD IT'S YOU AND NOT ME. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!" You know what, first of all....No, I guess I didn't know what causes "that" but if you'd like to take me out to lunch and feed me (I am eating for 3 now) then I will gladly let you explain it to me so it doesn't happen again! And secondly...I'm glad it's me and not you, also. Afterall, their my babies and I am going through the 9 months of carrying them!!! UGH! People can be sooooo unthoughtful! Feels good to get that off my chest! :-)

I hate the whole 'I'm glad it's you not me" thing..... GRRRRRR

Renata - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting Carol:

Quoting April :

Ok so yesterday I was out finishing my Christmas shopping, and yes I had the boys with me, and they were getting hungry so I thought a stop at McDonald's would be a nice treat sense we don't eat out. When I was leaving I had a kid in each arm, a diaper bag over my shoulder, car keys with a happy meal in one hand and a happy meal in the other. I had to bump the door with my BUT and I had around 10-15 guys in there just watching me manhandle this door. HELLOOOOOO you could help and not stare! Sorry I had to rant! lol

Ahh! That was funny! I used to feel sorry for the couples who had triplets, quads,quints and ect....till I realized atleast they were getting help! LOL

You know I have triplets and yes, I'm lucky to have help, but that still leaves 2 people taking care of 3 active babies. It's exhausting as hell. I'm not even going to get to the cost of raising triplets. And there is no help there. In any case, you don't need to feel sorry for us, just like nobody should feel sorry for you. My babies are are blessing and we're very happy.
Talk about inappropriate comments.

Jodie - posted on 12/15/2009

I always here " Are they twins" I think to myself can't you see they look exactly alike. I have identical twin boys (6yrs old on12/17). My own mother has a hard time telling them apart. They are very independent and always ask me why people make such a big deal about them being twins. Yes twins run on my husbands side of the family.

Renata - posted on 12/15/2009

This is such a fun topic, bringing back some memories. Last summer I had my triplets in a stroller and a lady came up to me and said "are they triplets", because I've been hearing that all day, I said "no, they're clones". She said "oh, that's nice" and walked away! Sometimes people just talk for the sake of starting a conversation and staring, not even hearing what's being said.
Another time, I was at a cancer fundraiser with my sister and we were all at the start line getting ready for the walk and a lady comes up to me and says, "are they triplets?" I said, "no, I collect children, you got any?". She looked offended and walked away. What do you expect? You ask a stupid question, you get a stupid answer.

Jenny - posted on 12/15/2009

I have boy/girl twins that are now 2 yr. 8 mo. old. 1.) Wow, you have your hands full. (I agree with others) 2.)Are they identical? (I don't dress them alike at all and they are a boy and a girl. I even had them in different color carseats, well, okay, one was a hand me down from big sister.) 3.) What are their names? (it's non of your business! but I usually take upon the oppt. to formally introduce my eldest, the proud BIG sister whom no one seem to noticed before responding to their other questions.

Now, they stood nearly 2 inches apart, and good 3 lbs difference. (Thank goodness it's the boy who is taller eventhough he was the last born.) So I no longer get much of the twin questions anymore, I just get really really weird "wow, she's got one after another in 9 mo." looks which I'm starting to miss the looks I get when they did look like twins.

Michelle - posted on 12/15/2009

Oh boy I could write a book about this topic! I was rather large even very early in my pregnancy with my identical girls. People used to come up to me and say the most amazing things. I suppose I wouldn't have minded if it were people I knew and were just having a bit of a joke with me, but they were complete strangers. I had one elderly lady come up to me while I was in the bathroom washing my hands. She asked me when I was due, expecting it to be soon. I said well I am having twins and I still have another three months to go. "Oh you poor dear, you are so huge, it must be awful!" Yeah thanks, not wow congratulations or anything! Or the usual you are eating for three, and I am glad it's you and not me sort of comments. But get this, I was at Hungry Jacks when I was about 7 months pregnant with my mum and oldest daughter. I was standing in line waiting for something that I ordered, when a lady I didn't know started chatting to me about my pregnancy. All fine, until she started patting me on my belly! What the.... nick off lady, I don't know you, haven't you heard of personal space and not touching people that you don't know! That was weird and creepy! My girls are very identical, I know that sounds strange but the only way we could tell them apart especially when they were really young was the oldest twin by a minute has got the smallest strawberry birthmark on her right cheek. Some days it is darker than others, don't know why. When I used to take them shopping, I would get the double trouble remark, which I so detest! I always tell people, "no they are twice as nice!" Or how lovely a boy and a girl.....what!!! Seriously they look the same, how can they be a boy and a girl??? Went into a chemist when the twins were about 2 needings some cough mixture for the girls. My oldest daughter had one twin in a trolley and I had the other in my trolley. The young girl behind the counter asked the age, I said well they are both 2. Oh you have twins, are they both yours? I laughed my head off and asked her if she was kidding! No love, I just found this child down the road who happened to look exactly like the child I already had, and thought I would take her shopping with us! Unbelievable. I know that I have some other amazing tales to tell, so I will have to get back to you.

Carol - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting April :

What have people said when they saw that you have twins or you were carrying twins?

I am writing my final theasist in college over parents and multiples. I am going over how people don't relies how they offend us when they say annoying stupid comments about us having twins. I really would like to know anything that anyone has ever said when you were pregnant or when you were out and about with your kids and how you reacted. My favorite is when I had both my boys dressed alike and I had around three of four people ask me if they were twins... Really?? No I like to take other people's kids and dress them like mine! My best friends and I went shopping when they boys were about four months and she was carrying one and I had the other and people would ask if they were twins and we would tell people no we had them on the same day and we married twin brothers! We are so mean, I know, but I feel that I have to have fun with it sometimes or I would go insane! Thanks everyone!

Oh My Gosh! Had fun with this today! Laughed at all the responses You get an A+ from me!! Thanks so much for the laughs and memory lane!

Carol - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting April :

Ok so yesterday I was out finishing my Christmas shopping, and yes I had the boys with me, and they were getting hungry so I thought a stop at McDonald's would be a nice treat sense we don't eat out. When I was leaving I had a kid in each arm, a diaper bag over my shoulder, car keys with a happy meal in one hand and a happy meal in the other. I had to bump the door with my BUT and I had around 10-15 guys in there just watching me manhandle this door. HELLOOOOOO you could help and not stare! Sorry I had to rant! lol

Ahh! That was funny! I used to feel sorry for the couples who had triplets, quads,quints and ect....till I realized atleast they were getting help! LOL

Laura - posted on 12/15/2009

Brooke, I couldn't agree with you more. My boys are two different people too but I think people find it easier to treat twins the same.

Melinda - posted on 12/15/2009

We are just going into our 2nd Trimester and found out about a month ago, we are having fraternal twins. We already have 3 boys, the oldest is 13 and is special needs but a huge blessing to our family. My youngest boys are 9 and 7. Since I am 36 years old and yes, this was an unexpected pregnancy, I have taken a lot of flack for being pregnant with twins. "WOW! DON'T YOU KNOW BY NOW WHAT CAUSES THAT?" or "I'M GLAD IT'S YOU AND NOT ME. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!" You know what, first of all....No, I guess I didn't know what causes "that" but if you'd like to take me out to lunch and feed me (I am eating for 3 now) then I will gladly let you explain it to me so it doesn't happen again! And secondly...I'm glad it's me and not you, also. Afterall, their my babies and I am going through the 9 months of carrying them!!! UGH! People can be sooooo unthoughtful! Feels good to get that off my chest! :-)

Margo - posted on 12/15/2009

Quoting Carol:

One more!
After my twins were born, I had more than one person ask me if they were identical. As I said No. They would argue back and say...Yes they are! Okay then, they are! I wonder if later they realized what they had said?? People say the darndest things! LOL

Oh man! I still get this! My girls are fraternal and I would always have people argue with me about it.

Granted there were a few years, especially when they were younger, that they looked VERY similar, but they also have distinct differences.

Angie - posted on 12/15/2009

It's amazing the things people say - My favorite response to the "Are they twins" question is, No they're identical cousins...

I think the craziest thing I've been asked so far is If I meant to have twins... For that I actually had no response...

I also love - "You have your hands full", "How do you tell them apart", and the one lady that wanted to argue with me that they were "Mirror Image Twins" - they're not but, evidentally she's an expert!

Oy Vey!

Liz - posted on 12/15/2009

I responded to this post initially without reading everyone's post. I have enjoyed some laughter today. Thank you all and my mother use to call me mean when I would respond to others with crazy questions. This is going to be my last comment hopefully, My girls turned 10 just last week. Over the summer one had a growth spurt. She is exceptionally taller than her sister. The other day we was at my aunt's house (mind you she has sisters that are twins in the same perdictament now) she says, wow lanazah grew so tall I am not use to one twin being taller than the other, they are suppose to be the same size. I said," how you figure when your own sisters are faternal and two different heights at the age of 53? WTF!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/15/2009

I have twin girls. Whom I raised by myself, And Yeah i use to get tired of always hearing 1. Are they twins? 2. How do you do it, you POOR thing. 3. Is it hard? (well of course cause im a Single Parent taking care of not just twins by myself but also a 4 year old boy. The 1 thing that use to bother me the most was they always aknowleged the twins, but paid no attention to my son, who soon started to notice all the attention his sisters brought.. And I think it started to really bother him. Yeah I was blessed with twins and raising them is the hardest thing I have ever done but I wouldnt change it for the WORLD